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When you go so long without sex you get scared of it...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thought I would be after no sex with my husband for a few years but when it came to it I was fine. It was with someone I knew from my teenage years and I had drank a few JDs. It was kissing him I wanted more than sex but once we started it was bloody amazing. I don't suffer nerves with men though |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"What are you scared of hun? "
Not me personally. It's something I've been discussing with a recently divorced friend.
I've been nervous after a long spell without but I've not been panic stricken at the thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.  "
Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?....  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.
Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?.... "
Now stop being a cock.......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.
Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?.... Now stop being a cock....... "
ahaha  |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there."
I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry."
Hmmm maybe, it made me the opposite, but I can see how it might, lack of confidence sexually so to speak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What are you scared of hun?
Not me personally. It's something I've been discussing with a recently divorced friend.
I've been nervous after a long spell without but I've not been panic stricken at the thought."
Well sex with a new partner, whether it be a new boyfriend/girlfriend or new fb on Fab will always be daunting. But the end of the day it still comes down to the same thing. Suck it, lick it, fuck it!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry."
You're right. That's how I experienced it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.
Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?.... Now stop being a cock.......
ahaha "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After almost a year I was quite nervous but a few drinks sorted that out, my only problem was being way to excited  "
A few drinks was the worst thing I could do. |
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry.
You're right. That's how I experienced it."
Surely the other person can take that anxiety away communication is the key |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What are you scared of hun?
Not me personally. It's something I've been discussing with a recently divorced friend.
I've been nervous after a long spell without but I've not been panic stricken at the thought."
I was very scared and nervous when I joined. When I was waiting for my first meet, to turn up, I was literally shaking. Luckily, he turned out to be a nice guy and subsequent meets have been good too. hope your friend will be ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After almost a year I was quite nervous but a few drinks sorted that out, my only problem was being way to excited
A few drinks was the worst thing I could do."
oh I do wish I could turn back time, we did it once......did it twice....Zzzzz lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
What about if you saw a really scarey cock?...Cocks are easy to deal with.....faces however are a totally different ball game.
Don't you ask for face pics before you meet?...is that you're really saying?.... Now stop being a cock....... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry.Hmmm maybe, it made me the opposite, but I can see how it might, lack of confidence sexually so to speak."
Me too. I couldn't wait to get naked with someone who actually wanted me |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What are you scared of hun?
Not me personally. It's something I've been discussing with a recently divorced friend.
I've been nervous after a long spell without but I've not been panic stricken at the thought.
I was very scared and nervous when I joined. When I was waiting for my first meet, to turn up, I was literally shaking. Luckily, he turned out to be a nice guy and subsequent meets have been good too. hope your friend will be ok "
Over-thinking it is probably the worst thing to do. You can talk yourself into all sorts of problems if given the chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am not that bothered about sex really and can go long time without it, it prob will just last less than 2 min anyway. I go in with the mentality of quick in quick out and I have a glass of wine before to relax my nerves abit lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yeah i know the feelings. been almost 3yrs now without even a cuddle.
Hate it.
32 and fear the next time if there is a next time, definitely feel i wouldnt last 10 seconds either which obviously put off any potential partners off |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never had cock fright, so cannot help there.
I think it's more performance anxiety. If you've come out of a long marriage to someone who wasn't interested in you sexually, I can see how you'd worry.Hmmm maybe, it made me the opposite, but I can see how it might, lack of confidence sexually so to speak."
made me the opposite as well with some insecurities at the start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every meet I get nervous. Will I live up to the other persons expectations, will I be considerate enough, will I be able to read and react to their every move. I overthink it too sometimes... |
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I hadn't had sex for 2 years before I joined fab and when I got a meet with a couple, I was probably more nervous than anything but in my head I pretended I had sex with strangers all the time and sort of fooled myself in to relaxing and it worked. The meet went fine and I've not looked back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the longer I go without sex the more confident and rampant I get and just want a lovely woman with a greedy pussy to give my cock and balls a good wringing out   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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never been scared of it but years ago - before really good had been discovered and i was with the ex i used to go through phases of thinking sex was silly - pointless - to the point i used to mock it - ive learnt the error of my ways  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every meet I get nervous. Will I live up to the other persons expectations, will I be considerate enough, will I be able to read and react to their every move. I overthink it too sometimes..."
Same here but then the nerves easy and I relax. Have found that talking to people helps greatly as a single bloke. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I thought I would be after no sex with my husband for a few years but when it came to it I was fine. It was with someone I knew from my teenage years and I had drank a few JDs. It was kissing him I wanted more than sex but once we started it was bloody amazing. I don't suffer nerves with men though "
I was the same as this. I hadn't had sex for a few years before and after the end of my marriage. I met an old friend and once we started, I wondered what I had been worried about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I went for several years without for many reasons, but when it was time to jump back on the horse again I was terrified, mostly due to over thinking the whole thing. When I did do it in the end it was quite spontaneous so I had no time to panic and talk myself out of it again and I surprised myself at how naturally it came. Your friend needs to stop putting pressure on herself and just let it happen naturally, good luck to her xx |
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I'm crapping myself!! Not literally, you understand, but nerves sometimes get the better of me. I tend to "give" even more than I usually do.
Not sure if that makes sense, but I'll put my hand up and say that I do get the nervousness ness ness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you deal with it?
For me, the longer it goes you sub conscientiously end up avoiding it for fear of been rubbish. "
That's what I thought until I had a great meet with a sexy lady no sex but my confidence grew ! My first on fab was a party ? Which I had great fun and a laugh at but no sex ? My choice lol
Then I meet a lady where the switch was a bit rusty and made a massive click lol !! And our first time was just so natural and of course I held off the sex for as long as I could just incase it all went too quick ? But even that was amazing ! So I think it doesn't matter how long you go without ? It's the tempo of which you have the fun ! Slower the better first time back |
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