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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i tend to be pretty honest about what i am into (sexually) and tend to scare most women off, i am looking to date, but want a women who is interested in exploring sex and trying things (swinging etc)
just after some advice from women, was you always big into sexual things like this or does it take time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some guys lack finesse and mail some complete dribble from cut and pasted scenarios which you know they send to all its so obvious. Its always a good indicator on who dismiss and block. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some guys lack finesse and mail some complete dribble from cut and pasted scenarios which you know they send to all its so obvious. Its always a good indicator on who dismiss and block."
i dont copy and paste or anything, i just want a lot of sex and sadly the north west of England seems to lack attractive single women looking to date but try all the above 
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"i tend to be pretty honest about what i am into (sexually) and tend to scare most women off, i am looking to date, but want a women who is interested in exploring sex and trying things (swinging etc)
just after some advice from women, was you always big into sexual things like this or does it take time?"
It often takes time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is this just for fab or women in general? Because am shit at saying hi to someone I like"
on dating sites, fed up dating a girl for her sex drive to be awfuly slow or boring, i think if i put on my profile, i like swinging etc it might put them off!
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"Is this just for fab or women in general? Because am shit at saying hi to someone I like
on dating sites, fed up dating a girl for her sex drive to be awfuly slow or boring, i think if i put on my profile, i like swinging etc it might put them off!
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I.have this issue but with men |
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"Is this just for fab or women in general? Because am shit at saying hi to someone I like
on dating sites, fed up dating a girl for her sex drive to be awfuly slow or boring, i think if i put on my profile, i like swinging etc it might put them off!
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Or attract the ones you are really after. If
you aren't honest how can you get what you want? Poor girls being labelled slow
and boring! |
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"Is this just for fab or women in general? Because am shit at saying hi to someone I like
on dating sites, fed up dating a girl for her sex drive to be awfuly slow or boring, i think if i put on my profile, i like swinging etc it might put them off!
Or attract the ones you are really after. If
you aren't honest how can you get what you want? Poor girls being labelled slow
and boring! "
I agree, how can you enjoy the most intense but loving sex life if the both of you aren't true full to each other on what you like but don't. Sex is spiritual as well as physical |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is this just for fab or women in general? Because am shit at saying hi to someone I like
on dating sites, fed up dating a girl for her sex drive to be awfuly slow or boring, i think if i put on my profile, i like swinging etc it might put them off!
Or attract the ones you are really after. If
you aren't honest how can you get what you want? Poor girls being labelled slow
and boring! "
i attract the ones i like, we get on, but then it comes down to Sex.
Sex is massive part of a relationship, so i may aswell be honest at the start.
Yes if they dont want sex as much, i find them boring, thats my opinion, they call me sex obessed, that is their opinion! |
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I agree with others about being open and honest but I believe you don't reveal all your finer secrets and details until the appropriate time. There are probably more people who could be up for such a relationship than there are single women out there who have already been swinging.
You may be better to introduce your ideas more gradually. Possibly your profile could just have vague details of not being completely conformist sexually or in the style of relationship. With interest intrigue and getting to know you then you could both share your interests.
If you're spoiled for choice then you could experiment and see waat works. |
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I have seen so many profiles and threads mostly by men but sometimes women who are desperately unhappy in their relationship due to mismatched sexual desire and expectation. This makes me think that ensuring the person you meet us willing to be sexually adventurous is vital, why not put that in your profile on dating sites...."sexually adventurous" at least the women would be expecting you to be more openly interested in experiment.
Many women like to take the time to get to know and trust a man first though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't mind a sexually adventurous relationship,but men seem to either just want an exclusive fuck buddy or an exclusive fuck buddy who will supply bi females for him for 3somes. No one wants an actual,sexually adventurous relationship |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have seen so many profiles and threads mostly by men but sometimes women who are desperately unhappy in their relationship due to mismatched sexual desire and expectation. This makes me think that ensuring the person you meet us willing to be sexually adventurous is vital, why not put that in your profile on dating sites...."sexually adventurous" at least the women would be expecting you to be more openly interested in experiment.
Many women like to take the time to get to know and trust a man first though."
you can get banned off sites for putting such stuff. I agree with the lady above, to many men just want mff, ive seen it on here, i have done mmf. Dont mind it, would love mff with 2 hot ladies. I am going to give a dating site ago on Sunday, any decent sites anyone can recommend please message me  |
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"Some guys lack finesse and mail some complete dribble from cut and pasted scenarios which you know they send to all its so obvious. Its always a good indicator on who dismiss and block.
i dont copy and paste or anything, i just want a lot of sex and sadly the north west of England seems to lack attractive single women looking to date but try all the above
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Should I be offended since you messaged me and im single :/ |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some guys lack finesse and mail some complete dribble from cut and pasted scenarios which you know they send to all its so obvious. Its always a good indicator on who dismiss and block.
i dont copy and paste or anything, i just want a lot of sex and sadly the north west of England seems to lack attractive single women looking to date but try all the above
Should I be offended since you messaged me and im single :/ "
not at all, we talked and got on, but your too far and a meet didn't seem to come and not my type.
what did annoy me is you changed when you got with that guy, hope your well |
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"I have seen so many profiles and threads mostly by men but sometimes women who are desperately unhappy in their relationship due to mismatched sexual desire and expectation. This makes me think that ensuring the person you meet us willing to be sexually adventurous is vital, why not put that in your profile on dating sites...."sexually adventurous" at least the women would be expecting you to be more openly interested in experiment.
Many women like to take the time to get to know and trust a man first though.
you can get banned off sites for putting such stuff. I agree with the lady above, to many men just want mff, ive seen it on here, i have done mmf. Dont mind it, would love mff with 2 hot ladies. I am going to give a dating site ago on Sunday, any decent sites anyone can recommend please message me "
Can you, blimey! I have no experience at all of dating sites. It's all a bit hit and miss then |
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"Some guys lack finesse and mail some complete dribble from cut and pasted scenarios which you know they send to all its so obvious. Its always a good indicator on who dismiss and block.
i dont copy and paste or anything, i just want a lot of sex and sadly the north west of England seems to lack attractive single women looking to date but try all the above
Should I be offended since you messaged me and im single :/
not at all, we talked and got on, but your too far and a meet didn't seem to come and not my type.
what did annoy me is you changed when you got with that guy, hope your well"
If you don't mind me saying I think I'm beginning to pick up on what the real problem might be here. |
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"Some guys lack finesse and mail some complete dribble from cut and pasted scenarios which you know they send to all its so obvious. Its always a good indicator on who dismiss and block.
i dont copy and paste or anything, i just want a lot of sex and sadly the north west of England seems to lack attractive single women looking to date but try all the above
Should I be offended since you messaged me and im single :/
not at all, we talked and got on, but your too far and a meet didn't seem to come and not my type.
what did annoy me is you changed when you got with that guy, hope your well"
I didnt change I hid my profile out of respect which i always do if even going on dates!
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When looking for a relationship, surely attraction and love comes first?
We met on a dating site and sex wasn't mentioned at all for a good few weeks. We had no idea that we both had high sex drives until later down the line. I'd just go on dates and let things happen if they're meant to be. Have fun! |
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"When looking for a relationship, surely attraction and love comes first?
We met on a dating site and sex wasn't mentioned at all for a good few weeks. We had no idea that we both had high sex drives until later down the line. I'd just go on dates and let things happen if they're meant to be. Have fun!"
Before we started swinging I would have agreed about love and attraction coming first and I still do in many ways. However I have seen and read about too many relationships where partners are horribly mismatched in sexual desire and preference and the sadness and pain this can cause and now I believe that sex needs to be discussed very early on. |
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"When looking for a relationship, surely attraction and love comes first?
We met on a dating site and sex wasn't mentioned at all for a good few weeks. We had no idea that we both had high sex drives until later down the line. I'd just go on dates and let things happen if they're meant to be. Have fun!
Before we started swinging I would have agreed about love and attraction coming first and I still do in many ways. However I have seen and read about too many relationships where partners are horribly mismatched in sexual desire and preference and the sadness and pain this can cause and now I believe that sex needs to be discussed very early on."
Actually, looking at it that way you're right. We have both been in a long relationships previously where we wasn't suited.
We both had higher drives than them and felt like sex pests. X |
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"Some guys lack finesse and mail some complete dribble from cut and pasted scenarios which you know they send to all its so obvious. Its always a good indicator on who dismiss and block.
i dont copy and paste or anything, i just want a lot of sex and sadly the north west of England seems to lack attractive single women looking to date but try all the above
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That statement has killed any chance you might have had, I would think.  |
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