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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I appreciate there maybe many forum posts about this. But is it worth single men been on here? I'm thinking of deleting my account to be honest. There is hardly any single women looking for men or if there are then there are so many men that message them you have little or no chance. Most couples look for a woman to join. Shame really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"stick with it is the only thing I can recommend, and real life social situations help"
I've been on here 7 months tho and can't get a woman to even really message. But disheartening but hey ho |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men. "
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you can't get sex on this site then it's not for you....
it isn't that difficult, if you put the effort in, maintain your self worth and standards..."
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"if you can't get sex on this site then it's not for you....
it isn't that difficult, if you put the effort in, maintain your self worth and standards...
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Plus there are much easier ways out there in the tangible world.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius "
. Geographically you aren't really in best place don't you think OP ??? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"stick with it is the only thing I can recommend, and real life social situations help
I've been on here 7 months tho and can't get a woman to even really message. But disheartening but hey ho"
you make of it what you make of it and you have to be proactive....
let me give you an example....
you live in lincoln...... there is a social in lincoln in a few weeks time... why have you not been proactive and put your name down for it?????
you dont have to go.... but the oppotunity to network with people face to face may open doors..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ask yourself would you meet yourself compared to the other profiles of succesful singles on here? If no have a look at what they do and make yourself stand out.
Loads of Socials go on in Lincs we used to visit often and things were always taking place. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius . Geographically you aren't really in best place don't you think OP ???"
Yeah your probably right. Wasn't having a go at women. I guess advice. As people say it's easy to meet people on here but hasn't been for me lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ask yourself would you meet yourself compared to the other profiles of succesful singles on here? If no have a look at what they do and make yourself stand out.
Loads of Socials go on in Lincs we used to visit often and things were always taking place. "
Where do u hear about these socials. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius "
Try 50 miles then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ask yourself would you meet yourself compared to the other profiles of succesful singles on here? If no have a look at what they do and make yourself stand out.
Loads of Socials go on in Lincs we used to visit often and things were always taking place.
Where do u hear about these socials."
Just do forum searches or look in the meets and events page, nobody can spoon feed you the things you need to know. Have a dig around the site, the tools are there for you to make more success |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius
Try 50 miles then "
Lol made me chuckle x |
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius "
when you say you get a page of women,how many do you mean? I have just run a search for single women within a 30 mile radius of Linoln. And found 8 on the first of seven pages. What about approaching couples? Some are verykeentomeet single guys. Nearly all my meets havebeenwithcouples. |
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"I appreciate there maybe many forum posts about this. But is it worth single men been on here? I'm thinking of deleting my account to be honest. There is hardly any single women looking for men or if there are then there are so many men that message them you have little or no chance. Most couples look for a woman to join. Shame really."
i have the same prop
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"Ask yourself would you meet yourself compared to the other profiles of succesful singles on here? If no have a look at what they do and make yourself stand out.
Loads of Socials go on in Lincs we used to visit often and things were always taking place.
Where do u hear about these socials."
Type Lincoln in the search box at the side of the page, it appears there's an Xmas social coming up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius when you say you get a page of women,how many do you mean? I have just run a search for single women within a 30 mile radius of Linoln. And found 8 on the first of seven pages. What about approaching couples? Some are verykeentomeet single guys. Nearly all my meets havebeenwithcouples."
I tick the box where they are looking for men too as no point messaging women who don't want to meet men. I generally get a page to page and half of local women the rest haven't been online for months etc |
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I think it's about being proactive and knowing what you're looking for. Everyone is different, be selective in who you contact rather than expect everyone who may be looking for single guys to bow down 
You get out what you put in to an extent. You can control the things you can like your profile, your attitude your messages...make them the best you can!
Shit, that last bit reads like a self-help book extract  |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius . Geographically you aren't really in best place don't you think OP ???"
Try living where I do! I've shagged all the locals now and need to go farther afield - thank fook for Socials  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ask yourself would you meet yourself compared to the other profiles of succesful singles on here? If no have a look at what they do and make yourself stand out.
Loads of Socials go on in Lincs we used to visit often and things were always taking place.
Where do u hear about these socials.
Type Lincoln in the search box at the side of the page, it appears there's an Xmas social coming up "
Found it...its on my birthday not ideal as I got plans for my birthday but ill keep searching case there's more thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius . Geographically you aren't really in best place don't you think OP ???
Try living where I do! I've shagged all the locals now and need to go farther afield - thank fook for Socials "
Look In lincoln then lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius . Geographically you aren't really in best place don't you think OP ???
Try living where I do! I've shagged all the locals now and need to go farther afield - thank fook for Socials "
Those poor sheep  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Basically it a cock fest for women, stay with it cos the forum is fun to use  "
Yeah i find people on forums really helpful and kind even if they don't agree with younetc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I appreciate there maybe many forum posts about this. But is it worth single men been on here? I'm thinking of deleting my account to be honest. There is hardly any single women looking for men or if there are then there are so many men that message them you have little or no chance. Most couples look for a woman to join. Shame really."
have you tryed pof? if its just a fuck your looking for try there a few pals of mine are on there and there having to beat the women off with a stick.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I appreciate there maybe many forum posts about this. But is it worth single men been on here? I'm thinking of deleting my account to be honest. There is hardly any single women looking for men or if there are then there are so many men that message them you have little or no chance. Most couples look for a woman to join. Shame really. have you tryed pof? if its just a fuck your looking for try there a few pals of mine are on there and there having to beat the women off with a stick. "
Not a bad idea |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius . Geographically you aren't really in best place don't you think OP ???
Try living where I do! I've shagged all the locals now and need to go farther afield - thank fook for Socials
Those poor sheep "
They was fecking begging for it |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Single female here, looking for single men, and yes I struggle, however, I will respond to someone who has a decent profile, decent public pics and has read my profile.
Unfortunately, so many do not have the above and therefore, I with not bother with one liner profiles or one line messages.
I am a firm believer of putting the effort in = reward.
If however, you cannot communicate effectively in the real world, it will be even harder to in the virtual one, but that is just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Single female here, looking for single men, and yes I struggle, however, I will respond to someone who has a decent profile, decent public pics and has read my profile.
Unfortunately, so many do not have the above and therefore, I with not bother with one liner profiles or one line messages.
I am a firm believer of putting the effort in = reward.
If however, you cannot communicate effectively in the real world, it will be even harder to in the virtual one, but that is just my opinion."
I'm always polite though and make the effort. I think it's literally there must be like 9 men to every woman so harder to get chosen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a direct question in the OP's initial post and that is what I'll answer. Yes, it is worth single men being on here.
You've seen other single guys on this thread who have said yes and have expanded on it, so I won't. Here's a tip. Read their verifications and see what it says about them as people as well as playmates. And another hint... Note what their profile pictures are... And what they not 
And then see if you can get some inspiration for your profile.
All the best |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Single female here, looking for single men, and yes I struggle, however, I will respond to someone who has a decent profile, decent public pics and has read my profile.
Unfortunately, so many do not have the above and therefore, I with not bother with one liner profiles or one line messages.
I am a firm believer of putting the effort in = reward.
If however, you cannot communicate effectively in the real world, it will be even harder to in the virtual one, but that is just my opinion.
I'm always polite though and make the effort. I think it's literally there must be like 9 men to every woman so harder to get chosen "
Sorry, but I disagree, yes, I do receive quite a few messages on a daily basis and that is with all my filters on, but the vast amount of drab profiles, with cock pics only, and a profile that reads 'here for fun'
It's not about the amount of single men on the site that makes it harder for single men, it's all about having the right attitude!
So I still stand by my effort in = reward
Trust me, the good single men are very easy to spot compared to the one's who don't make the effort!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is a direct question in the OP's initial post and that is what I'll answer. Yes, it is worth single men being on here.
You've seen other single guys on this thread who have said yes and have expanded on it, so I won't. Here's a tip. Read their verifications and see what it says about them as people as well as playmates. And another hint... Note what their profile pictures are... And what they not
And then see if you can get some inspiration for your profile.
All the best "
Thanks very much |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Single female here, looking for single men, and yes I struggle, however, I will respond to someone who has a decent profile, decent public pics and has read my profile.
Unfortunately, so many do not have the above and therefore, I with not bother with one liner profiles or one line messages.
I am a firm believer of putting the effort in = reward.
If however, you cannot communicate effectively in the real world, it will be even harder to in the virtual one, but that is just my opinion.
I'm always polite though and make the effort. I think it's literally there must be like 9 men to every woman so harder to get chosen
Sorry, but I disagree, yes, I do receive quite a few messages on a daily basis and that is with all my filters on, but the vast amount of drab profiles, with cock pics only, and a profile that reads 'here for fun'
It's not about the amount of single men on the site that makes it harder for single men, it's all about having the right attitude!
So I still stand by my effort in = reward
Trust me, the good single men are very easy to spot compared to the one's who don't make the effort!
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I'll keep trying then coz I'm a good one and always message politely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single female here, looking for single men, and yes I struggle, however, I will respond to someone who has a decent profile, decent public pics and has read my profile.
Unfortunately, so many do not have the above and therefore, I with not bother with one liner profiles or one line messages.
I am a firm believer of putting the effort in = reward.
If however, you cannot communicate effectively in the real world, it will be even harder to in the virtual one, but that is just my opinion.
I'm always polite though and make the effort. I think it's literally there must be like 9 men to every woman so harder to get chosen
Sorry, but I disagree, yes, I do receive quite a few messages on a daily basis and that is with all my filters on, but the vast amount of drab profiles, with cock pics only, and a profile that reads 'here for fun'
It's not about the amount of single men on the site that makes it harder for single men, it's all about having the right attitude!
So I still stand by my effort in = reward
Trust me, the good single men are very easy to spot compared to the one's who don't make the effort!
I'll keep trying then coz I'm a good one and always message politely "
Not being rude here, but being polite isn't really enough. You have to be interesting and attractive to the person you're messaging. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Single female here, looking for single men, and yes I struggle, however, I will respond to someone who has a decent profile, decent public pics and has read my profile.
Unfortunately, so many do not have the above and therefore, I with not bother with one liner profiles or one line messages.
I am a firm believer of putting the effort in = reward.
If however, you cannot communicate effectively in the real world, it will be even harder to in the virtual one, but that is just my opinion.
I'm always polite though and make the effort. I think it's literally there must be like 9 men to every woman so harder to get chosen
Sorry, but I disagree, yes, I do receive quite a few messages on a daily basis and that is with all my filters on, but the vast amount of drab profiles, with cock pics only, and a profile that reads 'here for fun'
It's not about the amount of single men on the site that makes it harder for single men, it's all about having the right attitude!
So I still stand by my effort in = reward
Trust me, the good single men are very easy to spot compared to the one's who don't make the effort!
I'll keep trying then coz I'm a good one and always message politely
Not being rude here, but being polite isn't really enough. You have to be interesting and attractive to the person you're messaging."
Ok you seem to know what's best (sincere) so can you provide advice of what type of things should be included in a message to be interesting attractive etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok you seem to know what's best (sincere) so can you provide advice of what type of things should be included in a message to be interesting attractive etc "
I can't answer that, it's subjective. I've met people as a result of conversations on these forums, so maybe that. Or use their profile as inspiration. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Probably best if you just leave the site, if you can take a few thousand other single men with you when you go id appreciate that enormously ;-p"
Lol surely u embrace the competition |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
As a single lady who meets men quite often...
Is your cock the first thing you show to a lady in the pub? Its the first thing I see of you on here, and would be an auto delete in my mail box - I have no desire to talk to a dick... I have an ex husband who fills that role nicely
Look at your profile and think - if I was a woman with a whole load of choices, would I be interested in me? Is it fun, informative and attractive?
Your sense of entitlement to a meet is really off putting. I put work in to get the meets I enjoy, whether thats with couples or singles. (and obviously my current profile is a bit different from usual as I'm not meeting presently)
Put some effort in, and drop the pity me attitude. You're not going to get women flinging themselves at you just because you wrote a 5 minute profile! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...and that's more than most men get on here after such a short time "
Sssh, *whispers* don't draw attention to that (hidden) veri. People will ask probing questions *whispers*
Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a single lady who meets men quite often...
Is your cock the first thing you show to a lady in the pub? Its the first thing I see of you on here, and would be an auto delete in my mail box - I have no desire to talk to a dick... I have an ex husband who fills that role nicely
Look at your profile and think - if I was a woman with a whole load of choices, would I be interested in me? Is it fun, informative and attractive?
Your sense of entitlement to a meet is really off putting. I put work in to get the meets I enjoy, whether thats with couples or singles. (and obviously my current profile is a bit different from usual as I'm not meeting presently)
Put some effort in, and drop the pity me attitude. You're not going to get women flinging themselves at you just because you wrote a 5 minute profile!"
I think if u look at my profile I've made more effort than alot of men on here. I talk about myself and not just the size of my cock |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"...and that's more than most men get on here after such a short time
The verification from the person was just through chatting "
So show it... otherwise people will be suspicious... I certainly would be. I show my social veris as well as play ones. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...and that's more than most men get on here after such a short time
The verification from the person was just through chatting
So show it... otherwise people will be suspicious... I certainly would be. I show my social veris as well as play ones."
Coz i don't consider it a proper verification we just chatted. She didn't meet me. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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I think if u look at my profile I've made more effort than alot of men on here. I talk about myself and not just the size of my cock "
4 lines is your idea of sufficient effort? Yeah maybe more than some men... but look at the successful fellas who meet a lot - bet they have more than 4 lines of nothingness, but hey, if you want to ignore advice, good luck on here mate.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think if u look at my profile I've made more effort than alot of men on here. I talk about myself and not just the size of my cock
4 lines is your idea of sufficient effort? Yeah maybe more than some men... but look at the successful fellas who meet a lot - bet they have more than 4 lines of nothingness, but hey, if you want to ignore advice, good luck on here mate.
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I never said it was perfect. I just meant I've made more effort than most. I have a face pic I have a brief description about me. It's not all about sex etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"...and that's more than most men get on here after such a short time
The verification from the person was just through chatting "
But that's not allowed on here, it has to be by meeting (or webcam)I think  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...and that's more than most men get on here after such a short time
The verification from the person was just through chatting But that's not allowed on here, it has to be by meeting (or webcam)I think "
Well blame the lady lol. Dusnt really say anything just that I'm nice guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably best if you just leave the site, if you can take a few thousand other single men with you when you go id appreciate that enormously ;-p
Lol surely u embrace the competition "
In a competition there are winners and losers, if I'm losing and some one else is winning how is this something to embrace
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Probably best if you just leave the site, if you can take a few thousand other single men with you when you go id appreciate that enormously ;-p
Lol surely u embrace the competition
In a competition there are winners and losers, if I'm losing and some one else is winning how is this something to embrace
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Coz in competitions the underdog can win lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes... because from a purely selfish point of _iew there are lots of "single" men (although, many of them aren't actually single) but not many of them are interesting and engaging. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes... because from a purely selfish point of _iew there are lots of "single" men (although, many of them aren't actually single) but not many of them are interesting and engaging."
I guess your right. I'll try to be more engaging etc |
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"Single female here, looking for single men, and yes I struggle, however, I will respond to someone who has a decent profile, decent public pics and has read my profile.
Unfortunately, so many do not have the above and therefore, I with not bother with one liner profiles or one line messages.
I am a firm believer of putting the effort in = reward.
If however, you cannot communicate effectively in the real world, it will be even harder to in the virtual one, but that is just my opinion.
I'm always polite though and make the effort. I think it's literally there must be like 9 men to every woman so harder to get chosen "
Stop being a pessimist think positively and it will happen.
Don't stand waiting for the storm to pass.......learn to dance in the rain. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Try going further away... We have been To tease, a hot tub social in hull, Manchester clubs and our local clubs this past 5weeks x "
Is a very good idea thank u x |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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I've only been on here 6 months and I've net lots of people. but I don't just rely on fab, I get out there to clubs and socials where I meet people and talk to them face to face, I go in the forums, I'm pro active, I put the effort in. I've met lots of wonderful people, some of them are becoming quite good friends too. you only get out what you put in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've met mostly single guys and I reply to all messages. I can see how it can be frustrating especially if you are putting effort in your messages 
I tend to look in the forums now as you get to see more of someone's personality than you do in a message.
Good luck xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We've met mostly single guys and I reply to all messages. I can see how it can be frustrating especially if you are putting effort in your messages
I tend to look in the forums now as you get to see more of someone's personality than you do in a message.
Good luck xx "
Thank you that was a kind message x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably best if you just leave the site, if you can take a few thousand other single men with you when you go id appreciate that enormously ;-p
Lol surely u embrace the competition
In a competition there are winners and losers, if I'm losing and some one else is winning how is this something to embrace
Coz in competitions the underdog can win lol"
I'm going to need more than the odd fluke every now and then
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I'm straight - and i'm sure i'm not the only one - so though I have loads of women and couples as friends - when it comes to sex I generally meet single men - all from fab!! Xx |
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You've got to remember that being on here is the same as being out in the real world.
Does every women you meet fancy you and want to sleep with you? Probably not is the answer and just because your polite to someone does that mean they are going to sleep with you? Again probably not.
Attraction can't always be understood and that's the same on here as anywhere else. |
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"We've met mostly single guys and I reply to all messages. I can see how it can be frustrating especially if you are putting effort in your messages
I tend to look in the forums now as you get to see more of someone's personality than you do in a message.
Good luck xx
Thank you that was a kind message x"
I also tend to look to the forums for meets as Alabama suggested - so you'd do well to stay here - but i'd strongly suggest that you have a torso pic or similar instead of a penis pic as your profile pic - that would put me off instantly if you messaged me tbh hun. Xx |
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"We've met mostly single guys and I reply to all messages. I can see how it can be frustrating especially if you are putting effort in your messages
I tend to look in the forums now as you get to see more of someone's personality than you do in a message.
Good luck xx
Thank you that was a kind message x
I also tend to look to the forums for meets as Alabama suggested - so you'd do well to stay here - but i'd strongly suggest that you have a torso pic or similar instead of a penis pic as your profile pic - that would put me off instantly if you messaged me tbh hun. Xx"
Is my pics better now if u _iew my profile x |
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"We've met mostly single guys and I reply to all messages. I can see how it can be frustrating especially if you are putting effort in your messages
I tend to look in the forums now as you get to see more of someone's personality than you do in a message.
Good luck xx
Thank you that was a kind message x
I also tend to look to the forums for meets as Alabama suggested - so you'd do well to stay here - but i'd strongly suggest that you have a torso pic or similar instead of a penis pic as your profile pic - that would put me off instantly if you messaged me tbh hun. Xx
Is my pics better now if u _iew my profile x"
Much better! It's a nice face! Xx |
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over a year ago
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"We've met mostly single guys and I reply to all messages. I can see how it can be frustrating especially if you are putting effort in your messages
I tend to look in the forums now as you get to see more of someone's personality than you do in a message.
Good luck xx
Thank you that was a kind message x
I also tend to look to the forums for meets as Alabama suggested - so you'd do well to stay here - but i'd strongly suggest that you have a torso pic or similar instead of a penis pic as your profile pic - that would put me off instantly if you messaged me tbh hun. Xx
Is my pics better now if u _iew my profile x
Much better! It's a nice face! Xx"
Awww thank you flattered xx |
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You sound like a nice guy.
I suspect that you don't have the looks, the body or the personality to hold your own on here though.
Despite what others may say, putting effort in does not always pay off.
You must put effort in AND stand out from the crowd, firstly in your profile, its written content and its pictures.
Get that right, you have to get your message style right, message the right people and keep any conversation engaging.
Do that and you may, just may, get a social meet. You then need to keep it up and turn the initial social into a second meet.
That isn't easy for Mr Average in an populous area, let alone Mr Average in a smallish place.
Miss Average, of course, just by the sheer nature of this site may find life much, much easier.
And that's the way it is ...
Some guys are very popular on here. They are in the minority.
Align yourself with these guys and you are in for a real tough ride.
Be realistic about what the site can offer Mr Average tho, attend a couple of socials, make friends with people in the forums and your outlook might change.
Keep up with the 'oh it's too much like hard work / why can I not get a look in' threads though and people will distance themselves. Self 'pity' has a limited audience.
I respect what I have written may sound harsh, but I assume you are expecting the odd candid response and I do think a bit of 'tough love' doesn't go amiss every now n then.
Fab can work for Mr Average. I am testament to this, but, as a guy you have a thick skin, a good degree of self worth and an ego that is not easily dented.
Add to that an ability to not only roll with the punches but fkin dance with them and you are most of the way there.
I hope you stick round.
I hope you get to some socials.
I hope you make new friends.
I hope you turn it round for yourself.
I look forward to reading your glowing verifications.
Good guys are always welcomed by many and I think you are one
Just be realistic about how effectively this site can get you where you want to be.
There are other options |
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"I appreciate there maybe many forum posts about this. But is it worth single men been on here? I'm thinking of deleting my account to be honest. "
The overwhelming majority of male frustration with women can be explained by a deep and unreasoning fear that THIS SITE IS THE LAST CHANCE THEY WILL EVER HAVE TO GET LAID.
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"You sound like a nice guy.
I suspect that you don't have the looks, the body or the personality to hold your own on here though.
Despite what others may say, putting effort in does not always pay off.
You must put effort in AND stand out from the crowd, firstly in your profile, its written content and its pictures.
Get that right, you have to get your message style right, message the right people and keep any conversation engaging.
Do that and you may, just may, get a social meet. You then need to keep it up and turn the initial social into a second meet.
That isn't easy for Mr Average in an populous area, let alone Mr Average in a smallish place.
Miss Average, of course, just by the sheer nature of this site may find life much, much easier.
And that's the way it is ...
Some guys are very popular on here. They are in the minority.
Align yourself with these guys and you are in for a real tough ride.
Be realistic about what the site can offer Mr Average tho, attend a couple of socials, make friends with people in the forums and your outlook might change.
Keep up with the 'oh it's too much like hard work / why can I not get a look in' threads though and people will distance themselves. Self 'pity' has a limited audience.
I respect what I have written may sound harsh, but I assume you are expecting the odd candid response and I do think a bit of 'tough love' doesn't go amiss every now n then.
Fab can work for Mr Average. I am testament to this, but, as a guy you have a thick skin, a good degree of self worth and an ego that is not easily dented.
Add to that an ability to not only roll with the punches but fkin dance with them and you are most of the way there.
I hope you stick round.
I hope you get to some socials.
I hope you make new friends.
I hope you turn it round for yourself.
I look forward to reading your glowing verifications.
Good guys are always welcomed by many and I think you are one
Just be realistic about how effectively this site can get you where you want to be.
There are other options "
Thanks I appreciate your comments. Didn't mean to create a feeling sorry for myself thread |
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over a year ago
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Just gotta accept if your face dont fit your not getting any. Chats. Sex what ever you want. Im in the same boat as you op. Let my site fee run out then im jumping ship |
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"Just gotta accept if your face dont fit your not getting any. Chats. Sex what ever you want. Im in the same boat as you op. Let my site fee run out then im jumping ship "
Hope u get more luck mate |
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"Just gotta accept if your face dont fit your not getting any. Chats. Sex what ever you want. Im in the same boat as you op. Let my site fee run out then im jumping ship
Hope u get more luck mate"
Ditto fella |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll give you ONE tip as someone who gets meets..
Be honest..What would you say to someone in real life?..because that's what you have to say on here..
If you cannot pull away from this site, you will struggle on it.
I don't NEED fab to get fucked.
I come and go all the time.
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over a year ago
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"Just gotta accept if your face dont fit your not getting any. Chats. Sex what ever you want. Im in the same boat as you op. Let my site fee run out then im jumping ship
Hope u get more luck mate
Ditto fella "
Cheers mate and not in a gay way but your pics look nice I'm sure women will be queuing up lol |
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"I'll give you ONE tip as someone who gets meets..
Be honest..What would you say to someone in real life?..because that's what you have to say on here..
If you cannot pull away from this site, you will struggle on it.
I don't NEED fab to get fucked.
I come and go all the time.
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Yeah u seem full of it lol |
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"I'll give you ONE tip as someone who gets meets..
Be honest..What would you say to someone in real life?..because that's what you have to say on here..
If you cannot pull away from this site, you will struggle on it.
I don't NEED fab to get fucked.
I come and go all the time.
Yeah u seem full of it lol "
Gah! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I appreciate there maybe many forum posts about this. But is it worth single men been on here? I'm thinking of deleting my account to be honest. There is hardly any single women looking for men or if there are then there are so many men that message them you have little or no chance. Most couples look for a woman to join. Shame really."
Get a life outside of fab, if you get a meet on here then great, if not then so be it. |
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"Just gotta accept if your face dont fit your not getting any. Chats. Sex what ever you want. Im in the same boat as you op. Let my site fee run out then im jumping ship
Hope u get more luck mate
Ditto fella
Cheers mate and not in a gay way but your pics look nice I'm sure women will be queuing up lol"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"or just stick some slap on. you wouldnt even need to shave
watch the offers come flooding in "
Is that a subtle hint to the world that you would end up offering lol |
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"or just stick some slap on. you wouldnt even need to shave
watch the offers come flooding in
Is that a subtle hint to the world that you would end up offering lol"
not sure. lets see how convincing you are as a bird |
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"or just stick some slap on. you wouldnt even need to shave
watch the offers come flooding in
Is that a subtle hint to the world that you would end up offering lol
not sure. lets see how convincing you are as a bird "
Lol I can't imagine very convincing |
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius "
A lot of women filter single guys so they don't get bombarded with messages and do the searching themselves. So you need to make your profile and pics as appealing as possible. |
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"I've met a whole bunch of single men.
Your few and far between. I can do a search on women looking for men and get one page within say a 40 mile radius
A lot of women filter single guys so they don't get bombarded with messages and do the searching themselves. So you need to make your profile and pics as appealing as possible. "
Will do my best x |
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I'm here to met single men and no one else. I live miles from everyone but even I manage to find a hidden gem now and again 
If women have filtered single men it could mean that they do the looking, which means that you have to stand out from the crowd. Make sure your profile is one they want to read and look at a second or third time and not pass by after a quick glance. |
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"Try going further away... We have been To tease, a hot tub social in hull, Manchester clubs and our local clubs this past 5weeks x
Is a very good idea thank u x"
And try chunkymufins in Boston as it cant be that far from you x |
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"Try going further away... We have been To tease, a hot tub social in hull, Manchester clubs and our local clubs this past 5weeks x
Is a very good idea thank u x
And try chunkymufins in Boston as it cant be that far from you x"
Thanks and great pics by the way x |
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"I'm here to met single men and no one else. I live miles from everyone but even I manage to find a hidden gem now and again
If women have filtered single men it could mean that they do the looking, which means that you have to stand out from the crowd. Make sure your profile is one they want to read and look at a second or third time and not pass by after a quick glance. "
I have to hope my smile stands out then |
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"I'm here to met single men and no one else. I live miles from everyone but even I manage to find a hidden gem now and again
If women have filtered single men it could mean that they do the looking, which means that you have to stand out from the crowd. Make sure your profile is one they want to read and look at a second or third time and not pass by after a quick glance.
I have to hope my smile stands out then "
it's quite a nice smile to be fair. Good luck x |
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"I'm here to met single men and no one else. I live miles from everyone but even I manage to find a hidden gem now and again
If women have filtered single men it could mean that they do the looking, which means that you have to stand out from the crowd. Make sure your profile is one they want to read and look at a second or third time and not pass by after a quick glance.
I have to hope my smile stands out then
it's quite a nice smile to be fair. Good luck x"
Aww thank you you sure you don't fancy a trip here x |
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"I'm here to met single men and no one else. I live miles from everyone but even I manage to find a hidden gem now and again
If women have filtered single men it could mean that they do the looking, which means that you have to stand out from the crowd. Make sure your profile is one they want to read and look at a second or third time and not pass by after a quick glance.
I have to hope my smile stands out then
it's quite a nice smile to be fair. Good luck x
Aww thank you you sure you don't fancy a trip here x"
Ha ha nice try |
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"I'm here to met single men and no one else. I live miles from everyone but even I manage to find a hidden gem now and again
If women have filtered single men it could mean that they do the looking, which means that you have to stand out from the crowd. Make sure your profile is one they want to read and look at a second or third time and not pass by after a quick glance.
I have to hope my smile stands out then
it's quite a nice smile to be fair. Good luck x
Aww thank you you sure you don't fancy a trip here x
Ha ha nice try"
Lol can't knock a lad for trying with such a beautiful lady :p x |
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"Try going further away... We have been To tease, a hot tub social in hull, Manchester clubs and our local clubs this past 5weeks x
Is a very good idea thank u x
And try chunkymufins in Boston as it cant be that far from you x
Thanks and great pics by the way x"
Thanks |
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"I'm here to met single men and no one else. I live miles from everyone but even I manage to find a hidden gem now and again
If women have filtered single men it could mean that they do the looking, which means that you have to stand out from the crowd. Make sure your profile is one they want to read and look at a second or third time and not pass by after a quick glance.
I have to hope my smile stands out then
it's quite a nice smile to be fair. Good luck x
Aww thank you you sure you don't fancy a trip here x
Ha ha nice try
Lol can't knock a lad for trying with such a beautiful lady :p x"
you must admit, he has a very valid point there |
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nothing to do with looks for me,a sense of humour and someone for who they are wins me everytime but with regards to getting laid im not fussed if I get it or I don't |
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Well in the time this thread has taken to run you've changed your profile pic, taken comments on board and interacted with all the comments made...
Hope the positivity works for you x |
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"Well in the time this thread has taken to run you've changed your profile pic, taken comments on board and interacted with all the comments made...
Hope the positivity works for you x"
Yeah Deffo advice is always helpful and thanks x |
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"I'm here to met single men and no one else. I live miles from everyone but even I manage to find a hidden gem now and again
If women have filtered single men it could mean that they do the looking, which means that you have to stand out from the crowd. Make sure your profile is one they want to read and look at a second or third time and not pass by after a quick glance.
I have to hope my smile stands out then
it's quite a nice smile to be fair. Good luck x
Aww thank you you sure you don't fancy a trip here x
Ha ha nice try
Lol can't knock a lad for trying with such a beautiful lady :p x
you must admit, he has a very valid point there "
thanks both |
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"I'm here to met single men and no one else. I live miles from everyone but even I manage to find a hidden gem now and again
If women have filtered single men it could mean that they do the looking, which means that you have to stand out from the crowd. Make sure your profile is one they want to read and look at a second or third time and not pass by after a quick glance.
I have to hope my smile stands out then
it's quite a nice smile to be fair. Good luck x
Aww thank you you sure you don't fancy a trip here x
Ha ha nice try
Lol can't knock a lad for trying with such a beautiful lady :p x
you must admit, he has a very valid point there
thanks both "
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