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I don't want to meet you
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you give the reason why you don't want to meet someone? Seems to be issues with people having preferences that exclude some people.
What if we had to give an actual reason, rather than no reply or "no thank you".
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you give the reason why you don't want to meet someone? Seems to be issues with people having preferences that exclude some people.
What if we had to give an actual reason, rather than no reply or "no thank you".
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Sometimes, especially if they don't match my criteria clearly stated on my profile (the profile they claimed to have liked).  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just say ''Thanks for getting in touch. Ur not my type. Hope u find what ur looking for. Happy Fabbing''. Esp if that person has sent a few messages and doesn't get the hint if I have ignored them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would be nice to get an offer  .
If they were not for me would just say thanks but not my type and wish them all the best and hope they get what there looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually say 'no but thanks for asking', but I have let someone know why if they ask. Funnily enough, most don't ask.  "
I say something quite similar and not many ask why not. |
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Angel deals with all the messaging do dah, normally she just ignores, but if she had to give reasons, i'm sure they'd be along the lines of "you're far too skinny" or "i just can't imagine licking your fanny"  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"usually saying 'I would rather nail my scrotum to a wooden post than consider meeting you' does the trick...."
Or "sorry but I've already made plans with my right hand and I don't want it to think i'm a timewaster!" 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been on the receiving end of the thanks but no thanks messages, I think it's nice that people take the time to reply, I always reply back with a nice polite message too. I understand you girls are swamped with messages and can't possibly reply to them all tho but getting a no thanks is better than just being deleted or blocked for an unknown reason x |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
I'd love to be able to open my mailbox without being assaulted by the type of avatars I've asked people not to message me with, but I can't stop it without blocking all men, including the decent ones, so I'll have to continue bleaching my eyes.
Sometimes I'll tell someone that their av put me off even reading their message but usually I don't bother. They never understand why on a "sex site" some avs put me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If the reason is obvious such as they fall out of our age range or a stated preference then it's easy to give them the reason as to why we wouldn't meet them.
If it's just a case of not fancying them we will be tactful , but blunt if we have to be.
We have been turned down many times because of looks. It doesn't bother us at all, as long as they're not rude. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never explain why you're refusing - it's just seen as an open invitation for them to write back with a "but...."
So "Thanks for writing but I'm not interested, sorry" is enough. If it isn't enough, then block....
It may feel harsh, but hard experience is a good teacher!
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We do somethimes say "you're too far away or too young" otherwise no, we don't give reasons even if asked. It's often for something they cant change and we feel it wouldn't be constructive feed back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""Thank you for writing to me but we are not a match"; and that is when the questions and abuse starts"
You're kind of inviting a conversation about why they don't match. I prefer "no thankyou x" block. |
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"Do you give the reason why you don't want to meet someone? Seems to be issues with people having preferences that exclude some people.
What if we had to give an actual reason, rather than no reply or "no thank you".
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. Probably easier just to ignore the message and not reply. Common senses means no reply means no interest . If someone says no to me , happy to accept their decision. In any event 99.99 % of members would not want to meet me , so prefer to concentrate on those who do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just state that whilst I appreciate the message I don't wish to meet...
But put as politely as I can..
I am OK with rejection myself, it's all part of the game we play |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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""Thank you for writing to me but we are not a match"; and that is when the questions and abuse starts
You're kind of inviting a conversation about why they don't match. I prefer "no thankyou x" block."
ok, you have a point
From henceforth, it will be a "no thanks"; but does it have to be with an "x" at the end? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suppose if I could put into words the reason why I don't want to meet everyone who shows a sexual interest in me (either via mail or far more often winking), it's simply that, upon perusing their profile, pictures and verifications, not once did I feel the slightest tingle of sexual excitement, nothing in any way got me feeling aroused or enticed by the prospect of meeting, and this being a site that essentially caters (in theory at least) for those looking to meet strangers for fun, friendship and hot fucking, I see no reason to converse further.
It's not an insult, not meant to degrade, demean or disrespect these people in any way, its simply me saying that I don't feel any kind of sexual interest toward them. |
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"I'll never give reasons again or even respond to any messages from people that aren't my type. Had way too much abuse for it. "
Thats just disappointment talking.
Oh and them being a massively insecure dick who doesnt understand you have the right to choose. |
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It's easier to ignore, delete or just say no thanks.
