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So who am I allowed to want to meet?
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"As a fat woman who is on here looking for toned, muscular men, I am, apparently, arrogant. As I'm not a supermodel, I'm not allowed to want to meet anyone better looking than me. So, I clearly need to rewrite my profile and I need your help. Just who is it reasonable for me to say I am looking for? Anyone As a fatty, should I be looking for a man with a body fat percentage equal to mine or an equal height/weight ratio or an equivalent waist measurement? Yes May I only want to meet people of equal attractiveness? And who would judge everyone's attractiveness? The same or above, leave the mingers alone, it will only end in tears (theirs) What's the acceptable age range for me to seek? 30-50 Do I need to work out what percentile I'm in in terms of my height and what height that equates to in a man? No Do I need to find someone with a similar IQ? How about fitness? Must I do a beep test and put my blood pressure and cholesterol on my profile, and ask potential meets about theirs? You could always ask them general knowledge queustions but without them knowing. For eg, your messaging away and you could start the question with 'Just out of interest' and then add any question after. ask them what hobbies or sport they partake in, then you can judge their fitness levels to some extent What other factors must I consider? I can't be arrogant and look for anyone "better" than me, after all. Religion, vegatarnism, political beliefs. Or is it just about body size and looks? yes Phew, this meeting business is hard work..." As a fat woman who is on here looking for toned, muscular men, I am, apparently, arrogant. As I'm not a supermodel, I'm not allowed to want to meet anyone better looking than me. So, I clearly need to rewrite my profile and I need your help. Just who is it reasonable for me to say I am looking for? As a fatty, should I be looking for a man with a body fat percentage equal to mine or an equal height/weight ratio or an equivalent waist measurement? May I only want to meet people of equal attractiveness? And who would judge everyone's attractiveness? What's the acceptable age range for me to seek? Do I need to work out what percentile I'm in in terms of my height and what height that equates to in a man? Do I need to find someone with a similar IQ? How about fitness? Must I do a beep test and put my blood pressure and cholesterol on my profile, and ask potential meets about theirs? What other factors must I consider? I can't be arrogant and look for anyone "better" than me, after all. Or is it just about body size and looks? Phew, this meeting business is hard work... | |||
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"Meet who you want to meet and fuck what anyone else thinks!!" Couldn't have said it better myself 
Oh, VV I would add - don't get wound up by others forum threads - don't want to add spiralling blood pressure to the mix   | |||
"As a fat woman who is on here looking for toned, muscular men, I am, apparently, arrogant. As I'm not a supermodel, I'm not allowed to want to meet anyone better looking than me. So, I clearly need to rewrite my profile and I need your help. Just who is it reasonable for me to say I am looking for? As a fatty, should I be looking for a man with a body fat percentage equal to mine or an equal height/weight ratio or an equivalent waist measurement? May I only want to meet people of equal attractiveness? And who would judge everyone's attractiveness? What's the acceptable age range for me to seek? Do I need to work out what percentile I'm in in terms of my height and what height that equates to in a man? Do I need to find someone with a similar IQ? How about fitness? Must I do a beep test and put my blood pressure and cholesterol on my profile, and ask potential meets about theirs? What other factors must I consider? I can't be arrogant and look for anyone "better" than me, after all. Or is it just about body size and looks? Phew, this meeting business is hard work..." Don't forgot, you're also not allowed to want a particular race or colour, or exclude them either...and as for size! Forget it! | |||
"Meet who you want to meet and fuck what anyone else thinks!! Couldn't have said it better myself
Oh, VV I would add - don't get wound up by others forum threads - don't want to add spiralling blood pressure to the mix "I'm not wound up. I'm pondering. I find it curious that looks and age are the only factors raised during the discussions about people being unrealistic/arrogant. Nobody ever tries to say short people shouldn't prefer tall ones because that's arrogant. And bizarrely enough I had my blood pressure taken this morning for an annual MOT. 120/78. | |||
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"No, just try out some lettuce "Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not. If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else. It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy. That's not going to happen either  | |||
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"As a fat woman who is on here looking for toned, muscular men, I am, apparently, arrogant. As I'm not a supermodel, I'm not allowed to want to meet anyone better looking than me. So, I clearly need to rewrite my profile and I need your help. Just who is it reasonable for me to say I am looking for? As a fatty, should I be looking for a man with a body fat percentage equal to mine or an equal height/weight ratio or an equivalent waist measurement? May I only want to meet people of equal attractiveness? And who would judge everyone's attractiveness? What's the acceptable age range for me to seek? Do I need to work out what percentile I'm in in terms of my height and what height that equates to in a man? Do I need to find someone with a similar IQ? How about fitness? Must I do a beep test and put my blood pressure and cholesterol on my profile, and ask potential meets about theirs? What other factors must I consider? I can't be arrogant and look for anyone "better" than me, after all. Or is it just about body size and looks? Phew, this meeting business is hard work..." You're OBVIOUSLY only allowed to meet people as ugly and as fat as you. Oh and the same colour. And same hair type. And same eye colour. And same attributes, hopes and dreams as you. Incase you breed with them. Couldn't imagine the fatties mixing with anyone less than a size minus ten point zero zero thousand.... Oh wait. They'd be dead. So now skeletons are out of bounds too. Well, on not so literal terms, you're fucked..... I'd just do what the hell you wanna do with who the hell you wanna do it with
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"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either "Please don't take my response seriously, it was purely tongue in cheek!!    | |||
"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either "Do who and what makes you happy | |||
" Please don't take my response seriously, it was purely tongue in cheek!!" | |||
"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Please don't take my response seriously, it was purely tongue in cheek!! "Ahhh! I can't put my tongue in my cheek, it gets in the way of chewing cakes and things | |||
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"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Please don't take my response seriously, it was purely tongue in cheek!!
Ahhh! I can't put my tongue in my cheek, it gets in the way of chewing cakes and things "That's because cake is the best thing ever!!!!!! :D Chocolate orange drizzle cake..... *drools* | |||
"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Please don't take my response seriously, it was purely tongue in cheek!!
Ahhh! I can't put my tongue in my cheek, it gets in the way of chewing cakes and things "I therfore refer the honourable young lady to the answer I gave earlier | |||
that answers why I wank a lot then... | |||
"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either "Actually its like saying that if you want to date some one more intelligent than you you might go to university | |||
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"Having a type is fine, as you will always be someone elses type aswell, its not hypocritical at all, the only time it gets close to hypocritical is when someone of a certain type wont meet others of the same cos they find it unattractive ect "Attraction is attraction. I don't fancy fat men, so I won't meet them. It's not hypocrisy. Would anyone have a problem with a slim man/woman not wanting to meet a slim woman/man because they prefer larger people? The answer is no, so why do so many take it as read that it's evil itself for someone fat not to fancy other fat people? Fat people have to be willing to meet other fat people why exactly? There are people on here looking solely for races other than their own. There are pale people who prefer dark people. There are short people looking for tall people. There's no rule saying we have to meet the same as us. And as per the OP, what does the same even mean? Besides, although I'm bi- I'm meeting solely men atm so I wouldn't meet the same as myself (i.e. a fat woman). | |||
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"I can't be bothered to diet and I can't exercise much at the moment. Doesn't stop me meeting lovely men of all ages,sizes,races,weight etc etc. I'm so lucky I can suck a cock well "oh dear,fat thumb alert,meant to put a | |||
"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Actually its like saying that if you want to date some one more intelligent than you you might go to university "No, not really. It's saying if I want to shag someone less blubbery than me, I have to lose weight. So the analogy works. Going to university makes a person better educated, not more intelligent. | |||
"I can't be bothered to diet and I can't exercise much at the moment. Doesn't stop me meeting lovely men of all ages,sizes,races,weight etc etc. I'm so lucky I can suck a cock well
oh dear,fat thumb alert,meant to put a "Get that thumb onto the lettuce STAT! | |||
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"Don't forget social class - you can't go up and definitely don't want to go down to the great unwashed "Ooh no, I quite like a bit o' rough sometimes! | |||
I think if I put that I want, slimish, clean shaven intelligent men, they might accuse me of being arrogant too. Anyway there are lots of average looking men on here who prefer to meet slim and young women so whats the difference? | |||
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"Same as me OP, as I got a 6pack not many want to meet me, as most women just want the average joe body, if I was closer I would meet you as I like all shapes " | |||
"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Actually its like saying that if you want to date some one more intelligent than you you might go to university
No, not really. It's saying if I want to shag someone less blubbery than me, I have to lose weight.
So the analogy works.
Going to university makes a person better educated, not more intelligent."No what I'm saying is you want to change your apparent attractiveness Either physically by losing weight Or intellectually by by getting a bit of learning. It doesn't make sense that you would want to make yourself less attractive as you stated in your analogy | |||
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someone gotten on your nerves today? What's with this post! You know as well as any bugger you may do what and who you please and sod those who dont like it.....
You'll tie yourself in knots if you listen to everyone on here and try and please 'em all as ya know so you just worry about yersel'....this is supposed to be fun, not a source of stress | |||
"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Actually its like saying that if you want to date some one more intelligent than you you might go to university
No, not really. It's saying if I want to shag someone less blubbery than me, I have to lose weight.
So the analogy works.
Going to university makes a person better educated, not more intelligent.
No what I'm saying is you want to change your apparent attractiveness
Either physically by losing weight
Or intellectually by by getting a bit of learning.
It doesn't make sense that you would want to make yourself less attractive as you stated in your analogy "If the rule is that one has to be less attractive/tall/intelligent/whatever in order to shag someone less attractive etc then yes, I'd have to make myself less intelligent to shag someone less intelligent. Or I could expect them to somehow gain intelligence (which isn't the same as education). | |||
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"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Actually its like saying that if you want to date some one more intelligent than you you might go to university
No, not really. It's saying if I want to shag someone less blubbery than me, I have to lose weight.
So the analogy works.
Going to university makes a person better educated, not more intelligent.
No what I'm saying is you want to change your apparent attractiveness
Either physically by losing weight
Or intellectually by by getting a bit of learning.
It doesn't make sense that you would want to make yourself less attractive as you stated in your analogy
If the rule is that one has to be less attractive/tall/intelligent/whatever in order to shag someone less attractive etc then yes, I'd have to make myself less intelligent to shag someone less intelligent. Or I could expect them to somehow gain intelligence (which isn't the same as education)."I'd argue that it's a more common occurrence that a person would accept some one less intelligent than some one less attractive (certainly for a man) But regardless of that, we have already agreed that people will go for the best they can get, so if you can get a "thickie" then you wouldn't need a lobotomy. Also eduction isn't the same as intelligence, I agree but I'm sure you don't tell your kids not to bother in school | |||
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"Aye up v someone gotten on your nerves today? What's with this post! You know as well as any bugger you may do what and who you please and sod those who dont like it.....
You'll tie yourself in knots if you listen to everyone on here and try and please 'em all as ya know so you just worry about yersel'....this is supposed to be fun, not a source of stress"I'm not stressed. I'm perhaps being a bit provocative but that's more mischief than stress. I do think it's curious, however, that in posts mentioning that people should meet their 'equals' and shouldn't try to punch above their weight, it's usually only looks and body size that are mentioned. As I said, nobody would think twice about a short person preferring tall partners and nobody would tell a slim person they can't want to meet larger people. | |||
"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Actually its like saying that if you want to date some one more intelligent than you you might go to university
No, not really. It's saying if I want to shag someone less blubbery than me, I have to lose weight.
So the analogy works.
Going to university makes a person better educated, not more intelligent.
No what I'm saying is you want to change your apparent attractiveness
Either physically by losing weight
Or intellectually by by getting a bit of learning.
It doesn't make sense that you would want to make yourself less attractive as you stated in your analogy
If the rule is that one has to be less attractive/tall/intelligent/whatever in order to shag someone less attractive etc then yes, I'd have to make myself less intelligent to shag someone less intelligent. Or I could expect them to somehow gain intelligence (which isn't the same as education).
I'd argue that it's a more common occurrence that a person would accept some one less intelligent than some one less attractive (certainly for a man)
But regardless of that, we have already agreed that people will go for the best they can get, so if you can get a "thickie" then you wouldn't need a lobotomy.
Also eduction isn't the same as intelligence, I agree but I'm sure you don't tell your kids not to bother in school
"No, we haven't agreed people will go for the best they can get. Some might but personally, if I can't get meets with people I'm attracted to, I don't meet. I don't settle for something else just because it's the best available to me. Of course, given a choice between someone attractive to me and someone more attractive, I'd choose the latter. However, that's only if forced to choose. Otherwise I'll have both | |||
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" Of course, given a choice between someone attractive to me and someone more attractive, I'd choose the latter. However, that's only if forced to choose. Otherwise I'll have both "So you are saying that if you can't have both you would choose the best available to you | |||
"Did I read somewhere about cake ?? "Yep. But I've eaten it.
I've got Tangfastics though. The thread last night lead me astray. | |||
" Of course, given a choice between someone attractive to me and someone more attractive, I'd choose the latter. However, that's only if forced to choose. Otherwise I'll have both
So you are saying that if you can't have both you would choose the best available to you"Yes, of two acceptable choices. If I can't have what I want, I don't go for the best available, I choose to go without. | |||
"Did I read somewhere about cake ??
Yep. But I've eaten it.
I've got Tangfastics though. The thread last night lead me astray."I was only after cake
I've got some haribos and I don't share
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"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Actually its like saying that if you want to date some one more intelligent than you you might go to university
No, not really. It's saying if I want to shag someone less blubbery than me, I have to lose weight.
So the analogy works.
Going to university makes a person better educated, not more intelligent."So does the less blubbery person not have a choice? What if they fancy fatties? Or could that be an impossible paradox? The thread you're responding to made no sense to me purely because it didn't see 2 sides within a decision about which finds who attractive | |||
"No, just try out some lettuce
Diet to suit the whims of others? I think not.
If I lose weight, I do it for me, not for anyone else.
It's like saying if I want to shag someone less intelligent than me I should have a lobotomy.
That's not going to happen either
Actually its like saying that if you want to date some one more intelligent than you you might go to university
No, not really. It's saying if I want to shag someone less blubbery than me, I have to lose weight.
So the analogy works.
Going to university makes a person better educated, not more intelligent.
So does the less blubbery person not have a choice? What if they fancy fatties? Or could that be an impossible paradox?
The thread you're responding to made no sense to me purely because it didn't see 2 sides within a decision about which finds who attractive"Could you tell me please what the thread is called that brought this about? | |||
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" Of course, given a choice between someone attractive to me and someone more attractive, I'd choose the latter. However, that's only if forced to choose. Otherwise I'll have both
So you are saying that if you can't have both you would choose the best available to you
Yes, of two acceptable choices.
If I can't have what I want, I don't go for the best available, I choose to go without."Yes but ladies have lots and lots of choice, law of averages suggests the likelihood of some one being attractive to you will be higher. | |||
"Same as me OP, as I got a 6pack not many want to meet me, as most women just want the average joe body, if I was closer I would meet you as I like all shapes "Wow ..you have a six pack .....funny you've never mentioned it before | |||
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"Same as me OP, as I got a 6pack not many want to meet me, as most women just want the average joe body, if I was closer I would meet you as I like all shapes
Wow ..you have a six pack .....funny you've never mentioned it before "That 6 pack is obviously such a burden for him as women don't want to meet because of it!!!!! | |||
"Oooh are we letting the forum folk decide who we can meet now? Sorry I didn't get that memo. "Yes and we have decided that from now on you have to meet one legged ginger dwarves called Harry | |||
"Oooh are we letting the forum folk decide who we can meet now? Sorry I didn't get that memo.
Yes and we have decided that from now on you have to meet one legged ginger dwarves called Harry "Do you know any? | |||
"Aye up v someone gotten on your nerves today? What's with this post! You know as well as any bugger you may do what and who you please and sod those who dont like it.....
You'll tie yourself in knots if you listen to everyone on here and try and please 'em all as ya know so you just worry about yersel'....this is supposed to be fun, not a source of stress
I'm not stressed. I'm perhaps being a bit provocative but that's more mischief than stress.
I do think it's curious, however, that in posts mentioning that people should meet their 'equals' and shouldn't try to punch above their weight, it's usually only looks and body size that are mentioned.
As I said, nobody would think twice about a short person preferring tall partners and nobody would tell a slim person they can't want to meet larger people."This is all too complicated for me....I just find folk I like and get on with and leave it at that, nobody's ever told me anything to the contrary so it all seems pretty straightforward to me.....i'm feeling too simple to be overthinking stuff at the moment | |||
"Have agreed with or saw wisdom in every post of yours I have read (which is not most, as I read the forum posts more sparingly than many who post). You have always come across as confident and self-assured, but not arrogant. I would be surprised if you dont already know the answer to all of your questions, and based on the tone, it seems you do. My only question is what was said that set you off so bad. It doesnt seem like you to give other people so much power over your emotions. I apologize if that's too deep, it was meant to be supportive. " I'm not stressed about it. My profile says what I'm looking for and it's not going to change. This post is part mischief and partly born of actual curiosity about what's different about weight and looks versus all other attributes, such as intelligence and height. I'm having a slow news day and I'm avoiding what I should be doing. What other people think about who I should or should not meet won't affect me. If they want to meet me and I want to meet them, it's nobody else's business. | |||
"Oooh are we letting the forum folk decide who we can meet now? Sorry I didn't get that memo.
Yes and we have decided that from now on you have to meet one legged ginger dwarves called Harry
Do you know any?"Blimey, you want me to hook you up, suppose you will want me to shag him for you too
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"As a fat woman who is on here looking for toned, muscular men, I am, apparently, arrogant. As I'm not a supermodel, I'm not allowed to want to meet anyone better looking than me. So, I clearly need to rewrite my profile and I need your help. Just who is it reasonable for me to say I am looking for? As a fatty, should I be looking for a man with a body fat percentage equal to mine or an equal height/weight ratio or an equivalent waist measurement? May I only want to meet people of equal attractiveness? And who would judge everyone's attractiveness? What's the acceptable age range for me to seek? Do I need to work out what percentile I'm in in terms of my height and what height that equates to in a man? Do I need to find someone with a similar IQ? How about fitness? Must I do a beep test and put my blood pressure and cholesterol on my profile, and ask potential meets about theirs? What other factors must I consider? I can't be arrogant and look for anyone "better" than me, after all. Or is it just about body size and looks? Phew, this meeting business is hard work..." I saw that forum post, clearly written by someone with sour grapes. We are all beautiful and sexy in our own way, I'm dealing with a partner that is losing weight and bra size as a result (34dd to 32c) and I'm trying to perswade her it's not her breast size that defines her. You meet who you want and blow a raspberry at anyone who thinks otherwise. | |||
" Of course, given a choice between someone attractive to me and someone more attractive, I'd choose the latter. However, that's only if forced to choose. Otherwise I'll have both
So you are saying that if you can't have both you would choose the best available to you
Yes, of two acceptable choices.
If I can't have what I want, I don't go for the best available, I choose to go without.
Yes but ladies have lots and lots of choice, law of averages suggests the likelihood of some one being attractive to you will be higher.
"More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. | |||
"Meet who you want to meet and fuck what anyone else thinks!!" | |||
" I saw that forum post, clearly written by someone with sour grapes. We are all beautiful and sexy in our own way, I'm dealing with a partner that is losing weight and bra size as a result (34dd to 32c) and I'm trying to perswade her it's not her breast size that defines her. You meet who you want and blow a raspberry at anyone who thinks otherwise. "I'll try asking you, what thread was this thread in response to please? | |||
" I saw that forum post, clearly written by someone with sour grapes. We are all beautiful and sexy in our own way, I'm dealing with a partner that is losing weight and bra size as a result (34dd to 32c) and I'm trying to perswade her it's not her breast size that defines her. You meet who you want and blow a raspberry at anyone who thinks otherwise.
I'll try asking you, what thread was this thread in response to please?"http://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/331665 eloquently written but factually obvious. | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female." Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
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" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
"10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them! If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated). I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area. | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
"Actually, the last part is the most important in my opinion. As someone who is looking for a specific 'type' and not just to have sex with any one who will have me, it can be daunting to just keep seeing the same few profiles on every search, especially since most of them have already turned me down, and in some cases threatened violence and/or legal action.  | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
"If there is a good to bad ratio as you stated then the more messages you get in total would suggest the likelihood of the amount of good increasing too Maybe the ratio of bad messages to good is 10001 to 1 in which case getting only 10000 messages isn't going to do you much good
So short of moving you have two options one is to increase your attractiveness
The other is to alter your expectations
I'm not suggesting you need to do either xx | |||
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" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
If there is a good to bad ratio as you stated then the more messages you get in total would suggest the likelihood of the amount of good increasing too
Maybe the ratio of bad messages to good is 10001 to 1 in which case getting only 10000 messages isn't going to do you much good
So short of moving you have two options one is to increase your attractiveness
The other is to alter your expectations
I'm not suggesting you need to do either xx"You're assuming with that though that someone being more attractive will attract more 'good' prospects. It won't work if those prospects aren't there to attract. Speaking personally, I've already said if I can't get what I want, I prefer to go without. That works fine. Sex is a nice-to-have, definitely not a need. In fact, the longer I go without, the less I want it. | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
If there is a good to bad ratio as you stated then the more messages you get in total would suggest the likelihood of the amount of good increasing too
Maybe the ratio of bad messages to good is 10001 to 1 in which case getting only 10000 messages isn't going to do you much good
So short of moving you have two options one is to increase your attractiveness
The other is to alter your expectations
I'm not suggesting you need to do either xx
You're assuming with that though that someone being more attractive will attract more 'good' prospects. It won't work if those prospects aren't there to attract.
Speaking personally, I've already said if I can't get what I want, I prefer to go without. That works fine. Sex is a nice-to-have, definitely not a need.
In fact, the longer I go without, the less I want it."Your implying that no one on fab meets your requirements, it's a website that contains many thousands of individuals some of which are intelligent articulate and attractive. Many of them post on these forums. If you prefer to go with out that's your choice, but you may be missing out on some fantastic times, often some ones worth might not be initially apparent, changing your specifications for a potential mate might yield surprising results. | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
If there is a good to bad ratio as you stated then the more messages you get in total would suggest the likelihood of the amount of good increasing too
Maybe the ratio of bad messages to good is 10001 to 1 in which case getting only 10000 messages isn't going to do you much good
So short of moving you have two options one is to increase your attractiveness
The other is to alter your expectations
I'm not suggesting you need to do either xx
You're assuming with that though that someone being more attractive will attract more 'good' prospects. It won't work if those prospects aren't there to attract.
Speaking personally, I've already said if I can't get what I want, I prefer to go without. That works fine. Sex is a nice-to-have, definitely not a need.
In fact, the longer I go without, the less I want it.
Your implying that no one on fab meets your requirements, it's a website that contains many thousands of individuals some of which are intelligent articulate and attractive. Many of them post on these forums.
If you prefer to go with out that's your choice, but you may be missing out on some fantastic times, often some ones worth might not be initially apparent, changing your specifications for a potential mate might yield surprising results. "No, not at all. The first part wasn't even about me. There may well be thousands of people on fab but they aren't all distributed evenly. Some people have very few others in their area. And even if there are other members within a reasonable distance, if nobody floats your boat, there's nothing you can do about that. Some may decide to meet the best they can get, even if it's not what they wanted, but many - me included - wouldn't. I'm not missing out by not meeting someone I'm not attracted to. I'm not looking for a partner here after all. | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
If there is a good to bad ratio as you stated then the more messages you get in total would suggest the likelihood of the amount of good increasing too
Maybe the ratio of bad messages to good is 10001 to 1 in which case getting only 10000 messages isn't going to do you much good
So short of moving you have two options one is to increase your attractiveness
The other is to alter your expectations
I'm not suggesting you need to do either xx
You're assuming with that though that someone being more attractive will attract more 'good' prospects. It won't work if those prospects aren't there to attract.
Speaking personally, I've already said if I can't get what I want, I prefer to go without. That works fine. Sex is a nice-to-have, definitely not a need.
In fact, the longer I go without, the less I want it.
Your implying that no one on fab meets your requirements, it's a website that contains many thousands of individuals some of which are intelligent articulate and attractive. Many of them post on these forums.
If you prefer to go with out that's your choice, but you may be missing out on some fantastic times, often some ones worth might not be initially apparent, changing your specifications for a potential mate might yield surprising results.
No, not at all. The first part wasn't even about me.
There may well be thousands of people on fab but they aren't all distributed evenly. Some people have very few others in their area.
And even if there are other members within a reasonable distance, if nobody floats your boat, there's nothing you can do about that. Some may decide to meet the best they can get, even if it's not what they wanted, but many - me included - wouldn't.
I'm not missing out by not meeting someone I'm not attracted to.
I'm not looking for a partner here after all."As I said the choice is yours I've never been to Norwich so I'll defer to your judgement of the area x
I live in Manchester an there's loads of sexy people here, oh yes and me | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
If there is a good to bad ratio as you stated then the more messages you get in total would suggest the likelihood of the amount of good increasing too
Maybe the ratio of bad messages to good is 10001 to 1 in which case getting only 10000 messages isn't going to do you much good
So short of moving you have two options one is to increase your attractiveness
The other is to alter your expectations
I'm not suggesting you need to do either xx
You're assuming with that though that someone being more attractive will attract more 'good' prospects. It won't work if those prospects aren't there to attract.
Speaking personally, I've already said if I can't get what I want, I prefer to go without. That works fine. Sex is a nice-to-have, definitely not a need.
In fact, the longer I go without, the less I want it.
Your implying that no one on fab meets your requirements, it's a website that contains many thousands of individuals some of which are intelligent articulate and attractive. Many of them post on these forums.
If you prefer to go with out that's your choice, but you may be missing out on some fantastic times, often some ones worth might not be initially apparent, changing your specifications for a potential mate might yield surprising results.
No, not at all. The first part wasn't even about me.
There may well be thousands of people on fab but they aren't all distributed evenly. Some people have very few others in their area.
And even if there are other members within a reasonable distance, if nobody floats your boat, there's nothing you can do about that. Some may decide to meet the best they can get, even if it's not what they wanted, but many - me included - wouldn't.
I'm not missing out by not meeting someone I'm not attracted to.
I'm not looking for a partner here after all.
As I said the choice is yours I've never been to Norwich so I'll defer to your judgement of the area x
I live in Manchester an there's loads of sexy people here, oh yes and me"I've already said I wasn't meaning me specifically with that bit. I was actually thinking of a couple of friends in Scotland. We're not all blessed with a vibrant local fab scene and there's not necessarily anything, (except, as I said before, moving), we can do about it. And just to be absolutely clear, 'we' does not mean 'me'! I would choose not to meet over meeting someone I'm not attracted to IF that was the choice. As it is, someone nice usually comes along if I wait a bit. | |||
"Who you are allowed to meet are men who mail you, if a guy mails you asking for a fuck simply reply yes happy to help "Fancy a f..... Nah it's not going to work is it lol | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
If there is a good to bad ratio as you stated then the more messages you get in total would suggest the likelihood of the amount of good increasing too
Maybe the ratio of bad messages to good is 10001 to 1 in which case getting only 10000 messages isn't going to do you much good
So short of moving you have two options one is to increase your attractiveness
The other is to alter your expectations
I'm not suggesting you need to do either xx
You're assuming with that though that someone being more attractive will attract more 'good' prospects. It won't work if those prospects aren't there to attract.
Speaking personally, I've already said if I can't get what I want, I prefer to go without. That works fine. Sex is a nice-to-have, definitely not a need.
In fact, the longer I go without, the less I want it.
Your implying that no one on fab meets your requirements, it's a website that contains many thousands of individuals some of which are intelligent articulate and attractive. Many of them post on these forums.
If you prefer to go with out that's your choice, but you may be missing out on some fantastic times, often some ones worth might not be initially apparent, changing your specifications for a potential mate might yield surprising results.
No, not at all. The first part wasn't even about me.
There may well be thousands of people on fab but they aren't all distributed evenly. Some people have very few others in their area.
And even if there are other members within a reasonable distance, if nobody floats your boat, there's nothing you can do about that. Some may decide to meet the best they can get, even if it's not what they wanted, but many - me included - wouldn't.
I'm not missing out by not meeting someone I'm not attracted to.
I'm not looking for a partner here after all.
As I said the choice is yours I've never been to Norwich so I'll defer to your judgement of the area x
I live in Manchester an there's loads of sexy people here, oh yes and me
I've already said I wasn't meaning me specifically with that bit. I was actually thinking of a couple of friends in Scotland. We're not all blessed with a vibrant local fab scene and there's not necessarily anything, (except, as I said before, moving), we can do about it. And just to be absolutely clear, 'we' does not mean 'me'!
I would choose not to meet over meeting someone I'm not attracted to IF that was the choice. As it is, someone nice usually comes along if I wait a bit."Yeah you probably did but it wasn't very clear
So what you are saying is that you are happy to wait till some one descent happens along, cos you have that many replies there is bound to be some good ones | |||
"As a fat woman who is on here looking for toned, muscular men, I am, apparently, arrogant. As I'm not a supermodel, I'm not allowed to want to meet anyone better looking than me. So, I clearly need to rewrite my profile and I need your help. Just who is it reasonable for me to say I am looking for? As a fatty, should I be looking for a man with a body fat percentage equal to mine or an equal height/weight ratio or an equivalent waist measurement? May I only want to meet people of equal attractiveness? And who would judge everyone's attractiveness? What's the acceptable age range for me to seek? Do I need to work out what percentile I'm in in terms of my height and what height that equates to in a man? Do I need to find someone with a similar IQ? How about fitness? Must I do a beep test and put my blood pressure and cholesterol on my profile, and ask potential meets about theirs? What other factors must I consider? I can't be arrogant and look for anyone "better" than me, after all. Or is it just about body size and looks? Phew, this meeting business is hard work..." You are what you are don't worry what anybody else thinks . And you want who you want . find someone and enjoy | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
If there is a good to bad ratio as you stated then the more messages you get in total would suggest the likelihood of the amount of good increasing too
Maybe the ratio of bad messages to good is 10001 to 1 in which case getting only 10000 messages isn't going to do you much good
So short of moving you have two options one is to increase your attractiveness
The other is to alter your expectations
I'm not suggesting you need to do either xx
You're assuming with that though that someone being more attractive will attract more 'good' prospects. It won't work if those prospects aren't there to attract.
Speaking personally, I've already said if I can't get what I want, I prefer to go without. That works fine. Sex is a nice-to-have, definitely not a need.
In fact, the longer I go without, the less I want it.
Your implying that no one on fab meets your requirements, it's a website that contains many thousands of individuals some of which are intelligent articulate and attractive. Many of them post on these forums.
If you prefer to go with out that's your choice, but you may be missing out on some fantastic times, often some ones worth might not be initially apparent, changing your specifications for a potential mate might yield surprising results.
No, not at all. The first part wasn't even about me.
There may well be thousands of people on fab but they aren't all distributed evenly. Some people have very few others in their area.
And even if there are other members within a reasonable distance, if nobody floats your boat, there's nothing you can do about that. Some may decide to meet the best they can get, even if it's not what they wanted, but many - me included - wouldn't.
I'm not missing out by not meeting someone I'm not attracted to.
I'm not looking for a partner here after all.
As I said the choice is yours I've never been to Norwich so I'll defer to your judgement of the area x
I live in Manchester an there's loads of sexy people here, oh yes and me
I've already said I wasn't meaning me specifically with that bit. I was actually thinking of a couple of friends in Scotland. We're not all blessed with a vibrant local fab scene and there's not necessarily anything, (except, as I said before, moving), we can do about it. And just to be absolutely clear, 'we' does not mean 'me'!
I would choose not to meet over meeting someone I'm not attracted to IF that was the choice. As it is, someone nice usually comes along if I wait a bit.
Yeah you probably did but it wasn't very clear
So what you are saying is that you are happy to wait till some one descent happens along, cos you have that many replies there is bound to be some good ones"No but if you haven't got the point by now, you aren't going to. Carry on | |||
" More choices does not necessarily equate to having good choices! The good messages are few and far between very often. Everyone has to make an effort to get good meets, whether male or female. Statistically it does, tho you do have the power to change those odds yourself
Tho I'm sure there is a lot of cruft out there
10 000 men who have 50 photos of their half flaccid cock from slightly different angles and send "fancy a fuck?" messages is no more use than 1 000 of them!
If, for some reason, the nature of this site tended to attract that sort of man to join, sheer numbers won't change the 'good' to 'bad' ratio much. (Good and bad being in the eye of the beholder, just to make it that bit more complicated).
I also suggest that short of moving, there's not much anyone can do to alter the quantity or 'quality' of available people in their area.
If there is a good to bad ratio as you stated then the more messages you get in total would suggest the likelihood of the amount of good increasing too
Maybe the ratio of bad messages to good is 10001 to 1 in which case getting only 10000 messages isn't going to do you much good
So short of moving you have two options one is to increase your attractiveness
The other is to alter your expectations
I'm not suggesting you need to do either xx
You're assuming with that though that someone being more attractive will attract more 'good' prospects. It won't work if those prospects aren't there to attract.
Speaking personally, I've already said if I can't get what I want, I prefer to go without. That works fine. Sex is a nice-to-have, definitely not a need.
In fact, the longer I go without, the less I want it.
Your implying that no one on fab meets your requirements, it's a website that contains many thousands of individuals some of which are intelligent articulate and attractive. Many of them post on these forums.
If you prefer to go with out that's your choice, but you may be missing out on some fantastic times, often some ones worth might not be initially apparent, changing your specifications for a potential mate might yield surprising results.
No, not at all. The first part wasn't even about me.
There may well be thousands of people on fab but they aren't all distributed evenly. Some people have very few others in their area.
And even if there are other members within a reasonable distance, if nobody floats your boat, there's nothing you can do about that. Some may decide to meet the best they can get, even if it's not what they wanted, but many - me included - wouldn't.
I'm not missing out by not meeting someone I'm not attracted to.
I'm not looking for a partner here after all.
As I said the choice is yours I've never been to Norwich so I'll defer to your judgement of the area x
I live in Manchester an there's loads of sexy people here, oh yes and me
I've already said I wasn't meaning me specifically with that bit. I was actually thinking of a couple of friends in Scotland. We're not all blessed with a vibrant local fab scene and there's not necessarily anything, (except, as I said before, moving), we can do about it. And just to be absolutely clear, 'we' does not mean 'me'!
I would choose not to meet over meeting someone I'm not attracted to IF that was the choice. As it is, someone nice usually comes along if I wait a bit.
Yeah you probably did but it wasn't very clear
So what you are saying is that you are happy to wait till some one descent happens along, cos you have that many replies there is bound to be some good ones
No but if you haven't got the point by now, you aren't going to. Carry on "What that you only wanna shag people you fancy and that there are loads of people on fab you don't fancy an they all message you | |||
"It' a trap! *Gets popcorn ready*" | |||
