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is there any hope for smokers on here
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"seems like smokers are not liked on here "
hope to give up smoking or meeting somebody?
Only joking...of course there is hope. We dont smoke but meet considerate smokers all the while.  |
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I smoke like a trooper, it says im a smoker and ive never been short of messages. Have had messages from none smokers who state on there profile they dont meet smokers so i decline them. Everyone has the option of who they meet and if they dont want to meet a smoker fair enough but im not going to stop smoking just to get a meet. IF i was to go to someone elses house who was a none smoker i wouldnt dream of smoking but come to mine and you have to put up with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a smoker - no idea on whether I'm liked on here. Haven't been around long enough to find out but I'm sure someone will let me know if I'm not lol!
You are what you are. Yes it is something you can change. I want to give the up but not because of the chance of getting a meet. If that was the only motivation it would be so easy to fall back again when the success doesn't come.
I'm married, fat, average looking AND I smoke. It's not like it's the only thing holding me back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I smoke like a trooper, it says im a smoker and ive never been short of messages. Have had messages from none smokers who state on there profile they dont meet smokers so i decline them. Everyone has the option of who they meet and if they dont want to meet a smoker fair enough but im not going to stop smoking just to get a meet. IF i was to go to someone elses house who was a none smoker i wouldnt dream of smoking but come to mine and you have to put up with it"
Have to agree with diamond on this.
Yes i smoke and yes im considerate of
Non smokers..
But........
If you wanna meet me then tuff titties...
Im always up front that im a smoker and it hasnt deterred anyone contacting me.
And strangly enough..
The smoking deck at chams is the busiest area in the whole place.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of us smokes and we have been lucky enough for it to have never been a problem as far as we know!
We have also met couples/sttended parties that stated no smokers and found that indeed people did!...
so in our opinion (not that it means much) we would not worry.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Amazes me how many profiles say "wont meet smokers" and "dont smoke", when this is pointed out they actually do smoke themselves.
Im a smoker, like it or dont bother me .... ive not hidden the fact that i am one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I smoke and i get loads of offers, thing is for a single woman people will swap their views lol the amount of times i have had messages from guys who state they will not meet smokers, so i message back and say i smoke and they almost all message back saying thats ok they will over look that to meet me lol
What i really hate is guys who state they not meet smokers, they say its ok when i point out i do but then sit moaning at me for having a fag on a meet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"seems like smokers are not liked on here
we get quite surprised by the numbers of the "Won't meet smokers" brigade who wink us or send unsolicited friends invites
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Exactly, they must think we`re desperate n will meet anyone....... pretentious plonkers!!!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smoke after sex, but it's not the same lol
i can vouch for the fact she has a 60 a day habit LMAO "
Good to see, it's not just me, thinking the same as others then!
I had to start, to stop my growth, I were costing my folks, a fortune in school uniform! |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Wonder if a none smoker is accepted to comment here? I hope so.
I have never smoked and never will. I prefer to meet none smokers. I occasionally meet smokers but normally there has to be one hell of chemistry that I cannot resist for me to meet them.
I dont like it if a person says they dont smoke and then lights up at a meet. I hate that. I would rather they say before they smoke then I can choose before to meet them or not.
In the same way people can choose to meet me or not due to being one of those none smokers.
I avoid the smoking area at clubs.
I had a party and will never forget friends were smoking in my garden which was fine but then one of the guys came in and planted a massive smacker on my lips after coming in from the garden. I nearly chucked and felt awful and disgusted.
I do find it unattractive but that is just me as to me it is a turn off to have smelly breath and your clothes and hair smell of it too when stood around those who smoke. So I keep away from smoking areas.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a non smoker and it states on my profile that I am I find it very annoying when i get messages from smokers. They just get deleted. I just dont like the smell or the taste. I am never rude about it and dont push my views on others. I have noticed that some smokers can get quite rude an aggressive in their opinions though. Each to their own i say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If anyone turned up here having said they were a nonsmoker, and it was obvious they were (lets face it, smokers stink even if it's days since they had one), they'd be thrown out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wonder if a none smoker is accepted to comment here? I hope so.
I have never smoked and never will. I prefer to meet none smokers. I occasionally meet smokers but normally there has to be one hell of chemistry that I cannot resist for me to meet them.
I dont like it if a person says they dont smoke and then lights up at a meet. I hate that. I would rather they say before they smoke then I can choose before to meet them or not.
In the same way people can choose to meet me or not due to being one of those none smokers.
I avoid the smoking area at clubs.
I had a party and will never forget friends were smoking in my garden which was fine but then one of the guys came in and planted a massive smacker on my lips after coming in from the garden. I nearly chucked and felt awful and disgusted.
I do find it unattractive but that is just me as to me it is a turn off to have smelly breath and your clothes and hair smell of it too when stood around those who smoke. So I keep away from smoking areas.
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We both smoke and make it perfectly clear on our profile that we smoke, don’t like it pass us by, its simple enough. We have smoking and non-smoking playmates but prefer fellow smokers, or at least people who are REALLY not twitchy about it.
It seems to us that smoking has some commonality with safe-sex when it comes to profiles. Many people it seems put non-smoking and or safe-sex on their profile because ‘its expected and accepted’, however we often find that in practice neither are true.
Life would be so much simpler if folks were honest, they might also get more of what they want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Smokers stink' hey?...
Well, there are plenty out there, who don't smoke, who could do with finding out, what a bar of soap & a shower looks like!"
Well yes of course, but this thread is about smokers. |
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"Smoke/Don't smoke Bareback/Safe sex, Bi/Straight, Age, etc.. doesn't it all boil down to the same thing..
Personal preferences?"
Bloody phone.. meant to add..
Taking time to read a profile fully first can save lots of time in the long run if you are looking for different things |
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"seems like smokers are not liked on here "
there was a profile on here not long ago and it stated only meet smokers.i mailed the couple and told them there profile was brilliant and they replied by telling me that they got nothing but abuse because they wouldnt meet non smokers.they also told me that the amount of offers they got from people that do smoke but dont put it on there profile was incredible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smoke like a chimney and I'm liked i think lol xx
There are loads of smokers on here xx 
we both smoke and we like you bubbles.xx"
See ya both at the beach party xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I smoke like a chimney and I'm liked i think lol xx
There are loads of smokers on here xx
we both smoke and we like you bubbles.xx
See ya both at the beach party xx "
you definetly will bubbles.xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wonder if a none smoker is accepted to comment here? I hope so.
I have never smoked and never will. I prefer to meet none smokers. I occasionally meet smokers but normally there has to be one hell of chemistry that I cannot resist for me to meet them.
I dont like it if a person says they dont smoke and then lights up at a meet. I hate that. I would rather they say before they smoke then I can choose before to meet them or not.
In the same way people can choose to meet me or not due to being one of those none smokers.
I avoid the smoking area at clubs.
I had a party and will never forget friends were smoking in my garden which was fine but then one of the guys came in and planted a massive smacker on my lips after coming in from the garden. I nearly chucked and felt awful and disgusted.
I do find it unattractive but that is just me as to me it is a turn off to have smelly breath and your clothes and hair smell of it too when stood around those who smoke. So I keep away from smoking areas.
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We welcome your input, but your profile says you "won't meet smokers" why then are you willing to meet them, we certainly won't meet non-smokers who state on thier profile they won't meet smokers, we don't need favours, we don't want to be an "exception" accept us for what we are or stay away, we never contact anyone who "won't meet smokers" we respect them, and we never meet them if they contact us. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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"Wonder if a none smoker is accepted to comment here? I hope so.
I have never smoked and never will. I prefer to meet none smokers. I occasionally meet smokers but normally there has to be one hell of chemistry that I cannot resist for me to meet them.
I dont like it if a person says they dont smoke and then lights up at a meet. I hate that. I would rather they say before they smoke then I can choose before to meet them or not.
In the same way people can choose to meet me or not due to being one of those none smokers.
I avoid the smoking area at clubs.
I had a party and will never forget friends were smoking in my garden which was fine but then one of the guys came in and planted a massive smacker on my lips after coming in from the garden. I nearly chucked and felt awful and disgusted.
I do find it unattractive but that is just me as to me it is a turn off to have smelly breath and your clothes and hair smell of it too when stood around those who smoke. So I keep away from smoking areas.
We welcome your input, but your profile says you "won't meet smokers" why then are you willing to meet them, we certainly won't meet non-smokers who state on thier profile they won't meet smokers, we don't need favours, we don't want to be an "exception" accept us for what we are or stay away, we never contact anyone who "won't meet smokers" we respect them, and we never meet them if they contact us."
As far as I am aware there isnt a section to tick considerate smokers. Ie the ones who do smoke but will ensure they are smelling smoke free when meeting me and that wont smoke for the duration of our meet and will only smoke when they leave.
I have met a few smokers who have been very considerate and understood that I do not like smoking near me.
Then I have met a few people who have said they are non smokers then light up in the car while driving with me in the car.
People who will not smoke for the duration of the meet I would meet. If it was a choice of a person as a considerate smoker or a none smoker then naturally I would rather them be a none smoker.
Having 2 boxes,,,will meet smokers,,,,will not meet smokers does leave out the middle ones. I prefer none smokers all the way. But sometimes the chemistry is so strong and they are thoughtful of my distaste of it that I would condier meeting them.
Does that explain x |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Just re read that again.
You dont want to be the exception, well that is fair enough. Other people who smoke are happy that if they really want to meet me and I them that it will only happen if they understand my right to have clean air to breathe in for me.
I dont meet smelly people.
Alot of smokers smell bad.
Yes I know alot of none smokers do too. But smokers smell of smoke, their clothes and hair.... and of course breath. Yes I know mints are great.
I remember going to club years ago and coming hom stinking of smoke, my hair clothes and even my undies all reeked.
A considerate person would come home and have a shower to remove the smell so not to offend. A none considerate person would think tough.
Life isnt always black or white.
Its not just bi or straight, there is also bi curious which is sort of half way.
So why not considerate smoker. Yes some will say they are a considerate smoker but will often not be.
I only meet the ones that understand my boundaries and dislikes as I will do for them. Sorry but if a person cant hold off for 5 hours for a fag while on a meet with me then I dont want to meet them.
I always shower, shave,cream up, make sure I look good and smell good.... before a meet. For smokers that list is the same but also making sure they can hold off from having a fag for the duration of a meet.
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"Just re read that again.
You dont want to be the exception, well that is fair enough. Other people who smoke are happy that if they really want to meet me and I them that it will only happen if they understand my right to have clean air to breathe in for me.
I dont meet smelly people.
Alot of smokers smell bad.
Yes I know alot of none smokers do too. But smokers smell of smoke, their clothes and hair.... and of course breath. Yes I know mints are great.
I remember going to club years ago and coming hom stinking of smoke, my hair clothes and even my undies all reeked.
A considerate person would come home and have a shower to remove the smell so not to offend. A none considerate person would think tough.
Life isnt always black or white.
Its not just bi or straight, there is also bi curious which is sort of half way.
So why not considerate smoker. Yes some will say they are a considerate smoker but will often not be.
I only meet the ones that understand my boundaries and dislikes as I will do for them. Sorry but if a person cant hold off for 5 hours for a fag while on a meet with me then I dont want to meet them.
I always shower, shave,cream up, make sure I look good and smell good.... before a meet. For smokers that list is the same but also making sure they can hold off from having a fag for the duration of a meet.
I completely agree with you and for that very reason i decline people who say they will make an exception for me. I smoke 50+ a day so im hardly likely to be able to go without a cigerette for 5 hours. In my opinion all people need to do is put it in their profile one way or another they either will or wont meet smokers but shouldnt try and change someone else either way
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"im not a smoker but i wont
judge other's for smoking xx"
I'm not a smoker and won't criticise smokers.....but I don't meet them, because like everyone else I am entitled to exercise my preferences.
At the end of the day it all boils down to preferences.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We wouldn`t consider meeting a couple that stated "won`t meet smokers" on their profile. They are declaring their preferences and must be respected. Although we do get "winks" and "messages" from couples who clearly display the same, our reply is to remind them of their choice and to stand by it.
We will meet non- smokers (but must be exceptional).
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hmm! very interesting all this. Smokers stink! what a generalisation. I'm the first to admit, as a smoker that it's not a nice habit and yes we all have preferences, but frankly I'd rather meet a smoker than someone so far up themselves they are in narnia, just personal preference of course lol.
Totally understandable about smoke smelling hair, breath and clothes, but here's an example of how it doesn't have to be like that. We met a couple fairly recently, they were none smokers. We didn't smoke before travelling to meet them and we never smoke in our house. We didn't smoke during our time with them, they didn't ask us not too but we chose not to out of consideration. We mentioned it as they were leaving and both of them said they would never have guessed unless we told them .... so the idea that smokers stink for days and can't disguise it is utter rot |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Serens, the smokers I have met in the past when been near smoking have smelt bad. Their hair and everything smelling after been smoking. I am not stating that all smokers smell bad as the considerate ones will be wary of how they smell and how their house/car smells because as we all know smoking gives off a very clear smell and clings. But the average smoker who doe smoke inside their house and inside their car.... will smell of smoke.
Naturally it is their house and their car so if they choose that then that is their choice. They and you have been thoughtful in ensuring that all smells good. They are considerate.
Naturally if a person doesnt smoke in the house then their clothes and everything probably wont smell.
All of what you have said describes you as a considerate smoker.
My childrens dads partner used to smoke but not in the house or near them. But every weekend they came back from their placeall the kids clothes smelt of smoke. Even ones that have been in the bag. I had to wash everything wether clean or dirty on their return.
If all the people I am attracted to were just none smokers that would be great. But on occasions there has been a strong attraction to a smoker so have on occasions met them and had great fun.
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"Serens, the smokers I have met in the past when been near smoking have smelt bad. Their hair and everything smelling after been smoking. I am not stating that all smokers smell bad as the considerate ones will be wary of how they smell and how their house/car smells because as we all know smoking gives off a very clear smell and clings. But the average smoker who doe smoke inside their house and inside their car.... will smell of smoke.
Naturally it is their house and their car so if they choose that then that is their choice. They and you have been thoughtful in ensuring that all smells good. They are considerate.
Naturally if a person doesnt smoke in the house then their clothes and everything probably wont smell.
All of what you have said describes you as a considerate smoker.
My childrens dads partner used to smoke but not in the house or near them. But every weekend they came back from their placeall the kids clothes smelt of smoke. Even ones that have been in the bag. I had to wash everything wether clean or dirty on their return.
If all the people I am attracted to were just none smokers that would be great. But on occasions there has been a strong attraction to a smoker so have on occasions met them and had great fun.
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Fruit I believe we know each other from another site, so don't think my comments were aimed at you, they weren't. We haven't always smoked and I remember I used to think the same way as you, my point was just that we shouldn't all be tarred with the same brush ... By the way we're big fans of the smoking ban in public places so not total outcasts lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I smoke and my "friend" does not .
Out of consideration i dont smoke round him and make sure that if i nick a crafty half in the kitchen i use mouth spray and or clean my teeth.
The one i enjoy the most is the one when he goes home.
I do this only because i have known him for 3yrs +
If i were to meet anyone else then im a smoker as my profile states and would prefer to meet other smokers,
Saves a lot of hassle all round really. |
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"I smoke and my "friend" does not .
Out of consideration i dont smoke round him and make sure that if i nick a crafty half in the kitchen i use mouth spray and or clean my teeth.
The one i enjoy the most is the one when he goes home.
I do this only because i have known him for 3yrs +
If i were to meet anyone else then im a smoker as my profile states and would prefer to meet other smokers,
Saves a lot of hassle all round really. "
Bugger that for a game of soldiers. I have a friend that ive been seeing for over two years and he gives me that look when i light up and i just say tough shit its always said im a smoker on my profile. He then came out with ive changed my profile to will only meet non smokers i said thats ok ive changed mine to will only meet black guys that shut him up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lmao
He has never said he didnt want me to light up. he never mentions it.
It was entirely my choice to do it the way i do.
It works for us and so its ok.
Anyways.........
Im normally to busy having fun to want a fag |
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"Lmao
He has never said he didnt want me to light up. he never mentions it.
It was entirely my choice to do it the way i do.
It works for us and so its ok.
Anyways.........
Im normally to busy having fun to want a fag "
Well i dont, but have to have my fag breaks. In fact ive just thought i reckon ive got a fag in my gob 95% of my time normally. Must make an effort to cut down lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its a great way of cutting down actually.
Smoke like a trooper before he gets here and then go clean teeth and gargle etc and a stiff g and t finshes the process. |
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"Im sure my smoking is physcolgic i actually believe i cant survive with out them yet i can sit in a cinema and not think about itwhat kinda cinema?"
well i have it on good authority that you can still smoke in some of the sleazy ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'Smokers stink' hey?...
Well, there are plenty out there, who don't smoke, who could do with finding out, what a bar of soap & a shower looks like!"
That's true and judging by the responses on the "reasons to leave a meet" thread, encountering people who are unfamiliar with soap and water is high on the list of those reasons. |
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"I'm a smoker and I state that on my profile, and I'm more comfortable meeting people that do smoke xx
I smoke i smoke xx
Stunts ya growth."
Too true lol to true xx |
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"I'm a smoker and I state that on my profile, and I'm more comfortable meeting people that do smoke xx
I smoke i smoke xx
Stunts ya growth.
Too true lol to true xx "
Total nonsense I smoke and I tower over him |
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"I'm a smoker and I state that on my profile, and I'm more comfortable meeting people that do smoke xx
I smoke i smoke xx
Stunts ya growth.
Too true lol to true xx
Total nonsense I smoke and I tower over him "
Everybody towers over me lol but not everyone smoked from the age of nine like me lol
My brother is six foot 1 and my sister is five five
And im the oldest and shortest at five three xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"im not a smoker but i wont
judge other's for smoking xx
I'm not a smoker and won't criticise smokers.....but I don't meet them, because like everyone else I am entitled to exercise my preferences.
At the end of the day it all boils down to preferences...."
yea jane hun u do have the right
to exercise ur preferences xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we both smoke, but we understand why some wont meet us because of it, just the same as some people wont meet us for any number of reasons, and the same as why we wont meet some for any number of reasons.
Its all about choice, but so far beeing smokers, we still get meets, and often with non smokers.
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Serens yes we do know each other from the other site.
I know your not having a pop at me as we are both giving out opinions and no naughty words are being used x
I have a feeling although my profile says none smokers I have a feeling in the witten pat of my profile it states that I will meet consideate smoker. So long since I read my pofile tho.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have just given up after 28 years and going through absoloute hell,but determined to beat the cold turkey "
Good on you, stick it out, I sincerly wish you well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have just given up after 28 years and going through absoloute hell,but determined to beat the cold turkey
Good on you, stick it out, I sincerly wish you well. "
Well a big thanks to you Easyshare,its nice to be nice,if you cant do someone a good turn then dont do them a bad one. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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to relentless and others giving up my mum decided after the end of every day she would buy herself something she wanted as a well done. She did that evey day she didnt smoke for 2 weeks. Then she began every other day to get herself something. Then it got to every week and then every month.
She spent time deciding what her present was going to be and with willpower she has been smoke free for years now. Probably 20 I guess. Good luck to those brave enough to stop x |
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I stopped after 13 yrs it was hard but I did it for my kids. I have to say I have had one or two since on a night out with hubby and on holiday but I can happely say I never wanted one the next day or even later that night. the adiction seams to have gone which is good.
we have had people message us saying will not meet smokers but our profile says dh is a smoker.
and to the last post my aunt gave up smokinga after 40yrs and her health went down hill after. it seams that the nicerteen was keeping everything together she got severe broncituse after stopping smoking . |
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"I stopped after 13 yrs it was hard but I did it for my kids. I have to say I have had one or two since on a night out with hubby and on holiday but I can happely say I never wanted one the next day or even later that night. the adiction seams to have gone which is good.
we have had people message us saying will not meet smokers but our profile says dh is a smoker.
and to the last post my aunt gave up smokinga after 40yrs and her health went down hill after. it seams that the nicerteen was keeping everything together she got severe broncituse after stopping smoking ."
Many thanks El-Nino and Fruit x |
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