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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When you find yourself desperately attracted to someone who doesn't feel the same way, or is oblivious to your feelings, how do you cope?
For those with previous experience, what methods did you find helped you overcome those painful emotions? |
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"When you find yourself desperately attracted to someone who doesn't feel the same way, or is oblivious to your feelings, how do you cope?
For those with previous experience, what methods did you find helped you overcome those painful emotions? "
Move on. Time does heal. |
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"When you find yourself desperately attracted to someone who doesn't feel the same way, or is oblivious to your feelings, how do you cope?
For those with previous experience, what methods did you find helped you overcome those painful emotions? "
I've got a swinging brick for a heart so it doesn't happen to me but I hear the best way to deal with a broken heart is gin and plenty of it, oh and loose women, NOT the ones on telly.
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"When you find yourself desperately attracted to someone who doesn't feel the same way, or is oblivious to your feelings, how do you cope?
For those with previous experience, what methods did you find helped you overcome those painful emotions? "
Give yourself a slap and say "Move on you pussy". Works for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Two different situations in your question.
If she doesn't feel the same way you need to move on. Surround yourself with positivity. Take care if you, hit the gym, meet great people, read fabulous books, travel and take your mind off her.
However, if she is oblivious to your feelings, then you need to grow a pair and tell her. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think you have to tell them about it, or at least talk to them.
I'm in that infatuation stage with someone, it kind of feels like love, do you think it might be this or have you felt that way a long time now? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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However, if she is oblivious to your feelings, then you need to grow a pair and tell her. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Good luck!"
"I think you have to tell them about it, or at least talk to them.
I'm in that infatuation stage with someone, it kind of feels like love, do you think it might be this or have you felt that way a long time now?"
Thankyou for the advice ladies, but unfortunately this woman is someone who I work with on an almost daily basis, and I can only see telling her how I feel making matters worse, she'll likely feel very awkward and uncomfortable with it, and obviously I can't just stop seeing her because it's a big part of my job to work with her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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this woman is someone who I work with on an almost daily basis, and I can only see telling her how I feel making matters worse, she'll likely feel very awkward and uncomfortable with it, and obviously I can't just stop seeing her because it's a big part of my job to work with her."
You need to woo her discretely. Make her fall in love with you.
Maybe she has already and is afraid to tell you because of work...
If all this fails then just send her a cock pic 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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this woman is someone who I work with on an almost daily basis, and I can only see telling her how I feel making matters worse, she'll likely feel very awkward and uncomfortable with it, and obviously I can't just stop seeing her because it's a big part of my job to work with her.
You need to woo her discretely. Make her fall in love with you.
Maybe she has already and is afraid to tell you because of work...
If all this fails then just send her a cock pic
Just kidding!"
She's engaged to someone else, and also fuelling my fantasies of being with her would be venturing into dangerous territory. I need this job and can't jeopardise it. |
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She's engaged to someone else, and also fuelling my fantasies of being with her would be venturing into dangerous territory. I need this job and can't jeopardise it."
Ah OK.
Then pls refer back to my first response. You need to move on. It will be more difficult as you work with her so you really need to focus your attention on other things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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She's engaged to someone else, and also fuelling my fantasies of being with her would be venturing into dangerous territory. I need this job and can't jeopardise it."
If you're 100% sure she is happy in that relationship and definitely not interested in you at all, and you can't find (or don't wan to) find another job then you're gonna have to put your sensible head on and accept that you can't have her.
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By (user no longer on site)
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However, if she is oblivious to your feelings, then you need to grow a pair and tell her. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Good luck!
I think you have to tell them about it, or at least talk to them.
I'm in that infatuation stage with someone, it kind of feels like love, do you think it might be this or have you felt that way a long time now?
Thankyou for the advice ladies, but unfortunately this woman is someone who I work with on an almost daily basis, and I can only see telling her how I feel making matters worse, she'll likely feel very awkward and uncomfortable with it, and obviously I can't just stop seeing her because it's a big part of my job to work with her."
iv just gone through the same situation with a woman in work..i had a terrible massive crush on her that lasted for over a year.she is already in a happy long term relationship..
..but it still didn't stop me having feelings for her..im gladly over her now.im still fond of her but not in the same way.time heals is the only advice I can give you mate.and don't let your defences down again.keep the wall up.thats what ill be doing in the future..  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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However, if she is oblivious to your feelings, then you need to grow a pair and tell her. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Good luck!
I think you have to tell them about it, or at least talk to them.
I'm in that infatuation stage with someone, it kind of feels like love, do you think it might be this or have you felt that way a long time now?
Thankyou for the advice ladies, but unfortunately this woman is someone who I work with on an almost daily basis, and I can only see telling her how I feel making matters worse, she'll likely feel very awkward and uncomfortable with it, and obviously I can't just stop seeing her because it's a big part of my job to work with her.
iv just gone through the same situation with a woman in work..i had a terrible massive crush on her that lasted for over a year.she is already in a happy long term relationship..
..but it still didn't stop me having feelings for her..im gladly over her now.im still fond of her but not in the same way.time heals is the only advice I can give you mate.and don't let your defences down again.keep the wall up.thats what ill be doing in the future.. "
Was there anything in particular you did that helped ease you out of those feelings? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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However, if she is oblivious to your feelings, then you need to grow a pair and tell her. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Good luck!
I think you have to tell them about it, or at least talk to them.
I'm in that infatuation stage with someone, it kind of feels like love, do you think it might be this or have you felt that way a long time now?
Thankyou for the advice ladies, but unfortunately this woman is someone who I work with on an almost daily basis, and I can only see telling her how I feel making matters worse, she'll likely feel very awkward and uncomfortable with it, and obviously I can't just stop seeing her because it's a big part of my job to work with her.
iv just gone through the same situation with a woman in work..i had a terrible massive crush on her that lasted for over a year.she is already in a happy long term relationship..
..but it still didn't stop me having feelings for her..im gladly over her now.im still fond of her but not in the same way.time heals is the only advice I can give you mate.and don't let your defences down again.keep the wall up.thats what ill be doing in the future..
Was there anything in particular you did that helped ease you out of those
feelings?"
sadly no mate..you just have to accept the situation and get on with it..especialy if she is in a relationship with another guy..you will get over it and even look back and laugh..but it takes time |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Time and shifting your focus.
Take some annual leave and spend time away from her. Volunteer for a project that will take you away from working with her all the time.
Look at yourself and check whether it is love you feel or a deficit that a fantasy is helping to fill.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Look at yourself and check whether it is love you feel or a deficit that a fantasy is helping to fill."
I think its a bit of both, she has so many of the qualities that I've always valued in women long before I met her, and being in contact with her for the past few months I've felt my feelings start to snowball. I have been feeling rather 'empty' for much of this year too, and think this combination of emotions has come along at a bad time and I'm having trouble dealing with it. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Look at yourself and check whether it is love you feel or a deficit that a fantasy is helping to fill.
I think its a bit of both, she has so many of the qualities that I've always valued in women long before I met her, and being in contact with her for the past few months I've felt my feelings start to snowball. I have been feeling rather 'empty' for much of this year too, and think this combination of emotions has come along at a bad time and I'm having trouble dealing with it."
I'm a little confused.
You work with her and she's engaged. Maybe it's just me but how can you fall in love with someone without knowing them on a more personal level? Surely if your only contact is via work, there's no outside interaction and there's never been any discussion between you of feelings - then it's a simple case of infatuation rather than love?
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