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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi, just want to ask, does everyone have drinks before a meet? We are now into quite a few meets now and as of yet I still haven't managed to do it sober! I'm not sure why? I love sex with my partner sober so why not a meet? Any advise greatly welcome! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's strange I
Don't drink before meets
Incase I show myself up lol
never thought I'd do some of the things I have sober
But I have and enjoyed them immensely x  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah I get that! And most probably have shown myself up!!! But I get so nervous that I feel I have to drink or I'll be to shy!! Maybe next time I'll have to do a sober one!! Xx |
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No I don't, I drink at socials ( not so often now) but the only time I've drank on a one to one is if the guy has brought a drink and we share. If you can't do it sober you shouldn't be doing it at all is my opinion
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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago
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If a meet turned up d*unk I would leave and go home, alone!
In my opinion, alcohol and swinging are not a good combination. When I've been to clubs I've had a couple of glasses of wine but no more. I probably drink less when swinging than I do at any other time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A quick one but any more's a big no no, for the men, for obvious reasons, brewers droop and all that. But for the women - hmmm, i once met with a woman who polished off the equivalent of 3 double vodkas during the course of the meet.... shall we say it was less than successful when emotion took over!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like 'pissed' people to be honest....if I thought someone was pissed at a meet I'd call off I think.
An old f.b of mine liked a glass of wine or two prior to meets, but she never got pissed.
I think there's a line there and everybody's is different I guess but if I felt someone had to be pissed to meet with me, or if myself or a f.b had to be pissed to meet with someone i'd be thinking 'why?'
That's my thoughts on it anyhow..... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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What is making you so nervous that you need to drink in the middle of the day before a meet?
It would worry me that I would enter into anything with so much risk potential without my faculties intact.
I don't drink before a meet, rarely during a meet and never after one. I do drink at socials, in a social situation.
I hope you find your solution and maybe try working on your nerves more generally without alcohol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if i go to a social and not playing i will drink and let me hair down..
if im meeting someone no i wont drink before unless over the course of the night we share wine or soemthing
i couldnt play with anyone who had a drink or was a tad merry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll have a glass of wine if it's an evening meet - but nothing during the day!
I'd never have a meet d*unk as I think sex is better when you're sober anyway (or tipsy at most) - and I don't think it's particularly safe to have meets d*unk - you need to make sure you/your partner are using protection etc etc.
I must admit if anyone turned up d*unk for a meet with me i'd turn him away.xx |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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I don't care much for people who have had one too many. They can be unpredictable, going from very horny to aggressive at the switch of a button.
I'd rather meet people who are sober. I don't mind them having a drink after I've left, as they probably need it when they are pulling the drawbridge up and perusing options to emigrate.
The only stiff ones I want, personally, are attached to the people I meet.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never drink before a meet. I've spent the night at a hotel and had a drink during a meet but not too many. As another poster mentioned, if a met turned up having had too many I'd walk away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont mind if the wife wanted a drink but id be pissing like a fountain so i wont drink, maybe a pint but not much more,also i wouldn't be to impressed if some one turned up half d*unk |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds to me like you don't actually want to be doing it, never do anything d*unk you wouldn't do sober, that's my rule and it serves me well, doesn't stop me doing stupid stuff just I normally do them sober lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok if it's just a few
But going to meet a cpl were 1 if not both of them are pissed is not a good look 
We chatted to and arranged a meet a few yrs ago both booked a room in the same hotel really looking forward to it
Arranged to meet up in a pub nearby and when we got there the fem of the cpl was pissed d*unk!
Got up and shouted across the pub we are here and better looking than you thought eh!!!!
Sat down she spilled her and our drink all over the table
We sat for half an hr then said sorry it isn't gonna happen and left
The next day we hot a message saying how WE had wasted THEIR time and money as they booked a room for nothing??
When we pointed out sorry you feel that way but having sex with a pissed up woman who cld hardly string 2 words together wasn't our idea of a fun night they messaged back saying she wasn't THAT d*unk 
Erm ok ... Blocked!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will admit to having a few drinks at a meet... but I never ever let myself get hammered. (living in Spain for 8 months turned me into a bit of a drinker, in fairness). I like the socialness of having a drink, getting to know someone. I think there's a two drink limit, and now I know not to go beyond that, otherwise I look a bit like a piss head... last meet I had I was on a vodka and lemonade, he had a brew! It was unheard of for me, I'm used to men drinking to cope with me!
In all seriousness though, I think one or two is okay, but turning up sloshed, smelling like a lush or you've been in a brewery all day isn't the one.  |
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"Hi, just want to ask, does everyone have drinks before a meet? We are now into quite a few meets now and as of yet I still haven't managed to do it sober! I'm not sure why? I love sex with my partner sober so why not a meet? Any advise greatly welcome!"
My advice? Stop now. You like sex with your partner but not a meet and need to drink vodka at lunch time to go through with it. That isn't right and you are making yourself very vulnerable emotionally. I'm surprised your partner hasn't stepped in to stop things before now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will admit to having a few drinks at a meet... but I never ever let myself get hammered. (living in Spain for 8 months turned me into a bit of a drinker, in fairness). I like the socialness of having a drink, getting to know someone. I think there's a two drink limit, and now I know not to go beyond that, otherwise I look a bit like a piss head... last meet I had I was on a vodka and lemonade, he had a brew! It was unheard of for me, I'm used to men drinking to cope with me!
In all seriousness though, I think one or two is okay, but turning up sloshed, smelling like a lush or you've been in a brewery all day isn't the one. "
And what's wrong with a cup of tea? Can't beat a sweet black tea to steady ones self.....beats booze hands down every time!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, just want to ask, does everyone have drinks before a meet? We are now into quite a few meets now and as of yet I still haven't managed to do it sober! I'm not sure why? I love sex with my partner sober so why not a meet? Any advise greatly welcome!
My advice? Stop now. You like sex with your partner but not a meet and need to drink vodka at lunch time to go through with it. That isn't right and you are making yourself very vulnerable emotionally. I'm surprised your partner hasn't stepped in to stop things before now. "
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By *y2funMan
over a year ago
DUDLEY |
"law can become a bit rapey when it comes to d*unk people having sex."
hmmmmmmmm
not sure where you draw the line... couple of beers should be ok, but i've never fancied shagging pissed women anyway... big turn off for me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will admit to having a few drinks at a meet... but I never ever let myself get hammered. (living in Spain for 8 months turned me into a bit of a drinker, in fairness). I like the socialness of having a drink, getting to know someone. I think there's a two drink limit, and now I know not to go beyond that, otherwise I look a bit like a piss head... last meet I had I was on a vodka and lemonade, he had a brew! It was unheard of for me, I'm used to men drinking to cope with me!
In all seriousness though, I think one or two is okay, but turning up sloshed, smelling like a lush or you've been in a brewery all day isn't the one.
And what's wrong with a cup of tea? Can't beat a sweet black tea to steady ones self.....beats booze hands down every time!
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I prefer a hot strong cup of coffee, me... |
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Stopped drinking at meets as I find combined with my medication I have no chance of getting it up even with the little blue pills. Even just 1 or 2 small drinks effects me.
Mrs happy to have a couple and had 1 meet where we got d*unk together over several hours followed by fun soft play.
But would never turn up d*unk or even had 1 until we all together. Met people who are tea total and didn't know till we got there. Only polite to wait. |
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"Mr
Stopped drinking at meets as I find combined with my medication I have no chance of getting it up even with the little blue pills. Even just 1 or 2 small drinks effects me.
Mrs happy to have a couple and had 1 meet where we got d*unk together over several hours followed by fun soft play.
But would never turn up d*unk or even had 1 until we all together. Met people who are tea total and didn't know till we got there. Only polite to wait. "
Same as that have the fun then have a drink after |
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By *y2funMan
over a year ago
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"combined with my medication I have no chance of getting it up even with the little blue pills "
need to speak to my GP about little blue pills ther'e s very little life in the old fella at the mo..... can still the old flag pole just not very often these days....
dons't make for an happy Ang. |
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"If a meet turned up d*unk I would leave and go home, alone!
In my opinion, alcohol and swinging are not a good combination. When I've been to clubs I've had a couple of glasses of wine but no more. I probably drink less when swinging than I do at any other time"
 when we go to clubs we don't drink. Our first experience in a club and ppl we're pissed n not our thing you shouldn't need Dutch courage in swinging xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We never understand those that need to get d*unk to be able to meet!!
If you need to be d*unk then perhaps swinging isn't really for you?
We wouldn't meet and play with anyone that came across as pissed, we like our play meets to be consenting and in control of their actions, so we would show you the door.
The odd glass of wine if it's an evening social is fine, but not a full on d*unk |
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"Mr
Stopped drinking at meets as I find combined with my medication I have no chance of getting it up even with the little blue pills. Even just 1 or 2 small drinks effects me.
Mrs happy to have a couple and had 1 meet where we got d*unk together over several hours followed by fun soft play.
But would never turn up d*unk or even had 1 until we all together. Met people who are tea total and didn't know till we got there. Only polite to wait. "
What medication are you on i did try and send privately but blocked |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've got d*unk at meets but then again so have the people we've played with - more of a d*unken night out with friends that has ended in group sex.
But we've had plenty of sober meets and would never drink to excess on a first meet if play was likely.
It's often about what's appropriate for the setting.
That sais having to rather tgan choosing to drink would prompt a LOT iof concerns |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well I don't no what to say!!! I'm not completely d*unk! I've had 2 vodkas, its just a couple to calm my nerves! I am always nervous and cannot believe you guys arnt? Its a nervouse situation meeting strangers for sex? I agree that completely d*unk isn't the way forward but a few is ok?/we have had meets where we have got d*unk during the evening! I honestly don't see having a few is problem? But I honestly don't no how u turn up straight?? I love swinging, I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X |
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"Well I don't no what to say!!! I'm not completely d*unk! I've had 2 vodkas, its just a couple to calm my nerves! I am always nervous and cannot believe you guys arnt? Its a nervouse situation meeting strangers for sex? I agree that completely d*unk isn't the way forward but a few is ok?/we have had meets where we have got d*unk during the evening! I honestly don't see having a few is problem? But I honestly don't no how u turn up straight?? I love swinging, I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X"
At the end of the day its what you feel happy with |
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"Well I don't no what to say!!! I'm not completely d*unk! I've had 2 vodkas, its just a couple to calm my nerves! I am always nervous and cannot believe you guys arnt? Its a nervouse situation meeting strangers for sex? I agree that completely d*unk isn't the way forward but a few is ok?/we have had meets where we have got d*unk during the evening! I honestly don't see having a few is problem? But I honestly don't no how u turn up straight?? I love swinging, I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X"
So you aren't bothered by it you just wanted our opinions?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't usually drink when having sex but occasionally in a hotel I will bring a bottle of JD. Wine destroys me after 2 glasses. On my last meet however he was running behind a few hours,so I started drinking at home with my family,who were having a little at home drink. After a couple of hours I realised I was a bit far gone than I like to be,so I ate some pizza to soak it up. I was fine after and had a very good time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X"
I'm a size 20, have zero body confidence and get nervous as hell before a meet but I don't need alcohol to feel relaxed. I'm a chatterbox and talk too much but I find that usually breaks the ice |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Well I don't no what to say!!! I'm not completely d*unk! I've had 2 vodkas, its just a couple to calm my nerves! I am always nervous and cannot believe you guys arnt? Its a nervouse situation meeting strangers for sex? I agree that completely d*unk isn't the way forward but a few is ok?/we have had meets where we have got d*unk during the evening! I honestly don't see having a few is problem? But I honestly don't no how u turn up straight?? I love swinging, I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X"
Two vodkas is your alcohol units for the day and, depending on the size, could be over the limit for driving. That doesn't mean you couldn't make rational decisions but if your two send you over the limit then I would question decision-making.
Your need to relax because of your size is about your state of mind. Get comfortable with you and enjoy every sexual and sensual sensation not clouded by the depressing affects of alcohol.
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"He would never let me go through anything I'm not happy with! I like to have a drink and that's that's!! I'm very surprised in all the responses! "
Its all good then. What did you want advice on again? |
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1 or 2 throughout the duration of the night is fine, but anyone that feels the need to get pissed before a meet shouldnt be swinging, op maybe you could have worded it better, the responses were warranted by what you wrote. |
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Anyone arriving pissed would possibly not come through the door but would need a taxi home.
Most meets are non alcoholic but I also like a drink. And some d*unken sex is great. Just don't assume you can stay over. |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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I very rarely drink anyway.
I've had the odd meet where we might have a glass or two of wine (on the rare occasion I am not driving) but that is over the course of an evening, or the odd time with people I've met a few times where we have a few stronger.
But I'd never meet a stranger when I had to drink to be able to meet them. I'd be worried about my own safety and judgement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"He would never let me go through anything I'm not happy with! I like to have a drink and that's that's!! I'm very surprised in all the responses! "
Look at this from another way.
If you have to have a drink before you do something then there's a good chance you're not comfortable with the situation.
As we don't know you it's quite a logical conclusion.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A glass of wine should be sufficient. But if you feel you need two to feel comfortable why not. Some people can hold their drink better than others. Do what's best for you |
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I couldn't possibly drink in the middle of the day but then again we only meet on Saturday evenings at the moment and then I like a couple of drinks whether we have a meet or not
If someone is invited to our home and I've had a few drinks and they not happy then they are welcome to leave
My opinion
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I don't no what to say!!! I'm not completely d*unk! I've had 2 vodkas, its just a couple to calm my nerves! I am always nervous and cannot believe you guys arnt? Its a nervouse situation meeting strangers for sex? I agree that completely d*unk isn't the way forward but a few is ok?/we have had meets where we have got d*unk during the evening! I honestly don't see having a few is problem? But I honestly don't no how u turn up straight?? I love swinging, I suppose because I'm a size 18 I feel funny with body and need to feel relaxed! Its a funny\strange lifestly!!! X"
To be fair the title of the thread is called "getting pissed" then in your OP you say that you've yet to meet sober!
So that would suggest a few more than just a few.
We just turn our nerves into excitable nerves! The anticipation is part of the build up |
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"If a meet turned up d*unk I would leave and go home, alone!
In my opinion, alcohol and swinging are not a good combination. When I've been to clubs I've had a couple of glasses of wine but no more. I probably drink less when swinging than I do at any other time"
snap ! i need all my faculties when im swinging, need to know that I am still in control of my behaviour |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never drink before and rarely during a meet. I like to know what I am doing A. So I don't do anything stupid and B. so I can remember it.
I also don't play with d*unk people....if you have to be d*unk to swing then maybe you shouldn't be swinging.
Just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very shy so rather than get myself worked up about social day time meets I always meet at a club in a big social environment and I can have a couple of wines or whatever . Drinking in the day is a bad idea I would be asleep by afternoon lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi, just want to ask, does everyone have drinks before a meet? We are now into quite a few meets now and as of yet I still haven't managed to do it sober! I'm not sure why? I love sex with my partner sober so why not a meet? Any advise greatly welcome!"
We might have the odd drink but don't get pissed or would play with people who were pissed on a meet. There are so many variables and issues it can bring up its just an avoid situation for us. |
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"If a meet turned up d*unk I would leave and go home, alone!
In my opinion, alcohol and swinging are not a good combination. When I've been to clubs I've had a couple of glasses of wine but no more. I probably drink less when swinging than I do at any other time"
Yep. I don't drink and if someone turned up with more than just a beer in his belly, the meet is off.
If you really need to be d*unk to swing then you have a problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hardly ever drink so never pissed full stop - will have a drink or two with friends before playing but as a social thing not as in a need to drink to relax way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't need a drink to meet for a social or for fun. Yes I might have a couple of wines but certainly never get d*unk.
I've had friends round on my list and we've managed to get thro a few bottles and then play but that's totally different - I know them, we're good friends, we meet for meals. |
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" If you can't do it sober you shouldn't be doing it at all is my opinion
why"
I think lots of people feel that if you don't want to do something when you're sober and rational you could be storing up trouble if you drink to alter the way you feel about it. I guess that if afterwards you feel ok and happy that you went through with it then it's all good.
Maybe your use of the word pissed in the title made some of us think that you were drinking a lot beforehand and also the fact that you felt you needed to find out of other people were doing the same as you might indicate that you were concerned.
However as I said, if you're happy it's all good. |
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