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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So out of the blue you get a PM, not on here, but from one of your friends on Facebook.
The message intimates that whilst they know you are with someone, they wish they'd have had a night with you and want you to know that.
You would never 'go there' with someone you regard as a friend.
This raises various questions :
- how do you respond / react to the sender ?
- do you tell your other half about the message ?
- if you were the other half, how do you react to being told (or not told) ?
- is this one of those situations where there is really no right or wrong answers ?
Over to you lot ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If my mindset were to never go there as a friend, I would say to them, in firm but warm tones, that yes, it would be an interesting night, but that I would never risk ruining a friendship. Ever.
After that I wouldn't talk to them through fab at all, as it sets the wrong tone.
Me personally, I would tell my other half, but I wouldn't tell the sender that I'd told her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happened to me...but I don't have another half. Do have a best friend of the fem kind.
We went there.....we are still best friends.
We go there as and when. Spend weekends together quite often....but we remain just best friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never keep anything from your other half, it can never end well.
If your not going there, then tell them, don't give them false hope, it's probably taken a lot of courage to send that message (and probably quite a bit of vodka) so be gentle, your down the rabbit hole already the only thing you can do is be gentle and kind to everyone involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would play my ELO double album and think it over"
I see what you did there.
Nice one.
Suppose you could spend a Night in the City - unless of course they looked so bad they made you Turn to Stone.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So out of the blue you get a PM, not on here, but from one of your friends on Facebook.
The message intimates that whilst they know you are with someone, they wish they'd have had a night with you and want you to know that.
You would never 'go there' with someone you regard as a friend.
This raises various questions :
- how do you respond / react to the sender ?
- do you tell your other half about the message ?
- if you were the other half, how do you react to being told (or not told) ?
- is this one of those situations where there is really no right or wrong answers ?
Over to you lot ..."
are ya wanking off to the image of this person? |
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"Never keep anything from your other half, it can never end well.
If your not going there, then tell them, don't give them false hope, it's probably taken a lot of courage to send that message (and probably quite a bit of vodka) so be gentle, your down the rabbit hole already the only thing you can do is be gentle and kind to everyone involved."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never keep anything from your other half, it can never end well.
If your not going there, then tell them, don't give them false hope, it's probably taken a lot of courage to send that message (and probably quite a bit of vodka) so be gentle, your down the rabbit hole already the only thing you can do is be gentle and kind to everyone involved."
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By (user no longer on site)
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A lot depends on how you define "friend" in the context of Facebook.
Other than that, definitely share with your "partner". Not doing so simply opens the door to distrust. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So here was what I did (I hasten to add, before I made this post)
Acknowledged the message and politely said I didn't think of him that way.
He then apologised.
Told the OH about the message on the 'no secrets' principle
His reaction was one of acceptance and understanding, mixed with a bit of 'the cheeky bastard  '
It just struck me as one of them situations that, if not handled appropriately, could turn someone chancing their arm into something way more between a couple.
In terms of 'what type of friend', someone I used to socialise with and chat to a few years back, who I haven't seen in a couple of years.
He has never been, how can I say, 'inappropriate' before |
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