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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think we can all agree that Fab is a bizarre place, but I'm interested in how it effects your ego.
I'm sure many single dudes will think it shoots theirs to pieces while ladies get inflated.
No idea about couples (again, I guess it depends on the female given the environment)...
I'm not strictly talking forum - I see statuses from lusted regulars craving attention, just intrigued as to how Fab enhances your life. Or not.
I do expect finely treaded comments from guys attempting to act cool, but apart from that, let's be honest. 
In before "what about you OP?" - it's a mixed bag, attention I don't expect and then denied by others. This isn't written off the back of personal experience, just a general over_iew.
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I like fabs, I like the forums its like going into a cyber pub all sorts of people use them.
I also use the site for meets so yes to a certain extent it does enhance my life as its an easy way to get entertainment and get meets.
But I'm also a realist and keep a realistic attitude I certainly don't believe I'm anything more than a normal, overweight middle aged woman who may appeal to some and not others.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like it because it's nice to be liked.. But We also like it because if someone doesn't like us we don't give a fuck!!! That's what's good about the Internet!!   |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Years ago swinging helped me rebuild my confidence after a period of ill health, it then became detrimental to me, so I changed my approach to it. It works well for me now.
Now it gives me an opportunity to pass some time and banter. I have also been educated on several matters.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hmmmmm when i first came onto site like this was totally flattered after 20 yrs with someone who shredded me to bits - after i met/lost a partner i went through a crazy stage where i realised that getting sex was a peace of piss - then calming down and thinking nah those guys only like you cos they got a shag and my confidence took a hammering -
now i love the banter in the forums - the people we meet off here are lovely and sex is fantastic- so ego has been raised and dented many times -
now - can i have a ginger bikky to dunk in my coffee as opposed to a cookie  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Fuck me that was long.  "
OK, I like a long fuck. When are you free?
Now, do you feel your ego was boosted?
Fab forum and the creation of Lickety saved me when I needed saving. I handle rejection (giving and receiving) much better now than I used to as I no longer see rejection as being about me but about their wants\desires\choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab doesn't really have an effect on our egos. Being at a club makes me (f) feel real schmexy for a couple of days. I mostly just like the forums and perving on people |
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No, something as shallow as fabs does not affect my ego, but it is a rollercoaster of a ride, the disappointment in people always takes me by surprise, but luckily the fabulous times make it worth the effort I think.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"My egos is monstrously huge. I come here as a supplement to the real world adulation I receive.
Hope this is honest enough Lib "
I saw your Halloween picture. It looked like your ego had been stroked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's nice to be liked and complimented and it's less fun when it goes the other way I don't take it to heart greatly either way but I guess if it was happening lots it could get to you a bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My egos is monstrously huge. I come here as a supplement to the real world adulation I receive.
Hope this is honest enough Lib
I saw your Halloween picture. It looked like your ego had been stroked."
I noticed that too. Can't really not notice it |
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"My egos is monstrously huge. I come here as a supplement to the real world adulation I receive.
Hope this is honest enough Lib
I saw your Halloween picture. It looked like your ego had been stroked.
I noticed that too. Can't really not notice it "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm Gods gift to women, and I think if they don't message me then that's their loss as I'm fantastic in bed and in everything else I do ......... Not, I don't give a toss, I'm not pushy and generally just have a laugh and amuse myself now although interestingly enough I seem to get more female attention with this approach, note I said attention not action. Whilst we know it's a sex site we don't need it shoved in our faces from the start. I think it's better to get to know someone and have a mental connection of some kind, before a physical one. Well that's my opinion any way for what it's worth  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure it has much impact on my ego. I'm basically ok with myself, I was before and will continue to be. Compliments or whatever are nice, but don't really change how I see and think about myself (and I'm a stubborn bastard anyway).
I don't think this is the place to be if you do have major self-esteem issues though....there are periods in my life when this probably would have been a really bad idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like ego spotting on here, of course the written word can sometimes be misconstrued but often the ego just oozes out of the profile / Forum posts etc - there's a fine line between confidence / positively selling yourself and ego / arrogance.
My ego (I think) is unchanged from being on here, rejected / ignored by the very large majority, but a very small number of quality banter buddies to more than compensate - just like in real life really I know my place on here! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Sometimes it helps but often it's detrimental to my confidence.
I'm under no illusions that a large proportion of the messages I get are simply because I have the right holes and boobs and they think I'll do. I'm a means to an end, not someone they actually desire.
A lot of the messages are also because I have big boobs. The men don't much care about the life support system and means of transport for those boobs.
I'm in the category disgruntled men refer to as wouldn't get a second glance in the pub.
Being regarded as holes and boobs that will do doesn't inflate my ego, surprisingly.
I am probably guilty, however, of thinking some men just want to get laid when they do actually find me attractive. I hear the same things from most of them - I'm stunning etc. when I know I'm not stunning - that it's difficult to take any of it at face value. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see how an inbox full of disrespectful 'fancy a fuck' type messages, married people looking for a quick fuck with anyone who's willing and occasional requests for you to sell your body could inflate anyone's ego. Sadly that's what fab offers a lot of the time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab hasn't affected my ego at all because I know its all smoke and mirrors a lot of the time and thats fine because I can stroke egos to get what I want too
Its fun and not to be taken too seriously |
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
North Yorkshire by the Sea |
"I'm under no illusions that a large proportion of the messages I get are simply because I have the right holes and boobs and they think I'll do. I'm a means to an end, not someone they actually desire.
A lot of the messages are also because I have big boobs. The men don't much care about the life support system and means of transport for those boobs.
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Hugs  x
I think very similar about the attention I receive on here (replacing boobs with bum, as I don't have big boobs but I have a toosh). It's 'penis' talk, said as a means to an end, no more sincere than that. Nice to hear at the time, sure, but it's not specific to me the person, just as the source of potential pleasure at that moment.
That said, it rarely knocks my confidence as it's not personal. The only thing from Fab that does get to me, is men speaking to me like I'm a sex object, to aid them getting their end off, with no regard or respect for the fact I'm actually human being with feelings. Luckily it's extremely rare here, I find it happens more on POF or T-inder x
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I have no ego, I`m not here to have it stroked or for some kind of affirmation of myself. I don't listen to half the bull shit that comes my way, I know how I look and who I am and what I have to offer someone. If a few nice men want to meet me then that's all and good, if they don't then that's all and good too. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I think the fora are in a way the voice of Fab reason. Yes, I get the occasional blowing smoke up my arse type message but I do tend to take it with a pinch of salt. If somebody says something lovely to me in real life I tend to think 'what are they after?'. On here it's a little more transparent that's all. I can see how being on here could either damage or grossly inflate an ego but I like to think I'm self-aware enough to have a word with myself if there's any danger of that happening. |
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I like the forums and I too
also use the site for meets and to keep in touch with friends I have made on here, so yes to a certain extent it does enhance my life as its an easy way to meet people of the same Ilk as me.
But I am also realistic and keep a realistic attitude I certainly do not think I am anything more than a normal, middle aged woman who may appeal to some and not others. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm under no illusions that a large proportion of the messages I get are simply because I have the right holes and boobs and they think I'll do. I'm a means to an end, not someone they actually desire.
A lot of the messages are also because I have big boobs. The men don't much care about the life support system and means of transport for those boobs.
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Hugs x
I think very similar about the attention I receive on here (replacing boobs with bum, as I don't have big boobs but I have a toosh). It's 'penis' talk, said as a means to an end, no more sincere than that. Nice to hear at the time, sure, but it's not specific to me the person, just as the source of potential pleasure at that moment.
That said, it rarely knocks my confidence as it's not personal. The only thing from Fab that does get to me, is men speaking to me like I'm a sex object, to aid them getting their end off, with no regard or respect for the fact I'm actually human being with feelings. Luckily it's extremely rare here, I find it happens more on POF or T-inder x
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Thanks. I'm not feeling bad about it at the moment. It is what it is. Sometimes it gets me down and I feel bad about myself but usually I just accept it as the nature of this place.
It's not nearly so pronounced in the real world. I try to accept compliments graciously always but I'm much more likely to believe them in every day life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But the real question... Do their egos and arrogance match their performance.
I always come across really arrogant and egotistical. But it's cause I can back my word. But I am not cocky. Women love arrogance (my experience) |
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"But the real question... Do their egos and arrogance match their performance.
I always come across really arrogant and egotistical. But it's cause I can back my word. But I am not cocky. Women love arrogance (my experience)"
Being self-assured and self-aware is not the same as arrogance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like the forums and I too
also use the site for meets and to keep in touch with friends I have made on here, so yes to a certain extent it does enhance my life as its an easy way to meet people of the same Ilk as me.
But I am also realistic and keep a realistic attitude I certainly do not think I am anything more than a normal, middle aged woman who may appeal to some and not others."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But the real question... Do their egos and arrogance match their performance.
I always come across really arrogant and egotistical. But it's cause I can back my word. But I am not cocky. Women love arrogance (my experience)
Being self-assured and self-aware is not the same as arrogance "
Meh... If it works, stick to it.
"Baby girl this dick can change your life" - RR |
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"But the real question... Do their egos and arrogance match their performance.
I always come across really arrogant and egotistical. But it's cause I can back my word. But I am not cocky. Women love arrogance (my experience)
Being self-assured and self-aware is not the same as arrogance
Meh... If it works, stick to it.
"Baby girl this dick can change your life" - RR"
Life changing dicks are a rarity |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But the real question... Do their egos and arrogance match their performance.
I always come across really arrogant and egotistical. But it's cause I can back my word. But I am not cocky. Women love arrogance (my experience)
Being self-assured and self-aware is not the same as arrogance
Meh... If it works, stick to it.
"Baby girl this dick can change your life" - RR
Life changing dicks are a rarity "
Lmao! Life changing dick can make a feminist cook and clean. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we first started swinging we were far more conscious of how we were seen by others , both on here and in clubs , parties and meets .
As time passed we became less bothered by what others thought of us , in so much as how we saw swinging and so on . But we always take immense pride in our appearance and cleanliness for meets , and this will never change . Not sure if this is just good form or egotistical .
We are very aware that our perspective on what swinging means to us is not to everyone's taste , but we truly don't waste any time at all questioning ourselves over it now . This could be interpreted as us having an over inflated ego , but we don't think so , and that's what matters .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But the real question... Do their egos and arrogance match their performance.
I always come across really arrogant and egotistical. But it's cause I can back my word. But I am not cocky. Women love arrogance (my experience)
Being self-assured and self-aware is not the same as arrogance
Meh... If it works, stick to it.
"Baby girl this dick can change your life" - RR
Life changing dicks are a rarity
Lmao! Life changing dick can make a feminist cook and clean."
bless your funny way of thinking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like fab and I no don't use it to get sex meets from, just use the forum and chat room and it boosts my ego as I upload my 6pack pic and I like it as they get loads of fabbings 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like ego spotting on here, of course the written word can sometimes be misconstrued but often the ego just oozes out of the profile / Forum posts etc - there's a fine line between confidence / positively selling yourself and ego / arrogance.
My ego (I think) is unchanged from being on here, rejected / ignored by the very large majority, but a very small number of quality banter buddies to more than compensate - just like in real life really I know my place on here!"
Your place will be sipping black Russians with me soon....Mmmm.
Get langers... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No ego here,just an ordinary middle aged woman who loves men and all the lovely things I can do to them "
This
But I have also developed a lot and understand more just what turns me on and makes me tick |
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"But the real question... Do their egos and arrogance match their performance.
I always come across really arrogant and egotistical. But it's cause I can back my word. But I am not cocky. Women love arrogance (my experience)
Being self-assured and self-aware is not the same as arrogance
Meh... If it works, stick to it.
"Baby girl this dick can change your life" - RR
Life changing dicks are a rarity
Lmao! Life changing dick can make a feminist cook and clean."
No it can`t |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No effect on my ego. I also wouldn't say I have an ego, more confidence in my own skin (this definitely wasn't always the case).
I continue to be pleasantly surprised by the attention (and anything subsequent to that) I have received and do receive, and as such (seemingly) bat it away by saying 'right place, right time' and that I have had some 'luck'. I say 'seemingly' because I do believe those two things have played a part.
That thinking has helped me keep my feet in the ground.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mines dead! I binned my self-image whilst trekking through the Indian sub-continent, on a voyage of self discovery.
There you go people. An ego post that includes the words: I, my and mine.
Make of it what you will |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like ego spotting on here, of course the written word can sometimes be misconstrued but often the ego just oozes out of the profile / Forum posts etc - there's a fine line between confidence / positively selling yourself and ego / arrogance.
My ego (I think) is unchanged from being on here, rejected / ignored by the very large majority, but a very small number of quality banter buddies to more than compensate - just like in real life really I know my place on here!
Your place will be sipping black Russians with me soon....Mmmm.
Get langers... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No ego here,just an ordinary middle aged woman who loves men and all the lovely things I can do to them
This
But I have also developed a lot and understand more just what turns me on and makes me tick "
Ditto and it's made me grow up in lots of ways |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think we can all agree that Fab is a bizarre place, but I'm interested in how it effects your ego.
I'm sure many single dudes will think it shoots theirs to pieces while ladies get inflated.
No idea about couples (again, I guess it depends on the female given the environment)...
I'm not strictly talking forum - I see statuses from lusted regulars craving attention, just intrigued as to how Fab enhances your life. Or not.
I do expect finely treaded comments from guys attempting to act cool, but apart from that, let's be honest.
In before "what about you OP?" - it's a mixed bag, attention I don't expect and then denied by others. This isn't written off the back of personal experience, just a general over_iew.
Your turn. Cookies awarded for good answers. "
Females can be so so critical towards themselves, its no surprise that their _iew of themselves changes.
I wonder how many females had pictures taken in lingerie or naked before swinging.
I know a few that were surprised at how good they looked once seeing their sexy images.
I had a good healthy ego before giving up the fags, potbellies soon change that lol
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By *ummersun99Woman
over a year ago
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"But the real question... Do their egos and arrogance match their performance.
I always come across really arrogant and egotistical. But it's cause I can back my word. But I am not cocky. Women love arrogance (my experience)
Being self-assured and self-aware is not the same as arrogance "
Confidence and humility is sexy, arrogance is ugly....IMO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Found fab after a very very long sexless period. Was surprised that women still found me attractive and wanted me. I don't think it would be overstating if I said that the site gave me a new lease of life. More grateful than egotistical |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Found fab after a very very long sexless period. Was surprised that women still found me attractive and wanted me. I don't think it would be overstating if I said that the site gave me a new lease of life. More grateful than egotistical "
You are a darling. Mwah! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think we can all agree that Fab is a bizarre place, but I'm interested in how it effects your ego.
I'm sure many single dudes will think it shoots theirs to pieces while ladies get inflated.
No idea about couples (again, I guess it depends on the female given the environment)...
I'm not strictly talking forum - I see statuses from lusted regulars craving attention, just intrigued as to how Fab enhances your life. Or not.
I do expect finely treaded comments from guys attempting to act cool, but apart from that, let's be honest.
In before "what about you OP?" - it's a mixed bag, attention I don't expect and then denied by others. This isn't written off the back of personal experience, just a general over_iew.
Your turn. Cookies awarded for good answers. "
Oooooh cookies Guys boost ladies egos for sure but you also get guys that call you all sorts if you don't want to chat or meet up with them....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think we can all agree that Fab is a bizarre place, but I'm interested in how it effects your ego.
I'm sure many single dudes will think it shoots theirs to pieces while ladies get inflated.
No idea about couples (again, I guess it depends on the female given the environment)...
I'm not strictly talking forum - I see statuses from lusted regulars craving attention, just intrigued as to how Fab enhances your life. Or not.
I do expect finely treaded comments from guys attempting to act cool, but apart from that, let's be honest.
In before "what about you OP?" - it's a mixed bag, attention I don't expect and then denied by others. This isn't written off the back of personal experience, just a general over_iew.
Your turn. Cookies awarded for good answers. "
Never mind all that,just give me the biccies! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Found fab after a very very long sexless period. Was surprised that women still found me attractive and wanted me. I don't think it would be overstating if I said that the site gave me a new lease of life. More grateful than egotistical
You are a darling. Mwah!"
One day I'm going to collect these kisses, I want you sooooo much xx |
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"Found fab after a very very long sexless period. Was surprised that women still found me attractive and wanted me. I don't think it would be overstating if I said that the site gave me a new lease of life. More grateful than egotistical
You are a darling. Mwah!
One day I'm going to collect these kisses, I want you sooooo much xx"
Do you?
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