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The trouble with being in love.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The other person doesn't feel the same so shit hits the fan
Or you're in love with them and too scared to tell them so you bottle it up for years, try and get over them but it always comes back to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is absolutely no trouble with being in love.
There may be issues if it's not reciprocal or if things go wrong, but being in love is great and no trouble. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You open yourself up to pain so bad you can't eat or sleep and you feel so sick.
In mu honest opinion love is over rated.
I truly loved once and never want that again"
I totally agree x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You open yourself up to pain so bad you can't eat or sleep and you feel so sick.
In mu honest opinion love is over rated.
I truly loved once and never want that again
I totally agree x"
Surely true love is forever, regardless?
Still hurst though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You open yourself up to pain so bad you can't eat or sleep and you feel so sick.
I truly loved once and never want that again"
I see it in others, but it's something that's eluded me.
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"You open yourself up to pain so bad you can't eat or sleep and you feel so sick.
In mu honest opinion love is over rated.
I truly loved once and never want that again
I totally agree x"
Glad I'm not alone in that.
My fruends seem to think I will again but I really don't so I won't  |
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"You open yourself up to pain so bad you can't eat or sleep and you feel so sick.
In mu honest opinion love is over rated.
I truly loved once and never want that again
I totally agree x
Surely true love is forever, regardless?
Still hurst though."
I will always love this guy but I'm done with it all now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is absolutely no trouble with being in love.
There may be issues if it's not reciprocal or if things go wrong, but being in love is great and no trouble. "
This  is great in itself |
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By *nnyMan
over a year ago
Glasgow |
"Men are from Venus... women are from Mars
remember that  "
I gave a copy to friends who were off on a second honeymoon to try to reinvigorate their marriage.
They fell out on the plane over who got to read it first  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You open yourself up to pain so bad you can't eat or sleep and you feel so sick.
In mu honest opinion love is over rated.
I truly loved once and never want that again
I totally agree x"
a truly tragic admission |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive always found it hard to love, I care about people,but I have not said I love you to someone for nearly 20 years including family..Worse time was when my Mum turned round to me and said I know you dont love me,I just find it a hard emotion to feel so I dont know..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only love can make it rain
The way the beach is kissed by the sea
Only love can make it rain
Like the sweat of lovers layin' in the fields
Only love can bring the rain
That makes you yearn to the sky
Only love can bring the rain
That falls like tears from on high
On the dry and dusty road
The nights we spend apart alone
I need to get back home to cool, cool rain
I can't sleep, and I lay, and I think
The night is hot and black as ink
Oh God, I need a drink of cool, cool rain
Love, reign o'er me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being in love is blissfully, intoxicating, ......then there is no pain like the heartbreak when you know they will get taken from you before their time . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing.
Being in love is what makes us unique and special.
Yes it may bring unbearable heartache.
But you can't hide from love, embrace it even if it's a fleeting embrace, throw both arms open wide and grab it, hold it tight for as long as you can.
There is too much hate in the world.
We are lucky and have had almost 30 years together and hopefully will have 30 more.
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"Being in love is blissfully, intoxicating, ......then there is no pain like the heartbreak when you know they will get taken from you before their time ."
I hear ya, when my husband died, the physical hurt was like going cold turkey from a drug |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being in love is blissfully, intoxicating, ......then there is no pain like the heartbreak when you know they will get taken from you before their time .
I hear ya, when my husband died, the physical hurt was like going cold turkey from a drug"
Hugs and kisses for your loss xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I bumped into my first love today and it brought back so many emotions. It was a huge realisation that I still love him even after so many years! Love hurts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reminds me of a scene from The Mirror has two faces :
"Experts, scholars and my Aunt Esther are united in one belief:
True love has spiritual dimensions, while romantic love is a lie. A myth. A soulless manipulation.
And speaking of manipulation ...
lt's like going to the movies and seeing the lovers kiss ... The music swells, and we buy it, right?
So when my date kisses me, and l don't hear strings, l dump him.
The question is, why do we buy it?
Because, myth or manipulation, we all want to fall in love.
That experience makes us feel completely alive. Our everyday reality is shattered, and we are flung into the heavens.
lt may only last a moment, an hour, but that doesn't diminish its value.
We're left with memories we treasure for the rest of our lives.
l read, ''When we fall in love, we hear Puccini in our heads.'' l love that.
His music expresses our need for passion and romantic love.
We listen to La Bóheme or Turandot, or read Wuthering Heights, - - or watch Casablanca, and a little of that love lives in us too.
So the final question is: Why do people want to fall in love - - when it can have such a short run and be so painful? -
Propagation of the species?
We need to connect with somebody ?
Are we culturally preconditioned?
All good, but too intellectual for me.
l think it's because, as some of you may already know ... While it does last, it feels fucking great !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is...... ??"
Everybody sing now..
"Sky rockets in flight....(booooo!)
Afternoon delight..
..............Afternoon delight!"
Sorry ... I keep watching 'Anchorman'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being in love is blissfully, intoxicating, ......then there is no pain like the heartbreak when you know they will get taken from you before their time .
I hear ya, when my husband died, the physical hurt was like going cold turkey from a drug"
I hear that, just lost my partner and it hurts so bad...it's the turning to say something to them and they're not there, the I must tell her that later when something amuses you and you can't...cuts inside like a knife to think about her and what I've lost |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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All the bad things being described are not about "being in love". They are descriptions of the pain of the absence of love or the one sided nature of a love they feel.
Yes, it hurts like nothing else when you love someone and it is not reciprocated or if you have had a great love and that has been lost through death (relationship ending fits under non-reciprocity).
Being in love feels wonderful and makes the world seem a better place. I don't think there is anything bad about that.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the bad things being described are not about "being in love". They are descriptions of the pain of the absence of love or the one sided nature of a love they feel.
Yes, it hurts like nothing else when you love someone and it is not reciprocated or if you have had a great love and that has been lost through death (relationship ending fits under non-reciprocity).
Being in love feels wonderful and makes the world seem a better place. I don't think there is anything bad about that.
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That's just made me cry......... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the bad things being described are not about "being in love". They are descriptions of the pain of the absence of love or the one sided nature of a love they feel.
Yes, it hurts like nothing else when you love someone and it is not reciprocated or if you have had a great love and that has been lost through death (relationship ending fits under non-reciprocity).
Being in love feels wonderful and makes the world seem a better place. I don't think there is anything bad about that.
That's just made me cry........."
You crying just made me cry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the bad things being described are not about "being in love". They are descriptions of the pain of the absence of love or the one sided nature of a love they feel.
Yes, it hurts like nothing else when you love someone and it is not reciprocated or if you have had a great love and that has been lost through death (relationship ending fits under non-reciprocity).
Being in love feels wonderful and makes the world seem a better place. I don't think there is anything bad about that.
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It isn't the greatest thing about being in love though, OP wanted the worst.. think they covered it :L |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the bad things being described are not about "being in love". They are descriptions of the pain of the absence of love or the one sided nature of a love they feel.
Yes, it hurts like nothing else when you love someone and it is not reciprocated or if you have had a great love and that has been lost through death (relationship ending fits under non-reciprocity).
Being in love feels wonderful and makes the world seem a better place. I don't think there is anything bad about that.
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I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the bad things being described are not about "being in love". They are descriptions of the pain of the absence of love or the one sided nature of a love they feel.
Yes, it hurts like nothing else when you love someone and it is not reciprocated or if you have had a great love and that has been lost through death (relationship ending fits under non-reciprocity).
Being in love feels wonderful and makes the world seem a better place. I don't think there is anything bad about that.
That's just made me cry.........
You crying just made me cry."
Tissues! I haven't got any!
I need to call my dad tell him I love him........... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"All the bad things being described are not about "being in love". They are descriptions of the pain of the absence of love or the one sided nature of a love they feel.
Yes, it hurts like nothing else when you love someone and it is not reciprocated or if you have had a great love and that has been lost through death (relationship ending fits under non-reciprocity).
Being in love feels wonderful and makes the world seem a better place. I don't think there is anything bad about that.
It isn't the greatest thing about being in love though, OP wanted the worst.. think they covered it :L"
Ah, well I have a bit of a view that the being in love when it isn't reciprocated isn't being in love at all.
Being in love happens when you are both engaged in the activity. The other stuff is the madness of chemicals, lust, a deep need to be loved and/or enjoying the buzz of a new person.
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"Being in love is blissfully, intoxicating, ......then there is no pain like the heartbreak when you know they will get taken from you before their time .
I hear ya, when my husband died, the physical hurt was like going cold turkey from a drug
I hear that, just lost my partner and it hurts so bad...it's the turning to say something to them and they're not there, the I must tell her that later when something amuses you and you can't...cuts inside like a knife to think about her and what I've lost"
Big hugs to you ((((hug)))) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ah, well I have a bit of a view that the being in love when it isn't reciprocated isn't being in love at all.
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Unrequited love certainly isn't the same but I'd definitely think it is love still. |
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"All the bad things being described are not about "being in love". They are descriptions of the pain of the absence of love or the one sided nature of a love they feel.
Yes, it hurts like nothing else when you love someone and it is not reciprocated or if you have had a great love and that has been lost through death (relationship ending fits under non-reciprocity).
Being in love feels wonderful and makes the world seem a better place. I don't think there is anything bad about that.
That's just made me cry.........
You crying just made me cry.
Tissues! I haven't got any!
I need to call my dad tell him I love him..........."
Ffs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"All the bad things being described are not about "being in love". They are descriptions of the pain of the absence of love or the one sided nature of a love they feel.
Yes, it hurts like nothing else when you love someone and it is not reciprocated or if you have had a great love and that has been lost through death (relationship ending fits under non-reciprocity).
Being in love feels wonderful and makes the world seem a better place. I don't think there is anything bad about that.
It isn't the greatest thing about being in love though, OP wanted the worst.. think they covered it :L
Ah, well I have a bit of a view that the being in love when it isn't reciprocated isn't being in love at all
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Your dead right, it's borderline stalker :L it would be a grand old world if we all got what we wanted from people though :P |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Ah, well I have a bit of a view that the being in love when it isn't reciprocated isn't being in love at all.
Unrequited love certainly isn't the same but I'd definitely think it is love still."
I used to think that too but I have come to change my mind over the years.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ah, well I have a bit of a view that the being in love when it isn't reciprocated isn't being in love at all.
Unrequited love certainly isn't the same but I'd definitely think it is love still.
I used to think that too but I have come to change my mind over the years.
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A woman change her mind?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is absolutely no trouble with being in love.
There may be issues if it's not reciprocal or if things go wrong, but being in love is great and no trouble. "
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Ah, well I have a bit of a view that the being in love when it isn't reciprocated isn't being in love at all.
Unrequited love certainly isn't the same but I'd definitely think it is love still.
I used to think that too but I have come to change my mind over the years.
A woman change her mind? "
I also admit when I am wrong.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being in love is blissfully, intoxicating, ......then there is no pain like the heartbreak when you know they will get taken from you before their time .
I hear ya, when my husband died, the physical hurt was like going cold turkey from a drug
I hear that, just lost my partner and it hurts so bad...it's the turning to say something to them and they're not there, the I must tell her that later when something amuses you and you can't...cuts inside like a knife to think about her and what I've lost
Big hugs to you ((((hug))))"
Thank you hun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I agree with poster above that says it doesn't exist.
Love or attachment is not an emotion. It is instinct. We think we love because it ensures procreation determing survival of our race. It also ensures protection, we feel love we feel secure and protected. Less vulnerable.
That said. I could be talking rollox. But that is my theory
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ah, well I have a bit of a view that the being in love when it isn't reciprocated isn't being in love at all.
Unrequited love certainly isn't the same but I'd definitely think it is love still.
I used to think that too but I have come to change my mind over the years.
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I think it starts as falling in love but because it is unrequited it can distort the feelings of love and therefore the unrequited lover's behaviour. |
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