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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A no reply is a no thank you.
Its not rude. |
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"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
Nope. FAQ says it not rude not to reply. A non reply is a 'no thank you' without words although I prefer a no reply to mean "yes we'd love you to join us but we can't at the moment but as soon as we berth our yacht, you can come and visit" |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Nope, read faqs on here. It's not rude not to reply, I do reply to polite messages when I can, but sometimes get reminders why people don't.
Take no reply as a polite no thanks, not interested |
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a 'no response' should be taken as a response ..it means 'i'm not interested' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No response is an answer in itself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't reply to all, not everyone replies to us. It's the way the site works. It's not rude, it's an easy way of expressing your disinterest. |
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"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
Yes but on here it seems to be the norm
However I am aware how many messages a lady gets on here mostly not very well written |
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No it's not rude. There are a number of reasons why people don't respond, just move on and keep positive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we reply to a polite message, when someone has read the profile, we dont reply to one that says im free now or where do i find you |
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"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
Nope.... Replying to 40 messages a day with no thanks gets very draining  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
How many emails do you get a day. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Well it is nearly a whole day since this topic was last done.
And no, it's still not rude.
What is rude is a sense of entitlement and expecting everyone else to conform to one's own wishes, without making any effort to understand why they don't and without bothering to consider their situation and circumstances may differ from one's own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to think it was kind of rude but to be honest all of the folk above who think not, actually have a very valid point. So I guess the answer now is no. Especially when you consider the sheer amount of messages a single fem or couple must get!!!! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
I get numerous messages every day from smokers and people who clearly don't fit what I'm asking for.
I'm supposed to waste my time replying when they either couldn't be bothered to read my profile or decided to ignore my preferences?
Not going to happen.
Receive message. Check profile. Hit delete. Sometimes block to stop them wasting my time again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will reply if it is a well thought out message with a face picture even if it is a polite no, but if they have not bothered to take the time to actually ready my profile etc then why would I actually reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As most have said, the FAQ's deal with this.
You are able to reply to all messages because, as a single male, you don't get anywhere near the same number of messages that women or couples do.
Try and think of those that get hundreds of messages per day and then tell us you would still be able to answer them all |
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The problem with replying to someone in a polite thank you way is.. They then reply and want more. Rather than just accepting No .. they ask why ,or even abuse and criticise how you look..etc.
I do agree I feel rude if I dont reply but you have to stop somewhere. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Besides, there's no effort put into a fair few messages I receive so I put as little effort into reading and replying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The problem with replying to someone in a polite thank you way is.. They then reply and want more. Rather than just accepting No .. they ask why ,or even abuse and criticise how you look..etc.
I do agree I feel rude if I dont reply but you have to stop somewhere."
It seems to be the usual, the many idiots spoiling it for the few decent men on here who do read profiles, take heed of the contents and who can string full sentences with polysyllabic words together, coupled with sheer numbers of emails couples and women get, it's no wonder they just get ignored or deleted  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope it's impossible for couples and single ladies to respond to all the mail they would never get anything done  |
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"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
No but its rude not to use the search feature or visit FAQ's as suggested |
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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago
oxford |
Our best message from a single male to date was
Are u free now ?
Middle of the day during the working week
Needless to say we did reply with a polite no sorry only to messaged back with
Why not ?
Single guys whilst we do meet you please please read profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only use my phone and I can only see the first page of messages so I have to keep bulk deleting read messages that aren't suitable just to get through them.
Whenever I've answered someone asking why I've deleted their message it either leads to them trying to convince me or them sending me verbal abuse in which case I will block them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I answer everyone,sometimes I don't it depends on time and mood
Ill certainly get back to those who I find attractive or who have sent messages that have piqued my interest,or those that have messaged on the back of forum posts or games
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"Sometimes I answer everyone,sometimes I don't it depends on time and mood
Ill certainly get back to those who I find attractive or who have sent messages that have piqued my interest,or those that have messaged on the back of forum posts or games
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
No |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab is an alternate universe. Forget what you learned on the Outside. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab is an alternate universe. Forget what you learned on the Outside. "
but it's such a pretty place with nice people and amazing boots... loving those scarlet |
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Its not rude at all!
Honestly I can be a right bitch if I want and My mum taught me if you have norhing nice to say then say nothing at all, so I always follow her logic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our best message from a single male to date was
Are u free now ?
Middle of the day during the working week
Needless to say we did reply with a polite no sorry only to messaged back with
Why not ?
Single guys whilst we do meet you please please read profiles "
I have recieved exactly the same message in the middle of the day from couples and single women. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
I've been messaged by someone expecting me to drive 150 miles, each way, immediately, in the early hours of the morning.
He seemed surprised to be told no and messaged back along the lines of "Why not? You'll get the shag of your life". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our best message from a single male to date was
Are u free now ?
Middle of the day during the working week
Needless to say we did reply with a polite no sorry only to messaged back with
Why not ?
Single guys whilst we do meet you please please read profiles
I have recieved exactly the same message in the middle of the day from couples and single women. "
Are u free now?  |
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"I've been messaged by someone expecting me to drive 150 miles, each way, immediately, in the early hours of the morning.
He seemed surprised to be told no and messaged back along the lines of "Why not? You'll get the shag of your life"."
And they wonder why they don't get meets
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been messaged by someone expecting me to drive 150 miles, each way, immediately, in the early hours of the morning.
He seemed surprised to be told no and messaged back along the lines of "Why not? You'll get the shag of your life"."
They are doing you a favour.   |
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"Our best message from a single male to date was
Are u free now ?
Middle of the day during the working week
Needless to say we did reply with a polite no sorry only to messaged back with
Why not ?
Single guys whilst we do meet you please please read profiles
I have recieved exactly the same message in the middle of the day from couples and single women.
Are u free now? "
Maybe they were looking for John Inman |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I've been messaged by someone expecting me to drive 150 miles, each way, immediately, in the early hours of the morning.
He seemed surprised to be told no and messaged back along the lines of "Why not? You'll get the shag of your life".
They are doing you a favour. "
Yeah, filtering themselves out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No we don't find it rude but then we read then FAQ when we joined.
It is clear though that so many posters don't bother to read the FAQ or even the site rules.
O.P. No one has an entitlement to a reply on fab not even from a mod or admin. Accept that these people are not interested and move on otherwise it will tarnish your experience here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The problem with replying to someone in a polite thank you way is.. They then reply and want more. Rather than just accepting No .. they ask why ,or even abuse and criticise how you look..etc.
I do agree I feel rude if I dont reply but you have to stop somewhere."
I like this response. I believe the dynamic of the site creates it's own rules about what is rude and what is not specifically on here, but anyone who at the start of their Fab experience did not see this as a little rude when someone has made a genuine effort, is the type of person I would have very little interest in meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would you want a dragged out conversation of why?
Her |
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"A no reply is a no thank you.
Its not rude. "
No it isn't x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
Nope cause I've seen some of my female/TS friends inboxes and u don't think I'd expect them to respond to the hundreds of messages lol it would be a full time job |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
Hate it! I throw my medium of communication at the wall or a passerby's head.
Forever shelling out for new tech (and court fines etc)  |
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By *j_markCouple
over a year ago
Forum Mod Totteridge/Whetstone |
"When ever someone emails I also take the time to respond, even if my response is a polite no thank you.
Anyone else find it rude when someone fails to respond? "
You'll enjoy the site more if you take no reply as "no thanks"
Admin x |
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