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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
Hi all
I feel a complete fool writing this, but just writing this down helps.
I'm very lonely today. I'm a sorted, friendly, sociable guy with many friends, but I feel isolated and at a bit of a loss of where to turn right now.
It may seem bizarre to turn to Fabs, but I actually find there's a very supportive, kind community of people here. I have my faults, but I'm one of those guys who values good conversation on here and I'm confident that the people I've interacted with on here would back me up on that.
I have tried to be supportive to others on here too, contributing positively to threads where others are struggling, particularly with anxiety related issues (I freely admit that's an issue for me).
I won't bore you with the reasons here, but there's been a lot if upheaval this year and I've made decisions for postibe reasons that I'm scared will backfire on me. I'm fully aware that people have far more serious stuff to contend with and, in many ways, I'm an extremely lucky person.
I'm sorry, this is a huge indulgence on my part. I'm say here in a cafe wishing someone would just give me a hug. I'm a 45 year-old bloke and I'm man enough to admit that.
I guess I'm hoping there's someone at a bit of a loose end today or feeling similar. I promise I'm not hoping this will lead anywhere else - it's just about some need for human interaction. I have many friends, but I don't want to bother them right now and sometimes it's easier to talk to people who are more detached from your life.
I don't blame any of you for reading this and thinking "what a self-obsessed fool". Honestly, I'm a good, kind guy who is just struggling a bit.
Thanks for reading. I know I'll feel an idiot as soon as I post this, but here goes..... |
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I don't think you are a fool at all, I'm sure there are a lot of people on here who feel lonely quite a lot of the time and have a serious hug deficit they would like to put right on a daily basis, I know I would! I hope you find someone x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You will find people on fab are from all walks of life and some will have been feeling just like you at sometime in there life so don't feel bad letting it out here its fine. Getting things off your chest out in the open will help a lot I am sure too. xxx |
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Ok, this is what you should do......
Look under "UK JIVE"
Go find a jive dance class near to you..
Attend!
You will find it uplifting, energising, sociable, and damn good fun too!
Loneliness is entirely in your own hands....
get out there and dance!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, this is what you should do......
Look under "UK JIVE"
Go find a jive dance class near to you..
Attend!
You will find it uplifting, energising, sociable, and damn good fun too!
Loneliness is entirely in your own hands....
get out there and dance!
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wow that's really positive and fun too. xxx |
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"Ok, this is what you should do......
Look under "UK JIVE"
Go find a jive dance class near to you..
Attend!
You will find it uplifting, energising, sociable, and damn good fun too!
Loneliness is entirely in your own hands....
get out there and dance!
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This is good advice, I'm not into modern jive but with some guys I know I can get a free hug with every dance! Had my fix last night !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sure everyone feels lonely at some point in their lives ..you can be surrounded by family and friends and feel alone ...here's a big hug from me to you ((((((hugs))))))) xxxxx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not daft at all if anything it's very brave of you and a good idea to wright your feelings down chin up not sure of why your feeling this way but things will get better I am sure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sending a cyber hug - nowhere near as good as real ones though. I think we all have lonely days , I'm sure the weather getting duller doesn't help. Choose something warm and cosy off the cafe menu and have a chat to someone on the next table . I'm always told I have a very open face, so people just tend to talk to me. You might make someone else's day by stroking up a conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Big hugs hun. I'm sure we've all been there at some time or another. And as for feeling your problems are small compared to other peoples, they're still big to you, and I know exactly where you're coming from.
If I was nearer I'd join you for a coffee and a chat.
Take care xxx |
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"Hi all
I feel a complete fool writing this, but just writing this down helps.
I'm very lonely today. I'm a sorted, friendly, sociable guy with many friends, but I feel isolated and at a bit of a loss of where to turn right now.
It may seem bizarre to turn to Fabs, but I actually find there's a very supportive, kind community of people here. I have my faults, but I'm one of those guys who values good conversation on here and I'm confident that the people I've interacted with on here would back me up on that.
I have tried to be supportive to others on here too, contributing positively to threads where others are struggling, particularly with anxiety related issues (I freely admit that's an issue for me).
I won't bore you with the reasons here, but there's been a lot if upheaval this year and I've made decisions for postibe reasons that I'm scared will backfire on me. I'm fully aware that people have far more serious stuff to contend with and, in many ways, I'm an extremely lucky person.
I'm sorry, this is a huge indulgence on my part. I'm say here in a cafe wishing someone would just give me a hug. I'm a 45 year-old bloke and I'm man enough to admit that.
I guess I'm hoping there's someone at a bit of a loose end today or feeling similar. I promise I'm not hoping this will lead anywhere else - it's just about some need for human interaction. I have many friends, but I don't want to bother them right now and sometimes it's easier to talk to people who are more detached from your life.
I don't blame any of you for reading this and thinking "what a self-obsessed fool". Honestly, I'm a good, kind guy who is just struggling a bit.
Thanks for reading. I know I'll feel an idiot as soon as I post this, but here goes....."
Life has a way of kicking you especially
when your down just get up and keep smiling and a good sense of humour will help to
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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during a recent clearout i found a book i wrote in years ago - pre divorce - my god it made interesting but sad reading - how i have changed and what a bastard he was - writing it down was all i had then (he had me believe anyway) so probably saved my sanity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's only a public contact detail for a dance class I think - don't panic!"
Full name and number posted on here for all the knobheads to get hold of is not a good idea |
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
Thank you all so much, especially for the hugs. I burst into tears after posting that, and I do feel an idiot. I am glad I did it though.
It's ironic - people always tell me "you know everyone". It's true I have a wide circle of friends and I'm well liked. It doesn't stop the loneliness though.
I'm not feel I'm depressed (and I do know that feeling), I'm just anxious and under pressure - pressure that, in part, I created for myself with decisions about my future.
At times like this, it causes the lack of someone special to become an issue - it honestly doesn't bother me too much normally.
Dancing - I love dancing and, funnily enough, I was only telling someone how I think it's therapeutic the other night. I'm a big soul/funk/northern soul fan and have actually been to classes for the latter recently. It might be interesting to do something regular though.
Honestly, I lead an active life and have many interests. Sometimes it doesn't shield you from all this though. In part, I worry that decisions I've made will affect my ability to pursue these interests in the future.
Just to clarify - if anyone felt in the same boat and wanted to chat, I wasn't anticipating a hugely serious conversation - more talking about everyday stuff etc. |
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OP your not a fool, takes a brave person to say hey I need a bit of support..
if many more did then that would only be beneficial..
when your done in the café get out and do something like a walk perhaps, some lovely spots where you live..
should help to lift your spirits
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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good luck with the decisions that you have made this year, I hope they work out.
as for feeling a bit low, hey we have all had those moments. Get out in the fresh air, take a good walk and you will feel better.
If darker moods happen, get some professional support.
all the very best to you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP are you getting vitamins and looking after yourself.? At times when I have been low its been from not looking after me .. And not getting the sleep I needed . If under stress from life you need to look after number one and that's you. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all need support and help at sometime. God knows ive asked for it enough grom you guys. All have helped me overcome some upsetting times recently.
Have a massive hug from me. ((((((HUG))))))
Hope things turn round for you soon xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well done that man, you can be in a room with a thousand people and still feel lonely.
When you feel you have hit the bottom, there is only one way and that is up
Her |
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" I have many friends, but I don't want to bother them right now ...."
I get what you are saying about it being easier to speak with someone detached from your life, but believe me, I have been through similar a few years ago. When I said to my friends and family that I didn't want to bother or burden them, I got chastised because they all said if they knew how I was feeling they would have jumped to help and support me - so while you think you might be bothering them, you aren't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have absolutely nothing to feel foolish about. If there is one thing the forums has taught me its that many of us (myself included) suffer from very similar issues. I still barely go a week without having a day where I feel so run down and alone that getting out of bed feels utterly pointless. The best thing for me is forcing myself to get going go for a run and then surround myself with friends for the day, whether that just means going and sitting and letting their conversations wash over me or immersing more deeply either way when I get myself moving I often start to pick up. Good luck and just find what helps you shake that mudanity and loneliness which can plague us all |
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
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"OP are you getting vitamins and looking after yourself.? At times when I have been low its been from not looking after me .. And not getting the sleep I needed . If under stress from life you need to look after number one and that's you. xxx"
I eat pretty healthily and my sleep is reasonably ok, thanks. I do wake up in the night when really worried about stuff, but I'm not there at the moment.
I do love walking and go as much as possible in the mountains and on the coast- I also don't mind autumn and winter, as it's my favourite time for walking.
If I'm honest, a walk last Friday is one of the things I'm struggling with. It's a beautiful spot, but I was having a bit of a panic about the future. I got chatting to a woman with two dogs. I ended up telling her about my situation and she told me about her horrible husband. We walked together for over half an hour until we split to go back to our cars.
I felt a deep sense of attraction and connection to her. I've got no problem giving a woman my number etc, but didn't because she was married. It was an intense chance encounter. It didn't help with the loneliness though - I wished I had someone like that. It's a repeating pattern of longing tbh - I also have massively strong feelings for my best friend, and it can never come to anything.
I know it's down to me to make changes, tackle my problems and "get out there" etc. 90% of the time I do that - I'm honestly not a reclusive guy, quite the opposite in fact.
It's just reared it's head again and I'm tired of it today.
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"OP are you getting vitamins and looking after yourself.? At times when I have been low its been from not looking after me .. And not getting the sleep I needed . If under stress from life you need to look after number one and that's you. xxx
I eat pretty healthily and my sleep is reasonably ok, thanks. I do wake up in the night when really worried about stuff, but I'm not there at the moment.
I do love walking and go as much as possible in the mountains and on the coast- I also don't mind autumn and winter, as it's my favourite time for walking.
If I'm honest, a walk last Friday is one of the things I'm struggling with. It's a beautiful spot, but I was having a bit of a panic about the future. I got chatting to a woman with two dogs. I ended up telling her about my situation and she told me about her horrible husband. We walked together for over half an hour until we split to go back to our cars.
I felt a deep sense of attraction and connection to her. I've got no problem giving a woman my number etc, but didn't because she was married. It was an intense chance encounter. It didn't help with the loneliness though - I wished I had someone like that. It's a repeating pattern of longing tbh - I also have massively strong feelings for my best friend, and it can never come to anything.
I know it's down to me to make changes, tackle my problems and "get out there" etc. 90% of the time I do that - I'm honestly not a reclusive guy, quite the opposite in fact.
It's just reared it's head again and I'm tired of it today.
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Well you come across positive and from that things can change . I bet the lady you meet out with the dog was just as happy to chat, Its lovely you could be so open together and I would go back there , Even if married nothing stopping you being friends having a chat . Its good getting out in the fresh air its good for the soul and you. Our minds can play all sorts of tricks on us and its about control and us not being to hard on ourselves .You need to put yourself first and look after you when low. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, this is what you should do......
Look under "UK JIVE"
Go find a jive dance class near to you..
Attend!
You will find it uplifting, energising, sociable, and damn good fun too!
Loneliness is entirely in your own hands....
get out there and dance!
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This, when on the road to dullsville turn off, do something completely different. |
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
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Game for it - I completely agree that it's all in the mind. I've learned to recognise the signs and challenge the negative thoughts. Most of the time I can do that and, from the outside, I probably come across as a positive person who is very busy and sociable
The main reason I've ended up here over the last six months is I took the decision to change direction and avoid the "dullsville" that the last poster mentioned.
Having done that I've just landed myself with too much uncertainty. I did it for positive reasons, but now wish I'd stuck with what I'd known and accepted I was, at heart, an anxious person - safe, but at least I had regular income.
Throw in massive doses of loneliness and unrequited love and worries about an ageing parent and it becomes debilitating.
Having read the replies, I appreciate my problems are trivial by comparison. |
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
"Bear hug coming at ya bro
("\(.:.:.)/")
Plus one time offer!
FREE HIGH FIVE!!!  "
That was some bear hug mate (and the other ones from blokes were massively appreciated too).
Ha ha! HIGH FIVE back (plus that little exploding hand gesture my friend's boy does straight after one). |
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I think part of the reason some of us are on fabs is because we're a bit lonely at times but loneliness can strike anyone at any time, particularly when there has been major changes in life.
But you sound like someone who has a good network around them and there's no shame in looking for support here so have a hug.  |
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It's only a public contact detail for a dance class I think - don't panic!
Full name and number posted on here for all the knobheads to get hold of is not a good idea"
Well I guess the moderators agreed, but if I google 'Ceroc in Cardiff' and come up with a name and a contact number it's pretty public domain I think. |
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"Having read the replies, I appreciate my problems are trivial by comparison."
Your problems are not trivial, yes they are different to some other peoples, but they are personal to you and you have to handle them on a moment to moment basis.
Get something positive going on doesn't matter if it's life changing so long as it feels good, then start repairing or building new, with something positive to give you the much needed lift when life gets tough.
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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I think sometimes you can be in a room full of people and still feel alone....I wish I could give you a hug and tell you things will get better in the real world...a fab hug will have to do for now ((((*•*)))) |
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
Rogue/Pussy/Frisky - thanks
Frisky - I will look into that contact, thanks
I don't want to drone on too much, but I'm a hard-working guy and I'm not working right now. I can't believe how worthless I feel. It's crazy, I keep telling myself that I've worked for years and do so again soon enough, but I find it hard to fill the time. I have loads of interests, but it doesn't feel right to be doing them in the day!
My job was possibly at risk, but I "jumped" in order to try and change my life and break the mould. It's been tough though. |
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"Ok, this is what you should do......
Look under "UK JIVE"
Go find a jive dance class near to you..
Attend!
You will find it uplifting, energising, sociable, and damn good fun too!
Loneliness is entirely in your own hands....
get out there and dance!
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what fantastic advice, I may try that myself |
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"Rogue/Pussy/Frisky - thanks
Frisky - I will look into that contact, thanks
I don't want to drone on too much, but I'm a hard-working guy and I'm not working right now. I can't believe how worthless I feel. It's crazy, I keep telling myself that I've worked for years and do so again soon enough, but I find it hard to fill the time. I have loads of interests, but it doesn't feel right to be doing them in the day!
My job was possibly at risk, but I "jumped" in order to try and change my life and break the mould. It's been tough though."
You jumped now that's a brave man so keep your head up and keep going forwards
no matter how hard it is at times onwards and upwards |
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"Rogue/Pussy/Frisky - thanks
Frisky - I will look into that contact, thanks
I don't want to drone on too much, but I'm a hard-working guy and I'm not working right now. I can't believe how worthless I feel. It's crazy, I keep telling myself that I've worked for years and do so again soon enough, but I find it hard to fill the time. I have loads of interests, but it doesn't feel right to be doing them in the day!
My job was possibly at risk, but I "jumped" in order to try and change my life and break the mould. It's been tough though."
It was a risk you took and on this occassion it didnt work out. Life is full of risks and some people are braver than others. You say you feel worthless, maybe with your spare time you have why not do some volunteering work with a charity |
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"Game for it - I completely agree that it's all in the mind. I've learned to recognise the signs and challenge the negative thoughts. Most of the time I can do that and, from the outside, I probably come across as a positive person who is very busy and sociable
The main reason I've ended up here over the last six months is I took the decision to change direction and avoid the "dullsville" that the last poster mentioned.
Having done that I've just landed myself with too much uncertainty. I did it for positive reasons, but now wish I'd stuck with what I'd known and accepted I was, at heart, an anxious person - safe, but at least I had regular income.
Throw in massive doses of loneliness and unrequited love and worries about an ageing parent and it becomes debilitating.
Having read the replies, I appreciate my problems are trivial by comparison."
The past is over and done OP, We cannot change that now yet we can change our thoughts and also we cant keep beating ourselves up over it .. Its the present moment we need to live in and see things for what they are now not what they could be .. We live and learn and I think you have been over the last year and you do learn from all this good and bad things . I see it as lifes tests . |
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"Rogue/Pussy/Frisky - thanks
Frisky - I will look into that contact, thanks
I don't want to drone on too much, but I'm a hard-working guy and I'm not working right now. I can't believe how worthless I feel. It's crazy, I keep telling myself that I've worked for years and do so again soon enough, but I find it hard to fill the time. I have loads of interests, but it doesn't feel right to be doing them in the day!
My job was possibly at risk, but I "jumped" in order to try and change my life and break the mould. It's been tough though."
Yes, I have been there, am there still in many ways. But a man's identity and self-worth is often far more tied up in his work I think, and even starting a business from home can feel 'wrong'. Maybe you need a transitional occupation of some kind to offer routine. I feel very spare not having done some horses first thing each morning - that was my routine, get out of bed, sort horses, whether two or ten. |
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
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"Rogue/Pussy/Frisky - thanks
Frisky - I will look into that contact, thanks
I don't want to drone on too much, but I'm a hard-working guy and I'm not working right now. I can't believe how worthless I feel. It's crazy, I keep telling myself that I've worked for years and do so again soon enough, but I find it hard to fill the time. I have loads of interests, but it doesn't feel right to be doing them in the day!
My job was possibly at risk, but I "jumped" in order to try and change my life and break the mould. It's been tough though.
It was a risk you took and on this occassion it didnt work out. Life is full of risks and some people are braver than others. You say you feel worthless, maybe with your spare time you have why not do some volunteering work with a charity "
In fairness - it's not that it hasn't worked out, it'd just it could be a long time before it does work out and every day of that intervening period is scary.
Just another thought on loneliness, in response to something someone read. I do agree we are responsible for that ourselves. I am very active - excellent social life, do loads of activities, meet loads of people etc. in a way it makes it harder when you still have these feelings.
I will try to do more though. |
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Here's something a bit different OP, i do a pre recorded smooth show on hospital radio - think of a soothing, calming song and I will include it.. We all have lots going on and the stuff I doat the hospital helps me immeasurably |
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
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"Here's something a bit different OP, i do a pre recorded smooth show on hospital radio - think of a soothing, calming song and I will include it.. We all have lots going on and the stuff I doat the hospital helps me immeasurably "
Thanks.
My last but one bout of unrequited love was with a woman from Leigh . I specialise in it, to be honest, but the current one is by far the worst ever!
That's a nice idea. A song..,,well I'm an ageing soul boy at heart. This is a bit obscure and may be a bit full-on lyrically for hospital radio, but I listen to A Whole Lot of Love by the Staple Singers in tough times. Would that be ok?
Some times life is so hard, things are so bad
Rough times at tomorrow is as twice as sad
But, do not you give up - no, life is not over
Look to the good side - it could be twice as bad
And, here comes another day and I know,
That there will be someway - you will see
A whole lot of love; a whole lot of love amongst us
Let me talk about it - baby, without even trying
When I look at to your eyes, they are beautiful things
But, do not you give up - no, the life is not over
Keep on - keeping on, see what the love can bring
And, if comes another day and I know,
That there will be someway - there will be
A whole lot of love; a whole lot of love; a whole lot of love
Hu - yey!
And if comes another day, and I know that,
There will be someway - there will be someway
A whole lot of love; a whole lot of love;
A whole lot of love...
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"Hi all
I feel a complete fool writing this, but just writing this down helps.
I'm very lonely today. I'm a sorted, friendly, sociable guy with many friends, but I feel isolated and at a bit of a loss of where to turn right now.
It may seem bizarre to turn to Fabs, but I actually find there's a very supportive, kind community of people here. I have my faults, but I'm one of those guys who values good conversation on here and I'm confident that the people I've interacted with on here would back me up on that.
I have tried to be supportive to others on here too, contributing positively to threads where others are struggling, particularly with anxiety related issues (I freely admit that's an issue for me).
I won't bore you with the reasons here, but there's been a lot if upheaval this year and I've made decisions for postibe reasons that I'm scared will backfire on me. I'm fully aware that people have far more serious stuff to contend with and, in many ways, I'm an extremely lucky person.
I'm sorry, this is a huge indulgence on my part. I'm say here in a cafe wishing someone would just give me a hug. I'm a 45 year-old bloke and I'm man enough to admit that.
I guess I'm hoping there's someone at a bit of a loose end today or feeling similar. I promise I'm not hoping this will lead anywhere else - it's just about some need for human interaction. I have many friends, but I don't want to bother them right now and sometimes it's easier to talk to people who are more detached from your life.
I don't blame any of you for reading this and thinking "what a self-obsessed fool". Honestly, I'm a good, kind guy who is just struggling a bit.
Thanks for reading. I know I'll feel an idiot as soon as I post this, but here goes....."
Its a new year on Jan 1st mate, it will soon be here, chin up, and lets hope 2015 is a better one eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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They say help comes when you need it most!!!......but I've yet to meet 'They' and give them a good piece of my mind 
Sorry your feeling a bit lost and struggling but it happens to us all! Well done for reaching out, hope you found some kind of good human interaction to help brighten your day.
Have a ((HUG)) from me |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"Here's something a bit different OP, i do a pre recorded smooth show on hospital radio - think of a soothing, calming song and I will include it.. We all have lots going on and the stuff I doat the hospital helps me immeasurably "
What a nice post |
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over a year ago
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"Well done that man, you can be in a room with a thousand people and still feel lonely.
When you feel you have hit the bottom, there is only one way and that is up
Her"
Love this thread. Forumites rock!
Hugs from me too OP. xxxx |
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
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Hi all
I planned to send a message to everyone who replied, but there's too many of you. I just want to say a massive thanks for all the support.
It still feels indulgent and attention-seeking to have done what I did this morning, and that's really not me. I was just tired - tired of being scared and anxious. Tired of being alone too (strains of Al Green fill my head!).
I've worked hard for years and covered it up brilliantly, but the real me shone through today. It made me realise how empty my life has been of simple affection for many years, and how important that is. Every virtual hug (man or woman) was welcomed and reciprocated.
I'm genuinely overwhelmed and humbled by the fact that people have taken time out of their busy lives to help me out. I've also had replies and messages from people dealing with far more serious stuff than me and that's helped me realise I'm a lucky guy.
I'm a hell of an emotional guy these days and today has been draining. I've ended it in better spirits than I started it and I can only thank you from the bottom of my heart, as you were instrumental in that.
Hopefully things will get better - I know it is down to me to sort this out and I must stay positive. That's the way that good things happen.
Anyway, thanks again - if anyone tells you fabs is rubbish, they'll have me to answer to
Finally, hugs are good....no actually, they are incredible. If you are reading this and someone you love is nearby, please go and give them a hug now!
Thanks again
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over a year ago
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You are welcome, we all need that support network from time to time and sometimes its better to chat it through with people who arent directly involved.
We didn't have that song but instead I played "Sitting Down Here" by Lena Marlin.. |
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"Here's something a bit different OP, i do a pre recorded smooth show on hospital radio - think of a soothing, calming song and I will include it.. We all have lots going on and the stuff I doat the hospital helps me immeasurably
What a nice post "
I suppose that shows there are even some normal nice guys amongst us hahaha |
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"I don't think you are a fool at all, I'm sure there are a lot of people on here who feel lonely quite a lot of the time and have a serious hug deficit they would like to put right on a daily basis, I know I would! I hope you find someone x"
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"I hope your today feels better than your yesterday did and just know that I am sending more hugs your way xxx "
Well said Lickawitch and seconded here. We need a hug emoji don't we. |
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over a year ago
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I know exactly how you feel living alone can be great but also very lonely.we all have our up and down days, keep your chin up,everynow and then I find someone comes along to cheer me up. |
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Hug from me too. Xx
Hope today is better.
I never felt more lonely than when I was married, have a close family(never wanted to trouble them with my worries) had a social life and work friends, but no one really there for me.
Got a divorce, retrained in a different career and all is much better now! (It took a while though) Oh and I joined fab!
X. |
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The mind is a strange thing and what we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us . We all get low and create our experiences by our thoughts our feelings blaming others a lot of the time or ourselves. We create that but No person no place and no thing has power as we are the thinkers in this , Who do this to ourselves . So we need to find a way to create peace and harmony a balance in your mind ... when we do we get that in life too I find . When I go to a dark place and I have been there .. I now see how my mind can play tricks and I control it and find ways and I go back to positive thinking as know a lots in the way we think and I can change it for the better. Sorry to run on but I found this really helped me . I lost my dad and I felt my world had gone Same time I lost my close friend who lied to me .. Then my close Auntie died it was all 3 at once . Then being ill so yes I know the dark side too .. x |
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
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Thanks to all the guys and gals who've posted since my last message of thanks. It's hugely appreciated and really humbled.
I managed to get a few things done today, but still very fragile tbh. I know it's down to me to be positive and hold my nerve.
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By *ost Sock OP Man
over a year ago
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""I'm very lonely today. I'm a sorted, friendly, sociable guy with many friends, but I feel isolated and at a bit of a loss of where to turn right now.
I feel this right now"
Sorry to hear that. I've had amazing support (thanks again all) and hope you get some too.
Feel free to send a message if you like. |
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""I'm very lonely today. I'm a sorted, friendly, sociable guy with many friends, but I feel isolated and at a bit of a loss of where to turn right now.
I feel this right now"
9 times out of 10 there is a reason behind this ....... maybe its something in your passed you need to deal with . At times its hard to pin point as could come from years ago . |
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