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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So meet a guy off here instant click, he then says he fallin for me , and wants to spend more time together , constant texts calls , which I'm really enjoying , we meet last night have another good time.
Arrange to meet tonight , more texts then i say goodnight .
Can't sleep so message him to see if awake nothing , so I pop on fab to read some story's , then get a message on fab off him to say great you say night to me and now your on here , then this morning I find he's blocked me .
So really confused now
Am I over reacting ? Just wish I hadn't let my guard down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you over reacting to what?
I don't think you've 'over' anything - you're just confused. As anyone would be.
That's the problem with getting to know anybody on a closer level I suppose. Problems can arise.
Personally I think you've had a good escape - if he's that quick to react negatively over you visiting a website (that you met him from) is he really somebody worth spending your time with? If both your intentions were to take things further and get closer perhaps discussing this site and usage of it was wise!
Life is too short. I'm sorry you're feeling crap but maybe just put it down to experience! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remember that fab is a swingers site, not a dating site.
To be honest he sounds like a bit of a control freak. Had this happen a few times now with women from here....meet a few times (which is good) then they start to get "clingy" ant to try and change you.
It may be that you like/seek just an exclusive relationship...your business, not ours. If that is the case then I suggest POF or Match etc. would be more suitable....mind you it seems that a fair chunk of folks on POF are on here too...so beware!
Think you may have had a lucky escape tbh. You didn't "let your guard down" You merely Sussex him for what he was. We all become notches on somebody's bedpost at sometime or other. Sorry that you appear to now simply be that to him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you over reacting to what?
I don't think you've 'over' anything - you're just confused. As anyone would be.
That's the problem with getting to know anybody on a closer level I suppose. Problems can arise.
Personally I think you've had a good escape - if he's that quick to react negatively over you visiting a website (that you met him from) is he really somebody worth spending your time with? If both your intentions were to take things further and get closer perhaps discussing this site and usage of it was wise!
Life is too short. I'm sorry you're feeling crap but maybe just put it down to experience! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm well aware this not a dating site and have been having great fun with some lovely people.
I don't normally let these things get to me . Never mind learn by my mistakes , thank you everyone xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Remember that fab is a swingers site, not a dating site.
To be honest he sounds like a bit of a control freak. Had this happen a few times now with women from here....meet a few times (which is good) then they start to get "clingy" ant to try and change you.
It may be that you like/seek just an exclusive relationship...your business, not ours. If that is the case then I suggest POF or Match etc. would be more suitable....mind you it seems that a fair chunk of folks on POF are on here too...so beware!
Think you may have had a lucky escape tbh. You didn't "let your guard down" You merely Sussex him for what he was. We all become notches on somebody's bedpost at sometime or other. Sorry that you appear to now simply be that to him."
Totally agree Mr nobbs, except for being a little harsh on guys from Sussex, I mean, what if he's from Essex, eh?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds to me like he wanted you to not come on here , yet he still was. So cake and eat it spring to mind. He may think about it later and I wouldn't be surprised if he was back in touch. if he is, might be worth letting him know how the land lies, if you decide to carry on seeing him. Set the ground rules. See it's not only us women that are complicated.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you , all you early birds , will teach me not to let my guard down and let men get in my head xx"
Tbh you probably doged a bullet sounds a bit "intense" for so soon but remember he's also thinking the same thing as you right now about letting his guard down and letting somone in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy and stalking have no place in swinging. "
So true yet there are some very stalkerish types on here.
And on that note hello to mine .o/
I know you're reading this ^_^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you , all you early birds , will teach me not to let my guard down and let men get in my head xx"
It's easy to let guys get in your head and under your skin. Emotions are hard to control. I'm a victim of my own emotions  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So meet a guy off here instant click, he then says he fallin for me , and wants to spend more time together , constant texts calls , which I'm really enjoying , we meet last night have another good time.
Arrange to meet tonight , more texts then i say goodnight .
Can't sleep so message him to see if awake nothing , so I pop on fab to read some story's , then get a message on fab off him to say great you say night to me and now your on here , then this morning I find he's blocked me .
So really confused now
Am I over reacting ? Just wish I hadn't let my guard down "
Babe this things happen, falling in love when having sex is good, but don't let emotion get involve until several meets, if shit like this happen, dust urself and move on. There is all was another just like the one before but better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So meet a guy off here instant click, he then says he fallin for me , and wants to spend more time together , constant texts calls , which I'm really enjoying , we meet last night have another good time.
Arrange to meet tonight , more texts then i say goodnight .
Can't sleep so message him to see if awake nothing , so I pop on fab to read some story's , then get a message on fab off him to say great you say night to me and now your on here , then this morning I find he's blocked me .
So really confused now
Am I over reacting ? Just wish I hadn't let my guard down "
I think he just using the being on fab thing as a get out clause. Better you know now he's a coward rather than later on down the line after becoming really attached to him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The perils of the online scene unfortunately.
Similar thing happened to me, got a right shitty message on kik from someone I was talking to from here because I said goodnight and didn't sign out, quite often I don't.
Some insecure people about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"one rule for him another for you - sounds familiar - had a lifetime of that kind of misery and thats exactly what it is "
How is it one rule for him and another for her?
They are talking she says
"Good night I'm going to bed"
He Continues doing whatever he was doing before believing she has gone to sleep he goes fabs and sees her online.
From his perspective she has just told him she's going to sleep to end the conversation with him but is actually online browsing fabs.
He never told her not to go on fabs or anything else he's just offended someone from his perspective lied to him.
No differnt to if you ask your friend to come out with you and they say "oh no sorry I'm busy watching the kids tonight"
You go out and then see said friend out on the town with their other friends.
Would you not feel hurt?
And find people saying "oh but you were out to have seen them out" a little bit of an odd response? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"one rule for him another for you - sounds familiar - had a lifetime of that kind of misery and thats exactly what it is
How is it one rule for him and another for her?
They are talking she says
"Good night I'm going to bed"
He Continues doing whatever he was doing before believing she has gone to sleep he goes fabs and sees her online.
From his perspective she has just told him she's going to sleep to end the conversation with him but is actually online browsing fabs.
He never told her not to go on fabs or anything else he's just offended someone from his perspective lied to him.
No differnt to if you ask your friend to come out with you and they say "oh no sorry I'm busy watching the kids tonight"
You go out and then see said friend out on the town with their other friends.
Would you not feel hurt?
And find people saying "oh but you were out to have seen them out" a little bit of an odd response?"
not the same thing at all - she had said night but couldnt get to sleep - so came on fab - not a crime |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Remember that fab is a swingers site, not a dating site.
To be honest he sounds like a bit of a control freak. Had this happen a few times now with women from here....meet a few times (which is good) then they start to get "clingy" ant to try and change you.
It may be that you like/seek just an exclusive relationship...your business, not ours. If that is the case then I suggest POF or Match etc. would be more suitable....mind you it seems that a fair chunk of folks on POF are on here too...so beware!
Think you may have had a lucky escape tbh. You didn't "let your guard down" You merely Sussex him for what he was. We all become notches on somebody's bedpost at sometime or other. Sorry that you appear to now simply be that to him."
This site is for people to use however they want within the rules and I don't see any rule saying it can't be used as a date site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I cant really go back on what I've said about other posts of a similarish nature(generally people talking about meets, where we have one half of the story), sooooooooooooooooooooooooo..
I wont jump to any conclusions...other than say, move on and enjoy more meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that OP, I have to say though had a guy posted this the responses would probably have been very different.
This is a swinging site, the advice people usually get when they get suddenly blocked is to put it down to experience and move on as everyone has the right and their own reasons to block whoever they want whenever they want.
I got blocked today by someone I thought I was corresponding nicely with too. Sadly it happens, keep your chin up, keep positive and I'm sure good times will come your way! Good luck!  |
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"Remember that fab is a swingers site, not a dating site.
To be honest he sounds like a bit of a control freak. Had this happen a few times now with women from here....meet a few times (which is good) then they start to get "clingy" ant to try and change you.
It may be that you like/seek just an exclusive relationship...your business, not ours. If that is the case then I suggest POF or Match etc. would be more suitable....mind you it seems that a fair chunk of folks on POF are on here too...so beware!
Think you may have had a lucky escape tbh. You didn't "let your guard down" You merely Sussex him for what he was. We all become notches on somebody's bedpost at sometime or other. Sorry that you appear to now simply be that to him.
This site is for people to use however they want within the rules and I don't see any rule saying it can't be used as a date site. "
I'd much rather meet someone off here....POF and match are a nightmare |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is he a control freak ?
Or was he just guilty of jumping to (the wrong) conclusions and this was his knee jerk reaction ?
Men can be emotional little souls as well ya know (and oh so easily hurt)
Either way, he needs a slap on the back of the legs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Remember that fab is a swingers site, not a dating site.
To be honest he sounds like a bit of a control freak. Had this happen a few times now with women from here....meet a few times (which is good) then they start to get "clingy" ant to try and change you.
It may be that you like/seek just an exclusive relationship...your business, not ours. If that is the case then I suggest POF or Match etc. would be more suitable....mind you it seems that a fair chunk of folks on POF are on here too...so beware!
Think you may have had a lucky escape tbh. You didn't "let your guard down" You merely Sussex him for what he was. We all become notches on somebody's bedpost at sometime or other. Sorry that you appear to now simply be that to him.
This site is for people to use however they want within the rules and I don't see any rule saying it can't be used as a date site.
I'd much rather meet someone off here....POF and match are a nightmare "
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