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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've decided to do a thread dedicating to those who have a disability whether its physical or mental. If anyone wants to talk about it, feel free to do so. No discrimination ok.
As for me, I would like to bring out that I have Asperger's Syndrome which is a form of Autism. It is something I've had to live with all my life and had to find ways of coping. With Asperger's being a learning disability, I do find it hard to learn on my own from time to time so need someone to show me what to do otherwise I would get stressed and have a mental breakdown. Luckily this does not happen often as I try my best to keep it under control.
When it comes to wanting to meet new people, I find no way on how to communicate as my brain just completely shuts down and it makes me feel like some kind of retard and end up thinking that other people think the same which does make me lose confidence.
I know that I shouldn't put myself down over this but I had to get this off my chest. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ah.....now I understand the reason why you want really detailed help with your profile, ie. What you can offer....
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I did try to add something to show what I can offer. It was really really hard to think of what to come up with. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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OP, it looks like you put a lot of thought into your communication.
One of the things I have noticed about most disabilities, physical and mental, is that the mind and the body often compensates in other ways.
Focus on the things that only you can do or that you enjoy and excel at. You are unique so make the most of that.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, it looks like you put a lot of thought into your communication.
One of the things I have noticed about most disabilities, physical and mental, is that the mind and the body often compensates in other ways.
Focus on the things that only you can do or that you enjoy and excel at. You are unique so make the most of that.
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Thanks. That's really helpful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Since I came back last month, I have not muttered the strength to send an opening message to anyone in the north west area as I'm afraid of not making of good impression.
That is what my condition does to me. It makes me feel isolated and alone which is depressing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have physical disability which limits me at times and causes pain and i have scars from the operations but in general it doesn't impact much on my swinging life now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have physical disability which limits me at times and causes pain and i have scars from the operations but in general it doesn't impact much on my swinging life now. "
That's good to hear that it doesn't impact your swinging life |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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I to have Asperger's and im also dyslexic so I no how you fill and I agree and can relate with your 1st post op.
Sending that 1st message on hear to sumone is just terafiying.
And I just carnt do it.
And then that's the spelling police.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I to have Asperger's and im also dyslexic so I no how you fill and I agree and can relate with your 1st post op.
Sending that 1st message on hear to sumone is just terafiying.
And I just carnt do it.
And then that's the spelling police. "
Yeah it is scary trying to send a first message |
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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago
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"Since I came back last month, I have not muttered the strength to send an opening message to anyone in the north west area as I'm afraid of not making of good impression.
That is what my condition does to me. It makes me feel isolated and alone which is depressing"
Big man hugs , can be a lonely place  |
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"Since I came back last month, I have not muttered the strength to send an opening message to anyone in the north west area as I'm afraid of not making of good impression.
That is what my condition does to me. It makes me feel isolated and alone which is depressing"
That's really sad, you seem to get on well with everyone in the forums. Why would you not make a good impression? |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"I to have Asperger's and im also dyslexic so I no how you fill and I agree and can relate with your 1st post op.
Sending that 1st message on hear to sumone is just terafiying.
And I just carnt do it.
And then that's the spelling police.
Yeah it is scary trying to send a first message"
Its Verry scary with Asperger's and sum people don't have a clue how nurv raking it can be.
I've been hear for about 4 munts and I still carnt send that 1st opening message.
But odley in the for rooms im fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I to have Asperger's and im also dyslexic so I no how you fill and I agree and can relate with your 1st post op.
Sending that 1st message on hear to sumone is just terafiying.
And I just carnt do it.
And then that's the spelling police.
Yeah it is scary trying to send a first message
Its Verry scary with Asperger's and sum people don't have a clue how nurv raking it can be.
I've been hear for about 4 munts and I still carnt send that 1st opening message.
But odley in the for rooms im fine."
Yeah I'm the same on the forums as I have no problem joining in on there |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"I to have Asperger's and im also dyslexic so I no how you fill and I agree and can relate with your 1st post op.
Sending that 1st message on hear to sumone is just terafiying.
And I just carnt do it.
And then that's the spelling police.
Yeah it is scary trying to send a first message
Its Verry scary with Asperger's and sum people don't have a clue how nurv raking it can be.
I've been hear for about 4 munts and I still carnt send that 1st opening message.
But odley in the for rooms im fine.
Yeah I'm the same on the forums as I have no problem joining in on there"
Ya The forums just have that free filling cos its open don't thay ?but a privout messige is like standing in frount of a juge jorey and exsarqushnar.
Well it is for me anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Since I came back last month, I have not muttered the strength to send an opening message to anyone in the north west area as I'm afraid of not making of good impression.
That is what my condition does to me. It makes me feel isolated and alone which is depressing
That's really sad, you seem to get on well with everyone in the forums. Why would you not make a good impression?"
When it comes to forums, I have no problem but when it comes to sending an opening message, my mind goes blank and I get worried that I'll say the wrong thing as this condition make me socially awkward |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I to have Asperger's and im also dyslexic so I no how you fill and I agree and can relate with your 1st post op.
Sending that 1st message on hear to sumone is just terafiying.
And I just carnt do it.
And then that's the spelling police.
Yeah it is scary trying to send a first message
Its Verry scary with Asperger's and sum people don't have a clue how nurv raking it can be.
I've been hear for about 4 munts and I still carnt send that 1st opening message.
But odley in the for rooms im fine.
Yeah I'm the same on the forums as I have no problem joining in on there
Ya The forums just have that free filling cos its open don't thay ?but a privout messige is like standing in frount of a juge jorey and exsarqushnar.
Well it is for me anyway."
You come across as such a lovely man on the forums, youve never got abusive or nasty at people who have been rude about your spelling when they haven't bothered to read your profile to see that you are dyslexic.
If I lived nearer to you, I would have messaged you to ask if you wanted to meet for a coffee. Don't give up on here, you make the forums a much nicer place xxx
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"Since I came back last month, I have not muttered the strength to send an opening message to anyone in the north west area as I'm afraid of not making of good impression.
That is what my condition does to me. It makes me feel isolated and alone which is depressing
That's really sad, you seem to get on well with everyone in the forums. Why would you not make a good impression?
When it comes to forums, I have no problem but when it comes to sending an opening message, my mind goes blank and I get worried that I'll say the wrong thing as this condition make me socially awkward"
And wot makes it wors is that most people demarnd 1 or 2 sentouncess in that 1st message witch just adds to the presher for anyone with asparaguses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Going to a club alone is out of the question for me.
One of my friends on another thread who understands the Asperger's condition explains it best. She said "all the first visit nerves and anxieties are Amplied ten fold and then he'd likely unintentionally end up isolating himself out of fear of saying the wrong thing and upsetting people, not that he'd have done it to deliberately upset anyone, but it can be a very socially deabilitating condition in that sense" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Since I came back last month, I have not muttered the strength to send an opening message to anyone in the north west area as I'm afraid of not making of good impression.
That is what my condition does to me. It makes me feel isolated and alone which is depressing
That's really sad, you seem to get on well with everyone in the forums. Why would you not make a good impression?
When it comes to forums, I have no problem but when it comes to sending an opening message, my mind goes blank and I get worried that I'll say the wrong thing as this condition make me socially awkward
And wot makes it wors is that most people demarnd 1 or 2 sentouncess in that 1st message witch just adds to the presher for anyone with asparaguses."
Exactly. A simple hello and how are you is not enough for them anymore |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"I to have Asperger's and im also dyslexic so I no how you fill and I agree and can relate with your 1st post op.
Sending that 1st message on hear to sumone is just terafiying.
And I just carnt do it.
And then that's the spelling police.
Yeah it is scary trying to send a first message
Its Verry scary with Asperger's and sum people don't have a clue how nurv raking it can be.
I've been hear for about 4 munts and I still carnt send that 1st opening message.
But odley in the for rooms im fine.
Yeah I'm the same on the forums as I have no problem joining in on there
Ya The forums just have that free filling cos its open don't thay ?but a privout messige is like standing in frount of a juge jorey and exsarqushnar.
Well it is for me anyway.
You come across as such a lovely man on the forums, youve never got abusive or nasty at people who have been rude about your spelling when they haven't bothered to read your profile to see that you are dyslexic.
If I lived nearer to you, I would have messaged you to ask if you wanted to meet for a coffee. Don't give up on here, you make the forums a much nicer place xxx
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Thanks 
Im heading off now cos I fill I've hi jaked op's tether witch I dont want to do. |
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"Exactly. A simple hello and how are you is not enough for them anymore"
As a man there's a big chance your message will get ignore and/or deleted.
So you really have noting to fear because you'll never write the perfect message every time.
So send messages knowing they'll get knocked back. And then one day one might not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I to have Asperger's and im also dyslexic so I no how you fill and I agree and can relate with your 1st post op.
Sending that 1st message on hear to sumone is just terafiying.
And I just carnt do it.
And then that's the spelling police.
Yeah it is scary trying to send a first message
Its Verry scary with Asperger's and sum people don't have a clue how nurv raking it can be.
I've been hear for about 4 munts and I still carnt send that 1st opening message.
But odley in the for rooms im fine.
Yeah I'm the same on the forums as I have no problem joining in on there
Ya The forums just have that free filling cos its open don't thay ?but a privout messige is like standing in frount of a juge jorey and exsarqushnar.
Well it is for me anyway.
You come across as such a lovely man on the forums, youve never got abusive or nasty at people who have been rude about your spelling when they haven't bothered to read your profile to see that you are dyslexic.
If I lived nearer to you, I would have messaged you to ask if you wanted to meet for a coffee. Don't give up on here, you make the forums a much nicer place xxx
Thanks
Im heading off now cos I fill I've hi jaked op's tether witch I dont want to do."
Its ok no worries. I think we need to spread the awareness on this site otherwise we're just gonna end up being put in the sidelines and ignored |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Exactly. A simple hello and how are you is not enough for them anymore
As a man there's a big chance your message will get ignore and/or deleted.
So you really have noting to fear because you'll never write the perfect message every time.
So send messages knowing they'll get knocked back. And then one day one might not "
I wish it was that easy as I wouldn't know what to say |
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"Exactly. A simple hello and how are you is not enough for them anymore
As a man there's a big chance your message will get ignore and/or deleted.
So you really have noting to fear because you'll never write the perfect message every time.
So send messages knowing they'll get knocked back. And then one day one might not
I wish it was that easy as I wouldn't know what to say"
Yet in the forums you're great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Exactly. A simple hello and how are you is not enough for them anymore
As a man there's a big chance your message will get ignore and/or deleted.
So you really have noting to fear because you'll never write the perfect message every time.
So send messages knowing they'll get knocked back. And then one day one might not
I wish it was that easy as I wouldn't know what to say
Yet in the forums you're great."
Exactly. I have no problems joining on the forum but when it comes to sending an opening message to someone, its damn near impossible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As much as I accept that I have this condition, I have worried in the past of mentioning it in case people thing there is something wrong with me and should be avoided like the plague |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"Exactly. A simple hello and how are you is not enough for them anymore
As a man there's a big chance your message will get ignore and/or deleted.
So you really have noting to fear because you'll never write the perfect message every time.
So send messages knowing they'll get knocked back. And then one day one might not
I wish it was that easy as I wouldn't know what to say
Yet in the forums you're great.
Exactly. I have no problems joining on the forum but when it comes to sending an opening message to someone, its damn near impossible"
Your not alown.
Im almost in ezakley the same boat.
It's just thos.. Wot if thort's
That bild up wen trying to send a privout message.
Wot if its rong
Wot if thay misunderstand
Wot if thay don't like it
Wot if .......
This list never ends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Exactly. A simple hello and how are you is not enough for them anymore
As a man there's a big chance your message will get ignore and/or deleted.
So you really have noting to fear because you'll never write the perfect message every time.
So send messages knowing they'll get knocked back. And then one day one might not
I wish it was that easy as I wouldn't know what to say
Yet in the forums you're great.
Exactly. I have no problems joining on the forum but when it comes to sending an opening message to someone, its damn near impossible
Your not alown.
Im almost in ezakley the same boat.
It's just thos.. Wot if thort's
That bild up wen trying to send a privout message.
Wot if its rong
Wot if thay misunderstand
Wot if thay don't like it
Wot if .......
This list never ends."
That's how I feel when it comes to doing a profile. It is hard for me to describe myself and what photos to put up. I think my profile is all over the place to be honest and I feel like its gonna put people off at the first glance |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"Exactly. A simple hello and how are you is not enough for them anymore
As a man there's a big chance your message will get ignore and/or deleted.
So you really have noting to fear because you'll never write the perfect message every time.
So send messages knowing they'll get knocked back. And then one day one might not
I wish it was that easy as I wouldn't know what to say
Yet in the forums you're great.
Exactly. I have no problems joining on the forum but when it comes to sending an opening message to someone, its damn near impossible
Your not alown.
Im almost in ezakley the same boat.
It's just thos.. Wot if thort's
That bild up wen trying to send a privout message.
Wot if its rong
Wot if thay misunderstand
Wot if thay don't like it
Wot if .......
This list never ends.
That's how I feel when it comes to doing a profile. It is hard for me to describe myself and what photos to put up. I think my profile is all over the place to be honest and I feel like its gonna put people off at the first glance "
I just had a look at it and your profile looks fine to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Exactly. A simple hello and how are you is not enough for them anymore
As a man there's a big chance your message will get ignore and/or deleted.
So you really have noting to fear because you'll never write the perfect message every time.
So send messages knowing they'll get knocked back. And then one day one might not
I wish it was that easy as I wouldn't know what to say
Yet in the forums you're great.
Exactly. I have no problems joining on the forum but when it comes to sending an opening message to someone, its damn near impossible
Your not alown.
Im almost in ezakley the same boat.
It's just thos.. Wot if thort's
That bild up wen trying to send a privout message.
Wot if its rong
Wot if thay misunderstand
Wot if thay don't like it
Wot if .......
This list never ends.
That's how I feel when it comes to doing a profile. It is hard for me to describe myself and what photos to put up. I think my profile is all over the place to be honest and I feel like its gonna put people off at the first glance
I just had a look at it and your profile looks fine to me. "
Thanks I appreciate it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have Aspergers but I worry about my profile too and how I come across on here.
I think that's just human nature, I know it's harder for you but just remember a lot of us on here also worry too.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't have Aspergers but I worry about my profile too and how I come across on here.
I think that's just human nature, I know it's harder for you but just remember a lot of us on here also worry too.
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That's understandable |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"I don't have Aspergers but I worry about my profile too and how I come across on here.
I think that's just human nature, I know it's harder for you but just remember a lot of us on here also worry too.
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True everyone worrys about things but take a normall worry for you then times it by 100 and that's wot its like to live with Asperger's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't have Aspergers but I worry about my profile too and how I come across on here.
I think that's just human nature, I know it's harder for you but just remember a lot of us on here also worry too.
True everyone worrys about things but take a normall worry for you then times it by 100 and that's wot its like to live with Asperger's."
Couldn't have put it better myself |
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