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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That is the question.
For me cuddles are not a part of sex... Unless its with someone your close to...
I'm quite happy to cuddle up on the sofa with a mate watching a movie or when someone is upset.. me or them... But that's very different to cuddling up post sex or even mid sex
But if a meet wanted to cuddle up... I'm very uncomfortable with it... Yet quite happy to with long term partner..
Am I weird....
I have talked to friends and mostly the divide is completely single... They cuddle meets... Part of a couple...then they don't..
So I'm curious ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can appreciate where you're coming from.
Being crude to put my point across...I don't whisper sweet nothings to my spam javelin after masturbating,
So why would I do it to someone I know for the single reason of sexual gratification?
I love cuddles and small talk, but only with those I have a real connection to.
As it says on my profile actually! |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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I've never been one for cuddles. I may do a quick spoons with my FB when he stays just prior to sleep - though this has been known to lead to another shag - but I like my space. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only really cuddle with one person. He likes to get in bed and cuddle for a couple of hours. It's nice to feel flesh on flesh and be relaxed. He likes to kiss a lot too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a regular FWB that occassionally stays overnight and we do have a cuddle in bed, and when in relationshops i love a good snuggle, but other than that i generally dont, the most a meet gets is a quick farewell hug at the door |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have a regular FWB that occassionally stays overnight and we do have a cuddle in bed, and when in relationshops i love a good snuggle, but other than that i generally dont, the most a meet gets is a quick farewell hug at the door "
See this is what I'm like..
Although ive not spent the whole night in bed with someone for many years xx
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I think this comes down to how well you get on with that person and what ever understanding you both have. "
I disagree. I adored my husband but still didn't really cuddle him. I'm not a cuddly kind of person. |
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I like to cuddle if it's on offer, as a single person it's one of the things I miss but you have to gauge what the the other person is comfortable with too, if he said "get over here for a cuddle" I'm not going to refuse ![](/icons/s/2/halo.gif) |
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I di it all without strict rules on the type of relationship. Some people are more matched for hugs and cuddles and sometimes I application them more.
I like to be non formulaic and just be spontaneous. I'm sensitive and also love a range of physical intimacy. |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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"I like cuddling, I enjoy the touching after sex....little strokes and kisses
Would you do that with a meet though?"
We have a lot of repeat meets and some have become very close friends I am good either way, if someone gets off the bed and starts getting dressed then that's fine, if they lay there stroking and cuddling that's good too ![](/icons/s/2/cute.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm going to go against the grain here (yet again!). I'm part of a couple and often cuddle up with those I meet.....and what's more my husband loves hearing about the sensual side of my meets. ![](/icons/thumb_up.png) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile does state I am a really warm and tactile kind of person so I like it pretty intimate to be honest, but this is dependant on who I am meeting and how the chemistry is and if we both feel comfortable, for me casual sex does not mean it has to be lacking warmth etc. ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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aww yer have got to lay and have a cuddle after sex I treat my meets like we are lovers Even if it just for that one night it's lovely to both do all the things you miss been single without all the stuff that goes with been in a relationship Or maybe that is just me and the ladies I have tended to meet c |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"aww yer have got to lay and have a cuddle after sex I treat my meets like we are lovers Even if it just for that one night it's lovely to both do all the things you miss been single without all the stuff that goes with been in a relationship Or maybe that is just me and the ladies I have tended to meet c"
My play partner is the same and yet I hate the thought of cuddling up both me.. or him. Once ive finished I want them to go. Yet I'm not the same with my play partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on the nature of two people, and their connection / understanding.
I'm not generally cuddly if it's time to sleep, love a good starfish ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never cuddle if I am meeting with hubby (ie threesome or full swap) but will cuddle when I meet alone. Don't cuddle with all meets though... Depends on the person, the mood and how much time we have. |
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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago
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Am a bit of a cuddler myself whether it be a long term partner or a meet.
Feels right to be cuddled up recovering rather than getting dressed and leaving, which IMO is wrong but everyone will see it differently ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm very tactile and love to cuddle and touch, love after sex snuggling up, kissing and stroking before round 2 "
Lol see this I agree with if it's someone you have feelings for... But I'd not snuggle or kiss before round 2. But I also mostly meet in clubs so its different.
Seems a lot more people find it odd to not do it though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm very tactile and love to cuddle and touch, love after sex snuggling up, kissing and stroking before round 2
Lol see this I agree with if it's someone you have feelings for... But I'd not snuggle or kiss before round 2. But I also mostly meet in clubs so its different.
Seems a lot more people find it odd to not do it though x " .
It is not odd it is just what you prefer, your not comfortable with that so you don't do it and that is what is best ![](/icons/s/2/cute.gif) |
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"I like cuddling, I enjoy the touching after sex....little strokes and kisses
Would you do that with a meet though?
We have a lot of repeat meets and some have become very close friends I am good either way, if someone gets off the bed and starts getting dressed then that's fine, if they lay there stroking and cuddling that's good too "
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I won't cuddle on a meet, it's not what I'm there for, not even with those I am friends with. Doesn't mean I want him to cum, roll off, fart, wipe his cock on the curtains and bugger off
I like to chat a bit and stroking is nice. But no cuddles. |
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I have some friends who, after we've shagged each other's brains out, wrap themselves around me in a massive, protecting, coming down from a huge cum, cuddle.
I can't do sex without some intimacy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That is the question.
For me cuddles are not a part of sex... Unless its with someone your close to...
I'm quite happy to cuddle up on the sofa with a mate watching a movie or when someone is upset.. me or them... But that's very different to cuddling up post sex or even mid sex
But if a meet wanted to cuddle up... I'm very uncomfortable with it... Yet quite happy to with long term partner..
Am I weird....
I have talked to friends and mostly the divide is completely single... They cuddle meets... Part of a couple...then they don't..
So I'm curious ... "
Let's have a group hug!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That is the question.
For me cuddles are not a part of sex... Unless its with someone your close to...
I'm quite happy to cuddle up on the sofa with a mate watching a movie or when someone is upset.. me or them... But that's very different to cuddling up post sex or even mid sex
But if a meet wanted to cuddle up... I'm very uncomfortable with it... Yet quite happy to with long term partner..
Am I weird....
I have talked to friends and mostly the divide is completely single... They cuddle meets... Part of a couple...then they don't..
So I'm curious ...
Let's have a group hug!!!" haha.. see that's fine too xx it's more one on one I'm on about x I think men like it more than women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That is the question.
For me cuddles are not a part of sex... Unless its with someone your close to...
I'm quite happy to cuddle up on the sofa with a mate watching a movie or when someone is upset.. me or them... But that's very different to cuddling up post sex or even mid sex
But if a meet wanted to cuddle up... I'm very uncomfortable with it... Yet quite happy to with long term partner..
Am I weird....
I have talked to friends and mostly the divide is completely single... They cuddle meets... Part of a couple...then they don't..
So I'm curious ...
Let's have a group hug!!!haha.. see that's fine too xx it's more one on one I'm on about x I think men like it more than women"
I've always wondered why I've been called bloke bird in the past ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope I just bust a nut and get the fuck out of there as quick as I can.
Probably sounds wrong but to me so does sex with no kissing and cuddling.
But we are all different I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love cuddles but addmitinly i only do this with certain guys who i meet off here. But it is only a selected few who i meet regular. There is one guy who i meet and he stays over so we treat these meets like dates. And for that one night every so often we are lovers for the night but without the hassle of being a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"aww yer have got to lay and have a cuddle after sex I treat my meets like we are lovers Even if it just for that one night it's lovely to both do all the things you miss been single without all the stuff that goes with been in a relationship Or maybe that is just me and the ladies I have tended to meet c"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex and cuddling are two seperate things for me.
I have a friend and we cuddle and hold hands but in the thirty years I've known her it's never been sexual between us
. I like cuddling Mrs P after sex but I don't really cuddle our meets. Sometimes lay entwined for a few minutes but that doesn't constitute cuddling to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a one-on-one meet (which is most of my meets) then intimacy is essential for me! There just wouldn't be any chemistry for me without it! So yeah - who wants the first cuddle guys?? ![](/icons/s/biggrin.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope I just bust a nut and get the fuck out of there as quick as I can.
Probably sounds wrong but to me so does sex with no kissing and cuddling.
But we are all different I guess."
You never cuddled and massaged a woman after or during sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope I just bust a nut and get the fuck out of there as quick as I can.
Probably sounds wrong but to me so does sex with no kissing and cuddling.
But we are all different I guess.
You never cuddled and massaged a woman after or during sex? "
I think you have misunderstood my point
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope I just bust a nut and get the fuck out of there as quick as I can.
Probably sounds wrong but to me so does sex with no kissing and cuddling.
But we are all different I guess.
You never cuddled and massaged a woman after or during sex?
I think you have misunderstood my point
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I am totally bloody confused! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a one-on-one meet (which is most of my meets) then intimacy is essential for me! There just wouldn't be any chemistry for me without it! So yeah - who wants the first cuddle guys??
Moi! "
Ok - but a hell of a long way to come for a cuddle!! ![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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"On a one-on-one meet (which is most of my meets) then intimacy is essential for me! There just wouldn't be any chemistry for me without it! So yeah - who wants the first cuddle guys??
Moi!
Ok - but a hell of a long way to come for a cuddle!! "
Bolt on more than a cuddle and it could be arranged! ![](/icons/s/redface.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can't and don't do cold and clinical sex. Cuddles, intimacy and being tactile doesn't have to involve feelings or love.
I wouldn't be able to fully connect to someone who just wanted to fuck and leave....just not my style at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love to cuddle after sex.
In a bi threesome I do love being in the middle of a intimate embrace. All three of us sharing the moment.
But that's just me ![](/icons/s/redface.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love to cuddle after sex.
In a bi threesome I do love being in the middle of a intimate embrace. All three of us sharing the moment.
But that's just me "
that sounds lovely ![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends on the guy and the meet. I have couple of fbs that I've known a long time so a post shag cuddle and catch up have become comfortable but I guess we're friends too now. New meets it varies but tend to find that whilst there may be a chat with some physical contact it's rarely as intimate, but still nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cuddles n sex .....yep. A different thing. Very rare I cuddle with a "meet" unless a very regular one....and they staying overnight. So yes there are a few of them (they know who they are if this gets back to them)
I also have a very special friend (now back on here). We met on fab...yes we fucked several times but didn't really cuddle. We came to be really good friends. We go away at weekends to her caravan. We cuddle as we share the same bed....but we don't do the horizontal jogging thing as it would now mess with our heads a bit.
Actually that was until she came round rather over horny last Wednesday to be "fixed"... Which we did ...but had to be rather distant/mechanical about it...to keep separate from our friendship.
At the weekend...back to the caravan and sharing a bed. We got away with it! |
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Oh yes, I love to embrace and stroke, if both people are sensuous by nature it just comes automatically I find. I had the most fabulous back stroking given to me by a meet recently, it was so therapeutic - I'd really like explore more of the tantric side of sensuality.
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"On a one-on-one meet (which is most of my meets) then intimacy is essential for me! There just wouldn't be any chemistry for me without it! So yeah - who wants the first cuddle guys?? "
I think that might be me! |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
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"I can't and don't do cold and clinical sex. Cuddles, intimacy and being tactile doesn't have to involve feelings or love.
I wouldn't be able to fully connect to someone who just wanted to fuck and leave....just not my style at all."
I couldn't have put that better myself !! ![](/icons/s/2/cute.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't and don't do cold and clinical sex. Cuddles, intimacy and being tactile doesn't have to involve feelings or love.
I wouldn't be able to fully connect to someone who just wanted to fuck and leave....just not my style at all."
It's not cold and clinical. . But I don't want a meet to cuddle me... After sex I may ( I mostly meet in clubs so not often happens) lay and talk But I will move away from skin to skin...
I'm naturally tactile and love to be stroked and touched... But therre is a time and a place in my view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't and don't do cold and clinical sex. Cuddles, intimacy and being tactile doesn't have to involve feelings or love.
I wouldn't be able to fully connect to someone who just wanted to fuck and leave....just not my style at all.
It's not cold and clinical. . But I don't want a meet to cuddle me... After sex I may ( I mostly meet in clubs so not often happens) lay and talk But I will move away from skin to skin...
I'm naturally tactile and love to be stroked and touched... But therre is a time and a place in my view. "
Well it is cold, humans are naturally demonstrative and you are choosing not to engage in that level of intimacy.
We're all different though and enjoy different levels of intimacy, I don't think there is a right or wrong answer as long as both parties are happy with it. |
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"That is the question.
For me cuddles are not a part of sex... Unless its with someone your close to...
I'm quite happy to cuddle up on the sofa with a mate watching a movie or when someone is upset.. me or them... But that's very different to cuddling up post sex or even mid sex
But if a meet wanted to cuddle up... I'm very uncomfortable with it... Yet quite happy to with long term partner..
Am I weird....
I have talked to friends and mostly the divide is completely single... They cuddle meets... Part of a couple...then they don't..
So I'm curious ... "
For me, sex consists of foreplay, sex and afterplay (cuddles). Take out any one of those and I feel cheated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only really cuddle with one person. He likes to get in bed and cuddle for a couple of hours. It's nice to feel flesh on flesh and be relaxed. He likes to kiss a lot too "
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Think it depends on the person my meets are all friends and there is a certain amount of intimacy I guess for those who meet for just sex it would be uncomfortable but for me to just have sex without that intimacy wouldnt feel right and yup can also be post cpl meet before returning to my bed or falling asleep there |
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