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Only you can decide in the long run, however you can walk away and not tell him how you feel or bite the bullet and tell him your true feelings he may feel the same but in the long run you have to prepare yourself if it all goes wrong...good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its just sex! Always has been!
He has been very clear about that!
Is it because he's so good at the sex or is my female brain going into overdrive? Lol x |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Do you do other things over and above sex? If not then think about what it is you love and what it is that you lust.
Good luck and if it's love then you have to take the chance that it might be reciprocated.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been in this situation a few times and always come clean. Sometimes it's worked out amazingly others not so good. But at least I've tried. Good luck Hun xx |
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"Its just sex! Always has been!
He has been very clear about that!
Is it because he's so good at the sex or is my female brain going into overdrive? Lol x"
Then I'd keep is as sex...I crossed into that murky water and got my heart well and truly broken...worst time of my life but there are success stories of FB relationships going further |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
How often do you see each other? Maybe cut back a bit.
Getting that intimate with someone often and regularly can lead to feeling warm and fuzzy. Sex is a powerful thing but doing the dishes together and putting out the bins is a better test.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its just sex! Always has been!
He has been very clear about that!
Is it because he's so good at the sex or is my female brain going into overdrive? Lol x"
Run!! Run very fast. Happened to me. I told him now we hate each others guts. If he's told you its just sex it's probably that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its just sex! Always has been!
He has been very clear about that!
Is it because he's so good at the sex or is my female brain going into overdrive? Lol x
Then I'd keep is as sex...I crossed into that murky water and got my heart well and truly broken...worst time of my life but there are success stories of FB relationships going further "
This... Got the T-shirt so to speak. Tread carefully  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your FB has made it clear that all he wants is sex, why spoil it by telling him how you feel? I can't say if it's love or lust that your feeling. Maybe take a step back and take some time for yourself to give you a clearer head and some thinking time. Good luck  |
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"Just sex.. nothing more"
well enjoy it... As 20 % of something is better than 100% of nothing! If you can cope with that, then carry on and keep enjoying ... If not, you can take a chance and risk 100 % of all or nothing... Lots depends on the bigger picture really? Something only you know OP.... Good Luck with all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
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Lol!!! So true!!!
That comment made me giggle!!
But the issue is that I think his farts smell like roses atm! X |
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"Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
Lol!!! So true!!!
That comment made me giggle!!
But the issue is that I think his farts smell like roses atm! X"
choccy farts?! Its Love! Lol  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
Lol!!! So true!!!
That comment made me giggle!!
But the issue is that I think his farts smell like roses atm! X choccy farts?! Its Love! Lol "
Dare I ask what choccy farts are? Anything to do with scat? |
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"Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
Lol!!! So true!!!
That comment made me giggle!!
But the issue is that I think his farts smell like roses atm! X choccy farts?! Its Love! Lol Dare I ask what choccy farts are? Anything to do with scat?"
roses choccy?! Lol |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation? "
It happens. It's wonderful if it's reciprocated and it's the slow and very painful death if it isn't and you try and keep things as they were.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
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Sooo true
Rolls over,scratches my arse and farts 
Hopefully that'll warn people off |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
Lol!!! So true!!!
That comment made me giggle!!
But the issue is that I think his farts smell like roses atm! X choccy farts?! Its Love! Lol Dare I ask what choccy farts are? Anything to do with scat?roses choccy?! Lol "
£5 tubs available in most supermarkets at the moment.
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"Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
Lol!!! So true!!!
That comment made me giggle!!
But the issue is that I think his farts smell like roses atm! X choccy farts?! Its Love! Lol Dare I ask what choccy farts are? Anything to do with scat?roses choccy?! Lol
£5 tubs available in most supermarkets at the moment.
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thank you! X |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
Lol!!! So true!!!
That comment made me giggle!!
But the issue is that I think his farts smell like roses atm! X"
you do have it bad!! lol you will soon realise they stink like any other blokes lol |
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"Spending nights together having fun, making you feel great about yourself and life is miles away from the moaning, farting, snoring, boring sod he may well become once you step out of the haze.
Lol!!! So true!!!
That comment made me giggle!!
But the issue is that I think his farts smell like roses atm! X choccy farts?! Its Love! Lol Dare I ask what choccy farts are? Anything to do with scat?roses choccy?! Lol
£5 tubs available in most supermarkets at the moment.
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Well if I need to stop seeing him then choccy rosey farts it shall be!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lets be Honest its a Bloke, Course your gonna fall for Him, All men are irresistible once we get our hands in yer undercrackers, One stroke of the Button and your under our spell.
Best you start looking for Matching Curtains n Throwovers ASAP
Romantic Gimp  |
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"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation? "
Just be v careful. Even if you are getting mixed messages be wary. A week after a great weekend, romantic meal, 'lets go round and see my mum - she wants to meet you' I got a very painful reminder that it was just sex. Dumped after 2 years. So easy to miss read the signs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have fallen in love with my fuck buddy!
Is this love or just over powering lust?
Should I continue as we have always been or cut him loose?
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The fuck buddy bubble is a nice place to be,my advice would be not to burst it.
But on the other hand you may need a clean break..only you can decide. Good luck xx |
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"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation?
Just be v careful. Even if you are getting mixed messages be wary. A week after a great weekend, romantic meal, 'lets go round and see my mum - she wants to meet you' I got a very painful reminder that it was just sex. Dumped after 2 years. So easy to miss read the signs."
If its was meant to be then it would of started by now. Hope you met someone your happy with now x |
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"Lets be Honest its a Bloke, Course your gonna fall for Him, All men are irresistible once we get our hands in yer undercrackers, One stroke of the Button and your under our spell.
Best you start looking for Matching Curtains n Throwovers ASAP
Romantic Gimp "
Cheeky! But so true!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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See how you feel over a longer period of time...
You don't tell us if he's been a fb for 2 weeks or 2 yrs...
I've had fb's that have become like best mates.. sex is great as a bonus... but they stay that great because we can simply pick up and put down as it suits us... maybe having been badly hurt in the past is what stops me ever crossing that line.. but as much as I fall in love with them... I'd never tell them..
I'd much rather keep the good bits and hug my duvet on the lonesome moments
Good luck xx |
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"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation?
Just be v careful. Even if you are getting mixed messages be wary. A week after a great weekend, romantic meal, 'lets go round and see my mum - she wants to meet you' I got a very painful reminder that it was just sex. Dumped after 2 years. So easy to miss read the signs."
Had the same happen to me, every weekend together, even went looking at houses together for him to invest him, was with him when his dad became terminally ill, xmas at his for me to tell him how i felt and him to tell me ill never be girlfriend material but im a good shag.... thats made me very wary of men now x |
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"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation?
Just be v careful. Even if you are getting mixed messages be wary. A week after a great weekend, romantic meal, 'lets go round and see my mum - she wants to meet you' I got a very painful reminder that it was just sex. Dumped after 2 years. So easy to miss read the signs.
Had the same happen to me, every weekend together, even went looking at houses together for him to invest him, was with him when his dad became terminally ill, xmas at his for me to tell him how i felt and him to tell me ill never be girlfriend material but im a good shag.... thats made me very wary of men now x"
yes watch the inconsistent signs, I have never gone wrong by it.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation?
Just be v careful. Even if you are getting mixed messages be wary. A week after a great weekend, romantic meal, 'lets go round and see my mum - she wants to meet you' I got a very painful reminder that it was just sex. Dumped after 2 years. So easy to miss read the signs.
Had the same happen to me, every weekend together, even went looking at houses together for him to invest him, was with him when his dad became terminally ill, xmas at his for me to tell him how i felt and him to tell me ill never be girlfriend material but im a good shag.... thats made me very wary of men now x"
That is so cruel.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't always look for things that are not there. Hate to say it but if he says it's just sex then perhaps it really just is. Hope I'm wrong as you clearly adore him xxxx Good Luck! |
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"been there done that last 3 years... i fell pregnant he fucked off left me broken hearted.
he was clear it was sex not love too "
Haha did we meet the same bloke who did a Linford Christie chin up xx |
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when guys say its just sex, it usually is just sex.
Guys fantasise over sex, different senarios, people, experiences etc.
Girls however seem to confuse a friendship with benefits with dates
don't get me wrong some guys will do the same but far less common
I've got mostly male friends (few are fb's) so do have a ladish attitude myself.
I personally love no man, but love the moment and the feeling in that moment, but like a guy's they fade, generally once i've got what I want.
I do get insatiable lusts after senarios/particular people for little to no reason at all....but thats part of the fun now.
I think for you, you need to take a step back, break maybe & take a good hard think at what you are feeling and more importantly why,
are you like me and its the feeling of the moment? or do you genuinely love him, what type of love is it?
a love for what he can do & how he makes you feel sexually?
a love for him as a person?
doesn't matter what the answers are long as you don't lie to yourself about it.
p.s. you never really know someone till you live with them  |
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when guys say its just sex, it usually is just sex.
Guys fantasise over sex, different senarios, people, experiences etc.
Girls however seem to confuse a friendship with benefits with dates
don't get me wrong some guys will do the same but far less common
I've got mostly male friends (few are fb's) so do have a ladish attitude myself.
I personally love no man, but love the moment and the feeling in that moment, but like a guy's they fade, generally once i've got what I want.
I do get insatiable lusts after senarios/particular people for little to no reason at all....but thats part of the fun now.
I think for you, you need to take a step back, break maybe & take a good hard think at what you are feeling and more importantly why,
are you like me and its the feeling of the moment? or do you genuinely love him, what type of love is it?
a love for what he can do & how he makes you feel sexually?
a love for him as a person?
doesn't matter what the answers are long as you don't lie to yourself about it.
p.s. you never really know someone till you live with them |
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i have a few fb on this site and if i arrive on a friday it is very rare that i leave their house before monday ..we enjoy each others company but we are not emotionally attached to each other after years |
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Well you could keep quiet and just enjoy the sex... that is if you can JUST enjoy the sex whilst your busy brain is fantasising away about love.
I think the important questions are:
If this feeling stays of even grows as you continue to meet, how much will it hurt when he can't meet you because he's meeting someone else?
Would you be able to handle him taking a gal out on a date at the weekend but being able to come and fuck you may be on a Tuesday? |
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"been there done that last 3 years... i fell pregnant he fucked off left me broken hearted.
he was clear it was sex not love too
Haha did we meet the same bloke who did a Linford Christie chin up xx"
Im fine now hun i met the man of my dreams had a son with him but he passed away 8 months ago x |
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"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation? "
I was in this situation (we were seeing each other regularly for 6-months) but I decided not to tell (self preservation kicked in) and I pulled back a bit and became a wee bit distant blaming work as we were seeing each other twice a night at times.. We still see each other now and again and talk regularly as good friends. We alsobstill have great sex and good fun but without the fuzzy cloud for me now..
Maybe a wee but of distance for a while will make you feel differently..
Hope this helps..
I hope this helps.. |
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"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation?
Just be v careful. Even if you are getting mixed messages be wary. A week after a great weekend, romantic meal, 'lets go round and see my mum - she wants to meet you' I got a very painful reminder that it was just sex. Dumped after 2 years. So easy to miss read the signs."
That's really cruel on his part, he was clearly leading you on. Don't feel bad.
So many similar stories on this thread. Very unfair for the women feeling bad when in those cases it was the man sending mixed messages.  |
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"Well you could keep quiet and just enjoy the sex... that is if you can JUST enjoy the sex whilst your busy brain is fantasising away about love.
I think the important questions are:
If this feeling stays of even grows as you continue to meet, how much will it hurt when he can't meet you because he's meeting someone else?
Would you be able to handle him taking a gal out on a date at the weekend but being able to come and fuck you may be on a Tuesday?"
These things would defo mess with my head, best to take a step back
Also don't think I could ever become involved or start a relationship with a man I met on here as I don't think I would ever be able to trust them |
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"Well you could keep quiet and just enjoy the sex... that is if you can JUST enjoy the sex whilst your busy brain is fantasising away about love.
I think the important questions are:
If this feeling stays of even grows as you continue to meet, how much will it hurt when he can't meet you because he's meeting someone else?
Would you be able to handle him taking a gal out on a date at the weekend but being able to come and fuck you may be on a Tuesday?"
These things would defo mess with my head, best to take a step back
Also don't think I could ever become involved or start a relationship with a man I met on here as I don't think I would ever be able to trust them |
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I'd ease off if it starts to have complications like falling for him. Either take a break or make things less frequent pr with a different vibe. Or get others to join you. I see it as transgressing my agreement if I change my needs after agreements. I'm human so stuff can happen but I can control things too.
Getting more active with others is useful too. |
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"Well you could keep quiet and just enjoy the sex... that is if you can JUST enjoy the sex whilst your busy brain is fantasising away about love.
I think the important questions are:
If this feeling stays of even grows as you continue to meet, how much will it hurt when he can't meet you because he's meeting someone else?
Would you be able to handle him taking a gal out on a date at the weekend but being able to come and fuck you may be on a Tuesday?
These things would defo mess with my head, best to take a step back
Also don't think I could ever become involved or start a relationship with a man I met on here as I don't think I would ever be able to trust them "
Yes, I agree to this! |
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"Well you could keep quiet and just enjoy the sex... that is if you can JUST enjoy the sex whilst your busy brain is fantasising away about love.
I think the important questions are:
If this feeling stays of even grows as you continue to meet, how much will it hurt when he can't meet you because he's meeting someone else?
Would you be able to handle him taking a gal out on a date at the weekend but being able to come and fuck you may be on a Tuesday?
These things would defo mess with my head, best to take a step back
Also don't think I could ever become involved or start a relationship with a man I met on here as I don't think I would ever be able to trust them "
Why could you not trust him? Are you less trustworthy because you've been on here too?!
Polo does, as usual, raise valid points though. Can you handle seeing him whilst he is seeing others? If not then how long can you carry on as you are? I was recently surprised by feelings I had for a fb so I cut back on how often we were meeting and am now thinking I was just getting comfortable with him because he was there so often. I do still care for him (and prob always will) but it's certainly not love. Had the space convinced me that I was in fact hopelessly devoted I planned to tell him how I felt as either way I wouldn't have been able to carry on as we were and it would have been mad to stop seeing him without finding out for sure if there could have been something more... Chances are the fb arrangement would have still ended as I don't think that's on the cards for him but I wouldn't have been left wondering 'what if' x |
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"Well you could keep quiet and just enjoy the sex... that is if you can JUST enjoy the sex whilst your busy brain is fantasising away about love.
I think the important questions are:
If this feeling stays of even grows as you continue to meet, how much will it hurt when he can't meet you because he's meeting someone else?
Would you be able to handle him taking a gal out on a date at the weekend but being able to come and fuck you may be on a Tuesday?
These things would defo mess with my head, best to take a step back
Also don't think I could ever become involved or start a relationship with a man I met on here as I don't think I would ever be able to trust them
Yes, I agree to this!"
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"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation?
Just be v careful. Even if you are getting mixed messages be wary. A week after a great weekend, romantic meal, 'lets go round and see my mum - she wants to meet you' I got a very painful reminder that it was just sex. Dumped after 2 years. So easy to miss read the signs.
Had the same happen to me, every weekend together, even went looking at houses together for him to invest him, was with him when his dad became terminally ill, xmas at his for me to tell him how i felt and him to tell me ill never be girlfriend material but im a good shag.... thats made me very wary of men now x"
I feel men have double standards! Its ok if they enjoy sex with lots of people but its not ok when a woman does this!!!
Your man sounds like a real dick!!!!
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"I'd ease off if it starts to have complications like falling for him. Either take a break or make things less frequent pr with a different vibe. Or get others to join you. I see it as transgressing my agreement if I change my needs after agreements. I'm human so stuff can happen but I can control things too.
Getting more active with others is useful too."
We see other people and together!! There is just something about him!! |
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"I feel so stupid!! How could I let myself fall for this guy! Dohh
Has anyone else been in this situation? "
Woah, back up there, you're NOT stupid. Nobody has control over who they fall for, the decision on wether to act upon it is entirely different though.
You can choose to protect yourself and never experience extremes of emotions or go with it and ride the roller-coaster.
A broken heart is shitty but not as shitty as living a life devoid of feeling. |
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"I'd ease off if it starts to have complications like falling for him. Either take a break or make things less frequent pr with a different vibe. Or get others to join you. I see it as transgressing my agreement if I change my needs after agreements. I'm human so stuff can happen but I can control things too.
Getting more active with others is useful too.
We see other people and together!! There is just something about him!!"
feelings have to be mutual ask him again |
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