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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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my 13 and 11 yr old have just been to their dad wedding ....am i apperantly are in the wrong for buying them a present and card to take with them .The present was something the kids wanted to get them and card was only signed by them .So just asking what other people will have done |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ..."
I don't understand how his children getting him and his new wife a card and present means you have intruded on their day  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ..."
Ask him for it back and never send him a birthday/xmas or fathers day gift from the kids again, that's what id do |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i personally think if i hadnt bought anything i be in the wrong .....he lefted me to be with her ....i dont buy fathers day or birthday as i had them return to me ......but this time they wanted to give him something .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ..."
How does the dad know it was from you?
I would just ignore him and move on with your life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"their dad had a right moan saying i was intruding on their day ...
How does the dad know it was from you?
I would just ignore him and move on with your life "
Me too, sound like he's just trying to upset you and seems he's doing a good job |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"my 13 and 11 yr old have just been to their dad wedding ....am i apperantly are in the wrong for buying them a present and card to take with them .The present was something the kids wanted to get them and card was only signed by them .So just asking what other people will have done "
Your right I would of done the same. It's still there father so what's the problem |
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Damned if you do and damned if you don't .Think it says more about him than anyone else .Leave him to stew as hhe'll realise what an arse it portrays him to be .
As folks have said ..you did the right thing for your kids that's all that matters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your children's happiness is what counted on the day , I'm sure they were much happier taking a present ,you were doing the decent thing as a parent well done x |
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"i personally think if i hadnt bought anything i be in the wrong .....he lefted me to be with her ....i dont buy fathers day or birthday as i had them return to me ......but this time they wanted to give him something ...."
Wow he sounds nasty.
I never got my ex anything from the kids when he remarried. I would have if they asked though but they never. Even birthday ect I don't get anything unless they specifically ask.
I think it very ignorant fir him to refuse a gift from his children because you bought it.
Next time tell them no and say why. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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End of the day you did what was amicable and set the rite example for you children if he chooses to bitch and moan about a gift from his children then he's the one that ends up looking like a Pratt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Make sure your kids are ok, that they are not upset and they understand they did nothing wrong.
Then just fuck the mind games off. You ain't gonna win, so don't play the game.
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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago
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So how else were his children going to buy him a present? they get their money from mum not from a job where they earn their own money.
Sounds like an absolute pillock, and he has feelings of guilt for abandoning his kids, their present probably made him feel like the absolute Ba***rd he is, but he couldn't have a go at them so he chose you instead.
He should be more of an adult and keep things in perspective, if the kids want to send something to their dad then let them, don't upset them by getting them to take sides in an argument between you and him.
Take the moral high ground and say nothing, they will discover what he is by themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i personally think if i hadnt bought anything i be in the wrong .....he lefted me to be with her ....i dont buy fathers day or birthday as i had them return to me ......but this time they wanted to give him something ...."
If he has returned things you have bought in the past I would guess you had a good idea he would be the same with this. In hindsight maybe it wasn't a good idea and you know from now on just not to bother. |
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