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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone. |
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"I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I often use the term 'being a good lover' when it comes to performing well in the bedroom, but obviously I'm not using the term lover in a fully romantic and emotional sense. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would just say morning to someone new "
You'd have to know the banter that was going on and the kind of person I am. I love to say things off the cuff to get a reaction...naughty I know but never serious...my sense of humour can be cheeky mixed with absolute naughtiness x |
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"I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone.
Is there any cake involved?"
Believe you me....there's ALWAYS cake involved xx  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A lover to me would be more than just a NSA meet, maybe that's what caused the freak out....."
You're absolutely right and I guess that may spook someone even if I were teasing.... Well dahlings some may get me and others not xx  |
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"I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone.
Is there any cake involved?
Believe you me....there's ALWAYS cake involved xx "
Oh mama, now that's a language I understand
I need to go and comb am hair really fast to work up an appetite  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I often use the term 'being a good lover' when it comes to performing well in the bedroom, but obviously I'm not using the term lover in a fully romantic and emotional sense."
Aaaah a man who finally "gets it"  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"But if a man flipped about something like that I would ditch him. I don't like over sensitive men or dramatics "
Dahling I believe that a person can quickly reveal their true colours when pushed just a little to the edge.... |
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I'd probably not refer to a sexual contact as a lover however long we've known each other.
But it's ideal to express yourself and not us, when you're speaking. We can tell you likely norms nut you're unique and have your own style of communication. This guy may have been shocked that you held the relationship differently to him - love vs. shag buddy. If he has anger issues he'd get shown the door. If he's not willing to let you be yourself I'd likewise tell him to go.
Some are sensitive about relationship styles and not wanting involvement. I'd still need someone I can relate with verbally, regardless. Early days can be a little open to confusion so set him straight or ditch if he's a cock. |
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"I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone.
Is there any cake involved?
Believe you me....there's ALWAYS cake involved xx "
I would love a slice....
and a bit of cake too please |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just call him your fuck buddy to be
I don't like that term. He might just want a one off too "
You know...I appreciate people's firsthand responses as it tells me more about them and whether I see them as potential "lovers"...oh god do be kind to be I couldn't bare another scolding  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I call one man my lover and he is truly that, anyone else is just a "friend"  it certainly implies more than just a casual meet and perhaps that`s why he got so freaked out "
I hear you. I guess I'm just too flipping norty and better starting watching my P and Q's |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone.
Is there any cake involved?
Believe you me....there's ALWAYS cake involved xx
Oh mama, now that's a language I understand
I need to go and comb am hair really fast to work up an appetite "
FINALLY a man who loves cake (well besides PP)....All kinds dahling, do hurry as the cake is moist and there's nothing worse than dry cake xx |
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The term 'flipped out' is a little vague.
What is clear is he reacted to the term 'lover' (and the context in which it was said) and made a clear line in the sand.
You may say you were just joking.... but many a true word is spoken in jest.
May be he's been bitten before by one of the 'I'm not looking for a relationship' ladies.... who then expect a guy to live up to a hidden clause committing him to live out some sort of pseudo monogamous relationship, all because they played along when hints were dropped.... in jest.
to him for speaking up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd probably not refer to a sexual contact as a lover however long we've known each other.
But it's ideal to express yourself and not us, when you're speaking. We can tell you likely norms nut you're unique and have your own style of communication. This guy may have been shocked that you held the relationship differently to him - love vs. shag buddy. If he has anger issues he'd get shown the door. If he's not willing to let you be yourself I'd likewise tell him to go.
Some are sensitive about relationship styles and not wanting involvement. I'd still need someone I can relate with verbally, regardless. Early days can be a little open to confusion so set him straight or ditch if he's a cock."
Respect. Beautifully written xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I call a man by there name, the word 'love' does not come out of my mouth let alone the word 'lover' and I can be naughty and teasing in swingworld without using those words with potential meets or even fb's I've known a while |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I use lover when I'm referring to anyone I have fun with. And if it's a regular thing which involves sleepovers I call them cuddle buddies. I'm not a fan of explicit words and I haven't had complaints. I'd say you dodged a bullet there |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A lover implies someone I'd be in a relationship with.
A normal greeting from me would be good morning playmate, you sexy man you. "
That's cute! I like that suggestion. But you know I'm more tempted now to call every potential fuck buddy, friends with benefits....a lover... In my opinion, ones response/reaction is where you are in your own life and what's going down. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone.
Is there any cake involved?
Believe you me....there's ALWAYS cake involved xx
I would love a slice....
and a bit of cake too please "
Hey potential lover...a slice of cake any time! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If it was going well during an email conversation and I was feeling it then I wouldn't care that you called me lover or whatever...sounds like an excuse to excuse themselves."
I love you. My point exactly!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I will be your potential new lover! And I won't spit my dummy out of the pram if you do. Promise.  "
What an excellent sport you are dahling!! At least I font feel do abandoned now xx |
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"I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone.
Is there any cake involved?
Believe you me....there's ALWAYS cake involved xx
I would love a slice....
and a bit of cake too please
Hey potential lover...a slice of cake any time! "
Put the kettle on then gorgeous (oops not offended by that term I hope lol) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How about ( off the top of me head)
' Morning ya horny Fucka... Hows it hanging?' Lol ... or is that too crude? "
Oh my fuck I love you too now!! That could never be to crude. I'd say it's perfectly spot on! God you're sooo good. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The term 'flipped out' is a little vague.
What is clear is he reacted to the term 'lover' (and the context in which it was said) and made a clear line in the sand.
You may say you were just joking.... but many a true word is spoken in jest.
May be he's been bitten before by one of the 'I'm not looking for a relationship' ladies.... who then expect a guy to live up to a hidden clause committing him to live out some sort of pseudo monogamous relationship, all because they played along when hints were dropped.... in jest.
to him for speaking up."
Yes he clearly didn't like it at all with quite a few exclamation marks pronouncing that. Of course it's his right to voice it. Clearly with many if us we lay boundaries to define what we want, what us acceptable and what is not. I hear you sister. As I've said it's where people are in their lives and what is perceived as sensitive. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ignore the other replies....it's because you've been messaging for a week and haven't told him you love him. Also would make sure it's a nice coffee cake, everyone's favourite!! "
Really?? Coffee cake?? Not moist chocolate?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All sorts of songs from Shaggy to the Slice Girls (I didn't say they were good songs) are going through my head now "
Lol you're awesome...can you see me dancing, love to dance  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone.
Is there any cake involved?
Believe you me....there's ALWAYS cake involved xx
I would love a slice....
and a bit of cake too please
Hey potential lover...a slice of cake any time!
Put the kettle on then gorgeous (oops not offended by that term I hope lol) "
You just called me gorgeous! How dare you!! I'm a perfect dirty fuck slut! Go wash your mouth xx |
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"All sorts of songs from Shaggy to the Slice Girls (I didn't say they were good songs) are going through my head now
Lol you're awesome...can you see me dancing, love to dance "
Slice Girls are a Spice Girls tribute act, quite alternative probably! 
Can I blame you now for bit being able to sleep. Keep dancing though, it's good for the soul! |
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"I referred to a man as my new potential lover and he just about flipped saying that there was no ways of him ever being my lover. My first reaction in my mind was....phew CHILL mate!!! After all I'm always teasing and laughing and we had been messaging/talking for a week and having great fun... So I would like to open up to you what is the correct way to perhaps voice this.... Would you say "Good morning my new potential lover!" OR "Good morning my new potential fucker!"....OR what. And by the way, I do love being natural in expressing myself without having to think about every goddam word and whether it's going to offend someone.
Is there any cake involved?
Believe you me....there's ALWAYS cake involved xx
I would love a slice....
and a bit of cake too please
Hey potential lover...a slice of cake any time!
Put the kettle on then gorgeous (oops not offended by that term I hope lol)
You just called me gorgeous! How dare you!! I'm a perfect dirty fuck slut! Go wash your mouth xx"
I look forward to finding out if that is true !!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As long as the sex was good, you could call me what you want. It's not like we're gonna get married or anything "
Nope we're not getting married. And no, no sex yet or will be. Just fab that I can call you a lover! (wiping my brow from nervousness) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would just say morning to someone new
Banana Cake now come on dahling I like to add a little spice to a morning greeting "
I rarely message first. If I get a morning lovely/sexy/gorgeous from a regular friend I answer accordingly. They already know me intimately |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I would just say morning to someone new
Banana Cake now come on dahling I like to add a little spice to a morning greeting
I rarely message first. If I get a morning lovely/sexy/gorgeous from a regular friend I answer accordingly. They already know me intimately "
I will remember that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All sorts of songs from Shaggy to the Slice Girls (I didn't say they were good songs) are going through my head now
Lol you're awesome...can you see me dancing, love to dance
Slice Girls are a Spice Girls tribute act, quite alternative probably!
Can I blame you now for bit being able to sleep. Keep dancing though, it's good for the soul! "
The music touching your dance soul and your body moving moving and expressing...always good for the soul xx Rest well mate xx |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think I have ever referred to anyone on here as my lover.
If I find them sexy then they sometimes get called sexy beast but that's about it.
OP, if this was all potential then testing the boundaries helps establish where they lie.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would just say morning to someone new
Banana Cake now come on dahling I like to add a little spice to a morning greeting
I rarely message first. If I get a morning lovely/sexy/gorgeous from a regular friend I answer accordingly. They already know me intimately I will remember that "
You would get a morning my lover |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Having had a ex-wife of 20 years who jumped down my throat at the slightest thing, yet didn't care less about my feelings, who drove me to the position I am now that if I never saw her again it would be too soon, I am very, very sensitive to sensitive people. |
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