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By *nvictus OP Man
over a year ago
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Obviously we are all fairly certain you are, but who knows in the vanilla world?
For me it's my ex-wife - she's my best mate and we tell each other all sorts of stuff
My last 2 girlfriends also knew something about it, but never wanted to know details (I always hide my profile when I'm in a relationship, before you ask). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I told three of my best friends on a night out when we were all d*unk - but they all think I went to a club once or twice then stopped! They were avidly curious!! Xx |
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My 2 best mates both know, ones catholic but she's very open minded. My aunt knows, I'm very close to her and she's a total hippy in her outlook. I knew I'd be ok telling those 3. Wouldn't trust my sister as we're always falling out plus she's very conservative. She's only ever slept with people she's had a long term relationship with. Last night out she revealed she's never had a one night stand.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My best friend who I also work with aswell as 2 other girls I work with all know im on here.. they think it's great as I'm single and not harming anyone and love to hear my exploits haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of my nilla friends. All my work colleagues (including management). All my previous work mates up to directors. My sister. Some of my fab friends families. In fact I haven't hidden it from anyone. Why should I be ashamed of my chosen way of life! It's legal and harmless.
In previous job I introduced two customers to fab. One was for a while a FB. A couple of work colleagues joined fab (both ladies)
It is part of my life, part of my personality, part of me. |
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"Most of my nilla friends. All my work colleagues (including management). All my previous work mates up to directors. My sister. Some of my fab friends families. In fact I haven't hidden it from anyone. Why should I be ashamed of my chosen way of life! It's legal and harmless.
In previous job I introduced two customers to fab. One was for a while a FB. A couple of work colleagues joined fab (both ladies)
It is part of my life, part of my personality, part of me."
Its not a case of being ashamed, none of our friends or family know anything about our sex life. I guess they assume we have sex but they don't need the details really.
I do think that single people are wise to have at least one friend who knows. |
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One of my sister knows as she was my safety person. I told a few select friends....then some more found out after a friend borrowed my phone and I hadn't logged out of fab
No dramas from it though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Obviously we are all fairly certain you are, but who knows in the vanilla world?
For me it's my ex-wife - she's my best mate and we tell each other all sorts of stuff
My last 2 girlfriends also knew something about it, but never wanted to know details (I always hide my profile when I'm in a relationship, before you ask)."
I love it so who are you trying to get the message across to?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My best friend who I told whilst d*unk, her reaction surprised me in a good way so I kinda wished I just told her sooner!
Has she joined  "
No although she wants to try a club with me! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My best friend who I told whilst d*unk, her reaction surprised me in a good way so I kinda wished I just told her sooner!
Has she joined
No although she wants to try a club with me! Lol"
Lol let me know when  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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About 12 people know. 6 are workmates. my boss was really sweet yesterday before I left work, as id been asked to go out one day this week, she called me back before I left, I thought it was work-related but she said to me to be careful when I meet as she worries about me.
I was really touched as shes a tough little welsh woman, but she was genuinely meaning it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My best friend knows, as when i was meeting she was my safety net when i went on a meet, in case i needed an "emergency" phone call for escape, or just simply for if anything went wrong in a bad way tgeres was someone to tell the police my last whereabouts, you never know what to expect of anyone you hardly know in the real world or online |
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nobody knows ,never told my sister even in my previous life ,as not sure she would understand it all ,she has only ever been with her hubby,
however my ex told his brother we even played with him once (my ex idea not mine) and a mate he worked with and yep you,ve guessed it ex wanted to arrange a meet with him  |
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Just a coupe of people in Town that work near me that are on here as well (York is a small place!) We just say hi in passing and thats it as we are all looking for different things... apart from that just one friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have told a few friends that i have been in threesomes with couples. and that some i met off the internet. i tell them other sites, like do my wife .com or pof! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just about everyone that is close to me does.. I don't shout it from the roof tops but i am not embarrassed about being on here or what i do... And i like to share my experiences with them ( without divulging anyone else's identity of course ) so my mum, my kids, friends and work colleagues... I have refrained from telling the post man and my hair dresser |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The two main girls i work with know im on hear, one thinks its dreadful and cant believe i do this and the other, when i was on my own always made me tell her if i was meeting anyone and wanted all the details  |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
My best friend, and my (fairly recent) ex. They are my back up for meets.
I don't see the need for anyone else to know. I am doing them no harm... and I do not discuss my bank balance, toilet habits, my voting preference or my sex life - some things are meant to remain private. |
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"Only the paparazzi and Jeremy Kyle "
Paparazzi are bad enough but not Jeremy Kyle lol...thought he only handled asbo's.
We did get invited on Trisha and Kilroy Silk but polity said no.
When we ended up in the newspapers yonks ago we thought thats our life ended yet surprisingly it worked the other way.
Vanilla people are just as fascinated about naughty goings on as we (swingers) are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just about everyone that is close to me does.. I don't shout it from the roof tops but i am not embarrassed about being on here or what i do... And i like to share my experiences with them ( without divulging anyone else's identity of course ) so my mum, my kids, friends and work colleagues... I have refrained from telling the post man and my hair dresser "
Kids? |
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By *smCouple
over a year ago
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One of daughters knows, she's ok with it, other daughter doesn't have the same mindset. My best friend, her hubby, two lovely guy friends know, we spent a lovely d*unk evening comparing fab to grinder lol.
My brother in law knows, has know for ages as late hubby wanted to make sure I had a trusted friend to ask as my phone safety net. And he is now on the site himself . Lol .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just about everyone that is close to me does.. I don't shout it from the roof tops but i am not embarrassed about being on here or what i do... And i like to share my experiences with them ( without divulging anyone else's identity of course ) so my mum, my kids, friends and work colleagues... I have refrained from telling the post man and my hair dresser
Kids? "
long story.. it was my bitter ex that told my mum and my kids |
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Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.
May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only my husband who i met via another swingers site and a guy at work also knows cus i met him on another swinging site too lol
Other than that its only people i have met who know i am a swinger
im not ashamed about it thou but i dont tell family friends and work mates other stuff about my life either ! |
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"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.
May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!! "
I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.
May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!! I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour"
i didn't assume or cross reference it to anyone.. I merely said i wasn't ashamed..just because you don't divulge your private life to others that's your business but i did not say you were ashamed because you don't... Nor do i discuss it because i want an accolade.. Im obviously generally more open and can't keep my mouth shut as i know all my friends bowel habits as well as i know my own.. We must talk some shit!!  |
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"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.
May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!! I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour
i didn't assume or cross reference it to anyone.. I merely said i wasn't ashamed..just because you don't divulge your private life to others that's your business but i did not say you were ashamed because you don't... Nor do i discuss it because i want an accolade.. Im obviously generally more open and can't keep my mouth shut as i know all my friends bowel habits as well as i know my own.. We must talk some shit!! "
think you've quoted the wrong post, I was agreeing with mistress about not needing to tell everyone. I never quoted or mentioned you so not sure why you quoted me unless it was a mistake |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Obviously we are all fairly certain you are, but who knows in the vanilla world?
For me it's my ex-wife - she's my best mate and we tell each other all sorts of stuff
My last 2 girlfriends also knew something about it, but never wanted to know details (I always hide my profile when I'm in a relationship, before you ask)."
A good friend who, although she doesn't understand it, wants to know that I'm as safe as possible when meeting new people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Two of my friends and an ex work colleagues (he was on here too) know.....I don't discuss it with everyone but if anyone asked me I'd be honest about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.
May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!! "
If anyone asked I'd deny it anyway. No-one else's business. |
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"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.
May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!! I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour
i didn't assume or cross reference it to anyone.. I merely said i wasn't ashamed..just because you don't divulge your private life to others that's your business but i did not say you were ashamed because you don't... Nor do i discuss it because i want an accolade.. Im obviously generally more open and can't keep my mouth shut as i know all my friends bowel habits as well as i know my own.. We must talk some shit!! "
I didn't say you did!  Several people have said they weren't ashamed as if by not sharing the personal minutiae of one's life you must be ashamed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.
May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!! I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour
i didn't assume or cross reference it to anyone.. I merely said i wasn't ashamed..just because you don't divulge your private life to others that's your business but i did not say you were ashamed because you don't... Nor do i discuss it because i want an accolade.. Im obviously generally more open and can't keep my mouth shut as i know all my friends bowel habits as well as i know my own.. We must talk some shit!!
I didn't say you did! Several people have said they weren't ashamed as if by not sharing the personal minutiae of one's life you must be ashamed."
sorry my mistake.. I thought because you had posted after my comment it was directed at me..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.
May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!! I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour
i didn't assume or cross reference it to anyone.. I merely said i wasn't ashamed..just because you don't divulge your private life to others that's your business but i did not say you were ashamed because you don't... Nor do i discuss it because i want an accolade.. Im obviously generally more open and can't keep my mouth shut as i know all my friends bowel habits as well as i know my own.. We must talk some shit!! think you've quoted the wrong post, I was agreeing with mistress about not needing to tell everyone. I never quoted or mentioned you so not sure why you quoted me unless it was a mistake"
it was a mistake sorry, i thought the post was directed at me so i was just replying saying i don't talk about it with my friends because i want a medal.. Im just a chatterbox  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nobody did till today then some not so discrete moron decided to brag to a customer (taxi driver). Said customer happens to be 1 of our best mates who is that vanilla we are convinced she's still a virgin and she definitely had no idea we were into this. Moron described us that well to her that the second she got out she called us and told us all about our night last night I'm pretty sure she knew more about last night than we ddo!!!! |
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"Why do some assume because you don't divulge your *PRIVATE* business, you're ashamed? Could some bright spark explain that correlation to this simple soul.
May I add I don't share the details of my bank account, how many times a day I take a dump, what colour knickers I'm wearing either...am I odd?!! I feel the same, what has my sexual activities got to do with anyone else, its not a badge of honour
i didn't assume or cross reference it to anyone.. I merely said i wasn't ashamed..just because you don't divulge your private life to others that's your business but i did not say you were ashamed because you don't... Nor do i discuss it because i want an accolade.. Im obviously generally more open and can't keep my mouth shut as i know all my friends bowel habits as well as i know my own.. We must talk some shit!! think you've quoted the wrong post, I was agreeing with mistress about not needing to tell everyone. I never quoted or mentioned you so not sure why you quoted me unless it was a mistake
it was a mistake sorry, i thought the post was directed at me so i was just replying saying i don't talk about it with my friends because i want a medal.. Im just a chatterbox "
that's OK don't worry about it |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
Most of my mates (they've known me forever and know what a slapper I've always been)...my male office mate (it came up in convo) and a couple of workmates I used to travel in with...my parents know I "date" guys I meet on t'interweb (one meet in my local walked in as I was chatting to my Dad and Stepmum!) |
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