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On a different site (which I can't name for fear of being beaten to death with dildo by admin)
I read a thread by a women who was basically tipping guys apart for there looks.
The problem was she was facially gifted herself.
So the question...
What are your views on people who punch well above there weight? Or think they are FAR better looking than they are?
And before you start, yes I I agree looks arnt everything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Confidence is key I guess!?
I wouldn't go near a fella that I thought was out of my league,very flattering getting message from fit fellas but I know in the real world they wouldn't look at me twice  |
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over a year ago
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no such thing as punching above your weight.... Unless you think of it that way yourself
Personally dont think im stunning but it wouldnt stop me avin a go  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She's being subjective though, so whatever she was saying about these guys is moot really and means nothing to others who do find them attractive. Just made herself look stupid and probably a lot less attractive to people who care about others feelings.
Personally there's no such thing as punching above your weight, plenty of people are attractive for many different reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Or think they are FAR better looking than they are?
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I usually find these people the least attractive and I don't mean that physically. I often come across people that think they are "it" who have the shittiest attitude you can imagine. It usual comes with a side of "I can talk to you how ever I want" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I couldn't meet a really good looking guy with fear they would run of laughing when seeing me, I know my limits and happy to stick with those x"
Same here,I wouldn't want to see their faces drop when I turned up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not a bad looking guy, but I'm not going to blow any woman away with my looks. What I DO have in my favour though is my personality, sense of humour, I'm fairly intelligent and also considerate and sensual in the bedroom, and those things give me confidence that I'm a pretty good catch for most women, even the stunningly gorgeous if they go for more than just alpha types. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm as ugly as sin and I genuinely feel that I've always punched above my weight (in terms of physical looks) when it comes to my real life.
Just as well that people don't base long term relationship material on looks / sex appeal alone (like you would more often than not for a one-off swinging sexual encounter) or else I'd never have had a girlfriend!  |
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What exactly is 'above your league'?
People are attracted to different qualities in folks I think with age comes the knowledge and experience that overshadows the mere shallow looks question Good sex for example is generally a lot better if people like each other and not just on looks We have all had crap sex with someone who we thought was gorgeous but they are not actually a nice person.
As for the woman who you mentioned, she herself doesn't sound attractive in spirit. Big off-putter, surely?  |
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"What exactly is 'above your league'?
People are attracted to different qualities in folks I think with age comes the knowledge and experience that overshadows the mere shallow looks question Good sex for example is generally a lot better if people like each other and not just on looks We have all had crap sex with someone who we thought was gorgeous but they are not actually a nice person.
As for the woman who you mentioned, she herself doesn't sound attractive in spirit. Big off-putter, surely? "
Don't know her, but reading the post she had the personality of a rattle snake crossed with a pit bull with fleas..
And looks wernt far off either lol x |
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" Or think they are FAR better looking than they are?
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I usually find these people the least attractive and I don't mean that physically. I often come across people that think they are "it" who have the shittiest attitude you can imagine. It usual comes with a side of "I can talk to you how ever I want""
Well said....  |
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I won't meet anyone who wouldn't be interested in me in the real world, I'm not that daft or deluded to think otherwise, I have felt a few time recently that I have definitely punched above my weight but we both seemed to enjoy it enormously and that's all that counts |
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over a year ago
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I don't look at anyone, above or beneath my weight, I judge only by what comes out of their mouth.
Because that is the person to me, not their size age ect.
Her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm constantly amazed that I attract messages from some right hotties, and if they want to meet then far be it for me to disappoint them."
I'm the same, so long as I find them attractive that's all I care about, if they want to shag a minger more fool them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Or think they are FAR better looking than they are?
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I usually find these people the least attractive and I don't mean that physically. I often come across people that think they are "it" who have the shittiest attitude you can imagine. It usual comes with a side of "I can talk to you how ever I want""
Here hear  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds more like the girl mentioned by the OP had the issue with her own looks and was trying to make herself feel better by putting others down!! So as stated an all round horrid person by the sounds of it!!
Personally i think sex appeal, looks, size and personality are all totally seperate parts of a person, as i know some people who would not be seen as "pretty people" who are damn sexy and attractive and some "pretty" people who are all around ugly and unattractive!!
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Or think they are FAR better looking than they are?
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I usually find these people the least attractive and I don't mean that physically. I often come across people that think they are "it" who have the shittiest attitude you can imagine. It usual comes with a side of "I can talk to you how ever I want"
Here hear "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds more like the girl mentioned by the OP had the issue with her own looks and was trying to make herself feel better by putting others down!! So as stated an all round horrid person by the sounds of it!!
Personally i think sex appeal, looks, size and personality are all totally seperate parts of a person, as i know some people who would not be seen as "pretty people" who are damn sexy and attractive and some "pretty" people who are all around ugly and unattractive!!
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attractive and sexy aren't the same thing though are they, I've met a few really good looking guys with no sex appeal at all, the two don't go hand in hand in my opinion |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Where is the rating scale?
Didn't you work this out a few months ago?
I weigh a fair amount so I'm not sure I punch above my weight but I often punch way above my height.
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Only with a stepladder  but then your boobies do weigh a fair amount  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone's punching above my height hahaha
...like i say. Sometimes the most beautiful people are the ugliest.
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If I wear heels my boobs can rest on your head |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Where is the rating scale?
Didn't you work this out a few months ago?
I weigh a fair amount so I'm not sure I punch above my weight but I often punch way above my height.
Only with a stepladder but then your boobies do weigh a fair amount "
At my height it's better to punch from the ground - all the soft, tender bits are within my reach then.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where is the rating scale?
Didn't you work this out a few months ago?
I weigh a fair amount so I'm not sure I punch above my weight but I often punch way above my height.
Only with a stepladder but then your boobies do weigh a fair amount
At my height it's better to punch from the ground - all the soft, tender bits are within my reach then.
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Your just the right height to punch the ball bags |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no such thing as punching above your weight.... Unless you think of it that way yourself
Personally dont think im stunning but it wouldnt stop me avin a go "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go for people I like and I like for lots of reason not just what their face looks like. If a gut thinks he is better looking than me fine thats his decision I don't think its a problem though I just get on with things. |
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I must have a different sense of values as "good looking" non entities (no offence) on a swinging site would never be out of my league but Bernice Eccleston, Danny Divito, Verne Troyer, Warwick Davies et al would be.  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I've honestly never met anyone I didn't like on a personal rather than aesthetic level. They may not always reciprocate my liking them but I'm confident enough in my own self to accept that and not want to change who I am or who I appear to be for someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone's punching above my height hahaha
...like i say. Sometimes the most beautiful people are the ugliest.
If I wear heels my boobs can rest on your head "
Deal!
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We all see couples who we think superficially are mismatched but we have no clue about it as we are looking on the surface and are ignorant of the facts. I'm as good as anyone and they are all as good as me. We don't all want a match based only on skin deep looks. You can try to think you're above or below someone's level but I don't see that as useful. If there is mutual attraction that is all that's important. Then just get on and have fun and don't over-analyse things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a different site (which I can't name for fear of being beaten to death with dildo by admin)
I read a thread by a women who was basically tipping guys apart for there looks.
The problem was she was facially gifted herself.
So the question...
What are your views on people who punch well above there weight? Or think they are FAR better looking than they are?
And before you start, yes I I agree looks arnt everything. "
I think far too many people are up themselves or down on themselves however saying that mercy fucks are not on the menu. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I went out with a really good looking (in my opinion) 21 year old when I was 30. I was so flattered that he was interested in me and I always felt that I was punching above my weight. Trouble is, he knew it and I allowed him to treat me like shit for 2 years. I learnt my lesson. Nobody should ever feel that another is either above or beneath them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went out with a really good looking (in my opinion) 21 year old when I was 30. I was so flattered that he was interested in me and I always felt that I was punching above my weight. Trouble is, he knew it and I allowed him to treat me like shit for 2 years. I learnt my lesson. Nobody should ever feel that another is either above or beneath them."
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As has been said, who's to say what the scale is but I have noted over many years of doing this that there are three groups of people that swing. (Not including the single shaggers in this) |
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"As has been said, who's to say what the scale is but I have noted over many years of doing this that there are three groups of people that swing. (Not including the single shaggers in this)"
Tell us more, I'd like to see if they are the same as I've noticed.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Interesting reading this. As asked , what is the scale? It's down to confidnece and with that I guess a balance to not have an ego with it?
I've no clue where to pitch myself and there's been plenty where I've decided the girl is out of my league. Always stuns me when a cracker shows interest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Where is the rating scale?
I really don't like phrases like 'punching about your weight' or 'out of your league'.
My drop dead gorgeous will be someone elses, god no!"
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Makes me wonder if some people don't get in contact with people who they perceive to be "above there weight".
There ought to be an open to approach, pedestal-less thread and see who emerge, who is lingering and lusting while lurking
But then again, the forum should be open like that anyway |
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over a year ago
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I have a slight crush on some one that posts in the forum (actually I have a crush on quite a few) anyway he's not really my type looks wise not that hes bad looking but he makes me laugh seems kind and quite a sensitive guy with a wicked sense of humour,thats attractive so what is this thread about,,lol
anyway he's out of my league, hopefully I'll get promotion
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"I have a slight crush on some one that posts in the forum (actually I have a crush on quite a few) anyway he's not really my type looks wise not that hes bad looking but he makes me laugh seems kind and quite a sensitive guy with a wicked sense of humour,thats attractive so what is this thread about,,lol
anyway he's out of my league, hopefully I'll get promotion
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awwwwwwwwww xxx |
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"Makes me wonder if some people don't get in contact with people who they perceive to be "above there weight".
There ought to be an open to approach, pedestal-less thread and see who emerge, who is lingering and lusting while lurking
But then again, the forum should be open like that anyway "
I don't message people that are "out of my league"... Does make it feel nicer when they send me a message related to something I've said here though! |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Perhaps the should be a diplomatic intermediary who people could approach (think Gimp would be good).
Might just be a face saver for the not-as-confident-as they-ought-to-be.
Damn, why has the song from Fiddler on the roof started playing in my head, it had been such a nice Friday 'til now..........  |
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"As has been said, who's to say what the scale is but I have noted over many years of doing this that there are three groups of people that swing. (Not including the single shaggers in this)
Tell us more, I'd like to see if they are the same as I've noticed. "
This is just my opinion but if you think about it its pretty spot on~
There's the body beautiful group that pretty much won't touch anyone that's not "perfect' like them
The Normal ,attractive to most, know their flaws but are comfortable with them group
And then there's the "unfortunate"group, won't go into detail but you get my drift.
Before anyone starts, I'm not slagging anyone off, if people are happy shaggin~ good for them
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Really attractive men make me nervous on this site.. If they approached me in real life then great. But I don't believe a word that comes out of their mouths here lol |
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"Really attractive men make me nervous on this site.. If they approached me in real life then great. But I don't believe a word that comes out of their mouths here lol "
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Some men regardless of their looks on this site appear to be a bit repulsive in their need to fuck anything with a pussy. |
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"Really attractive men make me nervous on this site.. If they approached me in real life then great. But I don't believe a word that comes out of their mouths here lol .
Some men regardless of their looks on this site appear to be a bit repulsive in their need to fuck anything with a pussy."
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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Given my weight I should be able to hit on just about any bloke on the site without punching above it
I like who I like. They can say yes or no. Sometimes they can fall about laughing.
I don't think there are league tables of hotness. It's subjective and along with all the other traits people can find attractive, it's far more complicated than being able to score it on a scale of 1-10. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Really attractive men make me nervous on this site.. If they approached me in real life then great. But I don't believe a word that comes out of their mouths here lol "
I don't believe much I read on here, from attractive blokes, unattractive blokes or women! |
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"I have a slight crush on some one that posts in the forum (actually I have a crush on quite a few) anyway he's not really my type looks wise not that hes bad looking but he makes me laugh seems kind and quite a sensitive guy with a wicked sense of humour,thats attractive so what is this thread about,,lol
anyway he's out of my league, hopefully I'll get promotion
awwwwwwwwww xxx"
Every bloke is now wondering "Is that me?"
Sitting in the Sunday league... |
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"Perhaps the should be a diplomatic intermediary who people could approach (think Gimp would be good).
Might just be a face saver for the not-as-confident-as they-ought-to-be.
Damn, why has the song from Fiddler on the roof started playing in my head, it had been such a nice Friday 'til now.......... "
Thats the first time ive ever been called Diplomatic  .
I like the idea tho, All the couples and single Bi Women can contact us for an honest and Diplomatic..Coff Coff..Evaluation
All the Single blokes can Bugger off coz those bitches are OUR Property now
Lord n Lady Gimp..OBE,WHU, YME and Public Bar  |
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"I have a slight crush on some one that posts in the forum (actually I have a crush on quite a few) anyway he's not really my type looks wise not that hes bad looking but he makes me laugh seems kind and quite a sensitive guy with a wicked sense of humour,thats attractive so what is this thread about,,lol
anyway he's out of my league, hopefully I'll get promotion
awwwwwwwwww xxx
Every bloke is now wondering "Is that me?"
Sitting in the Sunday league..."
Champions league darling,,champions league |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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its only punching above your weight if you don't believe you are good enough....
maybe its worth asking the other person what they see in you, because people are always the last people to see the best in themselves.... |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Perhaps the should be a diplomatic intermediary who people could approach (think Gimp would be good).
Might just be a face saver for the not-as-confident-as they-ought-to-be.
Damn, why has the song from Fiddler on the roof started playing in my head, it had been such a nice Friday 'til now..........
Thats the first time ive ever been called Diplomatic .
I like the idea tho, All the couples and single Bi Women can contact us for an honest and Diplomatic..Coff Coff..Evaluation
All the Single blokes can Bugger off coz those bitches are OUR Property now
Lord n Lady Gimp..OBE,WHU, YME and Public Bar "
Bends the cap and doffs a knee |
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"Perhaps the should be a diplomatic intermediary who people could approach (think Gimp would be good).
Might just be a face saver for the not-as-confident-as they-ought-to-be.
Damn, why has the song from Fiddler on the roof started playing in my head, it had been such a nice Friday 'til now..........
Thats the first time ive ever been called Diplomatic .
I like the idea tho, All the couples and single Bi Women can contact us for an honest and Diplomatic..Coff Coff..Evaluation
All the Single blokes can Bugger off coz those bitches are OUR Property now
Lord n Lady Gimp..OBE,WHU, YME and Public Bar
Bends the cap and doffs a knee "
Will one put that thing away, One is not supposed to "Arise" until requested
Sir Tarquin Gimp |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you like the look of someone then message them, no point wondering if they're out of your league. Don't ask don't get, so to speak
fancy a shag? "
Haha quick work! |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
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I've not read all the responses, but why would anyone think they are punching above their weight (or slumming it on the other side)?
I don't see my appeal, but never categorise people into leagues. If there is a connection and mutual agreement, then I am happy to explore it.
As for being afraid to ask - well shy bairns get nowt, and we can't tell what is appealing to someone else, so for all you know, you might be exactly their cup of tea! |
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A drop dead gorgeous young guy messaged me a few months back, for a second I thought why is he messaging me then I thought well if he didn't like me he wouldn't of messaged me. So it would of been rude to say no |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Perhaps the should be a diplomatic intermediary who people could approach (think Gimp would be good).
Might just be a face saver for the not-as-confident-as they-ought-to-be.
Damn, why has the song from Fiddler on the roof started playing in my head, it had been such a nice Friday 'til now..........
Thats the first time ive ever been called Diplomatic .
I like the idea tho, All the couples and single Bi Women can contact us for an honest and Diplomatic..Coff Coff..Evaluation
All the Single blokes can Bugger off coz those bitches are OUR Property now
Lord n Lady Gimp..OBE,WHU, YME and Public Bar
Bends the cap and doffs a knee
Will one put that thing away, One is not supposed to "Arise" until requested
Sir Tarquin Gimp "
But my birthday and christmas are so far away...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm an average looker at best so lots of women are out of my league including my wife of the last twenty four years must have something then
Chances it in the orgy room at infusion recently with a hot blonde years younger and it ended with her squirting everywhere for the first time ever and the comment your not much to look at but fucking hell you know what your doing thank you so go on you beautiful women go on say yes to an ugly guy occasionally |
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"Perhaps the should be a diplomatic intermediary who people could approach (think Gimp would be good).
Might just be a face saver for the not-as-confident-as they-ought-to-be.
Damn, why has the song from Fiddler on the roof started playing in my head, it had been such a nice Friday 'til now..........
Thats the first time ive ever been called Diplomatic .
I like the idea tho, All the couples and single Bi Women can contact us for an honest and Diplomatic..Coff Coff..Evaluation
All the Single blokes can Bugger off coz those bitches are OUR Property now
Lord n Lady Gimp..OBE,WHU, YME and Public Bar
Bends the cap and doffs a knee
Will one put that thing away, One is not supposed to "Arise" until requested
Sir Tarquin Gimp
But my birthday and christmas are so far away...... "
Make a wish and if your very very bad Christmas may Come Early
Diplomatic Gimp |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The woman you mention sounds so full of herself!
To me a person is as a whole, not just their face, body etc. If they don't engage me with their personality then they don't stand a chance.
Paul often says that he's punching above his weight with me but frankly I fancy the pants off him, he is the whole package and has got amazing confidence I'm envious of.
We met a single guy yesterday and had he approached me in a pub I would of thought that his friends had set him up to get off with the fatty as he was well and truly beautiful. But upon chatting to him I could see the lust in his eyes and yeah I suppose technically I feel I'm punching above my weight but luckily for me he loves BBWs |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Perhaps the should be a diplomatic intermediary who people could approach (think Gimp would be good).
Might just be a face saver for the not-as-confident-as they-ought-to-be.
Damn, why has the song from Fiddler on the roof started playing in my head, it had been such a nice Friday 'til now..........
Thats the first time ive ever been called Diplomatic .
I like the idea tho, All the couples and single Bi Women can contact us for an honest and Diplomatic..Coff Coff..Evaluation
All the Single blokes can Bugger off coz those bitches are OUR Property now
Lord n Lady Gimp..OBE,WHU, YME and Public Bar
Bends the cap and doffs a knee
Will one put that thing away, One is not supposed to "Arise" until requested
Sir Tarquin Gimp
But my birthday and christmas are so far away......
Make a wish and if your very very bad Christmas may Come Early
Diplomatic Gimp "
Don't know if I can contain myself....
Opps, no I couldn't.  |
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The one thing a site like this should offer to everyone, regardless of looks or body shape, is confidence - as surely the idea is that, with so many ages, sizes etc on here - then there's someone for everyone?
Not for a minute would I expect to appeal to every man on the site - but since I split up with my ex a couple of years ago ( who had an uncanny ability to make me feel fat and ugly!) - I've been astounded at the number of men who've shown an interest in me - not just on fab but in the real world too!
I'm also amazed by the number of fit younger guys who like older women - as i'd trade my boobs in for those of a 21yr old any day!! |
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over a year ago
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If someone is arrogant they automatically become more unattractive in my eyes anyway. Looks really don't mean that much to me. I'd be lying if I said they mean nothing, but I'm way more attracted to a girls personality. If she's clever, funny, kind and full of good banter then it does far more for me. |
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over a year ago
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I would say I'm punching well above my weight but she loves me for some reason so I must be doing something right
If we are out I always think that people look at me and say to themselves " he must be loaded if she's with him "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What exactly is 'above your league'?
People are attracted to different qualities in folks I think with age comes the knowledge and experience that overshadows the mere shallow looks question Good sex for example is generally a lot better if people like each other and not just on looks We have all had crap sex with someone who we thought was gorgeous but they are not actually a nice person.
As for the woman who you mentioned, she herself doesn't sound attractive in spirit. Big off-putter, surely? "
Hear hear.....why the Brits seem to think their looks and wealth have anything to do with this is beyond....sure we all have limits but since its a physical act of giving/sharing then shouldnt it be based around the quality of that, personality, company, even ability for those who assume they have to compete?
We block 20 a day that think the bling bling and ignorance is attractive, even given up with polite intros!
There are some nice people here tho, even if they do sit on your list forever and do nothing! |
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over a year ago
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"Perhaps the should be a diplomatic intermediary who people could approach (think Gimp would be good).
Might just be a face saver for the not-as-confident-as they-ought-to-be.
Damn, why has the song from Fiddler on the roof started playing in my head, it had been such a nice Friday 'til now..........
Thats the first time ive ever been called Diplomatic .
I like the idea tho, All the couples and single Bi Women can contact us for an honest and Diplomatic..Coff Coff..Evaluation
All the Single blokes can Bugger off coz those bitches are OUR Property now
Lord n Lady Gimp..OBE,WHU, YME and Public Bar
Bends the cap and doffs a knee
Will one put that thing away, One is not supposed to "Arise" until requested
Sir Tarquin Gimp
But my birthday and christmas are so far away......
Make a wish and if your very very bad Christmas may Come Early
Diplomatic Gimp
Don't know if I can contain myself....
Opps, no I couldn't. "
I hope your Tissues are Man size lol
Gimp |
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Attraction rarely works the way we think it should... I think we all have at least one 'crush' that we see as unusual, often to a dodgy celebrity! Just because someone is attractive in a different way to me that doesn't mean there couldn't be a mutual attraction. Yes physical attraction draws you in but personality is always the most attractive thing about a person... And it can also be the ugliest. I've chatted to some stunning guys but taken it no further because it was like pulling teeth to get conversation out of them, and have been with others that some may not deem to be as attractive physically but they've drawn me in with wit and charm.
I'm under no illusions about my own appearance and flaws, but I've developed a thick skin and my confidence had grown over the years so I'll contact whoever I fancy... If they like me then winner, if they don't I move on to the next victim. I don't look at what league I should fit in as I don't know how others decide which traits and features they want... To some I'd be premiership, to others I'd be lucky to make the Sunday league, so I just go for it and let them decide if they are interested instead of trying to decide for them.
I would however avoid someone like the lady in the op as I don't find it attractive when people can only inflate their own ego by looking down on others. Confidence had nothing to do with feeling superior, and I often find that behind closed doors people that get their kicks from belittling others are actually not as self assured as they pretend to be. |
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By *r jblMan
over a year ago
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"On a different site (which I can't name for fear of being beaten to death with dildo by admin)
I read a thread by a women who was basically tipping guys apart for there looks.
The problem was she was facially gifted herself.
So the question...
What are your views on people who punch well above there weight? Or think they are FAR better looking than they are?
And before you start, yes I I agree looks arnt everything. "
. I think that you may as well try, or you will never know. |
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over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on"
And you don't think that being sexually attractive can have a beneficial effect on someones confidence? |
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on"
I've got enough confidence in my day to day life, but its also nice to know some people are attracted to you whether it be looks or personality.
You might realise that when you start to meet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
And you don't think that being sexually attractive can have a beneficial effect on someones confidence?"
are you sure your straight,,,a friend of mine was asking,just wondering |
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over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on"
I don't think that people draw all their confidence from fab, they have to have some to start with to consider it. But being a swinger does give me confidence it helps knowing that people desire me. Paul says I look good when I'm dressed in pjs with plaited hair! Which I assure you I don't!
After a meet I come home feeling incredibly sexy and confident, is that wrong? |
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
And you don't think that being sexually attractive can have a beneficial effect on someones confidence?"
People get their self esteem and confidence in different ways. I'm happy for anyone if their life is uplifted by something that does no harm to others. |
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over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
And you don't think that being sexually attractive can have a beneficial effect on someones confidence?
are you sure your straight,,,a friend of mine was asking,just wondering "
And does this friend live in Edinburgh by any chance? |
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"Attraction rarely works the way we think it should... I think we all have at least one 'crush' that we see as unusual, often to a dodgy celebrity! Just because someone is attractive in a different way to me that doesn't mean there couldn't be a mutual attraction. Yes physical attraction draws you in but personality is always the most attractive thing about a person... And it can also be the ugliest. I've chatted to some stunning guys but taken it no further because it was like pulling teeth to get conversation out of them, and have been with others that some may not deem to be as attractive physically but they've drawn me in with wit and charm.
I'm under no illusions about my own appearance and flaws, but I've developed a thick skin and my confidence had grown over the years so I'll contact whoever I fancy... If they like me then winner, if they don't I move on to the next victim. I don't look at what league I should fit in as I don't know how others decide which traits and features they want... To some I'd be premiership, to others I'd be lucky to make the Sunday league, so I just go for it and let them decide if they are interested instead of trying to decide for them.
I would however avoid someone like the lady in the op as I don't find it attractive when people can only inflate their own ego by looking down on others. Confidence had nothing to do with feeling superior, and I often find that behind closed doors people that get their kicks from belittling others are actually not as self assured as they pretend to be."
I can't be bothered to try and pull teeth any more, I've had enough, if someone doesn't engage me I am afraid a conversation won't last long!
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over a year ago
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"Confidence is key I guess!?
I wouldn't go near a fella that I thought was out of my league,very flattering getting message from fit fellas but I know in the real world they wouldn't look at me twice "
Bloody bollocks haha |
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"Attraction rarely works the way we think it should... I think we all have at least one 'crush' that we see as unusual, often to a dodgy celebrity! Just because someone is attractive in a different way to me that doesn't mean there couldn't be a mutual attraction. Yes physical attraction draws you in but personality is always the most attractive thing about a person... And it can also be the ugliest. I've chatted to some stunning guys but taken it no further because it was like pulling teeth to get conversation out of them, and have been with others that some may not deem to be as attractive physically but they've drawn me in with wit and charm.
I'm under no illusions about my own appearance and flaws, but I've developed a thick skin and my confidence had grown over the years so I'll contact whoever I fancy... If they like me then winner, if they don't I move on to the next victim. I don't look at what league I should fit in as I don't know how others decide which traits and features they want... To some I'd be premiership, to others I'd be lucky to make the Sunday league, so I just go for it and let them decide if they are interested instead of trying to decide for them.
I would however avoid someone like the lady in the op as I don't find it attractive when people can only inflate their own ego by looking down on others. Confidence had nothing to do with feeling superior, and I often find that behind closed doors people that get their kicks from belittling others are actually not as self assured as they pretend to be."
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't "
What amuses me is that a lot of those who proclaim it to be a sex site don't get sex, or even meets, from it
You'd think that might be a hint it's more than simply a sex site. |
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over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't "
whats the difference, sex site or swingers site, people are on here for sex aren't they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found really hot looking women to be very lazy and manipulative . Seemingly under the illusion that having a nice face makes it not necessary to be nice to people. Of course i'm sure there are tons of gorgeous and very warm genuine women out there. But the rude replys to messages i've sent on here. . Have pretty much always come from hot women. I still message people who I think are in a different league. . But i read their profile very carefully ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't
whats the difference, sex site or swingers site, people are on here for sex aren't they?"
you obviously don't know the difference between sex and swinging
sex is between two people
swinging is sharing partners, eg, swapping wives, threesomes, gangbangs etc.
get the drift of what the difference is? |
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over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't
What amuses me is that a lot of those who proclaim it to be a sex site don't get sex, or even meets, from it
You'd think that might be a hint it's more than simply a sex site."
agreed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't
whats the difference, sex site or swingers site, people are on here for sex aren't they?
you obviously don't know the difference between sex and swinging
sex is between two people
swinging is sharing partners, eg, swapping wives, threesomes, gangbangs etc.
get the drift of what the difference is?"
In that case,for me it's a sex site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't
whats the difference, sex site or swingers site, people are on here for sex aren't they?"
Well said Hilda |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't
whats the difference, sex site or swingers site, people are on here for sex aren't they?
you obviously don't know the difference between sex and swinging
sex is between two people
swinging is sharing partners, eg, swapping wives, threesomes, gangbangs etc.
get the drift of what the difference is?"
Swinging is still having sex with people though isn't it. they aren't on here to talk about bird watching are they. why does it matter to you so much? |
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over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't
whats the difference, sex site or swingers site, people are on here for sex aren't they?
you obviously don't know the difference between sex and swinging
sex is between two people
swinging is sharing partners, eg, swapping wives, threesomes, gangbangs etc.
get the drift of what the difference is?
Swinging is still having sex with people though isn't it. they aren't on here to talk about bird watching are they. why does it matter to you so much?"
Yes but it's not just sex, its the social side of things too and because its a swingers site not a sex site |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't
whats the difference, sex site or swingers site, people are on here for sex aren't they?"
I think the difference is expectation.
Some, (usually male), think this is a sex site so once they join they'll be knee deep in women whose main fantasy is "draining" them or doing whatever it is the man happens to want.
They are the ones who usually end up complaining they can't get sex on "a sex site" and blaming everything but themselves.
Then there are the ones who realise there's a bit more to it than join and have offers of sex flooding in, (which does happen for women, I admit). They tend to be more successful.
Even for women, who do get more messages than men, it takes effort to get the meets we want. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"so many seem to draw all their confidence from fab
its a sex site guys come on
read the URL, where does it say this is a sex site? it doesn't
whats the difference, sex site or swingers site, people are on here for sex aren't they?
you obviously don't know the difference between sex and swinging
sex is between two people
swinging is sharing partners, eg, swapping wives, threesomes, gangbangs etc.
get the drift of what the difference is?
Swinging is still having sex with people though isn't it. they aren't on here to talk about bird watching are they. why does it matter to you so much?"
She commented on something someone else said.
Why does it matter to *you* so much?
If, to you, this is a sex site, great. To other people it's more than a sex site. That, overall, makes it more than a sex site. Because people here look for sex, doesn't make it just a sex site.
I look for bread in Tesco but it doesn't make Tesco a bakery. |
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