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I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...cheers guys x |
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It's nothing to do with it the lack of love.
It's all about both partners exploring their sexual desires together. Introducing a couple of individual to their sex life won't do anything but fuel the desires they both want to experience as a couple.
Absolutely nothing with that nor should their love together be questioned |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...x"
Of course not, it isn't enjoyable at all...I think everyone just does it because we don't like our OH's.
Is this the right answer? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...x
Of course not, it isn't enjoyable at all...I think everyone just does it because we don't like our OH's.
Is this the right answer?"
It's not that we don't like our other halves - it's that they're crap in bed and can't satisfy us.
Why else would we do it?
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We are in a "loved" up relationship and have been for a while, we have a very exciting and fulfilling sex life!
Now the reason why we sometimes meet and play with others,
As honeypot has mentioned it's a little hard having a 3sum or more with just the 2 of us, we are able to adventure further than we would if we just kept it to the 2 of us.
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...x
Of course not, it isn't enjoyable at all...I think everyone just does it because we don't like our OH's.
Is this the right answer?
It's not that we don't like our other halves - it's that they're crap in bed and can't satisfy us.
Why else would we do it?
A"
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"Thanks but it dont exactly answer my question , maybe im putting it across wrong :/"
You asked why if couples are so in love, why they would introduce another person in their love life...and I said "to explore sexual desires together as a couple"
Not sure how that didn't answer your question? |
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...x
Of course not, it isn't enjoyable at all...I think everyone just does it because we don't like our OH's.
Is this the right answer?
It's not that we don't like our other halves - it's that they're crap in bed and can't satisfy us.
Why else would we do it?
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Damn, I knew my answer was wrong "
Lol no right or wrong answers im just intrueged  |
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It's a mystery to me as well. We are mainly exhibitionist, and very rarely invite someone to join us as an extra pair of hands (!). We have met several couples whose relationships were in the death throes and swinging was a way to revive it, they hoped! A bit like having another baby may save a marriage, renewing a common interest perhaps. Total mystery, total  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"thought it did also ejay
Yea cheers ejay just curious to hear a few couples opinions as everyone has diff reasons"
The problem is....you won't get anyone saying they don't love their OH's so do this instead.
I also know you said " this isn't a dig" but it sounds like it is....ie, how can anyone who says they love someone have sex with another. You have made your mind up and I doubt if anything anybody says will change that.
Are you looking for couples to meet? If so can I ask why if you think this of swinging couples? |
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...cheers guys x"
You're confusing love with sex. To successfully swing you need to know and really believe that they aren't the same thing, society would have it otherwise of course. |
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We rarely meet for sex, yes it does happen but as has been said it's hard to have a 3 sum with it being just 2 of you. It's about having fun.
Watching your other half getting fucked is more of a cuck thing to us it's more about Mo being looked after by 2 people at the same time in close proximity to each other. It's supprising how many guys can't get that and expect me to sit and watch or want to tag team! |
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...cheers guys x
You're confusing love with sex. To successfully swing you need to know and really believe that they aren't the same thing, society would have it otherwise of course."
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"thought it did also ejay
Yea cheers ejay just curious to hear a few couples opinions as everyone has diff reasons
The problem is....you won't get anyone saying they don't love their OH's so do this instead.
I also know you said " this isn't a dig" but it sounds like it is....ie, how can anyone who says they love someone have sex with another. You have made your mind up and I doubt if anything anybody says will change that.
Are you looking for couples to meet? If so can I ask why if you think this of swinging couples?"
No honestly this is not a dig, ive just never been in a couple relationship that swings and i really am just curious to know what they get out of it.. By no means a dig trust me. Also i am not looking for ANYONE to say they dont love thier other half and if my post has implied any of this them maybe i didnt explain it very well... |
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We can separate love and sex, what we do together is our thing we swing and nobody knows about it in our vanilla lives and I feel it draws us together and bonds us |
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We really enjoy going out for meals and trying different types of cuisine, we do this together and get a great deal of pleasure out of it. Our relationship isn't diminished by this and the food we eat at home isn't either.
We also enjoy sex, we enjoy being among people who enjoy sex and trying different things out with those people. This doesn't diminish our relationship either or the sex we have at home.  |
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"We really enjoy going out for meals and trying different types of cuisine, we do this together and get a great deal of pleasure out of it. Our relationship isn't diminished by this and the food we eat at home isn't either.
We also enjoy sex, we enjoy being among people who enjoy sex and trying different things out with those people. This doesn't diminish our relationship either or the sex we have at home. "
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"It's nothing to do with it the lack of love.
It's all about both partners exploring their sexual desires together. Introducing a couple of individual to their sex life won't do anything but fuel the desires they both want to experience as a couple.
Absolutely nothing with that nor should their love together be questioned"
Like you even more now. Xx |
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"We really enjoy going out for meals and trying different types of cuisine, we do this together and get a great deal of pleasure out of it. Our relationship isn't diminished by this and the food we eat at home isn't either.
We also enjoy sex, we enjoy being among people who enjoy sex and trying different things out with those people. This doesn't diminish our relationship either or the sex we have at home.
Thanks "
That's ok, lots of people don't understand how people who say they're in love can swing, they think it means that their sex life must be lacking somehow or that they don't really love each other. As I said earlier love does not equal sex but love doesn't equal ownership either. |
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"We really enjoy going out for meals and trying different types of cuisine, we do this together and get a great deal of pleasure out of it. Our relationship isn't diminished by this and the food we eat at home isn't either.
We also enjoy sex, we enjoy being among people who enjoy sex and trying different things out with those people. This doesn't diminish our relationship either or the sex we have at home.
Thanks
That's ok, lots of people don't understand how people who say they're in love can swing, they think it means that their sex life must be lacking somehow or that they don't really love each other. As I said earlier love does not equal sex but love doesn't equal ownership either."
Totally agree and thanks.. My intention was not to imply no one is happy with thier sex life or they was not in love i am genuinly really curious in what they get from it... As it could help as people have ben telling me they just want to explore... Well here i am exploring |
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...cheers guys x"
Well we are very much in live and committed to each other. We are also realistic and feel we want to explore each others fantasies/desires together.
Many couples in 'normal' relationships say they're in love and then cheat and lie to each other. Being the way we are there is no need to do that. Hope that answers your question, well from our point of view anyway.
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We are "loved up" as you put it. Very happily married. We don't do full swaps nor do we do anything we're not in 100% agreement about. We use this as an extension to our already amazing sex life. We make love to each other even when we fuck. We are soul mates(soppy I know) which enables us to be frank and honest about our deepest darkest desires and fantasies. This would never be successful without the bond and trust that we share within our relationship. We don't need to introduce anyone else into our bedroom but we want to live out our fantasies together. The experiences we have had so far have mostly been amazing and brought us even closer together even the not so great ones as we learn more about our true selves along the way. Hope this helps to answer your question and it is our answer to why we do it. |
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...cheers guys x
Well we are very much in live and committed to each other. We are also realistic and feel we want to explore each others fantasies/desires together.
Many couples in 'normal' relationships say they're in love and then cheat and lie to each other. Being the way we are there is no need to do that. Hope that answers your question, well from our point of view anyway.
Yes manga thankyou very much that makes total sense to me and your so right x
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"We are "loved up" as you put it. Very happily married. We don't do full swaps nor do we do anything we're not in 100% agreement about. We use this as an extension to our already amazing sex life. We make love to each other even when we fuck. We are soul mates(soppy I know) which enables us to be frank and honest about our deepest darkest desires and fantasies. This would never be successful without the bond and trust that we share within our relationship. We don't need to introduce anyone else into our bedroom but we want to live out our fantasies together. The experiences we have had so far have mostly been amazing and brought us even closer together even the not so great ones as we learn more about our true selves along the way. Hope this helps to answer your question and it is our answer to why we do it. "
Yes thankyou so much makes sense i appreciate your honesty |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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.. My intention was not to imply no one is happy with thier sex life or they was not in love "
Sadly your opening post implies it.
" If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime?"
It is obviously up to you how you see things, but it does seems like you wrote what you were thinking in your first post.
PS...what I meant in my other post was in answer to this quote from you....ie I doubt anyone would admit to not loving their OH or that they are not happy swinging with them....but I am sure there are some people around who fit that bill. |
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.. My intention was not to imply no one is happy with thier sex life or they was not in love
Sadly your opening post implies it.
" If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime?"
It is obviously up to you how you see things, but it does seems like you wrote what you were thinking in your first post.
PS...what I meant in my other post was in answer to this quote from you....ie I doubt anyone would admit to not loving their OH or that they are not happy swinging with them....but I am sure there are some people around who fit that bill. "
Ok thanks for your reply im not here for no drama so if i offended anyone ... Please forgive me  |
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"We are "loved up" as you put it. Very happily married. We don't do full swaps nor do we do anything we're not in 100% agreement about. We use this as an extension to our already amazing sex life. We make love to each other even when we fuck. We are soul mates(soppy I know) which enables us to be frank and honest about our deepest darkest desires and fantasies. This would never be successful without the bond and trust that we share within our relationship. We don't need to introduce anyone else into our bedroom but we want to live out our fantasies together. The experiences we have had so far have mostly been amazing and brought us even closer together even the not so great ones as we learn more about our true selves along the way. Hope this helps to answer your question and it is our answer to why we do it.
Yes thankyou so much makes sense i appreciate your honesty "
p.s. We weren't knocking couples who do full swap (each to their own and whatever works for only said about it as we haven't yet. Doubt we will either but never say never) |
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"I doubt if anyone is offended otherwise they would have said....also , swingers have had these questions for years, some people just don't get it...it can't be helped. "
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I love watching my girl suck another guy as i fuck her... Makes me love her even more ... but if she done it without me being there then that would be a different story |
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Because there is a difference between our love life and sex life.
Our love life is caring, tender, gentle, loving.
Our sex life is the opposite. It's just sex. |
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...cheers guys x"
I think it's very difficult to understand until you're part of it so all the explaining still may not switch a light on for you!
As some have already said, we invite people to join in/play with us as a couple, not for any watching etc - this is not a spectators sport for either of us.
This can be difficult for some single guys to get their head around.
We enjoy exploring, trying new things and I just love to have the attention of/two guys to play with at the same time. My hubby finds it a turn on watching me (whilst participating lol) have fun.
There is a lot more that we want to explore....communication is definitely key.
I think it's a valid question, if I was a single and thinking of joining a couple, I'd certainly be asking what they want from the experience. |
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"Because there is a difference between our love life and sex life.
Our love life is caring, tender, gentle, loving.
Our sex life is the opposite. It's just sex."
Exactly |
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"We can separate love and sex, what we do together is our thing we swing and nobody knows about it in our vanilla lives and I feel it draws us together and bonds us "
Exactly this |
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She loves sucking cock while she's getting fucked. So we need at least one other guy to fulfil this desire.
He likes sucking cock while he's getting fucked so we need at least two other guys for this desire!
Basically. We use single guys and leave them broken but satisfied  |
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"It's a mystery to me as well. We are mainly exhibitionist, and very rarely invite someone to join us as an extra pair of hands (!). We have met several couples whose relationships were in the death throes and swinging was a way to revive it, they hoped! A bit like having another baby may save a marriage, renewing a common interest perhaps. Total mystery, total "
We are madly in love , so much so I rarely watch porn now . For the first time in almost 40 years It has no appeal . Why is this ? Simple ... We have the most amazing sex life together and when we want raw filthy sex we go out and do it together , with others and boy oh boy .... it beats banging one out to porn !
For us we can live our dreams and fantasies and seeing Sabrina getting covered in cum is the ultimate for me . Even better to see her spitting cum into another girls mouth and sharing it over and over .... oh the joy !
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...cheers guys x"
Looking at your question again it reminds me of the other similar question we get "why do you let other blokes fuck your misses"
That question makes me cringe so full of possesiveness and ownership.
You can have love without sex, you can also have sex without love. One thing you must never do is confuse the 2.
Swinging has been called recreational sex, some play football or golf or go for long walks, swingers fuck and have lots of fun doing it. Do we need to snuggle with meets or take them out for romantic meals, hold hands or make future plans?
Hell no!
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"I got a question for all the happy loved up couples... By no means is this a dig or anything its a genuine question... If your in a relationship and happy and love up as i keep seeing on here.. Why do you feel the need to introduce other people into playtime? Genuinly would love to know.. Is it pleasure in watching them get fucked?...cheers guys x
Looking at your question again it reminds me of the other similar question we get "why do you let other blokes fuck your misses"
That question makes me cringe so full of possesiveness and ownership.
You can have love without sex, you can also have sex without love. One thing you must never do is confuse the 2.
Swinging has been called recreational sex, some play football or golf or go for long walks, swingers fuck and have lots of fun doing it. Do we need to snuggle with meets or take them out for romantic meals, hold hands or make future plans?
Hell no!
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One thing for sure its up to individuals to decide how n what they get outta swinging. Just cos others dont get it , is justification needed? Many couples are totaly tight and secure together and swinging just enhances what they already share... With or without others understanding the dynamics .. " They couldnt do it if they Loved each other" if i was in a relationship i couldnt n wouldnt need to swing" etc etc ... All good n well but many enjoy to the full . If others get it or not |
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"One thing for sure its up to individuals to decide how n what they get outta swinging. Just cos others dont get it , is justification needed? Many couples are totaly tight and secure together and swinging just enhances what they already share... With or without others understanding the dynamics .. " They couldnt do it if they Loved each other" if i was in a
relationship i couldnt n wouldnt need to
swing" etc etc ... All good n well but
many enjoy to the full . If others get it
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I like getting it
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OP there are many singles on this site, male and female, who believe that couples must be lacking in something together to swing. Its a very common misconception.
For us we swing for adventure, the thrill factor that the two of us, a middle aged, respectable, professional couple, have a dark and deviant side, The thrill is not the sex whatsoever, its the feeling of doing something taboo, shocking etc.
This may sound blunt but when we introduce people into our sex life, we are all just mutual playthings to each other. I may play with a sex god of a guy, or one with model looks, but emotionally the only guy i think about, who gives me butterflies and can make me come like a steamtrain, and who to me is the best looking guy, is Mr Iconic, a guy in his 50s, soft tummied, no 6 pack, with considerably less hair than his younger counterparts.
I agree that there are couples who struggle emotionally and swinging can be an excuse for ulterior motives. But to other couples this is all just a game, a hobby, something fun but not that important and the great people that you meet will always be looked upon fondly but they wont have a meaningful impact on your life or relationship |
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For me personally (Lou) I get soo turned on watching my man perform with other people, our fantasies being fulfilled. I just sit back and watch and listen to his actions, the moaning and groaning and watching his fingers explore. Things I wouldn't notice when we make love or fuck rotton.
And the appreciation we show eachother after is very very intimate and can be more sexually fantasising then the original performance.
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"One thing for sure its up to individuals to decide how n what they get outta swinging. Just cos others dont get it , is justification needed? Many couples are totaly tight and secure together and swinging just enhances what they already share... With or without others understanding the dynamics .. " They couldnt do it if they Loved each other" if i was in a
relationship i couldnt n wouldnt need to
swing" etc etc ... All good n well but
many enjoy to the full . If others get it
or not
I like getting it
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