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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Depends!
It's a tool the site offers.
Nothing wrong with it's use, as and when you're looking to meet.
Daily, however...............
Depends if it's the first thing you click upon waking up - as seems the case with some!  
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Depends!
It's a tool the site offers.
Nothing wrong with it's use, as and when you're looking to meet.
Daily, however...............
Depends if it's the first thing you click upon waking up - as seems the case with some!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it make me desperate or just mean I'd like to meet today?? "
i think posting for a meet today in forums is desperate. But posting in the meet section is what its there for so no isdues with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today!"
This is OK normally, but for us sometimes we could end up child free at short notice and it's easier to put a meet up and see who messages us, we would just meet the first person that messaged us but to message everyone we've spoke to to see if there free would be too time consuming, put a meet up and friends see it on there feed and can message if there free |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today!
This is OK normally, but for us sometimes we could end up child free at short notice and it's easier to put a meet up and see who messages us, we would just meet the first person that messaged us but to message everyone we've spoke to to see if there free would be too time consuming, put a meet up and friends see it on there feed and can message if there free"
Oops that should say wouldn't meet not would meet lol |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today!
This is OK normally, but for us sometimes we could end up child free at short notice and it's easier to put a meet up and see who messages us, we would just meet the first person that messaged us but to message everyone we've spoke to to see if there free would be too time consuming, put a meet up and friends see it on there feed and can message if there free
Oops that should say wouldn't meet not would meet lol"
We use for club visits.
It's just another way of advertising you'll be there.
When we've met privately at short notice we've searched the meet lists to see who's free. Saves endless messages to people to then find out they're busy - and we wouldn't meet if there wasn't the usual interest/attraction.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today!
This is OK normally, but for us sometimes we could end up child free at short notice and it's easier to put a meet up and see who messages us, we would just meet the first person that messaged us but to message everyone we've spoke to to see if there free would be too time consuming, put a meet up and friends see it on there feed and can message if there free
Oops that should say wouldn't meet not would meet lol
We use for club visits.
It's just another way of advertising you'll be there.
When we've met privately at short notice we've searched the meet lists to see who's free. Saves endless messages to people to then find out they're busy - and we wouldn't meet if there wasn't the usual interest/attraction.
A"
I do put meets up if i'm going to social events or clubs as it's a way of communicating with people beforehand who will also be there.
Not only is it maybe different for men and women but also the fact I'm a single female. As a couple you have the security of another person being there so meeting someone last minute on my own is a definite no no unless I've met them before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer last min meets gives them last time to back out, a lot of meets I have arranged in advance have cancelled for one reason or another its the risk you take if you books weeks in advance
I hope that does not mean I'm desperate I just don't have loads of spare time so don't like being let down |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today!"
Why's it desperate? Is it really that different to going to a club and playing with someone that you've met that night? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do they have a meeting section on this forum then, its the same thing, see lol "
they have a meet requests and socialising forum but this isnt in it this one is in the lounge so not same thing really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do they have a meeting section on this forum then, its the same thing, see lol
they have a meet requests and socialising forum but this isnt in it this one is in the lounge so not same thing really."
Good point and yes, its kinda different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do they have a meeting section on this forum then, its the same thing, see lol
they have a meet requests and socialising forum but this isnt in it this one is in the lounge so not same thing really.Good point and yes, its kinda different."
but who cates ss long as eeget the meets we want its only forums |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Does it make me desperate or just mean I'd like to meet today?? "
Why would it make you desperate?
It's a feature that is there to be used (if wanted). It's a pretty popular one judging from the amount of people who use it.
We haven't use it on this site but have on others and found it to be a pretty successful way of meeting.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today!
This is OK normally, but for us sometimes we could end up child free at short notice and it's easier to put a meet up and see who messages us, we would just meet the first person that messaged us but to message everyone we've spoke to to see if there free would be too time consuming, put a meet up and friends see it on there feed and can message if there free
Oops that should say wouldn't meet not would meet lol
We use for club visits.
It's just another way of advertising you'll be there.
When we've met privately at short notice we've searched the meet lists to see who's free. Saves endless messages to people to then find out they're busy - and we wouldn't meet if there wasn't the usual interest/attraction.
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I do put meets up if i'm going to social events or clubs as it's a way of communicating with people beforehand who will also be there.
Not only is it maybe different for men and women but also the fact I'm a single female. As a couple you have the security of another person being there so meeting someone last minute on my own is a definite no no unless I've met them before."
I don't buy in to the single females need more security argument.
If you're sensible and meet in a public place there's little risk.
And men arranging meets last minute face the same risks as women. Will it actually be a woman that turns up or is waiting, rather than a 6ft 4 builder called Dave? Will the woman be a raving loony psycho with an axe in her bag? Will she be an unhinged bunny boiler who turns into a lifetime stalker?
We all take risks meeting strangers - it's not gender specific.
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"Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today!
Why's it desperate? Is it really that different to going to a club and playing with someone that you've met that night?"
Well I don't do that either...sex with a complete stranger is not what turns me on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a sex site if you want to meet today then theres nothing wrong with that,you're using the option the site gives you
Whether you actually end up meeting today is a different thing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I think it seems a bit desperate.
Yes it does highlight the fact that you are free on that day but it also says to me that you'd quite happily meet someone you've never really spoken to before if they show an interest and are free also rather than taking the time to get to know someone and connecting and then arranging a meet when is convenient.
If I end up having a free day/evening I make contact with people I've either met before or at least chat to, and see if they are free.
Maybe it's different for men and women but I personally wouldn't meet someone who had put up a meet today!
This is OK normally, but for us sometimes we could end up child free at short notice and it's easier to put a meet up and see who messages us, we would just meet the first person that messaged us but to message everyone we've spoke to to see if there free would be too time consuming, put a meet up and friends see it on there feed and can message if there free
Oops that should say wouldn't meet not would meet lol
We use for club visits.
It's just another way of advertising you'll be there.
When we've met privately at short notice we've searched the meet lists to see who's free. Saves endless messages to people to then find out they're busy - and we wouldn't meet if there wasn't the usual interest/attraction.
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I do put meets up if i'm going to social events or clubs as it's a way of communicating with people beforehand who will also be there.
Not only is it maybe different for men and women but also the fact I'm a single female. As a couple you have the security of another person being there so meeting someone last minute on my own is a definite no no unless I've met them before.
I don't buy in to the single females need more security argument.
If you're sensible and meet in a public place there's little risk.
And men arranging meets last minute face the same risks as women. Will it actually be a woman that turns up or is waiting, rather than a 6ft 4 builder called Dave? Will the woman be a raving loony psycho with an axe in her bag? Will she be an unhinged bunny boiler who turns into a lifetime stalker?
We all take risks meeting strangers - it's not gender specific.
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I'm not saying it isn't risky for anyone else but being realistic women do have to be more careful and street wise even just walking down the street on their own.
For my own piece of mind I only ever meet in clubs or public places on a first meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well I don't do that either...sex with a complete stranger is not what turns me on.
But it is what turns a lot of other people on...."
Yes and I just did a status about that I like it |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I just think it makes people look desperate
unless they state in the meet request they are at a social event or party/club"
Maybe someone they've met before has had to let them down to an emergency?
Maybe they just found out they've a day off?
Maybe someone's offered to babysit out if the blue?
Could be any reason - doesn't make anyone desperate though.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just think it makes people look desperate
unless they state in the meet request they are at a social event or party/club
Maybe someone they've met before has had to let them down to an emergency?
Maybe they just found out they've a day off?
Maybe someone's offered to babysit out if the blue?
Could be any reason - doesn't make anyone desperate though.
A"
i mean't the people who do it every single day, I see it a lot on my local feed, same people, different day |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I just think it makes people look desperate
unless they state in the meet request they are at a social event or party/club
Maybe someone they've met before has had to let them down to an emergency?
Maybe they just found out they've a day off?
Maybe someone's offered to babysit out if the blue?
Could be any reason - doesn't make anyone desperate though.
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i mean't the people who do it every single day, I see it a lot on my local feed, same people, different day"
Oh them!!
Yep - I agree. In those circumstances yep!
And I suspect the more they do it the less chance they have of someone taking them up on an offer. People remember patterns in updates!
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Well I don't do that either...sex with a complete stranger is not what turns me on.
But it is what turns a lot of other people on...."
And I never said anything about what other people do...just that I choose not to do that as it's not what I enjoy. |
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"Does it make me desperate or just mean I'd like to meet today??
Haha, the status update made me laugh!
I wonder if he'll be doing.....you or me or just his hair  "
Or all three if you had your wicked way??
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I just think it makes people look desperate
unless they state in the meet request they are at a social event or party/club
Maybe someone they've met before has had to let them down to an emergency?
Maybe they just found out they've a day off?
Maybe someone's offered to babysit out if the blue?
Could be any reason - doesn't make anyone desperate though.
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i mean't the people who do it every single day, I see it a lot on my local feed, same people, different day
Oh them!!
Yep - I agree. In those circumstances yep!
And I suspect the more they do it the less chance they have of someone taking them up on an offer. People remember patterns in updates!
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