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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been wondering this for a while and thought I might as well start a thread about it. I was diagnosed with dyslexia when I was 19, after struggling through school it was finally disagnosed when I was at college and I finally got rid of the "bright but lazy girl that just needs to try harder" label I'd had for years.
Anyway the reason for the thread, Is there a link to being dyslexic and a being a swinger?
I'm my real life I tend to stumble across one or maybe two fellow dyslexics a year, in the job I'm in I tend to move assignment and meet/work with a lot of people. However on FAB I see posts at least once a day from someone blaming dyslexia as an excuse for poor spelling.
Whenever spelling and grammar are mentioned, a higher then average percentage of people come back with the "I'm Dyslexic" answer. Are dyslexics more open to swinging? are the two inherently linked in some way? Should more scientific research be done into this? Perhaps Sydney University could take this on .
Or is it more realistic that some of these people aren't actually diagnosed dyslexic, use this as an excuse for being lazy and justification for not running things through a spell checker.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think you may be accurate with your assessment in your last paragraph. Some people genuinely have it and it shows, others use dyslexia as an excuse for lazy spelling etc. "
Just out of curiosity, how does in show if you genuinely have it? I work really hard to ensure I don't make mistakes and normally unless I tell someone they would never know. It's usually my clumsiness & inability to read out a phone number or spell out a word without muddling the order of letters/ numbers up that give it away, not my written down things. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Dyslexia generally isn't just an inability to spell.
It's often possible to spot posts that are just bad spelling as opposed to those showing signs of dyslexia.
And in the day and age of smart phones and autocorrect - it's more common to see typos rather than bad spelling.
Many stating they are dyslexic are often just guilty of bad grammar.
But it's not as if anything posted on the forums here is a matter of life and death - and I doubt anyone asks people to perform written exams on meets or at clubs!
So not worth worrying about.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dyslexia generally isn't just an inability to spell.
It's often possible to spot posts that are just bad spelling as opposed to those showing signs of dyslexia.
And in the day and age of smart phones and autocorrect - it's more common to see typos rather than bad spelling.
Many stating they are dyslexic are often just guilty of bad grammar.
But it's not as if anything posted on the forums here is a matter of life and death - and I doubt anyone asks people to perform written exams on meets or at clubs!
So not worth worrying about.
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Not worrying in the slightest just curious. I genuinely wondered if dyslexics were just wired to be more inclined to more open sexual relationships involving multiply partners then non dyslexics.
As I said it's the other things associated to it that tend to give me away, not my written work. Sadly as one of them is being incredibly clumsy it does sometimes become very apparent on meets & in clubs sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In normal life most people don't use forums or messages to contact you so it would not be obvious!
I am not dyslexic but I am not great at numbers .
Prob wouldn't call myself a swinger though whatever one actually is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you may be accurate with your assessment in your last paragraph. Some people genuinely have it and it shows, others use dyslexia as an excuse for lazy spelling etc.
Just out of curiosity, how does in show if you genuinely have it? I work really hard to ensure I don't make mistakes and normally unless I tell someone they would never know. It's usually my clumsiness & inability to read out a phone number or spell out a word without muddling the order of letters/ numbers up that give it away, not my written down things."
You've just described me perfectly. I'm dyslexic, not massively and I work dammed hard to not let it show. I would never have guessed for a minute that you were.
I think the nature of a forum means people will be open and state that they are. But it is clear that some people lie about it too. |
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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago
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"May I ask, and only because I think my youngest may be misdiagnosed, is going down stairs a nightmare? "
You should google dyspraxia, I think this might be what you are looking for. It affects coordination and so spacial awareness and can affect things such as feeding, dressing etc  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In normal life most people don't use forums or messages to contact you so it would not be obvious!s"
As someone that receives on average 150 to 200 work related emails a day I'd say most of the contact I have with people in the real word is message based. In my social life most things are arranged via text, Facebook & whatsapp again all written forms, in this day and age there is a much higher percentage of non verbal communication.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"May I ask, and only because I think my youngest may be misdiagnosed, is going down stairs a nightmare? "
For me yes and down escalators even more so.
This is a really useful guide to indicators http://www.dyslexia.com/library/symptoms.htm
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you may be accurate with your assessment in your last paragraph. Some people genuinely have it and it shows, others use dyslexia as an excuse for lazy spelling etc.
Just out of curiosity, how does in show if you genuinely have it? I work really hard to ensure I don't make mistakes and normally unless I tell someone they would never know. It's usually my clumsiness & inability to read out a phone number or spell out a word without muddling the order of letters/ numbers up that give it away, not my written down things."
I do that but I just blame old age  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In normal life most people don't use forums or messages to contact you so it would not be obvious!s
As someone that receives on average 150 to 200 work related emails a day I'd say most of the contact I have with people in the real word is message based. In my social life most things are arranged via text, Facebook & whatsapp again all written forms, in this day and age there is a much higher percentage of non verbal communication.
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You probably wouldn't be an ideal employee if all work related emails contained a lot of mistakes , I was a proof reader and so many people do make mistakes even non dyslexic people . You do well  |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think being dyslexic makes any difference whether there's more swingers or not. I do believe that some people who are not, may use it as an excuse for failing to proofread their messages. Nothing wrong with the odd typo, but us dyslectics tend to try our best at constructing messages and posts (I do. It can take ages just to write a few lines, because I'm continuing proofreading!  and that's why I'm allow extra time in exams and extensions at uni!), as we like to show that we don't have it - well, for me anyway. And yes, it's not just the written word that can affect dyslexics, but can affect vocal processing too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm going to throw a spanner in the works now. My hubby and boy are both dyslexic and one has ADD and the other ADHD.
Quite often an ASD person will have dyslexia too, hence my comment now. I think the swinging lifestyle is ideal for those with asd due to their inability to concentrate on one thing for a long period of time. They like interesting variety. But not always the communicating side. "We are here for sexy fun, therefore I don't need to know what you did at the weekend, nor your cats name". They often excel more on a practical level (ie good with hands) and want (but not always have) good stamina and fitness levels.
Now, if you look at autism....I could see that as being intriguing....as they don't like change and do like routine.....so would they stay in a monogamous relationship?
Would make an interesting university thesis lol.
Very interesting thread, I'm fascinated by SEN anyway. Made me think!
Thankyou xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"May I ask, and only because I think my youngest may be misdiagnosed, is going down stairs a nightmare?
For me yes and down escalators even more so.
This is a really useful guide to indicators http://www.dyslexia.com/library/symptoms.htm
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By (user no longer on site)
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"May I ask, and only because I think my youngest may be misdiagnosed, is going down stairs a nightmare?
You should google dyspraxia, I think this might be what you are looking for. It affects coordination and so spacial awareness and can affect things such as feeding, dressing etc "
That's just what I was going to say. My eldest is both dyslexic and has dyspraxia. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm going to throw a spanner in the works now. My hubby and boy are both dyslexic and one has ADD and the other ADHD.
Quite often an ASD person will have dyslexia too, hence my comment now. I think the swinging lifestyle is ideal for those with asd due to their inability to concentrate on one thing for a long period of time. They like interesting variety. But not always the communicating side. "We are here for sexy fun, therefore I don't need to know what you did at the weekend, nor your cats name". They often excel more on a practical level (ie good with hands) and want (but not always have) good stamina and fitness levels.
Now, if you look at autism....I could see that as being intriguing....as they don't like change and do like routine.....so would they stay in a monogamous relationship?
Would make an interesting university thesis lol.
Very interesting thread, I'm fascinated by SEN anyway. Made me think!
Thankyou xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
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Or is it more realistic that some of these people aren't actually diagnosed dyslexic, use this as an excuse for being lazy and justification for not running things through a spell checker.
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We know a few genuine dyslexics and the difference is glaringly obvious as the majority of dyslexics have good grammar and the letters they get mixed are the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was undiagnosed as a child when living in yorkshire, I started school etc but found it very difficult and often used to walk out getting home befor my parents did in the car.
They addressed this with the school who put measures in place to help, I used to write backwards like writing on a mirror im also left handed to wrote the opposite way across the page. Spelling was a huge issue and words got muddled up. My parents moved for work to Suffolk and I started a new school, they explained my issues to the new school, I had extra help from a teacher who remains a close friend today. I was taught with phonics, rather than being forced to write with my right hand was encouraged to use the left hand and they dealt with my mirror writing, it was confusing at the time as I read books so well which is why they never diagnosed at the time,I can read a book in a matter of hours, times tables let's not go there they look like a maze in my head. escalators cause me huge issues too going up isn't so bad but going down i stand looking for a while befor going for it, to be honest I didn't realise this was linked lol.
My school in Suffolk were amazing with me can't praise them enough they got me the help I needed. |
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Miss Minxy, clumsiness is not a sign of dyslexia. However your probably dyspraxic which is a comorbid condition. I would of msg you but I can't.
Btw, I am extremely dyslexic too. I would never dream of using it as an excuse for anything though either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My youngest would rather walk ten miles than risk the escalator. Spacial awareness issues would certainly explain it...
Ultimately there is no one size fits all.
The same way that not every swinger fucks anything, not every sub likes pain, not every austistic person is like rainman... and so it goes on.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't think there's a link and I don't have dyslexia....to my mind. When I was very young, I was told (or my mum was) by reading support that there "maybe" something there. Never been diagnosed for it. My grammar is just shite and I really have never let it bother me. People who put a high praise on academic prowess in here, really are just small minded birks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think there's a link and I don't have dyslexia....to my mind. When I was very young, I was told (or my mum was) by reading support that there "maybe" something there. Never been diagnosed for it. My grammar is just shite and I really have never let it bother me. People who put a high praise on academic prowess in here, really are just small minded birks! "
I do not heap high praise on academic prowess, but I do struggle with post coital conversation with someone not out of place on Jezza. Intellect is important to me. I will not judge someone for spelling and grammar as we can all make mistakes, but an ability to communicate is vital.
Narrow minded? Possibly
Berk? Probably
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Miss Minxy, clumsiness is not a sign of dyslexia. However your probably dyspraxic which is a comorbid condition. I would of msg you but I can't.
Btw, I am extremely dyslexic too. I would never dream of using it as an excuse for anything though either. "
Thanks for the advice, maybe I'm just clumsy & it's not linked. I do seriously struggle with the spacial awareness thing.
I just was curious as it's mentioned almost on a daily basis on here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Dyslexics often have better spacial awareness and are good at analytical problems. Never heard about the escalator dilemma before though"
That might just be me, but I have real issues on the tube, almost to panic attack level due to the escalators. I can't work out when to step on to it and when going down normal stairs I loose track of them & get dizzy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dyslexics often have better spacial awareness and are good at analytical problems. Never heard about the escalator dilemma before though
That might just be me, but I have real issues on the tube, almost to panic attack level due to the escalators. I can't work out when to step on to it and when going down normal stairs I loose track of them & get dizzy "
Thank you for raising a very interesting and thought provoking topic. I would have pm'd but I fell out of your age range at midnight last night lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do not heap high praise on academic prowess, but I do struggle with post coital conversation with someone not out of place on Jezza. Intellect is important to me. I will not judge someone for spelling and grammar as we can all make mistakes, but an ability to communicate is vital.
Narrow minded? Possibly
Berk? Probably
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Ahhh....let down by urban dictionary 
Happy birthday |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do not heap high praise on academic prowess, but I do struggle with post coital conversation with someone not out of place on Jezza. Intellect is important to me. I will not judge someone for spelling and grammar as we can all make mistakes, but an ability to communicate is vital.
Narrow minded? Possibly
Berk? Probably
Ahhh....let down by urban dictionary
Happy birthday"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As I said it's the other things associated to it that tend to give me away, not my written work. "
It's not the written work any more as we now type which slows down the brain to product process a little which helps, and it gives us spell check options. As you say it's the reading (though I am good with numbers), and hand written notes / forms that throw most dyslexics these days. Though I still type the as teh about 7 times out of 10, that has always been my main trip word for some reason.
As for more inclined to open / swinging type relationships, not so sure I am also involved with bike clubs and many diagnosed or undiagnosed dyslexics appear there as well. |
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Think here is just another cross section of society? Is gonna be a whole range here too? Apart from actually messaging or using forums... Someones spelling skills dont really equate their bedroom skills or does it?
I am a crap speller ... And i tend to write as i think.... I speak the same as I write too! Soufff east London n all that! Lol .... Propa makes me cringe when others feel the need to correct others , especially when it's damn obvious what the person saying... Yeap some say its lazy to spell bad etc ... Isn't it also lazy that some aint moved with the times and realize there is more than one way to communicate with styles and words? many new words in the dictionary even! I am not digging no one out, just like to think out side the box sometimes  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"I've been wondering this for a while and thought I might as well start a thread about it. I was diagnosed with dyslexia when I was 19, after struggling through school it was finally disagnosed when I was at college and I finally got rid of the "bright but lazy girl that just needs to try harder" label I'd had for years.
Anyway the reason for the thread, Is there a link to being dyslexic and a being a swinger?
I'm my real life I tend to stumble across one or maybe two fellow dyslexics a year, in the job I'm in I tend to move assignment and meet/work with a lot of people. However on FAB I see posts at least once a day from someone blaming dyslexia as an excuse for poor spelling.
Whenever spelling and grammar are mentioned, a higher then average percentage of people come back with the "I'm Dyslexic" answer. Are dyslexics more open to swinging? are the two inherently linked in some way? Should more scientific research be done into this? Perhaps Sydney University could take this on.
Or is it more realistic that some of these people aren't actually diagnosed dyslexic, use this as an excuse for being lazy and justification for not running things through a spell checker.
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I ask every time there is one of those threads if anyone has mentioned dyslexia yet - because sooner or later, someone always does, even though it is actually irrelevant to the post. Spelling and grammar threads are NEVER about dyslexia - not EVER! But the ever-so-righteous will bang on about it to excuse some of the most appalling English. Everyone makes mistakes. There will always be words we mix up or simply cannot spell.
BUT - when someone does not use the basics of punctuation, eg, full stop, capitals - sorry but that really annoys me. THOSE are taught in primary school!
OK - so many people often don't use capitals etc. I suppose that is a sign of the digital age. However, if you want to impress someone you at least TRY!
Being sloppy with your own mother tongue in messages because you cannot be arsed just means you are lazy not dyslexic.
Most dyslexics I know try very hard to ensure that they speak and write as well as they can. And I have admiration for them because of it. |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm going to throw a spanner in the works now. My hubby and boy are both dyslexic and one has ADD and the other ADHD.
Quite often an ASD person will have dyslexia too, hence my comment now. I think the swinging lifestyle is ideal for those with asd due to their inability to concentrate on one thing for a long period of time. They like interesting variety. But not always the communicating side. "We are here for sexy fun, therefore I don't need to know what you did at the weekend, nor your cats name". They often excel more on a practical level (ie good with hands) and want (but not always have) good stamina and fitness levels.
Now, if you look at autism....I could see that as being intriguing....as they don't like change and do like routine.....so would they stay in a monogamous relationship?
Would make an interesting university thesis lol.
Very interesting thread, I'm fascinated by SEN anyway. Made me think!
Thankyou xx"
A lot of conditions are seem to be linked under one 'umbrella'. For example autism with Tourette's, learning difficulties and sensitive hearing (my son a good case!).
Strange you should mention ADHD with dyslexia, as I supposedly was hyperactive as a child. |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
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"Dyslexics often have better spacial awareness and are good at analytical problems. Never heard about the escalator dilemma before though"
I'm always analysing things and tend to see things from a lot of different perspectives. Very handy in my archaeological studies! |
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"Dyslexics often have better spacial awareness and are good at analytical problems. Never heard about the escalator dilemma before though
I'm always analysing things and tend to see things from a lot of different perspectives. Very handy in my archaeological studies!"
The gift of dyslexia x lateral and analytical perspectives
Archaeology rocks x or is it geology |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In normal life most people don't use forums or messages to contact you so it would not be obvious!
I am not dyslexic but I am not great at numbers .
Prob wouldn't call myself a swinger though whatever one actually is "
Difficulty with numbers is called dyscalculia. |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
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"Dyslexics often have better spacial awareness and are good at analytical problems. Never heard about the escalator dilemma before though
I'm always analysing things and tend to see things from a lot of different perspectives. Very handy in my archaeological studies!
The gift of dyslexia x lateral and analytical perspectives
Archaeology rocks x or is it geology "
Lol. Archaeology definitely 'rocks' my boat! |
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"I'm going to throw a spanner in the works now. My hubby and boy are both dyslexic and one has ADD and the other ADHD.
Quite often an ASD person will have dyslexia too, hence my comment now. I think the swinging lifestyle is ideal for those with asd due to their inability to concentrate on one thing for a long period of time. They like interesting variety. But not always the communicating side. "We are here for sexy fun, therefore I don't need to know what you did at the weekend, nor your cats name". They often excel more on a practical level (ie good with hands) and want (but not always have) good stamina and fitness levels.
Now, if you look at autism....I could see that as being intriguing....as they don't like change and do like routine.....so would they stay in a monogamous relationship?
Would make an interesting university thesis lol.
Very interesting thread, I'm fascinated by SEN anyway. Made me think!
Thankyou xx
A lot of conditions are seem to be linked under one 'umbrella'. For example autism with Tourette's, learning difficulties and sensitive hearing (my son a good case!).
Strange you should mention ADHD with dyslexia, as I supposedly was hyperactive as a child."
The part of the brain that controls executive (pre frontal lobe) functioning also is affected by all the above difficulties. That's why so many people also have comorbid conditions. Very rare to find a person with one 'pure' difficulty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"as a member of DNA national dislexik sossitty, I find sum of the commonts in this fread rather insulting.
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You really try hard to be funny don't you! Is it a desperate way of getting attention it is it because you are an angry bitter man? |
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