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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just lately ive been stuggling with both to the piontbof it affecting meets, as I feel im not good enough"
Take a break. Nothing anyone says will help. It's something you need to sort out in your head with the help of your other half. Being on here will magnify any insecurities you may have whether they are justified or not. It needs to come from within though. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mr or Mrs?
mrs.
Jules xx"
I have been the same, I stopped meeting because if this, ive only had one meet this year, ive lost some weight so feeling better but I still have body image problems and a long way to go, believe me your not alone x |
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"Just lately ive been stuggling with both to the piontbof it affecting meets, as I feel im not good enough
Take a break. Nothing anyone says will help. It's something you need to sort out in your head with the help of your other half. Being on here will magnify any insecurities you may have whether they are justified or not. It needs to come from within though. Good luck."
Yes, agreed!
When someone feels as you do any reassurance given by strangers is shallow and doesn't last, you need to take time off and get your self esteem back. Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A lot of us feel like that sometimes.
One of the reasons we don't meet anymore is because I told Kate I didn't want to have sex with other women anymore, but really, deep down I think I couldn't understand how women could fancy an ageing guy like me.
It's easy to say "you look great" or "you don't look any different to lots of others" but once the thought is in your head it's hard to get it out isn't it.
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"A lot of us feel like that sometimes.
One of the reasons we don't meet anymore is because I told Kate I didn't want to have sex with other women anymore, but really, deep down I think I couldn't understand how women could fancy an ageing guy like me.
It's easy to say "you look great" or "you don't look any different to lots of others" but once the thought is in your head it's hard to get it out isn't it.
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Jack I would shag you  |
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"A lot of us feel like that sometimes.
One of the reasons we don't meet anymore is because I told Kate I didn't want to have sex with other women anymore, but really, deep down I think I couldn't understand how women could fancy an ageing guy like me.
It's easy to say "you look great" or "you don't look any different to lots of others" but once the thought is in your head it's hard to get it out isn't it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of us feel like that sometimes.
One of the reasons we don't meet anymore is because I told Kate I didn't want to have sex with other women anymore, but really, deep down I think I couldn't understand how women could fancy an ageing guy like me.
It's easy to say "you look great" or "you don't look any different to lots of others" but once the thought is in your head it's hard to get it out isn't it.
Jack I would shag you "
bet you wouldn't 
It would be like shagging your dad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just got to come from within ...anyone can have body issues from the smallest to the largest of people ..focus on some part of yourself you're more comfortable with and work it !!! ... (for what it's worth you're gorgeous) xx |
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"A lot of us feel like that sometimes.
One of the reasons we don't meet anymore is because I told Kate I didn't want to have sex with other women anymore, but really, deep down I think I couldn't understand how women could fancy an ageing guy like me.
It's easy to say "you look great" or "you don't look any different to lots of others" but once the thought is in your head it's hard to get it out isn't it.
Jack I would shag you
bet you wouldn't
It would be like shagging your dad"
He is 10 years older so no jack |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of us feel like that sometimes.
One of the reasons we don't meet anymore is because I told Kate I didn't want to have sex with other women anymore, but really, deep down I think I couldn't understand how women could fancy an ageing guy like me.
It's easy to say "you look great" or "you don't look any different to lots of others" but once the thought is in your head it's hard to get it out isn't it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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thank you everyone for your kind words. We havent actively net this year. Will be ok tomozjust feeling sorry for myself. If others x ant except me for mme then they aint worth me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just lately ive been stuggling with both to the piontbof it affecting meets, as I feel im not good enough
Take a break. Nothing anyone says will help. It's something you need to sort out in your head with the help of your other half. Being on here will magnify any insecurities you may have whether they are justified or not. It needs to come from within though. Good luck."
OP you're gorgeous. Big hug from me xx |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Jules, have a look at Body Gossip.
It's a great charity and some of the stories are very inspirational. They do a lot of work with young people but the lessons are essentially the same for all of us.
I met them a couple of years ago and was inspired to change the narrative in my head about what I look like. It was a real turning point for me and even though I am fatter now than I ever have been I feel more comfortable in my skin than I ever have before.
Take time to get to know your body again - not as you imagine it but as it feels to you and then listen to the stories you are telling yourself about your body.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of us feel like that sometimes.
One of the reasons we don't meet anymore is because I told Kate I didn't want to have sex with other women anymore, but really, deep down I think I couldn't understand how women could fancy an ageing guy like me.
It's easy to say "you look great" or "you don't look any different to lots of others" but once the thought is in your head it's hard to get it out isn't it.
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I always say to people, remember not everyone sees you how you see yourself but its hard to accept that, I think my biggest problem is the fact my husband left me for another woman and I just think if my own husband didn't want me why would anyone else, its been 6 years now but I still carry that thought, odd i know |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Jules, have a look at Body Gossip.
It's a great charity and some of the stories are very inspirational. They do a lot of work with young people but the lessons are essentially the same for all of us.
I met them a couple of years ago and was inspired to change the narrative in my head about what I look like. It was a real turning point for me and even though I am fatter now than I ever have been I feel more comfortable in my skin than I ever have before.
Take time to get to know your body again - not as you imagine it but as it feels to you and then listen to the stories you are telling yourself about your body.
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will have a look thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My self esteem is very high, in the line of being a prophet
Shag as much as I like you I'd not go that far.... "
In his head he can be anything he likes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've accepted how I feel.
I'm happy with myself.
wishbi could pwrv your pics xx"
That would scar you for life. They are better viewed through my shades.
I'll send you a friend invite  |
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I'm sorry to here this Jules. What's made you feel this way? Has there been a trigger. We can all tell you your gorgeous but you have to believe it yourself. Have you thought about having a new hair do or buying some different clothes? I hope its a temperory phase and you get back to your old self soon xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Great profile picts... You look Lovely!
Thank you vxx"
You look great. wish I looked like that and the way you have taken your pics is great too. genuinely envious here. like they said take a little break maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In all seriousness everyone one here seems to go through various issues mainly caused by inconsiderate message creating a lack if respect. Some just respond or ignore and others stew on things. I agree with the main theme of hiding your profile and coming back when your ready. There's nothing wrong with your profile or pics, in fact the opposite but mental strength is the key to success on here. I hid my profile a while and was more curious to see what or who I missed when I came back xx hope this helps xx |
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