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What do you expect from a friendship?
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over a year ago
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"Fab friends, vanilla friends, we all have expectations, mine can vary from friend to friend.
What about you?  "
Lol x friends... Very few and far between x |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Fab friends, vanilla friends, we all have expectations, mine can vary from friend to friend.
What about you?
Lol x friends... Very few and far between x "
I don't have many friends, not in the true sense of the word.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want that person to be honest first and foremost, I have appreciated the direct comments from time to time even if that nothing other than friendship comes from it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone who is a friend......Someone to tell all to...and know any secrets will be kept.
A Caravan in Newent, where you can both get away from it all.
Long walks in the orchards with her dog.
Warmth at night under the duvet.
Someone who knows I'm a swinger (as she used to be) and accepts all that I do.
A gig buddy, busfest companion, theatre mate....all those things and more! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab friends, vanilla friends, we all have expectations, mine can vary from friend to friend.
What about you?
Lol x friends... Very few and far between x I don't have many friends, not in the true sense of the word. "
I'll be you fwiend  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its come to a point in my life,where i find trust a very hard thing to really do,i feel in the end the only one i can trust is my self.
or maybe i am just really paranoid. |
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To be treated with respect that's it plain and simple . I treat none fab and fab friends with respect and compassion . Surely that's not to much to ask , is it ?????? . Unfortunately for some it was . Safe to say they are friends no longer
Know this my fab friends . If you give but receive nothing in return then forget and move on to people that Will . Never forget your true friends .
Here endith the rant .xx
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Fab friends, vanilla friends, we all have expectations, mine can vary from friend to friend.
What about you?
Lol x friends... Very few and far between x I don't have many friends, not in the true sense of the word.
I'll be you fwiend "
Hahahaha, fankoo, but I need your pity not a jot.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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True friendship I think is quite rare ,most of us have acquaintances who come and go at different times in our lives .A lasting friendship should be cherished because they don't happen often |
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"Loyalty, honesty, humour, being there in the good times and the bad, doing fun things together, encouraged to try new things.
Being told off when necessary too .  "
However the above list is dependant on the particular friend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fab friends, vanilla friends, we all have expectations, mine can vary from friend to friend.
What about you?
Lol x friends... Very few and far between x I don't have many friends, not in the true sense of the word. "
I had one for 27 yrs but she turned into a nasty so n so. So I just left it x
N now she's texting saying she misses us x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its come to a point in my life,where i find trust a very hard thing to really do,i feel in the end the only one i can trust is my self.
or maybe i am just really paranoid."
Just because your paranoid doesn't mean everyone ISN'T out to get you.... |
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Yes, honesty and loyalty are a good start, I give unswerving loyalty. The best one give and get a love that never changes no matter how many years have passed. It's so good to find old friends and find nothing has changed!
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By (user no longer on site)
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About 6 months ago I got talking to a lovely young lady at work, it started with just a couple of jokey emails but with every passing conversation it became clear to both of us that we are on the same "wavelength"' in almost everything we do. For the last 6 months not a day has gone by where we haven't spoken and she just has the ability to light up any room and any conversation just by being herself. I've discovered that it is possible for a man and woman to be friends without the complication that sex and feelings bring; in a very short space of time she's become my best friend, my soulmate.
What do I expect from her? Absolutely nothing. What do I get from her? Everything. She's he most beautiful person I've ever met and I feel lucky to have her in my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ones who you don't get to see or speak with in an age but when you do you pick up where you left off... They are the ones that will be there for you when all hell breaks lose - no questions asked... |
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"About 6 months ago I got talking to a lovely young lady at work, it started with just a couple of jokey emails but with every passing conversation it became clear to both of us that we are on the same "wavelength"' in almost everything we do. For the last 6 months not a day has gone by where we haven't spoken and she just has the ability to light up any room and any conversation just by being herself. I've discovered that it is possible for a man and woman to be friends without the complication that sex and feelings bring; in a very short space of time she's become my best friend, my soulmate.
What do I expect from her? Absolutely nothing. What do I get from her? Everything. She's he most beautiful person I've ever met and I feel lucky to have her in my life "
Cherish that!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"About 6 months ago I got talking to a lovely young lady at work, it started with just a couple of jokey emails but with every passing conversation it became clear to both of us that we are on the same "wavelength"' in almost everything we do. For the last 6 months not a day has gone by where we haven't spoken and she just has the ability to light up any room and any conversation just by being herself. I've discovered that it is possible for a man and woman to be friends without the complication that sex and feelings bring; in a very short space of time she's become my best friend, my soulmate.
What do I expect from her? Absolutely nothing. What do I get from her? Everything. She's he most beautiful person I've ever met and I feel lucky to have her in my life "
That is so nice and positive that you have found that - very uplifting |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"About 6 months ago I got talking to a lovely young lady at work, it started with just a couple of jokey emails but with every passing conversation it became clear to both of us that we are on the same "wavelength"' in almost everything we do. For the last 6 months not a day has gone by where we haven't spoken and she just has the ability to light up any room and any conversation just by being herself. I've discovered that it is possible for a man and woman to be friends without the complication that sex and feelings bring; in a very short space of time she's become my best friend, my soulmate.
What do I expect from her? Absolutely nothing. What do I get from her? Everything. She's he most beautiful person I've ever met and I feel lucky to have her in my life
That is so nice and positive that you have found that - very uplifting "
It certainly is...thank you for sharing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fab friends, vanilla friends, we all have expectations, mine can vary from friend to friend.
What about you?
Lol x friends... Very few and far between x I don't have many friends, not in the true sense of the word.
Lol. Not offering pity. Just friends with benefits
I'll be you fwiend Hahahaha, fankoo, but I need your pity not a jot. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fab friends, vanilla friends, we all have expectations, mine can vary from friend to friend.
What about you?
Lol x friends... Very few and far between x I don't have many friends, not in the true sense of the word.
Lol. Not offering pity. Just friends with benefits
I'll be you fwiend Hahahaha, fankoo, but I need your pity not a jot. "
Lol not offering pity. Just friends with benefits. |
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Ive known a particular woman for some 25yrs, we've always got on well although we hold different _iews on certain subjects.
One such is religion, she is extremely religious and I am a secularist. This has led to many discussions of a robust nature which I relished as my opinions and beliefs are there to be shot at - ideas need testing if they are to stand up.
Three months ago she asked an open question on FB about religious _iews and invited comments, I posted my thoughts & took care to keep to generalities & avoided anything personal out of respect to her beliefs.
Unfortunately, she did not think the same & launched into a sneering and intensely personal attack on my life - it wasn't the first time either.
I took a little time to think & came to the unpleasant realisation that she is a smug, self-satisfied zealot & I don't actually enjoy my interactions with her.
I ended the friendship and haven't spoken to her since, although she has contacted me a couple of times which I have ignored.
Life is too short to have people around who's company and ideology makes you uncomfortable.
Its a pity but I feel no regret. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I have levels of friendship but I hope for honesty with each friend at whichever level it is at.
I have recently been in touch with an old friend I haven't seen for a few years but we picked up exactly where we left off, as if there had been no pause in our communication: that's friendship.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Over the years I've learned to temper expectations of others. So rather than say what I expect I'll say what I appreciate from friends. I like it when they tell me that they think I'm behaving like a twat without pussyfooting around. I like it when they challenge the way I'm thinking. I like it when they demonstrate they care about me. And when I'm with them I feel like we've never been apart. I have very few close friends but those I consider to be friends, I'd do everything I can to be there for them if they need me. |
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I have many aquantancies. I've moved around so much, my closest freind I left behind in Liverpool.
I'm a bit of a loner, I flit from one freind to another. As a child I was a loner too, preferring to spend my time with my countless animals...
I would expect trust from friends....
And the people I trust implicitly?.... My two daughters... And my other half. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have many aquantancies. I've moved around so much, my closest freind I left behind in Liverpool.
I'm a bit of a loner, I flit from one freind to another. As a child I was a loner too, preferring to spend my time with my countless animals...
I would expect trust from friends....
And the people I trust implicitly?.... My two daughters... And my other half. "
On here... There's two ladies I trust... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Been working (for the past couple of years) on the basis of not expecting anything. Just trying to give more and see what comes back. Depends a little on me though and how much I'm prepared to give!
If I wanted (not expected) anything....I'd say time. But new baby's and toddlers need their dads so I try and not begrudge them for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend "
I think she's a fking nutter  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend
I think she's a fking nutter "
You both love her and you know it.
Rusty, you are looking a lot like Popeye at the moment.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend "
got to agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My vanilla friends are there for me, when I need to talk.
Loyalty no bollocks between us.
And when needed helped one another out with no payback.
And they know if they are ever in a position my door is always open night or day.
Her |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend "
Funny that. I agree too although I've only known her a very short time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have many aquantancies. I've moved around so much, my closest freind I left behind in Liverpool.
I'm a bit of a loner, I flit from one freind to another. As a child I was a loner too, preferring to spend my time with my countless animals...
I would expect trust from friends....
And the people I trust implicitly?.... My two daughters... And my other half.
On here... There's two ladies I trust... "
And on that note what a lovely note in my box x oh I'm getting all emotional!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend
Funny that. I agree too although I've only known her a very short time. "
Oh hello brother  long time no see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend
Funny that. I agree too although I've only known her a very short time.
Oh hello brother long time no see. "
Shamoooooonesistafocker been weening myself off the place |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Someone that you can hang out without expecting anything from them...plus they must have a hunger for life/dream and be fun, I don't want a boring or too serious friend, have had many of those in the past they usually don't last long in my books.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend
Funny that. I agree too although I've only known her a very short time.
Oh hello brother long time no see.
Shamoooooonesistafocker been weening myself off the place "
Aha and so to that line... From that old song... Welcome to the hotel California! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend
Funny that. I agree too although I've only known her a very short time.
Oh hello brother long time no see.
Shamoooooonesistafocker been weening myself off the place
Aha and so to that line... From that old song... Welcome to the hotel California! "
I was under no illusions about leaving I just thought I'd taken it a bit far with the mirrors on the ceiling and pink champagne on ice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend
Funny that. I agree too although I've only known her a very short time.
Oh hello brother long time no see.
Shamoooooonesistafocker been weening myself off the place
Aha and so to that line... From that old song... Welcome to the hotel California!
I was under no illusions about leaving I just thought I'd taken it a bit far with the mirrors on the ceiling and pink champagne on ice "
Pmsl daft git! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is one person I can speak honestly with and will always get the most sound advice and I met her on here and I think she is a fucking awesome friend
Funny that. I agree too although I've only known her a very short time.
Oh hello brother long time no see.
Shamoooooonesistafocker been weening myself off the place
Aha and so to that line... From that old song... Welcome to the hotel California!
I was under no illusions about leaving I just thought I'd taken it a bit far with the mirrors on the ceiling and pink champagne on ice
Pmsl daft git! "
C'est moi |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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A friend from my childhood was buried today.
As I was writing the card to his parents I remembered that he had witnessed one of the most humiliating moments of my life. Even as a gangly 13 year old he handled it really well and as a thoughtful friend. He never brought it up again and never made me feel foolish and more humiliated. I also believe he kept that secret (although I have no proof other than the no proof).
Friends have got your back.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have no expectations of friends. .I accept them for who they are as I hope they do me...its working well so far as I have some amazing people in my life both vanilla and from the lifestyle and they all know I will be there in a shot if they needed me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A friend from my childhood was buried today.
As I was writing the card to his parents I remembered that he had witnessed one of the most humiliating moments of my life. Even as a gangly 13 year old he handled it really well and as a thoughtful friend. He never brought it up again and never made me feel foolish and more humiliated. I also believe he kept that secret (although I have no proof other than the no proof).
Friends have got your back.
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Sounds like if he had told someone, you would have known.. He had your back. |
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