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Help required please, and no it's not my profile ;-)

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Right today I had a vanilla date with a really lovely girl.

Unfortunately I'm not feeling that spark but she was so 'nice' I don't want to strike the wrong tone of saying no, and coming across as a dickhead.

So should I friend zone her or just be honest?

Genuine advice please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be honest.

You don't have to tell her the details, just say you had a great time but you don't think you are right for each other or something.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have no idea what your trying to do! There's either chemistry or there ain't.

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By *mmabluTV/TS over a year ago

upton wirral

"Be honest.

You don't have to tell her the details, just say you had a great time but you don't think you are right for each other or something."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell her, don't string her along

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always be honest

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By *eryBigGirlWoman over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Just be honest with her. If there's no spark and you don't want to see if any develops then just tell her and end it there. Friending her because your feeling sorry for her cos she's 'nice' is patronising!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's unfair to her and yourself to continue if you don't 'fancy' her - you're just delaying the inevitable split.

Sounds like she's ideal friend material but not girlfriend material - it'll be hard but tell her exactly that.

She'll either be gutted and you never see her again (but at least you've been honest) but hopefully she'll respect your honesty and you've made a new friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just be honest with her. If there's no spark and you don't want to see if any develops then just tell her and end it there. Friending her because your feeling sorry for her cos she's 'nice' is patronising!!"

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Just tell her you're not feeling a spark. You can't help how you feel. It's honest. Honest is good. Tell the truth. It's good for your soul.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get Soneone to text her and say you have been asked to work as a spy and sorry she can't see you again

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys, I'd made up my mind to be honest with anyone new but sometimes sounding out can be a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Either be honest with her

Or lie and say you only go out with girls who fuck on the first date.

Works every time for me

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By *ranthamThroatMan over a year ago

Grantham.

"Just tell her you're not feeling a spark. You can't help how you feel. It's honest. Honest is good. Tell the truth. It's good for your soul.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just tell her the truth mate... but fuck her first

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just tell her the truth mate... but fuck her first

Naughty

Will let her know tonight, and hadn't thought about the patronising aspect so will try and avoid sounding like a tit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Right today I had a vanilla date with a really lovely girl.

Unfortunately I'm not feeling that spark but she was so 'nice' I don't want to strike the wrong tone of saying no, and coming across as a dickhead.

So should I friend zone her or just be honest?

Genuine advice please"

Be polite be friendly but be honest its the only fair way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be honest, if it was the other way round I'd like the woman to be honest with me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks again all, sometimes you need to take a step backwards if you're vulnerable from breakups and other stiff going on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks again all, sometimes you need to take a step backwards if you're vulnerable from breakups and other stiff going on."

You might get blackblast but clarity and honest is the way to go good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can still fuck one hence no chemistry, just see it as a one night stand lol

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

have a second date with her and who knows, worth a try if you like her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"have a second date with her and who knows, worth a try if you like her

Always the optimist Sam x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Just sent an email (it was actually a PoF date)

and for some reason feel slightly like a t**t.

Think I need a time out on here and PoF/dating and work on project Tigerstripe for a bit.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Good luck

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