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help with a problem please

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

i seem to have become the focus of some sort of stalker on here.

a profile was created last week and very quickly made contact with some of the people on my friends and/or verifiers.this included my couples profile(which is mainly used by my partner.twm meets were set up that i know of-one was cancelled the day before("i have to work"although the profile was online most of the evening in question)the other was a no-show.

there has also been spreading of lies only"she said this,he said that"kind of thingbut its making people start to fall out and theres no reason for it.

this is concerning me as i dont know who is doing this,or why.its also concerning the people being contacted and im worried that they"ll be put off meeting me ,which would be a victory for whoever it is.

i must say theres no evidence that the profile is fake,so there are no grounds for reporting it.nobody seems to know whats caused it,but i seem to be the reason for it,and that worries me because i dont know what might happen next.

i have now hidden all verifies and friends list.

does anybody have any ideas or suggestions as what i could do ???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In the first instance - report the profile.

One thing though - if it's a fake profile, someone you don't know - how can they cancel your meets ?

Are you telling someone else who you are planning to meet ?

Many years ago when I was a mobile DJ, I would arrive a gig only to find someone else setting their gear up. When questioned I found that "I had pulled out of the gig" and they had to get someone else ! This went on for a while until I did a bit of sussing out.

The culprit ???

My (now ex) wife ! Couldn't get much closer to home than that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess you could just create another profile and delete this one. You can make it as anonymous as you like. Initially don't put any face pics on it and it will give your stalker time to focus his or her attentions elsewhere. I have no public pics on mine but I send them when requested.

Good Luck!

PS. Met a lovely Welsh lady for 2 days of sex in Weston last year.- it was excellent (and the sex wasn't bad either

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

i have no grounds to report the profile as i dont know that it is fake.

they are not cancelling my meets but i am worried that the trouble they are going to will result in people not wanting to meet me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry I must have misread that part of your post.

However you seem pretty sure that this profile is causing some sort of trouble, so is that not grounds enough to report it ?

Or is this total assumption on your part that this particular person is causing grief ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i agree with redhotcpl ur making

assumption on the profile an ur

making it clear that ur no reporting

it either so why ask for help ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

i have taken your advice and will be reporting the profile.thankyou

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

As Redhot says, if a profile is registered soley to be used maliciously, then you need to REPORT it.

But to be fair to the other user as you are not sure wether this is the case, then I will shut this thread.

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