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affirmation threads? why do people need them?
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By *abio OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
are people into.....
I always find these questions interesting... because it almost feels like the question asker's need some sort of affirmation...
tall or short?
fat or thin?
black or white?
single or married?
young or old?
ect..... ect.... ect....
you are not going to appeal to everyone.... so why try??? so I don't these threads help other peoples confidence in any way shape or form....
if you were going to ask a million people what they like, I am sure you would get a million answers! I think we lovingly call it.... erm.... preference
so if someone was white... and everyone said they liked black guys.... what ya going to do about it????
if someone was young.... and everyone said they likes older guys..... what you going to do about it????
so in reality... its not someone wanting to find out an answer.. because there isn't going to be a "one size fits all" answer..... its just basically a fishing exercise
p.s anyone like a large, black, approaching 40, sarcastic, tells it like it is, guy????? |
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I just see then as canvassing threads....pitting the question out there to see who likes whatever and using that to contact any of those that they like.
I don't see them as threads where people will use the outcome to change anything. |
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By *abio OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Ooo look at you look at you  "
I know... show off big long wordy person....
seriously though... its something where I think "if you are that fragile when you need to look to other people to affirm you, the rejection must crush!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just see then as canvassing threads....pitting the question out there to see who likes whatever and using that to contact any of those that they like.
I don't see them as threads where people will use the outcome to change anything. "
just this its a look a me thread they must work. ......least we haven't had a rate my wife etc for ages  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with Fabio.
I mean, lets say a chap is 6'2, average build, white and single and asks what sorts of guys people are into, it's hardly as if he can get a height reduction, black up and put on the lbs to suit someone who might be into short tubby black fellas. (No offence to anyone)
Seems to me that such threads are nothing more than a 'look at me' vanity thread. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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swinging takes a certain amount of ooomph, it is really not for the lily livered, meeting total strangers for sex.... if you constantly need reassurance, god help your meets |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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plus there is a overwhelming desire to be part of something, not sure what that something is but sometimes I do think if a few key people were to say let's jump off this cliff'.........
the rocks below would be awash with bodies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's more of a attention thing I feel. They probably already know that some women/men like their type, they are just looking to attract them on the forum by pointing out what they are.
It is a poor effort, but people can do what they like within the rules. |
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Some need affirmation and some don't. There are few in these fora who never explain or justify and many who will try and fit in, I think it's part of that way of thinking.
Those threads are a good way of bringing oneself to the attention of similar folk.
I'm off to start a "who's into cheese scones, fresh from the oven with an inch of Lurpack?" thread.  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Some need affirmation and some don't. There are few in these fora who never explain or justify and many who will try and fit in, I think it's part of that way of thinking.
Those threads are a good way of bringing oneself to the attention of similar folk.
I'm off to start a "who's into cheese scones, fresh from the oven with an inch of Lurpack?" thread. "
Have you got any fruit ones? |
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"Some need affirmation and some don't. There are few in these fora who never explain or justify and many who will try and fit in, I think it's part of that way of thinking.
Those threads are a good way of bringing oneself to the attention of similar folk.
I'm off to start a "who's into cheese scones, fresh from the oven with an inch of Lurpack?" thread.
Have you got any fruit ones?"
Ooer Mrs. I have plenty of fruity ones....scones too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Agree with Fabio.
I mean, lets say a chap is 6'2, average build, white and single and asks what sorts of guys people are into, it's hardly as if he can get a height reduction, black up and put on the lbs to suit someone who might be into short tubby black fellas. (No offence to anyone)
Seems to me that such threads are nothing more than a 'look at me' vanity thread."
You do know you cannot say 'tubby'?
You need to say 'calorifically challenged', just so you know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's more of a attention thing I feel. They probably already know that some women/men like their type, they are just looking to attract them on the forum by pointing out what they are.
It is a poor effort, but people can do what they like within the rules."
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
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"plus there is a overwhelming desire to be part of something, not sure what that something is but sometimes I do think if a few key people were to say let's jump off this cliff'.........
the rocks below would be awash with bodies."
Any particular cliff View? I can be on my way in 5 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's more of a attention thing I feel. They probably already know that some women/men like their type, they are just looking to attract them on the forum by pointing out what they are.
It is a poor effort, but people can do what they like within the rules."
I think you have a fair point there and there never seems to be a shortage of people to give an answer although like you said most already know it. |
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"plus there is a overwhelming desire to be part of something, not sure what that something is but sometimes I do think if a few key people were to say let's jump off this cliff'.........
the rocks below would be awash with bodies."
Yep! That's true of any group of people though but more so in a competitive environment such as this. It reminds me of the school playground where everyone sides with the most popular regardless of right or wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"plus there is a overwhelming desire to be part of something, not sure what that something is but sometimes I do think if a few key people were to say let's jump off this cliff'.........
the rocks below would be awash with bodies.
Yep! That's true of any group of people though but more so in a competitive environment such as this. It reminds me of the school playground where everyone sides with the most popular regardless of right or wrong."
Sad though, isn't it. We are all supposed to be grown up. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"plus there is a overwhelming desire to be part of something, not sure what that something is but sometimes I do think if a few key people were to say let's jump off this cliff'.........
the rocks below would be awash with bodies.
Any particular cliff View? I can be on my way in 5 "
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"plus there is a overwhelming desire to be part of something, not sure what that something is but sometimes I do think if a few key people were to say let's jump off this cliff'.........
the rocks below would be awash with bodies."
as others look on!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they aren't asking for their own benefit. Could just be a discussion point for bored or interested people to join in with. Or maybe they are genuinely interested in why people prefer certain things. It looks to me like some start threads to make themselves seem intelligent or interesting. I don't question why people start threads,I don't comment with clever dick condescension on threads to belittle people like some do. The reason being I don't really care |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"plus there is a overwhelming desire to be part of something, not sure what that something is but sometimes I do think if a few key people were to say let's jump off this cliff'.........
the rocks below would be awash with bodies.
Yep! That's true of any group of people though but more so in a competitive environment such as this. It reminds me of the school playground where everyone sides with the most popular regardless of right or wrong."
such a good observation, it can be very much like that sometimes on here to the point I can feel really frustrated with some people that I feel are 'playing the forum game'.
That's when I know it's time to take a step back... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"plus there is a overwhelming desire to be part of something, not sure what that something is but sometimes I do think if a few key people were to say let's jump off this cliff'.........
the rocks below would be awash with bodies.
Yep! That's true of any group of people though but more so in a competitive environment such as this. It reminds me of the school playground where everyone sides with the most popular regardless of right or wrong."
I always sided with the underdog at school,I would stick up for the picked on and the popular people were nothing to me. They still are |
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A lot of these thread questions can be answered with a generic "some will, some won't" answer and the majority of answers won't be helpful anyway, either deliberately so (and I have been guilty of this on occasion) or otherwise and I see some threads, as stated above, a poorly disguised phishing ploy. I've always said that if a person is willing to get naked and have sex with a stranger, then they need to be reasonably self confident and have a high level of emotional intelligence. |
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