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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tried really hard not to be negative in my profile. I do have a set "list" of men i want to meet and i have to put them down as a way of filtering. However, it still doesn't make any difference. It is after all my profile. If i saw a make profile which caught my eye but they state that they do not wish to meet a lady who was bigger than a size 12, no older than 40 and a non-smoker then i wouldn't bother messaging them. |
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Maybe we are just confusing negativity with open honesty.
Surely thats to be commended??
Problem is perhaps this quality does not translate into naughtiness.
I know plenty of people who are gents/ ladies outwardly but once bed door closed...... Just switch to dirty buggers mode... |
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I know what you mean. We try to keep ours open and positive.
However I can fully understand why some people are driven to having a rant on their profile. Some folks just do not give a toss what you write and it can get annoying.
Luckily our profile is clearly dull as we do not get many messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does put me off. But I can understand with the amount of stupid questions and message women get that sometimes it's inevitable "
lol youd be amazed at the crap t'girls get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does put me off. But I can understand with the amount of stupid questions and message women get that sometimes it's inevitable "
My profile often gets changed out of frustration. So I think it's better to state on your profile the things that aren't negotiable. I still get asked if I ever accommodate though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if its a list regarding boundaries then no
if its a moan then yes
we have a slight rant on ours and male wants it off but fem keeps it on due to people messaging without reading it   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does put me off. But I can understand with the amount of stupid questions and message women get that sometimes it's inevitable
lol youd be amazed at the crap t'girls get"
I can understand.
I get a fair share of weirdness also lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was really torn adding the "what I'm not looking for" section to my profile, I've put a lot of effort into it to not make it ranty and there aren't lots of capital letters.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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After several drafts, I decided that saying what I do want eliminates the need for me stating what I do not want.
Then I realised that it either will or won't be some people's cup of tea, so it'll have to do 
I'd better get my arse to some clubs and socials, so people can see how moody I really am  |
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It puts me off when there's more 'I don't wants' than 'wants' and the line 'NO SINGLE MEN!' Surely you just change your filters and don't need to put that in?...I end up adding bits in when I need to make something clear...out of curiosity, does mine come across as ranty or stuck up? (Prepares herself for some constructive criticism!)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love quirky, humorous profiles.. Lighthearted etc. I like it when you can get a feel, of what a person is like.
People listing their likes and dislikes, cuts all the questions, will they won't they, do they? What if questions...
This to me is totally different from the Demanding... And Shouting, profiles that ooze negativity. I enjoy reading a good profile, and have occasionally, messaged the writer, for this reason only...to commend them and say Thankyou for making me smile. |
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"I love quirky, humorous profiles.. Lighthearted etc. I like it when you can get a feel, of what a person is like.
People listing their likes and dislikes, cuts all the questions, will they won't they, do they? What if questions...
This to me is totally different from the Demanding... And Shouting, profiles that ooze negativity. I enjoy reading a good profile, and have occasionally, messaged the writer, for this reason only...to commend them and say Thankyou for making me smile."
Yours made me smile, it just screams 'we're fucking nuts and love to have fun!' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think its negative to "list" what you dont want on here, we have done it, and it doesnt offend me or come across negative when I read other peoples profiles who do the same, o chose to state what we dont want because that list is much shorter than what we do want, and we dont get half as many unwanted messages as we previously used to.
Miss Jay x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are ways of saying what you are looking for without being ranty.
RANTY CAPITALS MAKE ME GIGGLE. And they don't put off idiots. "
Ranty capitals tend to be ignored by the ones they are aimed at and put off the people who would bother to read a profile... As soon as I see them I switch off because this for me is about having fun not watching my every word in case I cause offence.
I've put a lot of what I want and don't want in my profile but hopefully it's in a more approachable way than most. It seems to be working for me anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love quirky, humorous profiles.. Lighthearted etc. I like it when you can get a feel, of what a person is like.
People listing their likes and dislikes, cuts all the questions, will they won't they, do they? What if questions...
This to me is totally different from the Demanding... And Shouting, profiles that ooze negativity. I enjoy reading a good profile, and have occasionally, messaged the writer, for this reason only...to commend them and say Thankyou for making me smile.
Yours made me smile, it just screams 'we're fucking nuts and love to have fun!' "
Thanks lovely, nuts? OI a little unhinged maybe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are ways of saying what you are looking for without being ranty.
RANTY CAPITALS MAKE ME GIGGLE. And they don't put off idiots.
Ranty capitals tend to be ignored by the ones they are aimed at and put off the people who would bother to read a profile... As soon as I see them I switch off because this for me is about having fun not watching my every word in case I cause offence.
I've put a lot of what I want and don't want in my profile but hopefully it's in a more approachable way than most. It seems to be working for me anyway "
this bit is true, the idiots just skip to the pics so the ranty capitals are probably a waste of time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Shouty,demanding,ranty,whinging profiles do not attract me in the slightest
Shurrup and do as you're told mrs!  "
And where the hell have you been? Ive missed your presence |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
If they don't like it, they can easy pass me by.
Mine is blunt and honest (but like me) If they can't accept that online, then we're not going to get on if we met. Therefore its a level of filter. |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
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"Shouty,demanding,ranty,whinging profiles do not attract me in the slightest
Shurrup and do as you're told mrs!
And where the hell have you been? Ive missed your presence "
Been stuck up a bloody tree in your back garden for the last week. |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
I try to get my (admittedly short) list of dont's over in a humorous way, however it still takes a bit of bandwidth...saying that though, with my filters in place, my profile works well for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh yeah. This is supposed to be fun, but I don't really like the apparent "you snivelling underlings would be lucky for me to even reply" vibe.
While I may not be everyone's cup of tea , that's totally cool, as that's just people and that's how this works, but it strikes me that, despite having quizzes, and other barriers on profiles, the "undesirables" (hehe) still chance their arm anyway.
..which sorta leaves the barrier pointless surely you'd still have to sift through the noise to find the potential non-daft message?
P.s.: I only do daft messages, so that's me jiggered lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ours probably doesn't work 
Bruce hasn't been in touch yet
Now that he's retired from "Strictly" he'll probably have a bit more time for browsing on Fab "
LOL LOL wrong Bruce |
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"Does people who list what they don't like put you off making contact with them?"
It depends. If they don't like the same things as I don't like then fine. If they don't like things I do like, then they wouldn't want to meet me and I probably wouldn't meet them anyway. A list of likes and dislikes is a good idea. |
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"Does people who list what they don't like put you off making contact with them?
It depends. If they don't like the same things as I don't like then fine. If they don't like things I do like, then they wouldn't want to meet me and I probably wouldn't meet them anyway. A list of likes and dislikes is a good idea. "
I like lists! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe we are just confusing negativity with open honesty.
Surely thats to be commended??
Problem is perhaps this quality does not translate into naughtiness.
I know plenty of people who are gents/ ladies outwardly but once bed door closed...... Just switch to dirty buggers mode..."
I get that my open direct approach can come across Sharp and negative at times until people see me laugh .
Her |
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