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Oh I know it's not Thursday but...
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As some of you know my ex smashed up my front door d*unk out of his skull scaring the shit out of our 3 year old at 6am on a Sunday morning a few months back. As neither of us can afford court he's still been seeing our son but with me present for the past 3 months.
Anyway I finally decided that hopefully our boy is over the worst (hed started wetting the bed and having nightmares after it happened but appears to have settled down now) so told his dad that if he wanted to take him out for a few hours today to see how it went then that was ok with me. (I've been in contact with health visitors and social services about it and was given advice about what to do the past few months from them) so when he asked what time I said how about 10? Earlier if you like?
He said 10 is fine and what time would he drop him back? I said 2? No problem.
So he Skype him last night to say see you tomorrow and said see you about 10-10.30 . I though oh he's allowing himself half hour in case there's any delays or whatever. Surely he will be here at 10 or even before as he's been going on and on about wanting to take him out.
No. I get a text at 10.30 saying we are a few minutes away then when I said I'll see you at 2.30 then he had a moan at me!!
He's fucking lucky he's taking him anywhere at all because if I had my way he wouldn't be! ever! But now his actions and everything has been recorded properly with the authorities he's on his last chance. So I'm doing what they've told me to do even thou every fibre of my being says to keep my son as far away from me as possible!!
It's a shitty situation. 
Sorry for the rant. No need to reply just had to get it out and I'm home alone and everyone's out!!! |
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"Hugs xxxx Roll on 2pm. Hope it goes ok."
Now I'm getting texts to say I didn't tell him our son was in hospital.
He's only been in twice. Once he was blue lighted over at 3am when he was 6 months old and he was with me in the ambulance.
The other time was he was sent over to see the paediatrician to get checked for some weird disease and I text him straight away to say i was going over and i would let him know if it was serious or we were being kept in.
I always thought he was a compulsive liar but someone recently mentioned the word sociopath to me. I had no idea what that meant but having looked online that's def him! |
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"Google 'gaslighting'. You're not insane. Take a deep breath, have a brew... x"
OMG. That's uncanny. Wish I could of seen it years ago when I was in the thick of it. But then I wouldn't have my beautiful boy. He deserves better x |
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over a year ago
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Your feeling uptight as this is the first time he's taken the little one out since that incident!
At least he showed up to pick him up and hopefully he will drop him back to you on time.
Take deep breathes and down get into an argument when he drops the little one off!!
Big hugs lovely and you know where I am if you need me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a real shitty situation and I've seen it before. You're doing the right thing and protecting your son. Maybe if your ex invested interest in your son rather than getting digs at you he'd actually make a good dad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Gaslighting or gas-lighting is a form of mental abuse in which false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity.
Instances may range simply from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents ever occurred, up to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.
Be strong, be brave and hope everything works out ok  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd never heard of gas lighting. Clearly just one if the things my ex used to do to me.
Big hugs Hottie. Really feel for you and understand more than I can say on the forums. Xxxxxx |
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"How did it go?"
Started banging on about me getting the time wrong still when he dropped him off. I started shutting the door while he was talking and he said 'I'm still talking to you'
I just said 'yeah I could here you I wS just bored of listening to it' and shut the door in his face  |
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By *smCouple
over a year ago
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"How did it go?
Started banging on about me getting the time wrong still when he dropped him off. I started shutting the door while he was talking and he said 'I'm still talking to you'
I just said 'yeah I could here you I wS just bored of listening to it' and shut the door in his face "
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Thanks everyone. I know like has been said before you only hear one side on here, but if I could get people to come on and verify it they would include his own family and friends even they are starting to see it! |
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