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I have opening messages like "let me piss in your mouth" or "let me fuck your ass" etc or asking for naked pics after 2 messages. I still expect a level of decorum until we meet and decide to take things further, is this unrealistic?
I feel just because I'm on fab I don't have to fuck anybody that messages me I still have the right to choose depending on whether I feel we get on / have a mutual attraction. | |||
"Am I wrong to think I deserve the same respect men would show a women they met say in a bar? I've been told on numerous occasions by guys on here no because we "met" on a sex site?!?!
I have opening messages like "let me piss in your mouth" or "let me fuck your ass" etc or asking for naked pics after 2 messages. I still expect a level of decorum until we meet and decide to take things further, is this unrealistic?
I feel just because I'm on fab I don't have to fuck anybody that messages me I still have the right to choose depending on whether I feel we get on / have a mutual attraction."Very true some of the opening messages men send are terrible but it must work for some of them | |||
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"yeap,,I get loads of pathetic messages from guys,if I don't delete them I ask them if they'd dare approach me in a bar and speak like that in real life. " Yep this x | |||
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"I'm glad to see people agreeing with me I often pull guys on their manners and am just told its a sex site its a fault of mine if I expect manners as I won't get them. Usually I just ignore tho! Lol" but it isn't a sex site, its a swingers site. This is where things get a bit confused I think. | |||
"I'm glad to see people agreeing with me I often pull guys on their manners and am just told its a sex site its a fault of mine if I expect manners as I won't get them. Usually I just ignore tho! Lol" I guess we have high standards.... It's my body and I'll say who gets near me.x  | |||
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 but they seem to want it in writing that I definitely will. Is there a prerequisite that says coz I'm on fab I have to fuck them. Am I not allowed to meet in person and make a decision based on the meet? | |||
"Also on many occasions I've spoken to and got on with guys, arranged to meet and told them not guaranteed sex but if there's a spark I will but they seem to want it in writing that I definitely will. Is there a prerequisite that says coz I'm on fab I have to fuck them. Am I not allowed to meet in person and make a decision based on the meet? "Hun, you should only ever take things further if there is a spark and if you want to, as soon as you feel pressured or unsure, find the right moment and walk away, there are to many nobbers out there who want just one thing | |||
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"Also on many occasions I've spoken to and got on with guys, arranged to meet and told them not guaranteed sex but if there's a spark I will but they seem to want it in writing that I definitely will. Is there a prerequisite that says coz I'm on fab I have to fuck them. Am I not allowed to meet in person and make a decision based on the meet?
Hun, you should only ever take things further if there is a spark and if you want to, as soon as you feel pressured or unsure, find the right moment and walk away, there are to many nobbers out there who want just one thing "When it gets to that stage I usually refuse to meet. That said, embarrassed as I am to admit it, I have fucked guys I didn't want to just because I felt I've put myself in a situation I can get out if | |||
"yeap,,I get loads of pathetic messages from guys,if I don't delete them I ask them if they'd dare approach me in a bar and speak like that in real life. Yep this x" Funny thing is they don't ,they just stare,,creepy fuckers,lol | |||
"This happened to me and I hate to admit but I carried on with the meet because I felt "obliged". Oh god, I hated myself afterwards, it actually really upset me and was the reason I deleted my old profile and stayed away for a year. I will never, ever do that again!" I've just admitted the same thing. Glad its not just me but we should learn to say no. And guys should learn to read the signs and not continue. | |||
"I'm glad to see people agreeing with me I often pull guys on their manners and am just told its a sex site its a fault of mine if I expect manners as I won't get them. Usually I just ignore tho! Lol but it isn't a sex site, its a swingers site. This is where things get a bit confused I think." I've had exactly this conversation today...tried to explain there is a difference! | |||
"This happened to me and I hate to admit but I carried on with the meet because I felt "obliged". Oh god, I hated myself afterwards, it actually really upset me and was the reason I deleted my old profile and stayed away for a year. I will never, ever do that again! I've just admitted the same thing. Glad its not just me but we should learn to say no. And guys should learn to read the signs and not continue." Unfortunately most guys think between their legs rather than between the ears and miss the obvious signs. | |||
"This happened to me and I hate to admit but I carried on with the meet because I felt "obliged". Oh god, I hated myself afterwards, it actually really upset me and was the reason I deleted my old profile and stayed away for a year. I will never, ever do that again! I've just admitted the same thing. Glad its not just me but we should learn to say no. And guys should learn to read the signs and not continue. Unfortunately most guys think between their legs rather than between the ears and miss the obvious signs. "Signs like no I don't want to or stop are quite obvious but they still don't notice them either | |||
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"A typical message from a guy,,,,,,,,,,,, Wow your a stunning slut im free tonight id love to fill you with my cum,,blah,blah,fucking blah I mean how can I refuse an offer like that and from a faceless random nutter,,makes you wanna drop everything n die to meet them. " Oh yea get them all the time. Yes I do ignore and block but some days it does get me down.....not today tho I quite happy and just want a wee moan to get it off my chest haha.... Sometimes love a good moan  | |||
"A typical message from a guy,,,,,,,,,,,, Wow your a stunning slut im free tonight id love to fill you with my cum,,blah,blah,fucking blah I mean how can I refuse an offer like that and from a faceless random nutter,,makes you wanna drop everything n die to meet them. " Why are you quoting my message to you from earlier??? lol
Seriously, some guy sent you that, OMG!
How did you reply or did you just delete it? | |||
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"You don't deserve less respect because you meet on a sex site... But unfortunately a sex site is a magnet for pretty ignorant people; and ignorant people with the horn can be monsters. " Maybe you should hold a Fab Training Seminar for single guys x | |||
"A typical message from a guy,,,,,,,,,,,, Wow your a stunning slut im free tonight id love to fill you with my cum,,blah,blah,fucking blah I mean how can I refuse an offer like that and from a faceless random nutter,,makes you wanna drop everything n die to meet them. Why are you quoting my message to you from earlier??? lol
Seriously, some guy sent you that, OMG!
How did you reply or did you just delete it? "im quite used to it,happens all the time,i just delete..lol had a female on here message me today apologising for a message her boyfriend had sent me last week that was a tad creepy,,it seems she knows his password and checks his mail. That was a bit unexpected | |||
"A typical message from a guy,,,,,,,,,,,, Wow your a stunning slut im free tonight id love to fill you with my cum,,blah,blah,fucking blah I mean how can I refuse an offer like that and from a faceless random nutter,,makes you wanna drop everything n die to meet them. Why are you quoting my message to you from earlier??? lol
Seriously, some guy sent you that, OMG!
How did you reply or did you just delete it?
im quite used to it,happens all the time,i just delete..lol had a female on here message me today apologising for a message her boyfriend had sent me last week that was a tad creepy,,it seems she knows his password and checks his mail.
That was a bit unexpected"WOW, now that is weird and creepy! | |||
"You don't deserve less respect because you meet on a sex site... But unfortunately a sex site is a magnet for pretty ignorant people; and ignorant people with the horn can be monsters. "  | |||
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"This happened to me and I hate to admit but I carried on with the meet because I felt "obliged". Oh god, I hated myself afterwards, it actually really upset me and was the reason I deleted my old profile and stayed away for a year. I will never, ever do that again!" That's the reason I always do a social meet first in a public place. Then there's no pressure on either person. You should never feel "obliged" to do anything, however you've made contact. I'm sorry you had that experience. 
OP - doesn't matter what kind of site it is. I think people of both sexes say things in messages here that they would never dream of saying face to face as an opening line. Go with your gut instinct, that generally stands you in good stead. Ignore insults, just block and move on. As others have said, there are some lovely people on here, you just have to out the wheat from the chaff.
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"Although I have had a number of spontaneous meets in the dim and distant, I am unlikely to go to a play meet without having got to know my playmates beforehand. Probably a good amount of time chatting and a social meet. By the time we decide to play we are well up for it. I find the disrespect described in earlier posts abhorrent and don't understand it really "Well I've been told on numerous occasions I can't meet to decide its a yes or no.....guess what - its always a no and a next please lol | |||
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"I'm not sure why anyone on here 'expects' respect. Do all women respect guys who send a nice message by at least giving a polite reply ..... er no!! Do all guys respect couples by addressing both of them in messages instead of ignoring the fact that there is a guy involved in the relationship... er no!! So why should all women expect respect from single guys, or is it because they think they should be placed on a pedestal on here??? Plenty of people, men, women and couples, show respect to others, some don't, if you don't like it just block and move on "I can't speak for all the ladies on the site but I expect to be treated with respect in either vanilla life or here. If people respect me then it's given back. If not that's what the block button is for. If people dont like it hit your block button. As for putting on a pedestal it's only so people can look up our skirts. | |||
"I'm not sure why anyone on here 'expects' respect. Do all women respect guys who send a nice message by at least giving a polite reply ..... er no!! Do all guys respect couples by addressing both of them in messages instead of ignoring the fact that there is a guy involved in the relationship... er no!! So why should all women expect respect from single guys, or is it because they think they should be placed on a pedestal on here??? Plenty of people, men, women and couples, show respect to others, some don't, if you don't like it just block and move on
I can't speak for all the ladies on the site but I expect to be treated with respect in either vanilla life or here. If people respect me then it's given back. If not that's what the block button is for. If people dont like it hit your block button. As for putting on a pedestal it's only so people can look up our skirts. "Omg I read the first comment and thought I'll answer when I get home but there's no point now as this response was almost word for word what I was going to type. I always expect it and always give it in return and if I initiate the conversation I give respect initially. | |||
"Am I wrong to think I deserve the same respect men would show a women they met say in a bar? I've been told on numerous occasions by guys on here no because we "met" on a sex site?!?!
I have opening messages like "let me piss in your mouth" or "let me fuck your ass" etc or asking for naked pics after 2 messages. I still expect a level of decorum until we meet and decide to take things further, is this unrealistic?
I feel just because I'm on fab I don't have to fuck anybody that messages me I still have the right to choose depending on whether I feel we get on / have a mutual attraction."I would say that you definitely deserve the same level of respect, but are naive if you think setting yourself up on a swinging site isn't going to attract some degree of negative attention. Harsh, but it's true. | |||
"Am I wrong to think I deserve the same respect men would show a women they met say in a bar? I've been told on numerous occasions by guys on here no because we "met" on a sex site?!?!
I have opening messages like "let me piss in your mouth" or "let me fuck your ass" etc or asking for naked pics after 2 messages. I still expect a level of decorum until we meet and decide to take things further, is this unrealistic?
I feel just because I'm on fab I don't have to fuck anybody that messages me I still have the right to choose depending on whether I feel we get on / have a mutual attraction.
I would say that you definitely deserve the same level of respect, but are naive if you think setting yourself up on a swinging site isn't going to attract some degree of negative attention. Harsh, but it's true. "Oh I expect it I just don't agree with it haha. Tbh I not had any negative attention just dickheads who have no idea on how to speak to women or know what swinging is. That's a lie actually there is a couple of serial dicks who send negative messages all the time... I just ignore lol | |||
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"Am I wrong to think I deserve the same respect men would show a women they met say in a bar? I've been told on numerous occasions by guys on here no because we "met" on a sex site?!?!
I have opening messages like "let me piss in your mouth" or "let me fuck your ass" etc or asking for naked pics after 2 messages. I still expect a level of decorum until we meet and decide to take things further, is this unrealistic?
I feel just because I'm on fab I don't have to fuck anybody that messages me I still have the right to choose depending on whether I feel we get on / have a mutual attraction."You deserve to have respect regardless of meeting here. Men like that are called wankers because that's what they spend most of their time doing. They don't respect their own hand that shakes them off. For people like that the answer must forever be no. Picture in your mind the kind of people you want to meet and know what you deserve. If they dont meet your standard block, delete, give them a good telling off if need be. Manners cost nothing | |||
"I have to say though some guys that message me are very polite and charming,n some are fucking yummy,also quite a few from the forums are full of banter n really good fun" Ive met a very lot of lovely people too, certainly not tarring everyone with the brush. Just some idiots ruin for the good guys. | |||
"I can honestly say, I have never been in a bar and asked someone if I can piss in their mouth, I usually buy them a drink if they are thirsty "I don't think you'd be standing for long if you did....... | |||
"I have to say though some guys that message me are very polite and charming,n some are fucking yummy,also quite a few from the forums are full of banter n really good fun Ive met a very lot of lovely people too, certainly not tarring everyone with the brush. Just some idiots ruin for the good guys." indeedy | |||
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"Am I wrong to think I deserve the same respect men would show a women they met say in a bar? I've been told on numerous occasions by guys on here no because we "met" on a sex site?!?!
I have opening messages like "let me piss in your mouth" or "let me fuck your ass" etc or asking for naked pics after 2 messages. I still expect a level of decorum until we meet and decide to take things further, is this unrealistic?
I feel just because I'm on fab I don't have to fuck anybody that messages me I still have the right to choose depending on whether I feel we get on / have a mutual attraction."men who send you messages like that most likely are showing you the same level of respect they show women in real life | |||
