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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
It's poor form. I got very annoyed when I discovered I was pillow talk for a previous meet and his next. He also went through my friends list and messaged someone on there to say he'd played, and did she fancy a threesum with him and me without my knowledge. Raging didn't come close! |
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Happened to me. A local guy I sort of knew from years ago contacted me on here and was arranging a meet. That weekend I was at a bar and his best friend was there. He started making comments about my private pics. I live in a small town so once word gets about it spreads like wildfire. Fortunately the friend (who's my best mates brother) agreed to keep quiet and stop with the comments but I messaged the guy I was meant to be meeting told him he was a cunt and blocked him straight away  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not on at all and I feel he has earned a block from you.
I've had guys send me pics of women and couples they are friends with from their private galleries before  . Also non-fab pics.
I don't see it as them trusting me but betraying the trust of said "friends".
My response has always been that I should not be seeing them, since we are not friends. Also that they would probably do the same with my pics. Of course, the first thing I ask is whether the people in the pics know and are happy for me - who they don't know or "know" to be seeing them. You can imagine the baffled looks I receive *eyeroll
Results - Friend request not accepted and meet of any sort not happening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More worryingly there's a website that guys are using to post photos of women on, taken from here POF and FB mainly, and videos that they've made! I've looked thru it and seen pics from here on it hence we have hidden most and made private even more of ours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone I had a social meet with showed me private pictures of someone on his friends list. Told him he really shouldn't be doing that and he just laughed and shrugged. He was deleted as soon as I got home.
Another man I'd met 18 months ago under different profiles discussed our meet with someone else fairly recently. I was furious to say the least so he got a message with a piece of my mind and has now joined my exclusive blocked list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"More worryingly there's a website that guys are using to post photos of women on, taken from here POF and FB mainly, and videos that they've made! I've looked thru it and seen pics from here on it hence we have hidden most and made private even more of ours"
fuck this sccares me slightly |
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"A fab friend has just admitted he's shown my friends only pictures to a woman living in my city!
I know it happens and it's the risk we all take but really?"
so wrong, would definitely feel a little betrayed and angry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A fab friend has just admitted he's shown my friends only pictures to a woman living in my city!
I know it happens and it's the risk we all take but really?"
Block him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's another version of bragging down the pub any bloke with an ounce of respect or discretion wouldn't do it. I find myself saying this more often lately but what is wrong with people! "
its what men do, always have always will.  |
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"It's another version of bragging down the pub any bloke with an ounce of respect or discretion wouldn't do it. I find myself saying this more often lately but what is wrong with people!
its what men do, always have always will. "
some not all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's another version of bragging down the pub any bloke with an ounce of respect or discretion wouldn't do it. I find myself saying this more often lately but what is wrong with people!
its what men do, always have always will. "
As always you forgot the important word. It's what "SOME" men do.  |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
Agreed. Any kind of sharing of personal information or photos is an act of trust in the person with whom you're sharing. Betraying that trust is utterly crappy.
"its what men do, always have always will. "
WTF?!...
Some, perhaps, but by no means all or even most... when are we going to get beyond this kind of man-bashing around here?... why must every conversation be lowered by such misandry?.. it's almost as crappy. |
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"Agreed. Any kind of sharing of personal information or photos is an act of trust in the person with whom you're sharing. Betraying that trust is utterly crappy.
its what men do, always have always will.
WTF?!...
Some, perhaps, but by no means all or even most... when are we going to get beyond this kind of man-bashing around here?... why must every conversation be lowered by such misandry?.. it's almost as crappy."
We talked and resolved the issue.
Kop, I dislike misandry as much as I dislike misogyny and I bet that holds true for most of the regular posters here, men and women. My men friends here are a cracking bunch, some of whom are friends outside of this malarky.
In fact, it took swinging for me to have men friends for the first time in my life and I love them all! |
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What a charming Gentleman
I was messaged at the weekend by a couple who I had never met or spoken to in any way but we have a mutual friend outside of Fab. In this message he said 'oh the Mrs thought that you are Nicky ****' and used my full name
To say that I wasn't happy about this is a massive understatement.
Why do people think that it is acceptable to pass on others personal details, pictures or what happens in the bedroom  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think people realise that this isn't facebook,twitter, or instagram where picture sharing is the norm
Ive had this happen a while back,the guy told me him and his mate are looking at my pics,hes not on fab but would I like to meet him?
Fuck off wankstain....block! |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
"Agreed. Any kind of sharing of personal information or photos is an act of trust in the person with whom you're sharing. Betraying that trust is utterly crappy.
its what men do, always have always will.
WTF?!...
Some, perhaps, but by no means all or even most... when are we going to get beyond this kind of man-bashing around here?... why must every conversation be lowered by such misandry?.. it's almost as crappy.
We talked and resolved the issue.
Kop, I dislike misandry as much as I dislike misogyny and I bet that holds true for most of the regular posters here, men and women. My men friends here are a cracking bunch, some of whom are friends outside of this malarky.
In fact, it took swinging for me to have men friends for the first time in my life and I love them all!"
I hope you didn't think I was taking issue with your OP - I don't think for a moment that you're a misandrist and you were quite right to have been upset by someone sharing your photos. I'd be very upset too.
What irked me was another's suggestion that, as a man, it's what I do and will always will do - a sweeping, reductive sexist statement if ever there was one. It just depresses me that seemingly every conversation here has at least one post expressing that sort of sexism and that it still seems to be accepted as a self-evident truth by so many.
I understand very well that your're more enlightened than that and I'm sorry if I gave the impression it was your view too... and I'm glad you've resolved things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you share things with people you hardly know then be prepared for them to be shared again"
Frankly, when sharing pics with anyone on this site, no matter how frugally its done, you're essentially pouring your 'trust'into someone you don't actually know. Seems a bit odd to do that, IMHO. I accept that people I hadn't intended will find out I'm on this site, I simply mitigate the risk as much as I can and accept that risk for the reality that it is. The truth is, meet or not, noone on this site who isn't a genuine friend or family owes you anything beyond common courtesy. Some would argue that sharing your pics violates that bit the truth is that the concept of common courtesy is subjective and means different things to different people. |
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I can imagine a few of us doing reverse image searches on pics now, to see that they havent been posted on other sites. Best form is to only share some pics with 'friends' imo and to possibly degrade the quality of the pics youre using, so that they have diminished interest for others. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"If you share things with people you hardly know then be prepared for them to be shared again
Frankly, when sharing pics with anyone on this site, no matter how frugally its done, you're essentially pouring your 'trust'into someone you don't actually know. Seems a bit odd to do that, IMHO. I accept that people I hadn't intended will find out I'm on this site, I simply mitigate the risk as much as I can and accept that risk for the reality that it is. The truth is, meet or not, noone on this site who isn't a genuine friend or family owes you anything beyond common courtesy. Some would argue that sharing your pics violates that bit the truth is that the concept of common courtesy is subjective and means different things to different people. "
Assessing the risk, mitigating against it and making it clear that it isn't acceptable when someone breaches your trust is about all I think you can do.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A fab friend has just admitted he's shown my friends only pictures to a woman living in my city!
I know it happens and it's the risk we all take but really?"
It is the risk you take but only a sad twat is disrespectful of betrays trust in my book. |
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