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Would you consider yourself a tactful person?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When it comes to privacy matters in swinging we are very tactful and discreet. In everday life I'm still quite tactful but mr serens is as subtle as a pork chop in a synogogue  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When it comes to privacy matters in swinging we are very tactful and discreet. In everday life I'm still quite tactful but mr serens is as subtle as a pork chop in a synogogue "
Hey lovely norks, I'm very subtle.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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depends on circumstances for me! if somethin has happened to someone that they dont deserve i can be very empathetic if its someone who the wind is always blowin in their dish and always negative and never change the situation then no!
tact sometimes comes with good common sense.......
as in not asking your boss if thats his mum and it turns out to be his girlfriend............  |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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I am tactful because I believe that you can get your point across without resorting to confrontation! Why anyone would wear being tactless like a badge of honour is beyond me!
But... That is not to say that I am a pushover... When you can't get through to someone, sometimes being harsh is the only way! |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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at work... absolutely, because I have to be in the questions I have to ask to get the answers I need to do my job properly...
in the rest of my life.... I can be if people need my help or advice, if it is offering an opinion then I am forthright, but try to stay on the right side of tactile...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"at work... absolutely, because I have to be in the questions I have to ask to get the answers I need to do my job properly...
in the rest of my life.... I can be if people need my help or advice, if it is offering an opinion then I am forthright, but try to stay on the right side of tactile......"
Tactile ? what's the right side of tactile ? |
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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago
Back of Beyond |
Tact is not my middle name usually. I call a spade a spade, not a shovel.
This has over the years has brought me lots of trouble, forgotten the amount of times I have been called a shit stirrer. When in fact I am not, I just prefer to be truthful.
For instance our last party, I did not have sex with any of the new ladies present. When asked why, I told the truth, not I am tired or any other excuse. I told the regulars I didn't find any attraction to the newcomers. I found none at all, so didn't play with them.
Now this was frowned on, but in this case I am not one to have sex with someone just because you can, no attraction, no sex!
That is my problem really, I have to call things as I see them, not diplomatically lie or cover up.
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"Tact is not my middle name usually. I call a spade a spade, not a shovel.
This has over the years has brought me lots of trouble, forgotten the amount of times I have been called a shit stirrer. When in fact I am not, I just prefer to be truthful.
For instance our last party, I did not have sex with any of the new ladies present. When asked why, I told the truth, not I am tired or any other excuse. I told the regulars I didn't find any attraction to the newcomers. I found none at all, so didn't play with them.
Now this was frowned on, but in this case I am not one to have sex with someone just because you can, no attraction, no sex!
That is my problem really, I have to call things as I see them, not diplomatically lie or cover up.
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I call this post tactless and unecessary! You have just told any of those new party goers that you didn't think them attractive! Wheras you may not have a problem with people telling you that, some people could be upset!
I still don't understand why it is OK to upset people just because you can! The clue is the bit about it causing you lots of trouble? And the This was frowned on phrase! Why not just say that you had enought to do running the party and playing with your regular friends?
Still, the forum is a good place to gauge what people are truly like  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are quite a few people - not just here but in life in general - who seem to think that the dictum of 'saying what they think whenever they feel like it' makes them an honest person.
It makes them a tactless cunt.
There are also those who fear that not being 'tactlessly hones' somehow makes them duplicitious.
It makes them caring, discerning , thoughtful and discreet.
There is an abyss of difference between being a spiteful lie and a kindly witholding of a truth.
Sometimes we need to withold opinions because 'our' truth is simply unecessary and often damaging to others.
Sometimes we need to deal with unpleasant , difficult situations which require the strength to speak the truth and stand your ground for the greater good.
It's a wise person that knows the difference.
God save me from the fucking berks who think that shouting their mouths off makes them right. Pious twats.
( don't even bother telling me - does it not occur that I already know )
A lovely day to all xxxx So sunny here.
You look lovely in that figure hugging lycra you fat bastard xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try to be tactful, and sometimes even manage it, but at other times when trying I end up coming across like I'm suggesting something quite different to what I actually am.
I find as I'm growing older I'm preferring to get to the point rather than pussy foot around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I try to be tactful, and sometimes even manage it, but at other times when trying I end up coming across like I'm suggesting something quite different to what I actually am.
I find as I'm growing older I'm preferring to get to the point rather than pussy foot around."
Procrastination is not tact..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I try to be tactful, and sometimes even manage it, but at other times when trying I end up coming across like I'm suggesting something quite different to what I actually am.
I find as I'm growing older I'm preferring to get to the point rather than pussy foot around.
Procrastination is not tact..... "
Yeah, thanks for that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely in private,
at work though love to be touched only something simple like on the arm"
Every now n then on here....... I get a warm genuine smile xxx |
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
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"Tact is not my middle name usually. I call a spade a spade, not a shovel.
This has over the years has brought me lots of trouble, forgotten the amount of times I have been called a shit stirrer. When in fact I am not, I just prefer to be truthful.
For instance our last party, I did not have sex with any of the new ladies present. When asked why, I told the truth, not I am tired or any other excuse. I told the regulars I didn't find any attraction to the newcomers. I found none at all, so didn't play with them.
Now this was frowned on, but in this case I am not one to have sex with someone just because you can, no attraction, no sex!
That is my problem really, I have to call things as I see them, not diplomatically lie or cover up.
I call this post tactless and unecessary! You have just told any of those new party goers that you didn't think them attractive! Wheras you may not have a problem with people telling you that, some people could be upset!
I still don't understand why it is OK to upset people just because you can! The clue is the bit about it causing you lots of trouble? And the This was frowned on phrase! Why not just say that you had enought to do running the party and playing with your regular friends?
Still, the forum is a good place to gauge what people are truly like "
I read the post as "I didn't find any attraction to the newcomers" and that doesn't mean they weren't attractive, which is always selective and in the eyes of the beholder, someone I find attractive you maybe won't and vice-versa, that's life!
If we were all attracted to the same type of person then the world would be a very boring place!
The forums are also a good place for people to read into other peoples posts what they want to read and not always what is written.
As always, just my tuppence worth and hopefully said with a wee bit of tact!
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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago
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Exactly as I meantin my post bb. In the case I quoted, I am not one to have sex with everyone at a party 'because I can' or because as some of the other guys view it, 'notches on the bedpost' |
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