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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We try to be respectful in our rejection, explaining that there's no spark for us and wish them well in their search. In general, this has been met with thanks and dignity in their response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't respond to that,once ive said no thats usually the end of it
I did respond to a couple that asked why recently,I said if you ask people why then you may not always like the answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we dont want somebody we either just delete the message or I tell them why not as nicely as possible. If they still ask why after that (so far nobody has ever done so) then I would just ignore and block them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You say no to someone on here and they ask why?
I hate it when this happens but usually say 'I don't fancy you mate', and hope that a tirade of abuse doesn't follow."
Tell them to get over it, and move on buster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont reply any more , i did in the past then you get the " but why" and beause ive replied politely with thanks but no they can then get around message filters and can keep up with "ah go on you wont regret it " bla bla bla ive ended up blocking |
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If the conversation has been courteous or I'm feeling generous I offer a polite reason, sometimes with some constructive criticism and advice.
If, however, they have not been courteous then I feel free to be honest - it's funny how rude I can be whilst still managing to be polite!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually just say I feel no immediate attraction. I automatically say no thanks to men who can't accommodate but I stopped giving that as a reason because I kept getting asked for car sex or outdoor sex |
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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago
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"You say no to someone on here and they ask why?
I hate it when this happens but usually say 'I don't fancy you mate', and hope that a tirade of abuse doesn't follow."
when we sent a message n someone says no.dont even bother to ask a reason why?we just carry on looking  .there are plenty of others here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually reply,,,,dispiace che tu sei davvero non è il mio tipo, comunque Mikki maraschino non è una data a buon mercato e dallo sguardo di voi dubito che si poteva permettere di portarmi fuori.
that shuts em up  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually reply,,,,dispiace che tu sei davvero non è il mio tipo, comunque Mikki maraschino non è una data a buon mercato e dallo sguardo di voi dubito che si poteva permettere di portarmi fuori.
that shuts em up "
or Google translating it. I understood some of what you said |
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"I usually reply,,,,dispiace che tu sei davvero non è il mio tipo, comunque Mikki maraschino non è una data a buon mercato e dallo sguardo di voi dubito che si poteva permettere di portarmi fuori.
that shuts em up "
Excellent! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually say it in my response to their introductory like sorry 'you're not my type' or 'you're too far'. If they persist in messaging me, I just ignore them and they soon stop |
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By *plankyMan
over a year ago
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"I usually reply,,,,dispiace che tu sei davvero non è il mio tipo, comunque Mikki maraschino non è una data a buon mercato e dallo sguardo di voi dubito che si poteva permettere di portarmi fuori.
that shuts em up "
MA PERCHE ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a majority male on this site I find that the respectful thanks but no thanks is a great response, and I will always reply thanking them for taking the time and having the courtesy to respond.. No problem |
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A no must mean no without any further explanation, requests, begging, pleading etc. I keep it simple and just say Im not pursuing things any further. Its hard enough to keep on top of mail as it is without any hounding and ill feeling being caused. If someone causes distress then it is patently clear they were wrong for you. They should put up and shut up and use their energies more wisely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Asking a reason to a negative response is not a crime nor a social faux-pas; though some genuinely believe it is. 'No' is the hardest basic response to accept, invariably our minds seek to understand why.
The problem is that 'Why?' is more often a gateway for abuse, rather than a genuine questions designed to understand if the rejection is because of some other factor - such as off-putting photos, poor profile text etc, etc.
Sadly, the minority of people with severe rejection issues and borderline psychopathic rage spoil it for the other minority who want to understand if there is something they can do to improve themselves.
The majority sit in the middle of all this and simply thank you for replying at all!
But one thing to bear in mind, to those who like to reply with sarcastic, berating messages to the 'Why?' question - you're just as bad as those who direct their rejection issues back at you. You're feeding the cycle of rage just as much as the other person.
Or, putting it succinctly - 'If you haven't got anything nice to say, STFU and move on'.
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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago
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"You say no to someone on here and they ask why?
I hate it when this happens but usually say 'I don't fancy you mate', and hope that a tirade of abuse doesn't follow."
No certainly means No, not that we would ask but to learn the reasons why not can sometimes help the person asking, so therefore quite harmless. However, any abuse afterwards isn't nessesary. |
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