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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I seem to recall the woman who slept with my father saying "I just wanted to sleep with a married man".
Was exciting for her, not so much for my Mum and us kids..."
9 times out of 10 its not the married man she wants. She just doesn't want someone else to be happy as she is mega jealous. Usually wants a family of her own |
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over a year ago
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"Are there ladies that find it exciting? Or is it just wrong? "
Obviously it's wrong. You could always ask your wife, I'm sure she'd have an interesting answer for you. |
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"I seem to recall the woman who slept with my father saying "I just wanted to sleep with a married man".
Was exciting for her, not so much for my Mum and us kids...
9 times out of 10 its not the married man she wants. She just doesn't want someone else to be happy as she is mega jealous. Usually wants a family of her own"
Yeah, it became apparent after a while that she was notorious for it. Went after men who weren't only married but had kids as well and she worked at my Dad's yard and knew most of the families she destroyed.
She would sleep with multiple guys from work but leave a trail and then shrug her shoulders when the shit hit the fan.
I know she's not the only one to blame but since then, I've never been able to understand the mentality of people who get kicks out of fucking a married man/woman behind their partner's back. I can't see any other intent than to cause hurt... |
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"I seem to recall the woman who slept with my father saying "I just wanted to sleep with a married man".
Was exciting for her, not so much for my Mum and us kids...
9 times out of 10 its not the married man she wants. She just doesn't want someone else to be happy as she is mega jealous. Usually wants a family of her own
Yeah, it became apparent after a while that she was notorious for it. Went after men who weren't only married but had kids as well and she worked at my Dad's yard and knew most of the families she destroyed.
She would sleep with multiple guys from work but leave a trail and then shrug her shoulders when the shit hit the fan.
I know she's not the only one to blame but since then, I've never been able to understand the mentality of people who get kicks out of fucking a married man/woman behind their partner's back. I can't see any other intent than to cause hurt..."
Very often single men and women on here justify their actions by saying it isn't them that are doing anything wrong as they aren't the married ones. I wonder if this "lady" thought that way too. |
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"I seem to recall the woman who slept with my father saying "I just wanted to sleep with a married man".
Was exciting for her, not so much for my Mum and us kids...
9 times out of 10 its not the married man she wants. She just doesn't want someone else to be happy as she is mega jealous. Usually wants a family of her own
Yeah, it became apparent after a while that she was notorious for it. Went after men who weren't only married but had kids as well and she worked at my Dad's yard and knew most of the families she destroyed.
She would sleep with multiple guys from work but leave a trail and then shrug her shoulders when the shit hit the fan.
I know she's not the only one to blame but since then, I've never been able to understand the mentality of people who get kicks out of fucking a married man/woman behind their partner's back. I can't see any other intent than to cause hurt...
Very often single men and women on here justify their actions by saying it isn't them that are doing anything wrong as they aren't the married ones. I wonder if this "lady" thought that way too. "
Wouldn't surprise me, to be honest. x |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
My partner knows I meet (not married and would be highly unlikely to ever get married again, been there, done that, and hated it) but I refuse to meet (knowingly) attached people meeting without partner consent.
I've been cheated on, and know the devastation it leaves in its wake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have and do sleep with married men. I don't do it for any kind of thrill and don't find it any more or less exciting than meeting a single man. "
 brave girl..well done  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have and do sleep with married men. I don't do it for any kind of thrill and don't find it any more or less exciting than meeting a single man.
brave girl..well done "
For admitting it or doing it? There is nothing brave (or cowardly, for that matter) about doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are there ladies that find it exciting? Or is it just wrong? "
We tend not to given a choice for various reasons reliability just being one of them. Is it wrong? Well those who do have to work that out for themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have and do sleep with married men. I don't do it for any kind of thrill and don't find it any more or less exciting than meeting a single man.
brave girl..well done
For admitting it or doing it? There is nothing brave (or cowardly, for that matter) about doing it. "
For admitting it I suppose,,although I have no judgement that she does this, its her choice I suppose.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have and do sleep with married men. I don't do it for any kind of thrill and don't find it any more or less exciting than meeting a single man.
brave girl..well done
For admitting it or doing it? There is nothing brave (or cowardly, for that matter) about doing it.
For admitting it I suppose,,although I have no judgement that she does this, its her choice I suppose. "
Who's 'she'? It was my comment you were replying to  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are that many attached people of both sexes on here its near impossible to tell who are and who aren't. We are personally more bothered about safe sex and who is honest about what they do. On the plus side for married men they do practice safe sex a lot more as they don't want to take anything home and give it to the wife.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have and do sleep with married men. I don't do it for any kind of thrill and don't find it any more or less exciting than meeting a single man.
brave girl..well done
For admitting it or doing it? There is nothing brave (or cowardly, for that matter) about doing it.
For admitting it I suppose,,although I have no judgement that she does this, its her choice I suppose.
Who's 'she'? It was my comment you were replying to "
Lol my apologies x I didn't read correctly  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The last married guy I slept with only told me he was married as he walked out the door . Now I feel used . "
That's an interesting comment can I ask were you planing a relationship with him in the future or was it just a one off meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was seeing a married man for a while, until his wife found out and contacted me. I didn't know he was married and was totally embarrassed and felt guilty because of this.
I felt his dishonesty to not only his wife but to me was a very selfish act on his part.
If he had informed me of the fact he was married and left it up to me whether I saw him or not would have been a fairer way to start a relationship, not that I would have.
I've been cheated on and divorced my husband of twenty years because of it.
I may have enjoyed sex with many a man as a swinger but I'm a very faithful partner and don't condone infidelity. |
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By *MaleMan
over a year ago
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Its always exciting for the married guys wife when she realises and decides to go on her own secret voyage of discovery. What's good for the goose.
Of course when the married guy discovers her secret he cant come to terms with what she's done to him.
Sometimes they guy never knows other than she suddenly left him. Reality was it was for someone better she discovered whilst treating him to his own medicine.
As long as the married guy is ok with the above then it's up to him |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Are there ladies that find it exciting? Or is it just wrong?
I doesn't appeal to me no.
But you do to I!!  "
??? I don't get involved in mix up hun, I like a quiet life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are there ladies that find it exciting? Or is it just wrong?
I doesn't appeal to me no.
But you do to I!!
??? I don't get involved in mix up hun, I like a quiet life."
LÖLZ - read your mix up post, then! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a married man & I state this on my profile.
I have my wife's full blessing to play, she always wants to know where I'm going, however she doesn't want the details when I return, just sex. Lol.
However, some people will still not meet with me because I'm married, even with my wife's permission. Have to say though that if I were a married lady with a hubby's permission it would be viewed differently.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"Are there ladies that find it exciting? Or is it just wrong? "
If you must do it, be honest but don't make a song and dance about it. It's not something to be proud of.
Why ask if it's wrong? If you cared you wouldn't be doing it. |
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"The last married guy I slept with only told me he was married as he walked out the door . Now I feel used .
That's an interesting comment can I ask were you planing a relationship with him in the future or was it just a one off meet?"
Why would that make a difference? Nothing worse than finding out someone lied to get you into bed, it's a real violation, and leaves you feeling totally slimed.
I have no tolerance for liars of any description - if a man is lying to his wife why would be be honest with me?
No thanks, single men for me please. Honest ones hopefully.
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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago
Clacton-On-Sea, Essex |
If a married man has such a shit marriage he has to sleep around behind her back, why doesn't he just end it?
Or actually do something to work on his marriage.
A sexless marriage with a woman is 9/10 psychological from her point and can be fixed if he loves her enough to put some effort in.
So no, I would not want to be with a lazy cheat. |
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Married man here and in a sexless marriage .
Wish it was as easy as some of you think on here.
Makeing a lot of sacrifices all ready to keep everyone happy.
Is is to much to look for someone in same position.
Please dont bother giving me advise if you have not been in the position. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's very simplistic to just write off the married guys here as liars and cheats - but sometimes it's not as simple as that.
I make no secret of the fact I'm married on here so everyone can decide right away and upfront if they want to block or meet me.
The simple fact is I love my wife very much, she is my soul mate, I'd take a bullet for her, no question about that.
In just about every other way we are perfectly compatible - same sense of humour, like the same sort of holidays etc. We get on famously together and very very rarely have disagreements about anything.
The only way we're different is sex drive. When we have it, probably 2 or 3 times a month (not a lot by swingers standards, but on a par with some other married couples from what I hear) it's great, we both enjoy it and are both satisfied.
But our needs are different - she is very vanilla, she won't experiment, use toys etc. She is body conscious despite me frequently telling her she's gorgeous (and she is) so won't allow photos etc, she's reluctant to dress up in sexy undies etc so the one area we really materially differ in our views is sex life.
And I have spoken to her about it and how I feel many times, very civilised and non-confrontational or anything like that.
She certainly would never swing (indeed we have been propositioned!) and has openly said 'no way' to anything like that.
So she has different needs and I respect that. I certainly won't force her to do anything or go down a path that she's not comfortable with - as I say we have discussed many times so I know what she does and doesn't want to do.
So where does that leave me?
Truthfully it leaves me wanting more sexually. But I'd never leave her, I love her. So the simplistic view of 'if you're going to cheat just leave her' is totally invalid.
So what are the options?
Have an affair? To me that's worse as that's about having an emotional attachment with someone else and I have no desire to do that.
What about buying sex off an escort or prostitute or whatever you want to call them? Yep. Done that in the past if I'm honest. Safe sex with genuine independents - no way I want to risk anyone who has been exploited in any way.
And the third way? No strings encounters with like minded people from sites like this. No emotional attachment - just a release.
I've not met anyone here yet but have from other sites.
Truthfully I feel I there wasn't options like this then the difference in our needs COULD become a wedge between us and drive resentment which could be damaging to our relationship.
Having this outlet relieves that potential.
Some of you may claim that's bullshit and a poor justification to cheat. And I can understand that. But for me, it's true. I don't do this very often (swinging or the paid sex route) just a couple of times a year.
Anyway, feel free to slate me, block me, be disgusted with me but that's just the way it is.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's very simplistic to just write off the married guys here as liars and cheats - but sometimes it's not as simple as that.
I make no secret of the fact I'm married on here so everyone can decide right away and upfront if they want to block or meet me.
The simple fact is I love my wife very much, she is my soul mate, I'd take a bullet for her, no question about that.
In just about every other way we are perfectly compatible - same sense of humour, like the same sort of holidays etc. We get on famously together and very very rarely have disagreements about anything.
The only way we're different is sex drive. When we have it, probably 2 or 3 times a month (not a lot by swingers standards, but on a par with some other married couples from what I hear) it's great, we both enjoy it and are both satisfied.
But our needs are different - she is very vanilla, she won't experiment, use toys etc. She is body conscious despite me frequently telling her she's gorgeous (and she is) so won't allow photos etc, she's reluctant to dress up in sexy undies etc so the one area we really materially differ in our views is sex life.
And I have spoken to her about it and how I feel many times, very civilised and non-confrontational or anything like that.
She certainly would never swing (indeed we have been propositioned!) and has openly said 'no way' to anything like that.
So she has different needs and I respect that. I certainly won't force her to do anything or go down a path that she's not comfortable with - as I say we have discussed many times so I know what she does and doesn't want to do.
So where does that leave me?
Truthfully it leaves me wanting more sexually. But I'd never leave her, I love her. So the simplistic view of 'if you're going to cheat just leave her' is totally invalid.
So what are the options?
Have an affair? To me that's worse as that's about having an emotional attachment with someone else and I have no desire to do that.
What about buying sex off an escort or prostitute or whatever you want to call them? Yep. Done that in the past if I'm honest. Safe sex with genuine independents - no way I want to risk anyone who has been exploited in any way.
And the third way? No strings encounters with like minded people from sites like this. No emotional attachment - just a release.
I've not met anyone here yet but have from other sites.
Truthfully I feel I there wasn't options like this then the difference in our needs COULD become a wedge between us and drive resentment which could be damaging to our relationship.
Having this outlet relieves that potential.
Some of you may claim that's bullshit and a poor justification to cheat. And I can understand that. But for me, it's true. I don't do this very often (swinging or the paid sex route) just a couple of times a year.
Anyway, feel free to slate me, block me, be disgusted with me but that's just the way it is.
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Sex 2 or 3 times per month? Wow! That is porn star levels compared to me. I would be more than happy with that!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's very simplistic to just write off the married guys here as liars and cheats - but sometimes it's not as simple as that.
I make no secret of the fact I'm married on here so everyone can decide right away and upfront if they want to block or meet me.
The simple fact is I love my wife very much, she is my soul mate, I'd take a bullet for her, no question about that.
In just about every other way we are perfectly compatible - same sense of humour, like the same sort of holidays etc. We get on famously together and very very rarely have disagreements about anything.
The only way we're different is sex drive. When we have it, probably 2 or 3 times a month (not a lot by swingers standards, but on a par with some other married couples from what I hear) it's great, we both enjoy it and are both satisfied.
But our needs are different - she is very vanilla, she won't experiment, use toys etc. She is body conscious despite me frequently telling her she's gorgeous (and she is) so won't allow photos etc, she's reluctant to dress up in sexy undies etc so the one area we really materially differ in our views is sex life.
And I have spoken to her about it and how I feel many times, very civilised and non-confrontational or anything like that.
She certainly would never swing (indeed we have been propositioned!) and has openly said 'no way' to anything like that.
So she has different needs and I respect that. I certainly won't force her to do anything or go down a path that she's not comfortable with - as I say we have discussed many times so I know what she does and doesn't want to do.
So where does that leave me?
Truthfully it leaves me wanting more sexually. But I'd never leave her, I love her. So the simplistic view of 'if you're going to cheat just leave her' is totally invalid.
So what are the options?
Have an affair? To me that's worse as that's about having an emotional attachment with someone else and I have no desire to do that.
What about buying sex off an escort or prostitute or whatever you want to call them? Yep. Done that in the past if I'm honest. Safe sex with genuine independents - no way I want to risk anyone who has been exploited in any way.
And the third way? No strings encounters with like minded people from sites like this. No emotional attachment - just a release.
I've not met anyone here yet but have from other sites.
Truthfully I feel I there wasn't options like this then the difference in our needs COULD become a wedge between us and drive resentment which could be damaging to our relationship.
Having this outlet relieves that potential.
Some of you may claim that's bullshit and a poor justification to cheat. And I can understand that. But for me, it's true. I don't do this very often (swinging or the paid sex route) just a couple of times a year.
Anyway, feel free to slate me, block me, be disgusted with me but that's just the way it is.
Sex 2 or 3 times per month? Wow! That is porn star levels compared to me. I would be more than happy with that!!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's very simplistic to just write off the married guys here as liars and cheats - but sometimes it's not as simple as that.
I make no secret of the fact I'm married on here so everyone can decide right away and upfront if they want to block or meet me.
The simple fact is I love my wife very much, she is my soul mate, I'd take a bullet for her, no question about that.
In just about every other way we are perfectly compatible - same sense of humour, like the same sort of holidays etc. We get on famously together and very very rarely have disagreements about anything.
The only way we're different is sex drive. When we have it, probably 2 or 3 times a month (not a lot by swingers standards, but on a par with some other married couples from what I hear) it's great, we both enjoy it and are both satisfied.
But our needs are different - she is very vanilla, she won't experiment, use toys etc. She is body conscious despite me frequently telling her she's gorgeous (and she is) so won't allow photos etc, she's reluctant to dress up in sexy undies etc so the one area we really materially differ in our views is sex life.
And I have spoken to her about it and how I feel many times, very civilised and non-confrontational or anything like that.
She certainly would never swing (indeed we have been propositioned!) and has openly said 'no way' to anything like that.
So she has different needs and I respect that. I certainly won't force her to do anything or go down a path that she's not comfortable with - as I say we have discussed many times so I know what she does and doesn't want to do.
So where does that leave me?
Truthfully it leaves me wanting more sexually. But I'd never leave her, I love her. So the simplistic view of 'if you're going to cheat just leave her' is totally invalid.
So what are the options?
Have an affair? To me that's worse as that's about having an emotional attachment with someone else and I have no desire to do that.
What about buying sex off an escort or prostitute or whatever you want to call them? Yep. Done that in the past if I'm honest. Safe sex with genuine independents - no way I want to risk anyone who has been exploited in any way.
And the third way? No strings encounters with like minded people from sites like this. No emotional attachment - just a release.
I've not met anyone here yet but have from other sites.
Truthfully I feel I there wasn't options like this then the difference in our needs COULD become a wedge between us and drive resentment which could be damaging to our relationship.
Having this outlet relieves that potential.
Some of you may claim that's bullshit and a poor justification to cheat. And I can understand that. But for me, it's true. I don't do this very often (swinging or the paid sex route) just a couple of times a year.
Anyway, feel free to slate me, block me, be disgusted with me but that's just the way it is. "
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