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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im the same, i take pictures to flatter me. Why would i post a picture i didnt like?
who doesnt enjoy the odd compliment (if sincere)
At the same time i do have my 'real' pictures that show me as i am, lumps bumps no make up,, stripped back and in a vulnerable state. Exposed to critique.
Im no longer meeting and enjoy the escapism of photography to be who i want and with artisic licence create nice flattering pictures. I dont photoshop stuff out, i just tweak lighting and colours.
The camera angles are just ones to make me look slimmer. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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glad I'm not alone ladies, thanks!
None of my pics are edited other than colours, and I post full body and face pics, I just worry people expect someone much better looking! |
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We all take pics to flatter... there's no point otherwise. Who's going to post a photo of themselves looking like a bag of spanners? 
I've always been pretty clear that I'm on the erm... curvy/pudgy/wobbly side. No point in telling porkies (scuse the pun) and other than some wanker telling me I could visit him in London when I was thin, I've never had anyone saying 'oh you're fatter than you look in your pics' so I figure honesty is the way forward. I could get my lardy arse to the gym if I felt that bothered by it but as yet I've not been that bothered. It's true what they say though, love yourself (wobbly bits and all) and others will love you too. I'm pretty sure it doesn't define me and if someone is too shallow to see past my spare tyre and my extra chin then I figure they missed out on a pretty good blow job!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being honest about flaws is vital for me, i come with a shock value being the size i am..
i want to be confident and comfortable with someone and with that comes the honesty of my appearance. Id only become paranoid about it during whole meet if i managed to get a meet with a guy based of pictures that clearly dont look like me.
Would only end up in me wasting my own time by him not wanting the 2nd meet (the play meet) with time rare to me id be foolish to lie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am exactly the same. I always think I look better in my pics or cam than what I see in the mirror... But saying that, I ain't here to impress so it's not really an issue!
Once you've learnt to love/like yourself, other people's opinions don't matter..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?"
Ive looked through your pics...ur beautiful ) x |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Generally people post pics taken at flattering angles - be that to make them look smaller, thinner, larger even (if you're a bloke!  ) - it's natural in t'internet hook-up land to want to portray yourself as best you can, to garner as much interest.
Some 'fudge' pics for sure. Others use editing techniques such as lighting and shadows, framing or colour adjustment, blurring or softening.
So long as you're not being deliberately misleading - if someone is in any way 'disappointed' with the real you then it's their problem, not yours.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm exactly the same. I don't have naked full body pics on my profile. I only show bits of me. I do stress to anyone I'm meeting that I'm big with wobbly bits though, so they are forewarned  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i tried writing out on my profile that 'im a dress size 26/28, with more flubber than a whale, stretch marks that could map out the uk and a jelly belly/overhang that beats any kids tampoline ive ever used' but guys just laugh it odd and cant grasp it until they see it.
I joke about stuff (to soften the blow, to break the ice) but the visual is still vital. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I'm the opposite, I look less terrible in life than in my pictures. My big worry with meets is not being as entertaining as people seem to expect me to be.
Ms Dangerouslycurvy, I met you at Jaydee's Social and I thought you looked red hot. You've got curves, but they are nice and you have such a warm smile I doubt anyone would notice. And these aren't cheap words to get a shag, as you live closer to some of the places in Star Wars than to me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always get told I look better than my pic....I take an awful photo. However, I'm exactly the same I think I look slimmer in pics so I always tell guys I'm fat that way they either accept me wobbly bits and all or are pleasantly surprised when I'm not as fat as I make out :/ no complaints yet and they always want back for more. Lmao xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?"
You look good in the pics and in person.
So yes you are being a silly moo |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
I don't photograph well. I reckon I look better, and less fat, in person than in photos.
Those who've met me would have to confirm or deny that though because I'm not exactly an objective judge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think we all worry about peoples first impressions of us after chatting and seeing sexy profile pics,its normal
Dangerously curvy,we chatted briefly at a social,you are very attractive and a true representation of your pictures,you have nothing to worry about
Voluptuous,we also chatted briefly and your pictures don't show your lovely sparkly eyes to their full advantage
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
"I don't photograph well. I reckon I look better, and less fat, in person than in photos.
Those who've met me would have to confirm or deny that though because I'm not exactly an objective judge."
You look great Your photos don't bring out your intelligence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?"
. Snap. And you are not being a silly moo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for your kind words you lovely lot!
Nice to hear that I do look like my pics, always been told its just me fussing over nowt, just wanted to see if I was the only one being a silly moo lol |
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I'm so glad to hear this being said! I always worry about going to clubs after chatting to all the 'beautiful' people on here!! To be fair I still think they look better than me but that's my own self-esteem!! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
I can honestly say that everyone I've ever met via Fab has looked like their pics. Obviously in person you may get to see things you haven't on a profile - I mean things like tattoos rather than a third nipple/second head - but it might be because I've only ever really engaged with those that are good at portraying themselves in their photos.
I'm sure a day will come when someone doesn't - but until then it'll be business as usual!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am exactly the same. I always think I look better in my pics or cam than what I see in the mirror... But saying that, I ain't here to impress so it's not really an issue!
Once you've learnt to love/like yourself, other people's opinions don't matter.. "
I think that's the most important thing. Learning to love/like yourself means you're not relying on others to make you feel good. |
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A ladies size does not bother me too much as long as it does not bother her. I have met women thatcher get undressed with the tiniest bit of light in or only under the sheets and parts of her body are no touch areas. All of which is silly I can tell someone's size even in clothes |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"A ladies size does not bother me too much as long as it does not bother her. I have met women thatcher get undressed with the tiniest bit of light in or only under the sheets and parts of her body are no touch areas. All of which is silly I can tell someone's size even in clothes"
You met Thatcher? 
You kinky sod!
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?"
If you at bothered about your body type, there's only one person who will be able to change it.. Gaining minor complements online, from people who haven't seen you, isn't in reality going to do anything for your self image or actual confidence.
There is nothing worse for me, than a woman who isn't comfortable with herself. It shows so much and you can feel their discomfort when near naked.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?"
Looking at your verifications, I don't think you have a single thing to worry about. Chin up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?
If you at bothered about your body type, there's only one person who will be able to change it.. Gaining minor complements online, from people who haven't seen you, isn't in reality going to do anything for your self image or actual confidence.
There is nothing worse for me, than a woman who isn't comfortable with herself. It shows so much and you can feel their discomfort when near naked.
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I'm not bothered about my body type! I like bring a bigger, curvy woman, if I didn't, I'd put down my pie and head to the gym. I simply wouldn't want someone to expect something they ain't gonna get!
There is nothing worse to me than a man who judges a woman on her own self esteem! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel the same as most of the ladies in the thread
I get a lot of compliments about my pictures. If I was going to arrange a meet I would always tell them my size and send them my not so flattering pictures. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Even us smaller women have body issues, I think it's a flaw that most females have! Hence why I do say I also have wobbly bits (stomach) just so people don't think I am as toned as a 20 year old |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am exactly the same. I always think I look better in my pics or cam than what I see in the mirror... But saying that, I ain't here to impress so it's not really an issue!
Once you've learnt to love/like yourself, other people's opinions don't matter..
I think that's the most important thing. Learning to love/like yourself means you're not relying on others to make you feel good."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?"
You don't have a belly and you have a waist. Great underwear too. |
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I'm the same...
I have stated my size in our profile as not to mislead, but still sometimes think my pics make me look possibly nicer..
Nobody who we have met has ever said anything, so until they do we will keep the same pics on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm one of the ones in the 'crap in a photo but not that bad in RL' (i think).
As i do photography as quite serious hobby, i'm not sure what that says about my looks/photography skills |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate pictures of me I don't like being in front of the camera at all.
I actually think I look a lot better in real life than I ever do in pictures and all of my meets agree (or so they tell me) so far |
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"I have always had what my family describe as an "interesting face" and until recently always had a slim body but drugs have me a size 14/16 now, strange to get used to as last time I wore size 14 clothes I was pregnant!
Whatever size I am and no matter how knackered my chops look I manage (mostly) to keep a sense of humour and accept my body the way it is, lumps bumps and missing bits if I'm comfortable with me then so should others and if they are not ...... I release them back into the wild with all their body parts intact. "
Laine, you will always be Laine no matter what size you are.....you are amazing just the way you are xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have always had what my family describe as an "interesting face" and until recently always had a slim body but drugs have me a size 14/16 now, strange to get used to as last time I wore size 14 clothes I was pregnant!
Whatever size I am and no matter how knackered my chops look I manage (mostly) to keep a sense of humour and accept my body the way it is, lumps bumps and missing bits if I'm comfortable with me then so should others and if they are not ...... I release them back into the wild with all their body parts intact.
Laine, you will always be Laine no matter what size you are.....you are amazing just the way you are xx "
 Thank you for that. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm an African man, and it's in our blood to like Big Beautiful Women... So really, for me, from the moment we agree to a meeting after I've seen your pictures, you can be sure that I won't be disappointed... Besides, it's not the picture I'll be having sex with now will I? It's the person... You... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?"
This is me to a T. I'm a size 16 probably bordering 18 at the moment and I know my pics look a lot thinner because of the angles and the steel boned corsets! Find myself having to lower people's expectations before they actually meet me.
Having said that, I think everyone picks their good angles, men and their cock pics included, so we're all at it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?"
This is me in a nutshell! Ive always done it and the doubt will probably always creep in just before that first meet with someone new. As others have said who in their right mind is going to put up a bad pic of themselves on the internet its just about trying to get the balance right of a realistic but flattering looking picture of yourself. Although we cant please everyone on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?
This is me to a T. I'm a size 16 probably bordering 18 at the moment and I know my pics look a lot thinner because of the angles and the steel boned corsets! Find myself having to lower people's expectations before they actually meet me.
Having said that, I think everyone picks their good angles, men and their cock pics included, so we're all at it! "
Gorgeous pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have kept our pics to mainly selfie style happy snappy jobs, so its a case of what you see is what you get, although we have had a few now surprised we are not 7 inches tall |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I maybe a bit odd after reading this thread but i think I'm very un photogenic and i think i look better in real life than in my pics, ive been told a free times my pics don't do me any justice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I look like me in my pics. I've never been told I'm not like my pics.... guys still contact me regardless and still want to meet so there must be someone for everyone! |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm the opposite, I look less terrible in life than in my pictures. My big worry with meets is not being as entertaining as people seem to expect me to be.
Ms Dangerouslycurvy, I met you at Jaydee's Social and I thought you looked red hot. You've got curves, but they are nice and you have such a warm smile I doubt anyone would notice. And these aren't cheap words to get a shag, as you live closer to some of the places in Star Wars than to me.
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I'd second Tina's comments.
I tell people I am fat but they think it's a bad word and tell me that I am being hard on myself. I know I am fat and I can dress it up anyway I want but it won't change that fact.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel the same. I know I'm slim but my pics make me look tiny and also toned, I am not toned in the slightest. I have a bit of a mummy tummy still
As others have said I pick the more flattering pics and chose the angles that look best too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"beginning to feel a bit silly....I've always been a bit paranoid that people, having seen my photos will be disappointed when they meet me.
I think I look much better in my pics than in the flesh, been told many times, that I look just like my pics and not to worry, but can't help it!
Am I the only one?? Do any of you worry that people will be disappointed after having high expectations from your pics? Or am I just being a silly moo?
You don't have a belly and you have a waist. Great underwear too. "
I do have a belly! It's the awesome undies that hide it! lol Thankyou! |
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Id guess that most of us on here will have some level of anxiety before that first meet - have they expected too much, are we too curvy etc. The person coming often will feel the same, and one of the most attractive aspects of someone is when they just accept themselves. This should be taught and developed from childhood, so we are near cast iron comfortable in our own skins. I try not to put others down, even in my mind, as it creates a negative feel that people are not good enough. We are all just different. Some people ask me if Im convincing - I dont care, Im just living my life as I was meant to be. If others desire me, desire me for me, not because I resemble something else. Bit of a ramble, but it is refreshing on fab that many of us are sweet and should be cherished and dont deserve some of the crap we have to deal with. |
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