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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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There is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance. But looking at the opposite end of the spectrum does the sheer lack of it put you off?
I was recently rejected because she felt like I was "to good looking for her" it made me feel a little bad actually and she was such a lovely woman. She said she felt intimated and not good enough, although it didn't put me off her, she was obviously put off by me.
My question is, have you ever felt quite not good enough to message someone and skipped passed their profile?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't wanna meet you because you have hot pics and I would feel intimidated . But I know you are really nice so I would lol 
Someone who puts themselves down all time is a turn off , even though I know I do it myself |
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It def puts me off..
I like confident people, although there is a very very fine line between confidence and arrogance.
People who continually put themselves down, whether it's due to genuine lack of confidence or whether it's fishing for compliments, I tire of very quickly and won't choose to spend time with them.
I know everyone has bad days with their self confidence, but I'm talking about the constant offenders.
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Oops... wasnt finished typing..
There are many guys who's profiles and pics I see and think Wow... If they're local and I seem to match what they're looking for I'll mail them.
If they say no (or delete without reply) I can cope! I don't have fear of rejection and my own self confidence can take it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance. But looking at the opposite end of the spectrum does the sheer lack of it put you off?
I was recently rejected because she felt like I was "to good looking for her" it made me feel a little bad actually and she was such a lovely woman. She said she felt intimated and not good enough, although it didn't put me off her, she was obviously put off by me.
My question is, have you ever felt quite not good enough to message someone and skipped passed their profile?
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Ejay god handcarved you hisself mate! i bet loads of women are i timidated by the look of your body. ive heard loads of women say how goodlooking you are and you seem like a really nice bloke so i bet that you do lose a fair few because they imagine that you wouldnt look at them mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not confident about certain areas of my body at all but if a hot guy wants to meet me, I would definitely not decline because he was too good looking. Just because my body isn't great doesn't mean I won't be an enjoyable meet x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't wanna meet you because you have hot pics and I would feel intimidated . But I know you are really nice so I would lol
Someone who puts themselves down all time is a turn off , even though I know I do it myself "
I've been put off by people saying how they can't find meets, no one wants them etc etc
But being intimidated by another profile, I thought I was alone on than one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many times I am afraid... I have been messaged by athletic couples and said, "I am flattered, but I am not your type" To the OP, you have a fine body (nothing bi or gay intended), I would feel intimidated in your presence in a MMF situation, though I am sure you are a relaxed nice guy.
These days I look at their verifications and if I ain't up to what they are used to, I pass quickly by (after fabbing a pic or two) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can relate to that lady. Absolutely. Ive turned down meets because of guys who I thought were 'out of my league'.
same here xx."
And were the guys sympathetic? Did they think you were being daft? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance. But looking at the opposite end of the spectrum does the sheer lack of it put you off?
I was recently rejected because she felt like I was "to good looking for her" it made me feel a little bad actually and she was such a lovely woman. She said she felt intimated and not good enough, although it didn't put me off her, she was obviously put off by me.
My question is, have you ever felt quite not good enough to message someone and skipped passed their profile?
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I'm a big girl and can handle rejection. If I liked someone I woukd message them.
Iv had guys away from fab say I'm intimidating and I ask why as I'm totally confused, I never look for compliments and when I get them I get embarrassed but, say Thankyou. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But on the other hand I have met ladies on here and have dates to meet others who I never thought I would stand a chance with . So I will never say never |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone wants to meet you how can you be out of their league or not good enough purely on the basis of what they look like?
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Because of my own insecurities I think, rightly or wrongly, someone I consider good looking isn't really going to be interested in a plain jane like me. What I don't do though is bang on about it and do woe is me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dislike arrogant people but dislike people who put themselves down all the time too. I havnt got much confidence but I don't take myself too seriously and it doesn't put me off meeting very attractive men if I think they are nice people as I don't think attractive people are any better than less attractive people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, I've rejected people, especially couples, on this basis. I don't think it's lack of self confidence as such, just being realistic and if I was with someone with an exceptionally gym chiselled body it would make me feel like a right porky lazy bastard! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My question is, have you ever felt quite not good enough to message someone and skipped passed their profile?
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god i do that all the time, i even do it if they mail me first, i have a terrible habit of deciding for people if they will like me or not |
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"If someone wants to meet you how can you be out of their league or not good enough purely on the basis of what they look like?
Because of my own insecurities I think, rightly or wrongly, someone I consider good looking isn't really going to be interested in a plain jane like me. What I don't do though is bang on about it and do woe is me. "
I see. I sometimes feel the same way about people who are very intelligent or well read .....daft isn't it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would say it's always with a view of the guys in a couple or the guys in a ladies verifications. If they are chiselled and toned gents, then I guess that I am not going to be the ladies type and won't trouble them. Having said that I have met many wonderful ladies who appreciate a "slight" framed man.
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By (user no longer on site)
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When I first came on here I did not take rejection well . But now if someone thinks they are too good for me . I think " Well maybe I was to good for them anyway " . Works for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say it's always with a view of the guys in a couple or the guys in a ladies verifications. If they are chiselled and toned gents, then I guess that I am not going to be the ladies type and won't trouble them. Having said that I have met many wonderful ladies who appreciate a "slight" framed man.
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I do this too...if all their verifications are from petite slim women it kind of puts me off going there because I don't want the unfavourable comparison! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If someone wants to meet you how can you be out of their league or not good enough purely on the basis of what they look like?
Because of my own insecurities I think, rightly or wrongly, someone I consider good looking isn't really going to be interested in a plain jane like me. What I don't do though is bang on about it and do woe is me. "
Same here well the plain jane bit so am always amazed when a good looking man fancies me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If someone wants to meet you how can you be out of their league or not good enough purely on the basis of what they look like?
Because of my own insecurities I think, rightly or wrongly, someone I consider good looking isn't really going to be interested in a plain jane like me. What I don't do though is bang on about it and do woe is me.
I see. I sometimes feel the same way about people who are very intelligent or well read .....daft isn't it "
Yes its daft 
But an interesting thread all the same
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't wanna meet you because you have hot pics and I would feel intimidated . But I know you are really nice so I would lol
Someone who puts themselves down all time is a turn off , even though I know I do it myself
I've been put off by people saying how they can't find meets, no one wants them etc etc
But being intimidated by another profile, I thought I was alone on than one "
Nope you're not alone, I have certainly been to worried about rejection to mail some people, there are a couple of guys who post on the forum who make my stomach knott and my toes tingle.
Stupidly I might not be Marilyn Monroe but I know I can hold my own against most women in the flesh, it's getting that across online I struggle with.
A minor disfigurement does not help   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't wanna meet you because you have hot pics and I would feel intimidated . But I know you are really nice so I would lol
Someone who puts themselves down all time is a turn off , even though I know I do it myself
I've been put off by people saying how they can't find meets, no one wants them etc etc
But being intimidated by another profile, I thought I was alone on than one
Nope you're not alone, I have certainly been to worried about rejection to mail some people, there are a couple of guys who post on the forum who make my stomach knott and my toes tingle.
Stupidly I might not be Marilyn Monroe but I know I can hold my own against most women in the flesh, it's getting that across online I struggle with.
A minor disfigurement does not help "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance. But looking at the opposite end of the spectrum does the sheer lack of it put you off?
I was recently rejected because she felt like I was "to good looking for her" it made me feel a little bad actually and she was such a lovely woman. She said she felt intimated and not good enough, although it didn't put me off her, she was obviously put off by me.
My question is, have you ever felt quite not good enough to message someone and skipped passed their profile?
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Is a shame when it happens but there is little you can do about it. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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I've never been put off by looks... "he who dares, Rodney"...
Although the way I am wired means that I am incapable of messaging people in a sensible/usual manner relating to their profile, I have to find something (maybe a status) to be sarcastic about/take the piss etc and I'm positive it has lost me meets, but I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes all the time.. After reading their profile and looking at their pics I check out the people they have met... If they are all slender younger women it screams out to me that's their preference and I won't meet.. Not because I'm not confident, I feel that they are only asking coz it's available.. And if there was a slender woman offering I wouldn't be in the picture... Happened to many times in the clubs ... Good job I have broad shoulders and don't offend easy  |
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By *iguy39Man
over a year ago
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I have felt like that loads of times. What I tend to do is be a bit brash and make out that they are the luckiest person in the world to get a message from me. Most of the time they ignore me! You have to remember that we are all on here for a reason, including beautiful girls. I'm a chewed up, dog eared old mutt! But some women like that! |
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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago
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In my day to day life, I consider myself to be a confident woman, but when it comes to exchanging photos and chatting on here, I get really nervous.
I'm smart enough to know that we can't all be attractive to everyone, but it just feels a little like setting yourself up to fail. I rarely message first, for this reason  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This is me making a massively sweeping generalisation here, but I think it tends to be women who are put off/intimidated meeting someone they think to be out of their league, more than men. Like I'll take good pictures then find myself talking myself down when chatting to someone so I don't leave them disappointed when they meet me in real life. Whereas I've found a lot of men will exaggerate their...charms...
Again...I know this is a total generalisation and not everyone is like this! |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"In my day to day life, I consider myself to be a confident woman, but when it comes to exchanging photos and chatting on here, I get really nervous.
I'm smart enough to know that we can't all be attractive to everyone, but it just feels a little like setting yourself up to fail. I rarely message first, for this reason "
I don't reckon you've got anything to worry about, myself.... |
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By *iguy39Man
over a year ago
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"This is me making a massively sweeping generalisation here, but I think it tends to be women who are put off/intimidated meeting someone they think to be out of their league, more than men. Like I'll take good pictures then find myself talking myself down when chatting to someone so I don't leave them disappointed when they meet me in real life. Whereas I've found a lot of men will exaggerate their...charms...I tend to do myself down too, it's a very English thing to do
Again...I know this is a total generalisation and not everyone is like this! "
I tend to do myself down too, it's a very English thing to do |
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By *Kgirl80Woman
over a year ago
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"In my day to day life, I consider myself to be a confident woman, but when it comes to exchanging photos and chatting on here, I get really nervous.
I'm smart enough to know that we can't all be attractive to everyone, but it just feels a little like setting yourself up to fail. I rarely message first, for this reason
I don't reckon you've got anything to worry about, myself.... "
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I contact anyone I like the look of or like the way they speak in the forum or by what they have written in their profile. I'll only get ignored if I'm not their type for any reason. I think even the most fantastic looking people like compliments on occasion so I give them out too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say it's always with a view of the guys in a couple or the guys in a ladies verifications. If they are chiselled and toned gents, then I guess that I am not going to be the ladies type and won't trouble them. Having said that I have met many wonderful ladies who appreciate a "slight" framed man.
I do this too...if all their verifications are from petite slim women it kind of puts me off going there because I don't want the unfavourable comparison! "
I'm the same when I see that all their verifications are of men 6 ft plus,
I just move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have many of times skipped passed profiles and felt the same also.
Your one of those rare people, nice person and modest and thoughful"
Thanks mate. Very nice of you to say |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is always a little bit of me that thinks 'God, they're going to run a mile when they see me in real life' but I man up and ignore that little voice most of the time."
I'm well acquainted with that voice, myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance. But looking at the opposite end of the spectrum does the sheer lack of it put you off?
I was recently rejected because she felt like I was "to good looking for her" it made me feel a little bad actually and she was such a lovely woman. She said she felt intimated and not good enough, although it didn't put me off her, she was obviously put off by me.
My question is, have you ever felt quite not good enough to message someone and skipped passed their profile?
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Yes... I don't think so I would dare to go for a meet with you.. Many great pics and body.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If there is someone i really want to meet, then i'd get myself out there and try and get that meet. At least i can say i gave it my all.
I just don't like profiles where someone gives out the vibes of being arrogant. I may be wrong in the tone that i sense from these profiles but arrogance certainly does put me off.
I'm not here to jump through hoops for a meet. You either like me for me, or you just move on to the next profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is me making a massively sweeping generalisation here, but I think it tends to be women who are put off/intimidated meeting someone they think to be out of their league, more than men. Like I'll take good pictures then find myself talking myself down when chatting to someone so I don't leave them disappointed when they meet me in real life. Whereas I've found a lot of men will exaggerate their...charms...I tend to do myself down too, it's a very English thing to do
Again...I know this is a total generalisation and not everyone is like this! I tend to do myself down too, it's a very English thing to do"
Hmm yeah you're right there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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What I've learnt from this thread is a woman could skip a profile and feel like she isn't good enough. She would show up on the recent viewed list but the guy could assume she wasn't interest as she looked and didn't send a message. Both then missing out on what could potentially be a great meet.
Time to be more daring |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What I've learnt from this thread is a woman could skip a profile and feel like she isn't good enough. She would show up on the recent viewed list but the guy could assume she wasn't interest as she looked and didn't send a message. Both then missing out on what could potentially be a great meet.
Time to be more daring "
i have never had a reply from a guy i have sent the first message to
What i concluded from that was guys who i am attracted to enough to mail obviously are not attracted to me
that's why i let men mail me first
in my cause I'm no good enough for the guys who catch my eye lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can relate to that lady. Absolutely. Ive turned down meets because of guys who I thought were 'out of my league'.
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On a number of occasions....you have to stick to the rules and never bat above your score.
For example I'm a 4 and a 5 in good light & if I've made an effort, therefore I only feel properly comfortable meeting 7s or below. I have met many 8, 9 and 10s but I never feel quite good enough & think it's some sort of charity shag on their part.
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By (user no longer on site)
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One puts their heads above the parapet in the front trenches and to be sure, your ego is gonna gets plenty of slapping, However, a civil ,polite enquiry retains yer dignity and if you don't ask , you don't get. You have to believe , someone out there will want to collide with you. Don't let them grind you down folks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What I've learnt from this thread is a woman could skip a profile and feel like she isn't good enough. She would show up on the recent viewed list but the guy could assume she wasn't interest as she looked and didn't send a message. Both then missing out on what could potentially be a great meet.
Time to be more daring "
But I perve in stealth mode  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Arrogance: I am better than everyone else.
Confidence: No one else is any better than me.
I quote this on any thread that mentions either, but that's just because it sounds cool |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What I've learnt from this thread is a woman could skip a profile and feel like she isn't good enough. She would show up on the recent viewed list but the guy could assume she wasn't interest as she looked and didn't send a message. Both then missing out on what could potentially be a great meet.
Time to be more daring
But I perve in stealth mode "
I think most do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here I think you need to have full awareness that you are a wonderful person as it is easy for your confidence to be knocked and remember they don't know you only the persona you portray here
Basically don't give a fuck what anyone thinks hold your head up and be confident |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have insecurities about my size and body , some of it is caused by comments from men in the past but I also know I'm not a minger and have a good heart and wicked soh, I wouldn't meet someone who was body beautiful or younger than me as I would be too self conscious and wonder why me .... very sad I know. |
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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago
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"There is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance. But looking at the opposite end of the spectrum does the sheer lack of it put you off?
I was recently rejected because she felt like I was "to good looking for her" it made me feel a little bad actually and she was such a lovely woman. She said she felt intimated and not good enough, although it didn't put me off her, she was obviously put off by me.
My question is, have you ever felt quite not good enough to message someone and skipped passed their profile?
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Yep! And.. you are one of those guys, as it goes 
Its hard to explain why. I think the phrase 'if it looks too good to be true....' comes into my head .
I had a proper hotty message me a few days ago, and after I picked myself up off the floor, I had to say to him 'surely you can't be real' 
Usually, I am quite confident myself!! Good looking guys just floor me lol. Fear of rejection? you bet your ass lol |
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I appreciate all attention and recognise that we all want something different. No point being put off when someone sees that you're hot. Even better when you are told that you are the most beautiful in a place, though we may not get this all the time - many can be in awe of us, but if you have an open heart then others sense that you are not over bearing. Arrogance is certainly a turn off, Id drop it like a shot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What would you class a person who is a bit too proud of themselves. Filled with pride as opposed to someone who likes to be humble?
a cocky twat? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance. But looking at the opposite end of the spectrum does the sheer lack of it put you off?
I was recently rejected because she felt like I was "to good looking for her" it made me feel a little bad actually and she was such a lovely woman. She said she felt intimated and not good enough, although it didn't put me off
her, she was obviously put off by me.
Ive just looked at your profile and pics. I don't think I would message you as you are out of my league....but Id just keep going back to look at your pics
My question is, have you ever felt quite not good enough to message someone and skipped passed their profile?
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By (user no longer on site)
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Coming from a guy who's not got the best body in the world and is insecure about his size in the trouser department, if I look at couples profiles and see the guy is athletic or has a bigger penis then I think 'no point in messaging'. So that's lack of self confidence (although I will admit reading the profiles of people who are size queens and only want VWE guys don't help matters too much haha!)
There's actually someone i'm friends with on here and who I actually really, really like. We've been talking for a long while and she wants to meet me and I want to meet her but I look at all of the guys that have given her verifications and they're all slim or athletic guys with great bodies and they're all vwe.
I also read the verifications she leaves on their profiles and they're all ecstatic about the meet they had and where i'm inexperienced I don't know if I could satisfy her the way those guys have.
I start to get pretty panicky cos I might not be good enough for her.
I'm not really like that with anyone else, I just really like her and don't want to disappoint her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't turn someone down with the excuse of not feeling good enough for them,im not going to question why men message me,the answer is always going to be the same,sex
I can sometimes feel a little intimidated by profiles but never to the point where I wouldn't message them,even if its nothing more than a compliment on a good profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No, I just love meeting people and exploring. Sure Attraction, Banter and Chemistry are key, but pictures are an awful representation, written word to brief and Chemistry is impossible to predict until you meet in person.
So, I'd rather meet (social initially) and experience the excitement of meeting, especially as it just might lead to more when meeting someone from here. |
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"Coming from a guy who's not got the best body in the world and is insecure about his size in the trouser department, if I look at couples profiles and see the guy is athletic or has a bigger penis then I think 'no point in messaging'. So that's lack of self confidence (although I will admit reading the profiles of people who are size queens and only want VWE guys don't help matters too much haha!)
There's actually someone i'm friends with on here and who I actually really, really like. We've been talking for a long while and she wants to meet me and I want to meet her but I look at all of the guys that have given her verifications and they're all slim or athletic guys with great bodies and they're all vwe.
I also read the verifications she leaves on their profiles and they're all ecstatic about the meet they had and where i'm inexperienced I don't know if I could satisfy her the way those guys have.
I start to get pretty panicky cos I might not be good enough for her.
I'm not really like that with anyone else, I just really like her and don't want to disappoint her."
Yes but if you are friends and have a real connection you may be offering her something she finds way more appealing than simply good looks and even hot sex. There are deeper ways to satisfy. Go for it! !
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"What would you class a person who is a bit too proud of themselves. Filled with pride as opposed to someone who likes to be humble?
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Quite possibly someone who is deeply insecure and protecting themselves by hiding behind an arrogant persona.
Or they may be a true narcissist.
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"I wouldn't turn someone down with the excuse of not feeling good enough for them,im not going to question why men message me,the answer is always going to be the same,sex "
I agree. My confidence is totally crap but I've never turned someone down because I think I'm not good enough. I spend plenty of time chatting and getting to know men. I have pictures in my friends that show I'm far from body perfect but I hope my personality makes up for that in some small way |
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"Yes all the time.. After reading their profile and looking at their pics I check out the people they have met... If they are all slender younger women it screams out to me that's their preference and I won't meet.. Not because I'm not confident, I feel that they are only asking coz it's available.. And if there was a slender woman offering I wouldn't be in the picture... Happened to many times in the clubs ... Good job I have broad shoulders and don't offend easy "
Oddly enough I have the reverse, is rather confusing when guys who state they love bbw's/curvy/big boobs send me a message yet its obvious (when I had pictures up) that I am slim. Maybe a cue for a forum post |
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"There is a fine line between self confidence and arrogance. But looking at the opposite end of the spectrum does the sheer lack of it put you off?
I was recently rejected because she felt like I was "to good looking for her" it made me feel a little bad actually and she was such a lovely woman. She said she felt intimated and not good enough, although it didn't put me off her, she was obviously put off by me.
My question is, have you ever felt quite not good enough to message someone and skipped passed their profile?
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Frequently. |
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I think it's a very British trait to be reserved, even here it happens!
And if this means turning down a meet because I think I'm not good enough, yeah I've done it!
But that doesn't mean I'm right, I have some confidence issues but not enough to hold me back from a hot meet now, I was newer here then and didn't know how hard it is for "normal" looking guys to make an impression. We are 10 a penny!
You flaunt wat ya got! If peep don't like it then maybe it's not meant to be |
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I (fem) shy away from messaging some profiles, yes.
I see lots of very sexy people with pretty amazing bodies on here which I would love to explore and pleasure but find them out of my league as I'm a size 20.
Although when we are in a club, Im much more confident?! |
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"I (fem) shy away from messaging some profiles, yes.
I see lots of very sexy people with pretty amazing bodies on here which I would love to explore and pleasure but find them out of my league as I'm a size 20.
Although when we are in a club, Im much more confident?! "
Prefer your victims more captive do we? Lol |
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"On here I think you need to have full awareness that you are a wonderful person as it is easy for your confidence to be knocked and remember they don't know you only the persona you portray here
Basically don't give a fuck what anyone thinks hold your head up and be confident "
I like your attitude. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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I tend to shy away from the really fit couples. But I prefer to chat to anyone that fancies it and try get to know them as look although important are not the most important thing for me. I much prefer a genuine cheeky couple who are relaxed and up for a laugh. J |
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"On here I think you need to have full awareness that you are a wonderful person as it is easy for your confidence to be knocked and remember they don't know you only the persona you portray here
Basically don't give a fuck what anyone thinks hold your head up and be confident
I like your attitude. "
Yes I agree it's easy for your self confidence to get knocked on here. Confidence is very attractive and we only look for people who have a friendly personality with a sense of humour. You can be the hottest person in the world but with no personality it doesn't get you anywhere really. In answer to the OP's question, yes I have been intimidated but we have still tried our luck 
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I would say I am quietly confident it's not something I feel the need to bang on about.
I rarely message new people I spend most of my time boring my existing friends
Most of those I send come back marked return to sender anyway.
For those of you who say someone is out of your league so you won't meet them.
Would you say to someone you did not feel was up to your standards. "Sorry I am out of your league" ? |
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"For those of you who say someone is out of your league so you won't meet them.
Would you say to someone you did not feel was up to your standards. "Sorry I am out of your league" ?"
no id not say that as to me that would be quite rude, i would say they arent my type though.
in a way though saying to someone 'id not meet you because your outta my league' in a way is a back handed compliment that they are the ones too good for me |
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"For those of you who say someone is out of your league so you won't meet them.
Would you say to someone you did not feel was up to your standards. "Sorry I am out of your league" ?
no id not say that as to me that would be quite rude, i would say they arent my type though.
in a way though saying to someone 'id not meet you because your outta my league' in a way is a back handed compliment that they are the ones too good for me "
A bit like being turned down because your cocks too big. |
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"For those of you who say someone is out of your league so you won't meet them.
Would you say to someone you did not feel was up to your standards. "Sorry I am out of your league" ?
no id not say that as to me that would be quite rude, i would say they arent my type though.
in a way though saying to someone 'id not meet you because your outta my league' in a way is a back handed compliment that they are the ones too good for me
A bit like being turned down because your cocks too big."
Or you might have misheard and they said your a big cock |
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I am always insecure about my looks, but if I know someone likes me then I just relax. The initial attraction hurdle is my sticking point.
Sexually I am reasonably confident as I have very good control and am very attentive.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I have confident phases and less confident phases. Yes, I've passed by profiles and declined meets because I've thought the person too hot to be interested in me, or likely to be disappointed by me in person.
OP, if you messaged me I'd wonder what the heck you were thinking tbh. |
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to add another part to this.. along with others id think 'wtf' whys that a muscular guy (like the OP) messaging me?
This is also down to the fact that i am attracted to people with similar interests to myself (its not just about the physical, mental connections are just as important) and for me who neglects my body and have become over weight i find it baffling that a gent who eats well and dedicated time to the gym would even consider myself for sexual pleasure when we are so opposite |
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over a year ago
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"I would say I am quietly confident it's not something I feel the need to bang on about.
I rarely message new people I spend most of my time boring my existing friends
Most of those I send come back marked return to sender anyway.
For those of you who say someone is out of your league so you won't meet them.
Would you say to someone you did not feel was up to your standards. "Sorry I am out of your league" ?"
you are far from boring
I would say I'm fairly confident. |
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over a year ago
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i like woman body and mind i do like a toned body but cant help my self when it comes to a fuller fingered woman a woman with some flesh to grab bite and nibble on
the words of Freddy fat bottomed girls you make the rocking world go round i like biggish smallish and toned so shoot me if im a freak lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've turned down guys plenty times cause they are way to good looking! My body next to their body would be embarrassing! Altho I love to look at a fine 6pack, I would save myself the embarrassment and not meet them! |
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have to say i would be happy to to have your body next to mine i might not have the 6pack but i do have 12 cans of stella in the car lol wanna share a tin |
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Hmmmmm this thread is making me think less of getting down the gym and more ordering pizza tonight!
Anyone want to share? Meat feast? Lol
I'm by no means out of shape but I have a little extra that I don't need, I'm happy to share my time with someone that excites my mind as well as other things |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I find arrogance a total put off, I'm confident with who I am... I don't have a fantastic body but it's mine and I like both my self and my body.
I'm happy to meet people I find hugely physically and mentally attractive and have a playmate from another site who just stops talk when he walks in as he is (shy) but seriously about as physically hot as can be ( many would say).
He enjoys playing with me and if we are both happy I don't see it as anything to be bothered about.
I have also met someone who was very lush but just didn't do it at all physically at for me as I just didn't feel the chemistry at all.
I think just enjoy and if you like someone don't be out off by their good looks... Let them chose what they like... It can be in the eye of the beholder anyway.... |
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There is a difference between being shy and having low self esteem.
The way a person is in public when shy can be vastly different when with people in a small group or 121.
Self esteem however is a lot more tricky and the person feels inferior to others. |
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"If he/she likes me and I like him/her..it will be what it will be! I do not complicate encounters, they just are! "
That's a great way to be I prefer personality over looks like it has been said before looks doesn't always mean an attraction ?
Each person has their beautiful ! Which can be just the fun and laughter that can be shared with a " beautiful person " |
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"to add another part to this.. along with others id think 'wtf' whys that a muscular guy (like the OP) messaging me?
This is also down to the fact that i am attracted to people with similar interests to myself (its not just about the physical, mental connections are just as important) and for me who neglects my body and have become over weight i find it baffling that a gent who eats well and dedicated time to the gym would even consider myself for sexual pleasure when we are so opposite"
Yeah I think this too. Feel like gym bunny men and women will judge me for my greedy habits |
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If I like the look of a woman/couple, whether it be from the forums or chatroom and I think we could make a connection after reading their profile, I'll message them.
I can handle the rejection as there always is someone for everyone.
I would stop myself from messaging someone only if they specifically state I'm not what they're looking for. |
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Not a chance would I feel too intimidated to contact someone based on their looks.....I am no better than anyone else but Im certainly as good as anyone else |
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"to add another part to this.. along with others id think 'wtf' whys that a muscular guy (like the OP) messaging me?
This is also down to the fact that i am attracted to people with similar interests to myself (its not just about the physical, mental connections are just as important) and for me who neglects my body and have become over weight i find it baffling that a gent who eats well and dedicated time to the gym would even consider myself for sexual pleasure when we are so opposite
Yeah I think this too. Feel like gym bunny men and women will judge me for my greedy habits "
You have nothing at all to worry about. |
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"Not a chance would I feel too intimidated to contact someone based on their looks.....I am no better than anyone else but Im certainly as good as anyone else "
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