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By *emmefatale OP Woman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

For meets, both social and sexual.

Do you have a specific criteria you won't stray from, have you made exceptions and did it work out?

Do you message first or wait for the offers to come rolling in?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My criteria is simple i like old,,very old ,teetering on the brink stupid rich men,,,with young fit well hung butlers

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't message first but I have started winking. It could just mean I like their profile but it starts up a conversation.

I do have a certain criteria and I've never strayed from it and never had a bad meet

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

If I see someone I like I will message them but then I tend not to chase so often wait for them to message etc...as long as they are nice and we get along and they tick certain boxes then I'll happily meet

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm not sure really....it's more a case of women and couples approaching me in the first instance as I rarely send messages to initiate contact.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I don't message first but I have started winking. It could just mean I like their profile but it starts up a conversation.

I do have a certain criteria and I've never strayed from it and never had a bad meet

Well, well, well. This post I'm going to copy, print, enlarge and frame

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By *izzy RascallMan over a year ago

Cardiff

If you got a cock Im not at all interested.

Thats a start

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my criteria can be flexible in some ways i go more on the messages and whether they grab my attention or not

i have been known to message first but its rare

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

My criteria is mostly to do with the type of personality they have

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"I don't message first but I have started winking. It could just mean I like their profile but it starts up a conversation.

I do have a certain criteria and I've never strayed from it and never had a bad meet

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By *Kgirl80Woman over a year ago

South Coast

Until recently, I didn't initiate conversation - I stuck to my 'type' and replied to messages that interested me.

I've sent a few winks when people have caught my eye recently... I think I'm going to enjoy being more proactive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, I have criteria, though I find that it needs a social meet as so much of my criteria is based on the person, not the profile (if that makes sense).

I've been known to message, on occasions. Wink too (heaven forbid). Im not the kind of guy where offers will ever 'roll in' - I simply don't have the Abs / Ass / Cock for that.

But its very rare these days that I message anyone with a view to a meet (social or otherwise). The hoops and loops, the messaging minefields, the ridiculous meet criteria, the 'objectification mentality' - all of it combined makes something which should be (to all intents and purposes) a 'pastime for fun and enjoyment' into something which eats up vast amounts of time with diminishing returns.

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By *emmefatale OP Woman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Yes, I have criteria, though I find that it needs a social meet as so much of my criteria is based on the person, not the profile (if that makes sense).

I've been known to message, on occasions. Wink too (heaven forbid). Im not the kind of guy where offers will ever 'roll in' - I simply don't have the Abs / Ass / Cock for that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't had a meet yet and find I eat no respone from sending messages so I wait and see if I get a wink or a message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i keep changing my mind about things depending on who i have met. i only want to meet men who are well mannered and polite and very clean.

i used to like much older men but have had too many bad meets with them so dont bother with them anymore.

i get put off by certain types of men on the forums so avoid ones who look similar to them.

i have met men who i wouldnt say are my type but have been good fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have conquered one, another I haven't, I haven't changed my mind in what I want, you can never say never things change.

The social side of things I haven't changed either, a drink and a laugh with no expectations.

At socials have met some really nice people, and hopefully more.

Her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do have a selection criteria, however it's not set in stone and if someone intrigues me I'm happy to deviate from it. I do have a few rules prior to a meet I don't break though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only rule i really have that i sick to is i meet in public first, i wont go straight to a guys house or hotel room nor will i have guys pick me up, i refuse to get into a car with someone i have never met before

other than that I'm flexible

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I don't send preemptive messages, I have had banter with folk on the forums and this occasionally leads to a meet. I tend to let other people message me before deciding if we have anything in common and perhaps take things further.

*courtesy of the superramfan information department*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have sent the odd wink and message i find i do better with men who mail me first as i have never had a reply to a mail i sent first, i think i aim to high

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I very rarely initiate, but I am in two minds about my selection criteria. I have different criteria for different kinds of meet, but sometimes get a poor meet when all the criteria have been satisfied, or an absolutely brilliant one when I have been totally reckless!

I'm really not sure what to do for the best!

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

First does their face attract me? Are they physically what I'm looking for? Does their profile text make them sound as if I could have an interesting conversation with them?

And finally, do their verifications sound as if they have the experience I am looking for?

There are a few others but those are the main ones.

I have ignored the last one a few times and always regretted it. So now those 4 key ones are stuck to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did have and did used to initiate messages etc. Mostly because they used to tick the right box's.

I didn't ever give someone my number within the first hour of chatting OR get into a total strangers car either.. Until my last meet that is

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

Top hat, waistcoat and pocket watch required, must be 6'+, well built, dark features, be well-spoken, dominant and well hung.

Bonus points for being able to spunk Baileys.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ours is on our profile and we have not deviated yet no matter how the approach is made.

The single guys specs are pretty demanding and tongue in cheek but the amount of people who message and say they look like them is quite funny when they clearly don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sense of humour

Sex appeal

Not a miserable sod

Most importantly the ability to communicate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always mail first. If anyone mails me I figure they are insane/desperate/ both.

My criteria that I always stick to- if they annoy the fuck out of me I don't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

often mail first following a wink, fab or looked at us for which we say thank you,

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Top hat, waistcoat and pocket watch required, must be 6'+, well built, dark features, be well-spoken, dominant and well hung.

Bonus points for being able to spunk Baileys.

- Amy. x"

I have a hat, and wrestled a bottle of Baileys off my Aunty Betty on my 21st birthday if that's any good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mad as a box of frogs

Promises to bring yellow Crayons

Nice Arse (Female)

has to relate to the Voices.

able to give bed baths

at the end of the day i run everything past my Carer and she has the last word.

illustrious Gimp.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple over a year ago

Herts

"Top hat, waistcoat and pocket watch required, must be 6'+, well built, dark features, be well-spoken, dominant and well hung.

Bonus points for being able to spunk Baileys.

- Amy. x

I have a hat, and wrestled a bottle of Baileys off my Aunty Betty on my 21st birthday if that's any good

SOLD!

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