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"I had to do a big presentation on the back of this...it's well written and worth a watch not something to rave about, domestic violence isn't but if it open peoples eyes to DV then it's done it's job "Oh alright smarty pants lol! | |||
"Fine but if it's crap I will blame you " Ash it's about domestic violence and I'm sure under your tough exterior you have a heart | |||
"I had to do a big presentation on the back of this...it's well written and worth a watch not something to rave about, domestic violence isn't but if it open peoples eyes to DV then it's done it's job
Oh alright smarty pants lol! "It's not about being a smarty pants!!! | |||
"Heads up its in BBC 1 at 10.35pm loads of mates raving about it, must watch, true story/documentary. Your welcome " Classical Sunday night telly then! | |||
"it's well written and worth a watch not something to rave about, domestic violence isn't but if it open peoples eyes to DV then it's done it's job "^^^ I've seen it and I agree. | |||
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"Fine but if it's crap I will blame you " Have you cheered up a bit yet? Ill catch this another time,im not in the mood for depressing stuff | |||
"Dead excited can't wait haha princes at the ready! Love to get into a right proper juicy story lol.. Really get involved like.I'm there ha" indeed...did you watch that Irish series? | |||
"Heads up its in BBC 1 at 10.35pm loads of mates raving about it, must watch, true story/documentary. Your welcome " watched it a few weeks ago!! Where you been!? | |||
"I had to do a big presentation on the back of this...it's well written and worth a watch not something to rave about, domestic violence isn't but if it open peoples eyes to DV then it's done it's job "It is ok you know to rave about a programme which tackles delicate issues. Its ok to actually admit you enjoy such programmes, there are many fans of crime dramatisations which involve multiple murder. | |||
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"I've already seen it. It really disturbed me took me a few days to get over it. Brought back memories that I thought where deeply hidden "  | |||
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"I don't mean I love the story I love fact and documentaries as opposed to Diana does predator mars lol " its very well done, concentrate from the beginning and see how he slowly starts manipulating her | |||
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"Looks abit crap..." what?! I am watching it now!  | |||
"Looks abit crap..." shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that | |||
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"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that " Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story | |||
"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story " Or even worse. | |||
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"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story " I'm not watching it, couldn't put myself through it again, I think in DC there are so many text book similarities to each case | |||
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"Damn. Is there a BBC+1 thingy? Otherwise I'll have to see if it's on iplayer. I can't do much about it atm. I've just slathered my feet in cream and can't move from my bed until it's all been absorbed." its on iplayer look on bbc3 was on few weeks ago and quite popular programme so am guessing that's its been aired on one now. Really sad true storyxx | |||
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"Holy shit!!!!!" What did you expect? | |||
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"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story I'm not watching it, couldn't put myself through it again, I think in DC there are so many text book similarities to each case " I've watched it a couple of times once at home and other work related and it brings a lot of deeply hidden memories back to the surface | |||
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"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story I'm not watching it, couldn't put myself through it again, I think in DC there are so many text book similarities to each case I've watched it a couple of times once at home and other work related and it brings a lot of deeply hidden memories back to the surface "the thing is you can see from the beginning how he very slowly goes to work on her but when your in the situation you just don't see it, with hindsight all the tell tale signs are there | |||
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"Is it a series? Or just a one off" one off but its been showing for weeks | |||
"He bashed her into the mirror "My first boyfriend bashed my head through a plasterboard wall for being home 20 minutes late. He wouldn't believe that I was stuck on the tube all that time. | |||
"Looks abit crap...shut up and concentrate on it, you see how easily a bright happy go lucky girl can end up in a situation like that Thing is diamond if people ain't interested then they won't see the story I'm not watching it, couldn't put myself through it again, I think in DC there are so many text book similarities to each case I've watched it a couple of times once at home and other work related and it brings a lot of deeply hidden memories back to the surface the thing is you can see from the beginning how he very slowly goes to work on her but when your in the situation you just don't see it, with hindsight all the tell tale signs are there
"Very true not really going to go so deep into it all but I remember my ex hitting me with the handle end of a hammer because I was 10 minutes late and just saying it was all my fault,...arghhhh it's time for bed I think | |||
This was in 1980 onwards, and I expect he'd been doing it for a while.
She eventually divorced him but he lives in the same town and has harassed her ever since. He's vandalised her house and her car, got her into trouble at work by spreading lies and all sorts.
Their kids have cut him out of their lives and won't have anything to do with him.
Quite why nobody has taken him to the vet to have him put down like the sick animal he is is quite beyond me. | |||
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"This was on BBC3 a couple of weeks ago.Gripping,realistic and also very sad.If it helps just one woman leave an abusive relationship then that poor girls death wont have been in vain." Which is one of the reasons I am sure the BBC is showing it so regularly at the moment. Watching this I feel lucky now that my abusive relationship was before mobile phones. The stalking was bad but I didn't have the harassment of constant calls. | |||
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"I watched first bit where he hit her head into a wall. How come she stayed with him after that?" She tried to leave then but it's never straightforward. I didn't leave the first time or the fourth. The mental abuse works on you. The control is everything. It took something really vile before I felt able to end it and he still followed me for three months. My family begged me to take him back as to everyone else he was lovely. | |||
"This was on BBC3 a couple of weeks ago.Gripping,realistic and also very sad.If it helps just one woman leave an abusive relationship then that poor girls death wont have been in vain." This is all we can hope for. I found it so hard to leave for nearly a year.. living in a town miles away from home, and he had effectively stopped me having any new friends, so I had nowhere to run, and as I have no children, I was classed as 'low risk' at the crisis centres. Thank god for my friend here who came and got me from miles away, and put me in her spare room. I had always said before I experienced that, that sufferers of abuse should just get out, it could never be that hard.. but boy, how wrong I was. | |||
"I watched first bit where he hit her head into a wall. How come she stayed with him after that? She tried to leave then but it's never straightforward. I didn't leave the first time or the fourth. The mental abuse works on you. The control is everything. It took something really vile before I felt able to end it and he still followed me for three months. My family begged me to take him back as to everyone else he was lovely. " Did she not tell anyone? | |||
"I watched first bit where he hit her head into a wall. How come she stayed with him after that?" . It really isn't that simple. I appreciate you probably have no experience of DV but my friend, your incredibly naive. | |||
"I watched first bit where he hit her head into a wall. How come she stayed with him after that? She tried to leave then but it's never straightforward. I didn't leave the first time or the fourth. The mental abuse works on you. The control is everything. It took something really vile before I felt able to end it and he still followed me for three months. My family begged me to take him back as to everyone else he was lovely. Did she not tell anyone?" Watch it and see for yourself. | |||
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"This was on BBC3 a couple of weeks ago.Gripping,realistic and also very sad.If it helps just one woman leave an abusive relationship then that poor girls death wont have been in vein. I had always said before I experienced that, that sufferers of abuse should just get out, it could never be that hard.. but boy, how wrong I was." Totally agree, glad it's being aired again as I missed it the first time around. Tough to watch, especialley this weekend but great tool for awareness. Its a great example of how the manipulation and blame games make it harder to leave, and how it builds slowly in private before you realise it. Its so easy to say you'll be strong enough walk away if it happens to you, but then when it does, that first time, any reasonable person who cares is likely to look on how good it's been up until then and try to give a second chance. I think now, if you dont leave that first time, it really reinforces the situation, makes it spiral out of control. With hindsight I wish there were stats on the number of relationships that have DV, then anger management and survived treatment to be better, healthier. I mean, do any over come it, does anger management or counselling ever work? | |||
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"maybe show this programme to kids in school, if it makes a small percentage address their own behaviour that may well be a life saved .." It's been rolled out in work places where they are doing special viewing for those that work within the public sector | |||
"maybe show this programme to kids in school, if it makes a small percentage address their own behaviour that may well be a life saved .." Thats not a bad idea,some abusers start very early.  | |||
"The girl that this documentary was based on was let down by the people that are here to protect us the police, there was 11 incidents reported none was acted on and they did not question as to why she was withdrawing complaints....the prep head butted her in a public shopping centre yet was not arrested...she was 21 years old when she was murdered...she tried to get help but was failed...officers were disciplined as a result of this case and lessons learnt...it's easy for people to say walk away from a violent relationship it's far more difficult to actually do it...I had a gun put to my head and that was the last straw I never looked back and I never will... " you are one very brave woman | |||
"maybe show this programme to kids in school, if it makes a small percentage address their own behaviour that may well be a life saved .. It's been rolled out in work places where they are doing special viewing for those that work within the public sector " we hade dv input years ago to enable those who wanted to do so to pick up on certain clues etc.. thing is not all see 'it' as an issue sadly so the response will always be mixed.. | |||
"I've already seen it. It really disturbed me took me a few days to get over it. Brought back memories that I thought where deeply hidden " I for one am glad I missed it. | |||
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"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it?" It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either | |||
"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it? It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either" Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it! | |||
"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it? It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it! " It finished on iplayer yesterday xx | |||
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"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it? It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it! It finished on iplayer yesterday xx" Shame I missed it. Would have made for interesting discussions. Thanks for letting me know x | |||
"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it? It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it! It finished on iplayer yesterday xx Shame I missed it. Would have made for interesting discussions. Thanks for letting me know x" If you download, you may find it on torrent sites xx | |||
"I can't find it on Sky. Have they stopped showing it? It was on bbc3 but it doesn't seem to be on iplayer either Thank you. I was searching through iplayer but couldn't see it! It finished on iplayer yesterday xx Shame I missed it. Would have made for interesting discussions. Thanks for letting me know x" It's on you tube I've sent you the link | |||
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