"The night has arrived I attend secrets... Why am I so nervous!
I can do plenty of things on my own!"
I'm sure you'll not be doing much on your own.... Give it 10 minutes and you'll be wondering why you were ever nervous  |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. "
I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element. |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element."
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element."
Lots of females are straight. A lot pretend to be bi to please the guys... 
They should ask, not assume that you're bi. Let them know. Depends on if you are looking for single guys or couples. Some couples won't want to play with a straight female. Just be aware of that and you'll be fine. |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. "
I feel no power at the moment |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Lots of females are straight. A lot pretend to be bi to please the guys...
They should ask, not assume that you're bi. Let them know. Depends on if you are looking for single guys or couples. Some couples won't want to play with a straight female. Just be aware of that and you'll be fine. "
just guys that want to play, I know it sounds silly as I'm attending secrets which is ultimately couples but, was hoping if any makes took my fancy the female wouldn't mind him playing. Totally understand everyone has their preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment "
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. |
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over a year ago
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. "
if had someone I would be trust me. |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. if had someone I would be trust me."
I'm sure you'll now be inundated with offers from men you can 'trust'...  |
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over a year ago
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. if had someone I would be trust me.
I'm sure you'll now be inundated with offers from men you can 'trust'... "
after being let down by one already, I very much doubt it ha! |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. if had someone I would be trust me.
I'm sure you'll now be inundated with offers from men you can 'trust'... after being let down by one already, I very much doubt it ha!"
Can I say that the guy must be an idiot without causing offence?...  |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. if had someone I would be trust me.
I'm sure you'll now be inundated with offers from men you can 'trust'... after being let down by one already, I very much doubt it ha!"
I woulda looked after you |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. if had someone I would be trust me.
I'm sure you'll now be inundated with offers from men you can 'trust'... after being let down by one already, I very much doubt it ha!
Can I say that the guy must be an idiot without causing offence?... "
lotta timewasters! |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. if had someone I would be trust me.
I'm sure you'll now be inundated with offers from men you can 'trust'... after being let down by one already, I very much doubt it ha!
Can I say that the guy must be an idiot without causing offence?... lotta timewasters! "
Sadly this appears to be the case. Or they bottle it at the last minute in fear that their ego will get bruised if they don't live up to their own hype. |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. if had someone I would be trust me.
I'm sure you'll now be inundated with offers from men you can 'trust'... after being let down by one already, I very much doubt it ha!
I woulda looked after you "
I know
It's not like anyone from the forums who Iv got friendly with is going either, apart from a couple who messaged but haven't spoke that much. |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
Just remember that you hold all the power and ultimately it's you who decides who you play with. Never feel bad for saying no or pressured into doing something you're not comfortable with. I feel no power at the moment
Maybe going with someone you trust is a better option. if had someone I would be trust me.
I'm sure you'll now be inundated with offers from men you can 'trust'... after being let down by one already, I very much doubt it ha!
Can I say that the guy must be an idiot without causing offence?... lotta timewasters!
Sadly this appears to be the case. Or they bottle it at the last minute in fear that their ego will get bruised if they don't live up to their own hype."
i came across him on kinda surprise yesterday!! And pretty glad he did cancel!  |
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I have been to Secrets a lot, as its only about 15 minutes away ;0)
I have had a great time there. Chris and Theresa are fabulous host, and I have made some fantastic friends there.
Just relax and enjoy. If you dont play, no one will care. Enjoy the ambiance. Its what you want out of the night that is the important thing.
If you do fancy a session, I love playing in Dolly the caravan or the outside summer houses.
Have fun. If you want to know more, PM me
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"I have been to Secrets a lot, as its only about 15 minutes away ;0)
I have had a great time there. Chris and Theresa are fabulous host, and I have made some fantastic friends there.
Just relax and enjoy. If you dont play, no one will care. Enjoy the ambiance. Its what you want out of the night that is the important thing.
If you do fancy a session, I love playing in Dolly the caravan or the outside summer houses.
Have fun. If you want to know more, PM me
x"
thanks Ben will do |
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" I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... ."
Fewer women than you may think are bi, all straight MMF and FFM does happen a lot,
Plus bi women who don't get the opportunity to play FF that often will be all to happy to lose one or both male partners for an hour or so
Have fun |
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over a year ago
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element."
That's why I only go on mixed nights. I do play with couples sometimes but have to fancy them both and (and this is important) they have to both fancy me. It's rare that happens. So I play on mixed nights with the nice single men and stop them from bugging the people who don't like them.  |
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"Don't feel bad about saying no thanks if you're not interested. You don't have to play if you don't want to. Have fun. I almost feel like I'm wasting my time and others as I'm not bisexual... Do the male halves play without the female half??
I always see it that 2 females play and the male is in his element.
That's why I only go on mixed nights. I do play with couples sometimes but have to fancy them both and (and this is important) they have to both fancy me. It's rare that happens. So I play on mixed nights with the nice single men and stop them from bugging the people who don't like them. "
 I think you are adding a layer of complication playing with males from couples.
I would be nervous asking a couple if I could just play with the female half unless they did the suggesting/asking.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you are nervous, go in fancy dress. Get dressed up a Priest or Dracula. You'll have no shortage of conversation points all night  "
LOL, in the foyer they have a full size model of butler from Rocky Horror, so you'd not look out of place in fancy dress.
My fav is a fella there that just wanders around in a little towel |
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"The night has arrived I attend secrets... Why am I so nervous!
I can do plenty of things on my own!"
I go to a few clubs with a lady friend and she always plays with the lady and the man even though she is not bi. Strangely it would seem rude to ignore the woman and it could create friction. Best to take a man with you as an offering to the other lady if you can't entertain her yourself. Good luck and remember you can just have a good social and make lots of new contacts for next time. |
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"The night has arrived I attend secrets... Why am I so nervous!
I can do plenty of things on my own!
I go to a few clubs with a lady friend and she always plays with the lady and the man even though she is not bi. Strangely it would seem rude to ignore the woman and it could create friction. Best to take a man with you as an offering to the other lady if you can't entertain her yourself. Good luck and remember you can just have a good social and make lots of new contacts for next time. "
I won't be asking around if I can just play with the male, I wait and see if they suggest it, obviously after Iv told them I'm not bi |
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