Have you ever wished you had told someone that you loved them... regreted not having said it because you just didn't have the balls to or was too shy... or events didn't seem right at the time...
And like me are sometimes rather emotional and cut up over having not been man enough to of stood up and spoken up and told them just how you really feel?
Sorry... but I've just kind of have had a reflective day about things in life... so it's only an open and honest thread... close friends have told be I did the right thing by not saying and most of the time I agree... but somedays I just so which I had said something... and yes not even sure it would have got me anywhere?
So what have you regreted not doing or saying... to someone you love... loved... or equally you thought that they loved you?
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Not quite on topic but my lovely used to say to me every day he loved me and if he died tomorrow he died a happy man.
Which was fortunate as he isn't here any more, he was killed in a motorcycle accident. So say these things to those you love.
I know I'm glad he did because I never had the chance to say goodbye, but I knew he loved me and it comforts me still. |
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Around 10+ years ago, I made a new years resolution to say exactly what I think, regardless.
Best thing I ever did and I never stopped, sure over the years it has upset people, as people often don't like to hear what others realy think, but it is so worth it.
I'm nolonger shy to chat to people I don't know, I know exactly who my real friends are.
My wife reffers to it now as my lack of inner monologue, but i'm so much more relaxed than I used to be.
If you love sombody tell them, worst they can do is turn you down and you can move on, don't spend life wondering about what iffs, they will just eat you up inside. |
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See through work I meet and got to know a lovely Australian Girl... just click with her even in the first hour of meeting her... on a friendly... chatting... at ease basis...
She was... or rather is still a very pretty and sweet... gentle... fun loving person and yes younger... sadly by about 15 years but even so we where great mates... she worked with us for a few months on UK stop off of her travels around the world...
It had a lovely but emotinal end to the final shift together as my new found friend was leaving... to finishe her travels and then back home to Australia in few months time...
Then about a fortnight later it just truely hit me what she had meant to me... I was just so cut up by it... I'd kind of lost somebody that that i had unknowning fallen in love with... but I didn't really know that... because as daft as it seems I'd never fallen in love before... fancied or lusted after girls but this was a whole different set of emotions... new to me?
So I've stayed in touch don't get me wrong on that score... seen her a card for her birthday or some silly little things for Christmas... facebook... but it all still just as Mates...
Last year she came back to the UK to visit all those mates she had made on her travels... so I duely did mybit to help and collected her from London after the night she got in and spend a day with her in that sense and after 2 years it was nice to she her properly... but just not the right occasion to say anything! lol
So the following day she travelled on to spend a few days with her best mate that she had shared digs with... and I had hoped to of seen her again will she was over but the weather stuff up a planned trip and my rota didn't give days off in the right places? And in anycase she was wanting to travel and see the "tourist" bit of the uk she had seen beacuse the last time she was here was earning cash to carry on her travels...
So I didn't get the chance to spend those few extra hours I had wanted to..to just sound out how things stood and maybe the I would of been brave enough to have explained to her properly just what my feeling where or rather still are...
Stupidly she was single last summer when she was over and then in the autumn her facebook changed to being in a relationship... um...I'm happy for her but it still again cut me up and gave me a few emotional days...
I have a lovely couple as friends and they're like second parents really... And they said there isn't much you can do... and you have to agree... there is so much to think about... the age difference... cult difference toa degree... are you going to move there or would she move here... so many many if whats and but this and that...
Still doesn't mean I don't have feelings for her... but equally I don't want to lose a dear friend and she is just a gem in my life... so who knows maybe one day?
So there... life is beautiful, but stuffs you up sometimes... I just wished I had told her properly just how I feel but I equallydon't want to lose a lovely friend and that side of things is fine... its just as always having the balls to tell someone something that is perhaps best not said?
Sad hey? lol |
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Everyone im really close to know exactly how i feel as i tell them. We never know whats going to happen and i would hate to regret not saying i love you to someone. Jay and i tell each other about 5 times aday and everytime callum leaves or we end a telephone conversation we say i love you |
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