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Sometimes it better to preempt the situation and remove yourself from the area of conflict. No one should be walked over but reacting doesn't always make you feel better. |
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"I tend to ignore but keep fucking me over and having me up as an idiot you better have some running shoes to hand!! "
Here lies the problem. Year after year of continual stirring and making trouble, even though we stay away and don't rise to the bait. But they keep going.
So again, when is enough enough? |
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"I tend to ignore but keep fucking me over and having me up as an idiot you better have some running shoes to hand!!
Here lies the problem. Year after year of continual stirring and making trouble, even though we stay away and don't rise to the bait. But they keep going.
So again, when is enough enough?"
I won't comment on my thoughts but I would suggest to just keep on ignoring people tend to trip themselves up in the end  |
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"I tend to ignore but keep fucking me over and having me up as an idiot you better have some running shoes to hand!!
Here lies the problem. Year after year of continual stirring and making trouble, even though we stay away and don't rise to the bait. But they keep going.
So again, when is enough enough?
I won't comment on my thoughts but I would suggest to just keep on ignoring people tend to trip themselves up in the end "
When they split family, forced us to move home, had social services and the police to our door, spread our private lives everywhere?
We are very tolerant people and walk away from conflict but surely in everyone there comes a point where you think "ok, if you can dish it out let's see what you can take?" |
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"Karma is often the best revenge"
Sadly, Karma is a lie.
Because if it really existed my ex-partner would have spontaneously combusted for being a lair, a cheat and a coward. |
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Well I understand your frustration you need to do things by the book, record everything and report to correct authorities etc...those will see what is the truth from the lies...snoop to their level and they will play the victim and you the bad guy so roles would be reversed...people who play the victim card when they are the perpetrators of shit do not fair well in my book but sometimes reacting can land you in hot water rather than them. |
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"Karma is often the best revenge
Sadly, Karma is a lie.
Because if it really existed my ex-partner would have spontaneously combusted for being a lair, a cheat and a coward. "
It's a bugger that it doesn't do what we want 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Karma is often the best revenge
Sadly, Karma is a lie.
Because if it really existed my ex-partner would have spontaneously combusted for being a lair, a cheat and a coward. "
Karma happens in the next life.... |
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"Karma is often the best revenge
Sadly, Karma is a lie.
Because if it really existed my ex-partner would have spontaneously combusted for being a lair, a cheat and a coward.
Karma happens in the next life...."
Bugger, I need to get a life first... that's what everyone tells me anyway... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you take the best course of action known to you, based on as full an understanding of the whole situation and your own part in it, then that's as much as you can do with good conscience. |
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"So the common opinion is keep taking it and do nothing?
Thank god I didn't do that with the school bully years ago!"
No, you don't have to keep 'taking it' - but you asked about retaliation and revenge. Both make you no better than the other person.
But you don't have to take it, what you need is to take positive action to make it stop - but that's not revenge. |
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"So the common opinion is keep taking it and do nothing?
Thank god I didn't do that with the school bully years ago!
No, you don't have to keep 'taking it' - but you asked about retaliation and revenge. Both make you no better than the other person.
But you don't have to take it, what you need is to take positive action to make it stop - but that's not revenge. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So the common opinion is keep taking it and do nothing?
Thank god I didn't do that with the school bully years ago!
No, you don't have to keep 'taking it' - but you asked about retaliation and revenge. Both make you no better than the other person.
But you don't have to take it, what you need is to take positive action to make it stop - but that's not revenge. "
I have been known to exact vengeance on someone. I firmly believe its a dish best served cold...
a. It means you've had time to calm down and consider what has happened, and if you still feel like being vengueful
b. You can plan a much better revenge
c. The bastards aint expecting it!!! |
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"So the common opinion is keep taking it and do nothing?
Thank god I didn't do that with the school bully years ago!
No, you don't have to keep 'taking it' - but you asked about retaliation and revenge. Both make you no better than the other person.
But you don't have to take it, what you need is to take positive action to make it stop - but that's not revenge.
I have been known to exact vengeance on someone. I firmly believe its a dish best served cold...
a. It means you've had time to calm down and consider what has happened, and if you still feel like being vengueful
b. You can plan a much better revenge
c. The bastards aint expecting it!!!"
When you bare in mind this bully gas been doing things for over 5yrs we'd say they are due some payback.
So the original question, when is enough enough, stands.
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You'll probably make things worse. They want you to bite and if you do, they'll fuck you over for it and make you look the bad guy.
But it's your choice. |
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"Ok maybe enough is enough when you are asking people on a forum when enough is enough we all have different enough is enough threshold...only you can decide when enough is enough "
it sounds like you've made your mind up already. Just be sure you are ready for the consequences of you actions.
Finally, find out what makes them tick and take that away from them  |
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"Do you finally retaliate?
Do you keep 'turning a blind eye' or is there a moment when you seek revenge for others actions directed towards you?"
Choose your battles with care, be prepared for any casualties, but more importantly make sure it is a war you will win
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