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By *entkev OP Man
over a year ago
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I wondered what you'd do if you were In the position I found myself in late last year at a club.
I got talking to a couple for a few hours, we really clicked. The club closed and I was invited back to their cabin.
On arrival the wife started to undress me, as she pulled my shorts down, she could clearly see the vitiligo on my genitals, I heard her groan, there was a pause then she looked up at her hubby and explained that she had changed her mind. He then asked me to leave.
Being a respectful person I just pulled my trousers up and said goodnight before leaving.
As I got outside I could here her telling her hubby that I looked disgusting. I was tempted to go back in but thought better of it, ignorance isn't a defence but as much as it did hurt I did understand why she reacted like that.
I blamed myself as its the one and only time that I didnt explain the vitiligo beforehand.
It may explain why I hardly ever play.
So what do you think, would I be better leaving the scene? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry for how that made you feel.
Leaving the scene? I guess that's for you to decide but I wouldn't. Probably a lot if people out there that wouldn't be bothered by it |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"What is it?
Loss of skin pigment/colour.
The only health issue is that there is no protection from the Sun.
Its not contagious in anyway  "
Thank you, in that case I can't see why you would consider leaving the scene.
All the best  |
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I think that's awful thats happened to you. I too have fairly recently got vitiligo in an intimate place(had it other places for years) and I did feel a bit embarrassed by it. I have felt the need to mention it before playing and tried to do so it in a light hearted way and luckily enough no one's been bothered in fact made me feel like I was making an issue of nothing, therefore I am now less bothered but probably still would mention. You definitely shouldn't stop playing. Some people are just ignorant, and may just need to be educated |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
You could have explained that being two tone makes you twice as good 
We're all different, so I'd suggest making a feature of it. Not a water feature, as not everyone is into that, but it is rather unique and not in a bad way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wondered what you'd do if you were In the position I found myself in late last year at a club.
I got talking to a couple for a few hours, we really clicked. The club closed and I was invited back to their cabin.
On arrival the wife started to undress me, as she pulled my shorts down, she could clearly see the vitiligo on my genitals, I heard her groan, there was a pause then she looked up at her hubby and explained that she had changed her mind. He then asked me to leave.
Being a respectful person I just pulled my trousers up and said goodnight before leaving.
As I got outside I could here her telling her hubby that I looked disgusting. I was tempted to go back in but thought better of it, ignorance isn't a defence but as much as it did hurt I did understand why she reacted like that.
I blamed myself as its the one and only time that I didnt explain the vitiligo beforehand.
It may explain why I hardly ever play.
So what do you think, would I be better leaving the scene?"
in my opinion it looks quite a nice penis |
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By *entkev OP Man
over a year ago
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"I think that's awful thats happened to you. I too have fairly recently got vitiligo in an intimate place(had it other places for years) and I did feel a bit embarrassed by it. I have felt the need to mention it before playing and tried to do so it in a light hearted way and luckily enough no one's been bothered in fact made me feel like I was making an issue of nothing, therefore I am now less bothered but probably still would mention. You definitely shouldn't stop playing. Some people are just ignorant, and may just need to be educated "
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"Obviously its just a small pic but you can't see much of it in your avatar.
I've just opened up my other pics... newer ones & its clearer. "
I have played with a guy with more distinction in the pigment. Personally I don't see it as a big issue although some people are unable to deal with things they don't understand. |
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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago
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I have burns,some people have stretch marks,others have operation scars,its life,and I have found that it doesn't make any difference to the meets I have had,if it bothers you tell your meets beforehand,but I think you will find that it doesn't bother most people,good luckx |
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I've been with a couple of people with this, it didn't bother me in the slightest but the first time I saw it the guy didn't tell me and I'd never seen it before so was embarrassed. The second guy told me in advance so no awkward moments.
Maybe just mention it beforehand I'm sure most wouldn't have a problem with it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are all wonderful people, thank you all so much.
I feel humbled. Xx"
Apologies first of all being a man. But I looked at your photos and I can't really see what the issue really was. She was clearly idiotic. |
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Think a lot of us have something that makes us a little embarrassed at certain parts of our bodies, I myself have quite a bit of bruising down below, due to an awful abusive marriage, and at times it does bother me, so I try not to have sex in bright rooms, I just hope people who I meet see me for me and not the bruising!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think you should leave the scene,some people are not very tactful,maybe her reaction would have been different if she knew beforehand maybe not,looking at your pics its barely noticable and certainly doesn't look disgusting |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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If this happened last year what has brought it back for you?
I have seen pictures of worse looking cocks on here and you have one play picture up so not everyone thinks it's disgusting.
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I have come across a couple of men with this condition and that did not put me off. Although they did not mentioned it before hand, I had read about it in an article few years earlier.
Unfortunately, some people tend to assume straight away with some skin conditions like vitiligo or psoriasis, etc... that they may be contagious and they are not.
Maybe just mention it beforehand I'm sure most wouldn't have a problem with it.
Don't leave the scene because of a negative comment |
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By *entkev OP Man
over a year ago
Dover |
"I wondered what you'd do if you were In the position I found myself in late last year at a club.
I got talking to a couple for a few hours, we really clicked. The club closed and I was invited back to their cabin.
On arrival the wife started to undress me, as she pulled my shorts down, she could clearly see the vitiligo on my genitals, I heard her groan, there was a pause then she looked up at her hubby and explained that she had changed her mind. He then asked me to leave.
Being a respectful person I just pulled my trousers up and said goodnight before leaving.
As I got outside I could here her telling her hubby that I looked disgusting. I was tempted to go back in but thought better of it, ignorance isn't a defence but as much as it did hurt I did understand why she reacted like that.
I blamed myself as its the one and only time that I didnt explain the vitiligo beforehand.
It may explain why I hardly ever play.
So what do you think, would I be better leaving the scene?"
I think the census of opinion is to be upfront & honest but continue.
This wascan isolated incident as I normally ALLWAYS explain beforehand, plus due to the 'situation' I dont play very often.
Thank you all for such brilliant positive feedback.
May you all be seduce tonight by your ultimate fantasy... in my case that a slim / petite woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i guess it could of been worse, i went in for a circumcision, the surgeon butchered me, i now have to have reconstructive surgery, i am suing the hospital |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Original Poster:
You are a brave, considerate and seemingly decent man. You handled that instance well and it's a shame that happened to you.
Personally, I'd only leave the scene if you know this is going to get you down, but make a point to talk about it early if you get the chance and put them at ease.
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By *entkev OP Man
over a year ago
Dover |
"i guess it could of been worse, i went in for a circumcision, the surgeon butchered me, i now have to have reconstructive surgery, i am suing the hospital"
Sir I'm so sorry to hear that, I desperately hope that everything is eventually sorted out for you. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion they were just shallow and it's as simple as that.
I've met someone with much more severe vitiligo then yours, I can only just see yours so you have nothing to be embarrassed about.
Everyone has imperfections, whether it be scars, stretch marks, cellulite etc etc and the fact they could be so rude and ignorant is their problem not yours! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A guy I see as often as I can has it on his penis, he is embarrassed too but just doesn't bother me. Can't see why it would bother people?
It's not dirty or a contagious disease. |
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By *entkev OP Man
over a year ago
Dover |
"A guy I see as often as I can has it on his penis, he is embarrassed too but just doesn't bother me. Can't see why it would bother people?
It's not dirty or a contagious disease."
This is what I need
I'm still overwhelmed by the responses. Xxxx |
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well they weren't very accepting then. If I understand your condition correctly, it's hardly like you'd confuse it for an STD or something 
