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How do straight guys deal with the other bloke being there?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a 100% straight as an arrow man here, I simply accept that in a group sex situation, there's likely to be the odd moment of contact. I know that doesn't mean he wants to roar up my arse nor am I wanting to jump on a sausage.
If it bothers anyone that badly, set rules before any playtime. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time its a little awkward as your trying not to make eye contact or touch, but after a couple of times the situation just takes over and you completely forget about it |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Even before I started experimenting with my curious side I was comfortable with couples.
I was there as an extra body for her - to give her twice the fun and to let me enjoy seeing her reaction, her other halves and of course my own.
In a straight MMF or group situation why would a guy be worried?
Unless of course he was either insecure about his appearance, performance or ability - or not 100% sure of his 'straightness'? 
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I have gotten on very well with straight guys that I have MMF'd with...
I sometimes cup their scrotum in my hand to save their balls banging about.
I am kind that way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a 100% straight as an arrow man here, I simply accept that in a group sex situation, there's likely to be the odd moment of contact. I know that doesn't mean he wants to roar up my arse nor am I wanting to jump on a sausage.
If it bothers anyone that badly, set rules before any playtime."
I'm just curious though...do you connect with the guy or do you blank him? And if you do connect...what type of connection is it? A friendly but serious "you can fuck my mrs" type of thing or a light hearted "look at us having a blast" type of thing?
I guess what's happening with me lately is I've stopped looking at the pics of the babes and started looking at the pics of the geezers and started asking "what type of experience am I gonna have with this guy? is he gonna be all serious and jealous, maybe even quite physical and bullying, or is he gonna be chilled and fun?". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have gotten on very well with straight guys that I have MMF'd with...
I sometimes cup their scrotum in my hand to save their balls banging about.
I am kind that way"
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"I have gotten on very well with straight guys that I have MMF'd with...
I sometimes cup their scrotum in my hand to save their balls banging about.
I am kind that way"
View you are a king among men  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I have gotten on very well with straight guys that I have MMF'd with...
I sometimes cup their scrotum in my hand to save their balls banging about.
I am kind that way
View you are a king among men "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a 100% straight as an arrow man here, I simply accept that in a group sex situation, there's likely to be the odd moment of contact. I know that doesn't mean he wants to roar up my arse nor am I wanting to jump on a sausage.
If it bothers anyone that badly, set rules before any playtime.
I'm just curious though...do you connect with the guy or do you blank him? And if you do connect...what type of connection is it? A friendly but serious "you can fuck my mrs" type of thing or a light hearted "look at us having a blast" type of thing?
I guess what's happening with me lately is I've stopped looking at the pics of the babes and started looking at the pics of the geezers and started asking "what type of experience am I gonna have with this guy? is he gonna be all serious and jealous, maybe even quite physical and bullying, or is he gonna be chilled and fun?"."
I just try and make sure I get on with the guy. Never blank him, that's a sure fire way to get kicked out. Just pick up on whatever signals they 'both' give out and go with them. |
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I've had sex in the role of a straight guy with the other guy being properly straight in an mmf and basically he was fine with me, grinning and not worrying about showing his erection and not minding when my body bits accidentally touched his. We were both concentrating on the lady. Men who are confident with their sexuality shouldn't need to worry. I can assure anyone that as a bi guy it really doesn't mean I fancy the man at all. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Just remember a high five is customary when spit roasting. The other bloke may get offended if you leave him hanging. "
Does this really happen? If I go to Kestrels tomorrow I will be watching out for this.
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"Just remember a high five is customary when spit roasting. The other bloke may get offended if you leave him hanging.
Does this really happen? If I go to Kestrels tomorrow I will be watching out for this.
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If a guy tried to high five A in this situation I wouldn't be best pleased and the proceedings would come to a swift end......if I could see that is |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just remember a high five is customary when spit roasting. The other bloke may get offended if you leave him hanging.
Does this really happen? If I go to Kestrels tomorrow I will be watching out for this.
If a guy tried to high five A in this situation I wouldn't be best pleased and the proceedings would come to a swift
end......if I could see that is "
He probably does it all the time. The partner of the female is the one who should instigate the high five, usually when he's about to cum, it is poor form for the extra man to start the high five. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Just remember a high five is customary when spit roasting. The other bloke may get offended if you leave him hanging.
Does this really happen? If I go to Kestrels tomorrow I will be watching out for this.
If a guy tried to high five A in this situation I wouldn't be best pleased and the proceedings would come to a swift end......if I could see that is "
I don't know if it's ever happened to me but I am going to be on the alert now.
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"Just remember a high five is customary when spit roasting. The other bloke may get offended if you leave him hanging.
Does this really happen? If I go to Kestrels tomorrow I will be watching out for this.
If a guy tried to high five A in this situation I wouldn't be best pleased and the proceedings would come to a swift
end......if I could see that is
He probably does it all the time. The partner of the female is the one who should instigate the high five, usually when he's about to cum, it is poor form for the extra man to start the high five. "
We only ever meet privately and this has never happened, I give not a fig for form |
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"lol I'm just amused by the irony that I'm more worried about touching the bloke than I am about fucking his mrs lol "
Just tell the dude in advance that you both might touch. It's no big deal. You're both there for the lady. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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lol a high five was made on one of ours, I had to stop for laughing
To the OP...I am guessing you havn't had any meets yet to be asking a question like this....the only way you are going to find out if it is awkward is to try it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even when DPing someone I've never been bothered. I'm not sure I'd want to participate in group situations if I was uptight about being around another male. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't want anyone near me that gets all silly about the fact theres another naked man around and that you may just accidentally touch each other while both pleasing me
Its my worst case scenario in a threesome
I don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable around either of us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a related issue - how is DP even possible, let alone without men being close to each other?"
You do yoga so it shouldn't be much trouble if you show enough willing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm still yet to meet a couple. May have to get back to you guys on this thread at a later date. If i don't make it back - let it be known that i've been headbutted.
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I'm not into it to be honest.
Once I went to meet a married couple and I felt like such a spare part that I just made my excuses and left.
I can see how it would appeal to some but after that experience I realised that I spend too much time analysing and observing people to not care enough.
Many couples seem to come to a very pragmatic solution to their either their shortcomings or their desires and fair play to them. In fact it was because I didn't have anyone that I shared a connection with that I just felt lonely. I won't go into detail out of respect for the couple I met but suffice to say that I learned that what's going on in my head is a lot more important than where I'm sticking my dick.
I think I would reassess the situation if I had a girlfriend who was open to the idea and it felt right with her.
With a level playing field I think I'd probably have more fun. I'm not especially squeamish about other men's bodies but they don't turn me on.
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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This is from my point of _iew. I'm secure about my sexuality so the odd bumping into each other is par for the course, when we're there to please the Mrs.
So if you went to the doctors and he cupped your balls and said 'cough', and you ended up with an erection, all i can say to you is
'come out of the closet ' |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"This is from my point of _iew. I'm secure about my sexuality so the odd bumping into each other is par for the course, when we're there to please the Mrs.
So if you went to the doctors and he cupped your balls and said 'cough', and you ended up with an erection, all i can say to you is
'come out of the closet '"
Even when it's a woman doctor? We'll have to play doctor and patient and see what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when we play we all get along so well (play wouldnt happen if we didnt) that the banter keeps the situation fun - girls mingle all over the place - guys interact with the girls - never been a problem for us - mutual respect for each others partners is the way it works for us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi...just curious really...no opinion either way...I was just wondering how straight guys in couples deal with the other couple's geezer being involved. Do you keep your back to him at all times lol give him a black eye if he so much as even grazes past you  or is it just different somehow, perhaps harmlessly playful in some way, and you're ok with it?
I have yet to be in this position. But I have been to a couple of strip clubs with my (male) mates and it just seemed a bit odd getting sexually aroused with them around. I think a club or swinging scenario is probably different, there with the mrs for a start...and in a totally different context...but it'd be interesting to see what other straight guys experiences are...and how they deal with it "
I have not experienced it myself. However, I would be tempted to grab the guy by his balls. LOL, I wonder what would happen? Has anyone ever had their groin unexpectedly fondled by a guy? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just for clarity's sake...I'm not really worried about brushing up against blokes, apart from if they over react and head butt me for it, it's more a curiosity...as there aren't really many situations in normal life where straight blokes share sexual situations with each other...I can't help but wonder how it gets dealt with.
Is it some kinda macho "ho hum yes there's my cock and oh look there's your cock too" kinda put a brave face on it thing? Or is there some boyish jovial aspect that emerges which is somewhere between being totally straight and being sort of happy to be sexual around another man. It sounds like it's more the latter from the various posters so far...which sounds cool. (I think I'd piss myself laughing if it was the former )
The horn twists the fabric of space and time...so why not warp that sexual fabric too whilst it's at it?
As for my sexuality? Well I've not been in this situation yet so I can't really comment. I'm happy being straight as things stand but there may be aspects to my fantasies which are a bit bi (love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath Women are just too gorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgeous I want to dive into a big pool of women and live their forever  
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Or at least until they ask me to do the washing up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Luke's straight and we've had a few meets with single guys, the men have been very comfortable with each other and he wouldn't dream of blanking a guy joining us, we always make sure that we can get along with our meets before any play takes place.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"C doesn't really notice or pay attention to the other guy once the fun kicks off. He's normally otherwise engaged!"
sometimes he drags me off fort a secret snog no...I ask him not to... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath "
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
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I'm surprised this is being asked, as I've never seen anyone in the slightest bit uncomfortable in a club or elsewhere.
If you're confident in yourself, then it over-rides all. Someone who can't move/think beyond being around someone else that they won't personally have anything other than 'innocent' casual contact with, is probably not really going to be someone who gets great success at swinging in the longer term.
Perhaps consider spending time in naturist locations, so that others' bodies are something that you're comfortable with. Do some massage on a guy's body, so that you're comfortable with them. Or just take a decision that it's not something that you'll let control your life and sexual satisfaction. We're still living in the coat tails of victorian sexual inhibition, and maybe guys these days spend too little time in each others company. |
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"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
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Its a lovely feeling...
I'm adding it to my Favorites list.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
Its a lovely feeling...
I'm adding it to my Favorites list. "
Must...prevent....too....much.....jealousy.....must....keep...straight....face...and....walk....away 
Ahhh fuck it!  You lucky sods |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
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It's a very good feeling |
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"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
Its a lovely feeling...
I'm adding it to my Favorites list.
Must...prevent....too....much.....jealousy.....must....keep...straight....face...and....walk....away
Ahhh fuck it! You lucky sods
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Nah...more like mucky sods...  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
It's a very good feeling "
Do you think I can demand it at a club? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
It's a very good feeling
Do you think I can demand it at a club? "
Oh yes |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
It's a very good feeling
Do you think I can demand it at a club?
Oh yes "
I'll see how brave I feel.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
It's a very good feeling
Do you think I can demand it at a club?
Oh yes
I'll see how brave I feel.
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OI!! Quit organising my fantasy without me!!
...and while we're at it...this thread isn't the equivalent of Tripadvisor for how fucking great doing my fantasy is...rubbing it in my face...and making my balls ache lol  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
It's a very good feeling
Do you think I can demand it at a club?
Oh yes
I'll see how brave I feel.
OI!! Quit organising my fantasy without me!!
...and while we're at it...this thread isn't the equivalent of Tripadvisor for how fucking great doing my fantasy is...rubbing it in my face...and making my balls ache lol "
If I was rubbing your face in it you'd be getting your fantasy fulfilled. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
It's a very good feeling
Do you think I can demand it at a club?
Oh yes
I'll see how brave I feel.
OI!! Quit organising my fantasy without me!!
...and while we're at it...this thread isn't the equivalent of Tripadvisor for how fucking great doing my fantasy is...rubbing it in my face...and making my balls ache lol
If I was rubbing your face in it you'd be getting your fantasy fulfilled. "
Two birds with one stone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just remember a high five is customary when spit roasting. The other bloke may get offended if you leave him hanging. "
Brilliant! Don't forget making the Eiffel Tower, great pic for Instagram ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Pretty much done everything conceivable in every scenario from mmf to mmmmmmf and there has yet to be an awkward example tbh.
There is no point doing this and expecting there to be no contact , and it never occurs to me that anything is weird .
Even when guys we have played with are clearly bi , it doesn't bother me one bit , infact I take it as a compliment if they show a bit of interest , like when they may be licking her as I fuck her .
On a fair few occasions they have enjoyed the pussy licking even more after I have cum inside , and they snowball it with my wife , yet are straight !
So in summation , it goes with the liberated lifestyle if as a couple you play with single guys , and it's to be enjoyed and not feared |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"(love the idea of licking a woman's pussy while she's getting fucked) ... so watch this space...but don't hold your breath
Why has no one offered to do this? I'm adding it to my fantasy list.
It's a very good feeling
Do you think I can demand it at a club?
Oh yes
I'll see how brave I feel.
OI!! Quit organising my fantasy without me!!
...and while we're at it...this thread isn't the equivalent of Tripadvisor for how fucking great doing my fantasy is...rubbing it in my face...and making my balls ache lol
If I was rubbing your face in it you'd be getting your fantasy fulfilled.
Two birds with one stone "
Not like Bambi's dead bird I hope.
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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Any guy involved in a
mmf/mfm/fmm,no matter how indignant their claims of 150% straightness,they're bi.
Let's face it,The females only cover,for a bit of man man stuff.
On the other hand,if all of your pleasure is derived,
soley due to the involvement of the female,you could be nearly straight.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Any guy involved in a
mmf/mfm/fmm,no matter how indignant their claims of 150% straightness,they're bi.
Let's face it,The females only cover,for a bit of man man stuff.
On the other hand,if all of your pleasure is derived,
soley due to the involvement of the female,you could be nearly straight.
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What if one of the guys is only watching? Is he still gay? If so I've been extremely fucking gay ever since I discovered a porno mag in the woods when I was 10 |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"Any guy involved in a
mmf/mfm/fmm,no matter how indignant their claims of 150% straightness,they're bi.
Let's face it,The females only cover,for a bit of man man stuff.
On the other hand,if all of your pleasure is derived,
soley due to the involvement of the female,you could be nearly straight.
What if one of the guys is only watching? Is he still gay? If so I've been extremely fucking gay ever since I discovered a porno mag in the woods when I was 10 "
Wanking counts,your gay.
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