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over a year ago
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If you were seeing someone on a regular basis and then it started peetering out...Once a fortnight.....once a mth and then once every three mths...all due to work commitments.....
The sex is still good etc ....
Would you take it as he was now bored ? 
And maybe wishing to meet someone else or what ? 
Or just accept that work does get in the way on occasions and carry on regardless ???
What would you do...........?   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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so.........Im now boring...sob ! "
aaawwwwww if you like him,and are happy to see him less often then thats cool too
You could always find someone to fill the inbetween times |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"perhaps try talking to him to see if there is an issue or if, like i would be doing, you are over analysing the situation etc
does he know how you feel etc?"
Nope.he dont know im thinking all this.though he will when i see him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Work can and does get in the way, however how are you between meets.
My special friend and I don't meet as often as we like but we talk several times a day every day.
Once a week he comes and takes me to lunch but we talk about us. You have to tell them hun, bless em they can't read minds, you have to spell it out.
If after all that nothing improves you have to face reality: he's just not into you.
Good luck, I hope it turns out how you want xx |
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I know he is into me......
But i know work is a so and so...
So im willing to bend so to speak, things are ok as such and yes we keep in contact but im still left wondering ?
thinks its me.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hey not at all hun
I'm in a similar situation, work gets in the way and meets can be cancelled.
If you can't accept it then it is time to move on.
But is it worth it when you meet?
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Ohhhhh yes ...always worth it., |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know he is into me......
But i know work is a so and so...
So im willing to bend so to speak, things are ok as such and yes we keep in contact but im still left wondering ?
thinks its me.... "
Please dont think that - sometimes people change, relationships, even swinging ones do change over time. If he is looking elsewhere there is not a lot you can do other than finding some alternative fun yourself - maybe he is not appreciative enough or maybe he needs to sample others, does not want to commit...
You are certainly not boring xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know he is into me......
But i know work is a so and so...
So im willing to bend so to speak, things are ok as such and yes we keep in contact but im still left wondering ?
thinks its me....
Please dont think that - sometimes people change, relationships, even swinging ones do change over time. If he is looking elsewhere there is not a lot you can do other than finding some alternative fun yourself - maybe he is not appreciative enough or maybe he needs to sample others, does not want to commit...
You are certainly not boring xx"
u arent boring sometimes life gets in the way so take the bull by the horns next time u see him give him the BEST EVER remind him how u each hit the right buttons and before u know it regularity will be resumed xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know he is into me......
But i know work is a so and so...
So im willing to bend so to speak, things are ok as such and yes we keep in contact but im still left wondering ?
thinks its me.... "
If your bending to meet his needs what about your own needs what do yo want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just ask him straight instead of stressing yourself with 'what ifs' then you,ll both know the score and can act accordingly he may be wondering the same thing for all you know"
What a great point - absolutely in the spirit of open communication. Seconded |
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Guys do not think like us. They are more straight forward and do not do nuance or hints. You need to spell it out. Is it just swinging or are you hoping it will become more long term relationship ish? Sometimes when the thrill of the chase fades a little he might need reminding why he was chasing you in the first place. Boot on the other foot, are you assuming too much, taking him for granted? Just a thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you were seeing someone on a regular basis and then it started peetering out...Once a fortnight.....once a mth and then once every three mths...all due to work commitments.....
The sex is still good etc ....
Would you take it as he was now bored ?
And maybe wishing to meet someone else or what ?
Or just accept that work does get in the way on occasions and carry on regardless ???
What would you do...........? "
I'd make myself less available to him, if he does still need you and is excited to meet with you, he may just decide to enter into the spirit of the chase again... you know they always want what they can't have.
Or if indeed he is seeing someone else or, as you think, may be bored then you can walk away head held high and leave him wondering what has he given up on? Either way you take control and empower yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Guys do not think like us. They are more straight forward and do not do nuance or hints. You need to spell it out. Is it just swinging or are you hoping it will become more long term relationship ish? Sometimes when the thrill of the chase fades a little he might need reminding why he was chasing you in the first place. Boot on the other foot, are you assuming too much, taking him for granted? Just a thought."
Nooooo its just swinging.....
But its nice swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Speak to him and see whats going on, have to say though, that whilst the holidays were on, i saw mine quite regularly but i couldnt meet him last time as i was at work, when he was free so ive booked the day off |
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