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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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tell you you're the most beautiful woman ever, blah, blah, blah. We have fun and connect, then BAM they don't want you, they even go so far as to try to hurt you.
I thought he was the perfect playmate, I'm not looking for a relationship by the way.
A really good friend in the making.
I am left confused and a little down. I know 'some' men are programmed to say what they think we want to hear.
I know, I know. I need to toughen up but it does seem really hard to find one playmate I can trust.
Do any women here fall for smooth talking men or are your ears and eyes wide open to the bull*hit?
Is there a book on how to spot a bad un? Ha...morning moan over.
Carry on. I'm going to. Just wanted to get that out of me.
Thanks...x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok I recently had the same and yea you second guess if it's bullshit they were telling you .
I have decided to just go with it and if it ends it ends less stress that way  |
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Read your post back to yourself, the bits where you aren't looking for a relationship, then you want someone who is a good friend, then you have fallen for him.  Not being harsh at all but you might be opening yourself up to being hurt, for many it truly is no strings, none whatsoever meaning no contact at all afterwards until the next time they want sex. Weed those guys out and you will be left with the ones who are up for friendship but as you so rightly say some of em will tell you the moon is made of green cheese to get what they want.......the trick is not to believe them in order to get what you want.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"tell you you're the most beautiful woman ever, blah, blah, blah. We have fun and connect, then BAM they don't want you, they even go so far as to try to hurt you.
I thought he was the perfect playmate, I'm not looking for a relationship by the way.
A really good friend in the making.
I am left confused and a little down. I know 'some' men are programmed to say what they think we want to hear.
I know, I know. I need to toughen up but it does seem really hard to find one playmate I can trust.
Do any women here fall for smooth talking men or are your ears and eyes wide open to the bull*hit?
Is there a book on how to spot a bad un? Ha...morning moan over.
Carry on. I'm going to. Just wanted to get that out of me.
Thanks...x
41 and acting like a teenager."
It is absolutely infuriating. The bullshit (copious amounts of flattery) has gone over my head for years now, but the dishonesty... Well I'll never get used to that. There's no need. |
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"If your post doesn't make me feel good, it must be making you feel a lot worse. 
I'm okay. I always bounce back.
Sorry for negative post.
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Ah ha! That's a good attitude to take! Positive and optimistic women are very sexy! And I'm not saying that just to get in ya knickers either! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Read your post back to yourself, the bits where you aren't looking for a relationship, then you want someone who is a good friend, then you have fallen for him. Not being harsh at all but you might be opening yourself up to being hurt, for many it truly is no strings, none whatsoever meaning no contact at all afterwards until the next time they want sex. Weed those guys out and you will be left with the ones who are up for friendship but as you so rightly say some of em will tell you the moon is made of green cheese to get what they want.......the trick is not to believe them in order to get what you want.
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It was all him telling me this.
I remained coy and distant, for a while.
Anyway I hear what you are saying and thank you.
It is hard to explain and no I didn't fall for him I just really liked him, big time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all get the men who try to fill you with bullshit flattery, I used to fall for it but now I take most with a pinch of salt. I know they find me attractive but certainly aren't the best etc that they claim I am.
I think they look into my pretty eyes and think I fall for everything they say, more fool them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to treat it as NSA and then let the friendship up over time. It's also good to be honest with yourself and admit to yourself what it is you actually want.
I'm sure you will bounce back, it's not like you'll be stuck for choice!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is hard to explain and no I didn't fall for him I just really liked him, big time. "
You fell for him hunny and I am sorry he left you hurt I tend to be the one who falls for flattery xx Offers you a cyber hug xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately it's comes with the territory on this site. There's 50 single men for every 1 single woman; a woman will get 50 messages a day at least, where as a man will get a few. It's that ratio for a reason. A lot of men on here will use the site as a way of meeting girls to have affairs or just have NSA encounters and move on, which isn't fair. That said, there are girls who are doing the exact same thing, but there are just less of them.
95% of the people on this site are either bullshitters or cheats, but there's 5% of people who are genuine and really nice. Everyone has their own reason for being here I guess, it's just a matter of finding synergy with someone.
If it makes you feel any better, I'm a guy and I've fallen in love with someone on this site, had my heartbroken and it wasn't fun. But I don't blame anyone and I don't regret it, it's just one of those things. The site is still a great way to meet people who are after the same things, you just have to sift through a lot of dirt to find the gold lol x |
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"Try getting one over me, I will them a tenner
Her
I'd like to get my leg over and you can keep the dosh lol I was going to send you a " fancy a fuck" "
Send me one anyway. Also put in the message 'my! What a big cock you've got, stevie' and then I'll believe you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If your post doesn't make me feel good, it must be making you feel a lot worse.
I'm okay. I always bounce back.
Sorry for negative post.
Ah ha! That's a good attitude to take! Positive and optimistic women are very sexy! And I'm not saying that just to get in ya knickers either! "
Haha...thank you Brighton Steve. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is hard to explain and no I didn't fall for him I just really liked him, big time.
You fell for him hunny and I am sorry he left you hurt I tend to be the one who falls for flattery xx Offers you a cyber hug xx "
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Same tread line I guess
When you have chatted for so long and found someone who is always on line and likes to chat ... You think there is a link and would like to take it further..
Well that was me a few months ago .. We agreed to meet ... Gave me her address agreed a time ... I spent an hour or so driving there only to find out it was an elderly guy who opened the door
He was pissed of with me and said your the third guy this week who's knocked asking for Adele
No Adele clearly lived there !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's all been said above. ...but....don't let life make you too cynical and defensive...you may just one day have people around you who aren't disingenuous, and if they feel your pushing them away and displaying a hard exterior you may miss out. Just ride out the blues and keep occupied. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him."
You have some huge issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's all bullshit, that is the game we play on here. The ones that most seek the flattery are the ones that get hurt the most. I don't play that game which gets me a lot of respect, unfortunately I don't get laid as often. That's the way I play and that way everyone knows where they stand |
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It is absolutely infuriating. The bullshit (copious amounts of flattery) has gone over my head for years now, but the dishonesty... Well I'll never get used to that. There's no need."
Yes, that's the point, you don't have to fall for someone or even believe the flattery - just believing you have found a trustworthy and reliable playmate who will respect you and be considerate is enough to leave you damaged if you even just let your guard down, only to find they are just another callous liar.
It just feels like you've been had by a vampire, any kind of deception sucks the life blood out of you. Its a shame, and so unnecessary. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"It's all bullshit, that is the game we play on here. The ones that most seek the flattery are the ones that get hurt the most. I don't play that game which gets me a lot of respect, unfortunately I don't get laid as often. That's the way I play and that way everyone knows where they stand"
wise words... |
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him."
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.You have some huge issues."
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Read your post back to yourself, the bits where you aren't looking for a relationship, then you want someone who is a good friend, then you have fallen for him. Not being harsh at all but you might be opening yourself up to being hurt, for many it truly is no strings, none whatsoever meaning no contact at all afterwards until the next time they want sex. Weed those guys out and you will be left with the ones who are up for friendship but as you so rightly say some of em will tell you the moon is made of green cheese to get what they want.......the trick is not to believe them in order to get what you want.
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You always say what I was thinking, oh wise one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If your post doesn't make me feel good, it must be making you feel a lot worse.
I'm okay. I always bounce back.
Sorry for negative post.
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its good to get it out of your system and get some perspective on xx
ive had it a few time x n im a bit wiser now x chin up x |
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"Read your post back to yourself, the bits where you aren't looking for a relationship, then you want someone who is a good friend, then you have fallen for him. Not being harsh at all but you might be opening yourself up to being hurt, for many it truly is no strings, none whatsoever meaning no contact at all afterwards until the next time they want sex. Weed those guys out and you will be left with the ones who are up for friendship but as you so rightly say some of em will tell you the moon is made of green cheese to get what they want.......the trick is not to believe them in order to get what you want.
You always say what I was thinking, oh wise one "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"tell you you're the most beautiful woman ever, blah, blah, blah. We have fun and connect, then BAM they don't want you, they even go so far as to try to hurt you.
I thought he was the perfect playmate, I'm not looking for a relationship by the way.
A really good friend in the making.
I am left confused and a little down. I know 'some' men are programmed to say what they think we want to hear.
I know, I know. I need to toughen up but it does seem really hard to find one playmate I can trust.
Do any women here fall for smooth talking men or are your ears and eyes wide open to the bull*hit?
Is there a book on how to spot a bad un? Ha...morning moan over.
Carry on. I'm going to. Just wanted to get that out of me.
Thanks...x
41 and acting like a teenager."
went through the same thing, never again, too many people have abused my trust over the years and I can only trust family and my best friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most men will tell you what you want to hear until they get what they want.
It gives us all a bad name and we are all tarred with the same brush.
Its difficult enough to get a meet anyway "
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I think that if people publicise their vulnerabilities then they will attract those people that want to expoit that - and they often end up attracting the very type of person that they are looking to avoid...."
could not agree more... |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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I think that if people publicise their vulnerabilities then they will attract those people that want to exploit that - and they often end up attracting the very type of person that they are looking to avoid.... |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"I think that if people publicise their vulnerabilities then they will attract those people that want to expoit that - and they often end up attracting the very type of person that they are looking to avoid....
could not agree more... "
Sorry I cheated because of the typo |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I think that if people publicise their vulnerabilities then they will attract those people that want to expoit that - and they often end up attracting the very type of person that they are looking to avoid....
could not agree more...
Sorry I cheated because of the typo "
and there was me thinking I was Mystic Smeg |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sorry but not all smooth talking men are full of bullshit.
Some people are naturally charming, and that doesn't necessarily mean because they're smooth and charming they are even interested.
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry but not all smooth talking men are full of bullshit.
Some people are naturally charming, and that doesn't necessarily mean because they're smooth and charming they are even interested.
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I agree with that as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sorry but not all smooth talking men are full of bullshit.
Some people are naturally charming, and that doesn't necessarily mean because they're smooth and charming they are even interested.
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Or that they're bastards |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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sadly you often see the same people fall head over heels for someone who has blinked in their direction, they then get hurt time and time again.
it's car crash at times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ahhh OP you only have to go into the chat-rooms to see and hear all the bullshit people can spout.
A random female on cam with her tits or fanny out can look like a burst sofa to you but she is Venus incarnate to the bullshitters.
If ever I get told how alluring or beautiful I am, a wee visit to the chat-rooms grounds me very quickly. Maybe you should observe this phenomenon for yourself, it helps you develop a thick skin very quickly. xx |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"sadly you often see the same people fall head over heels for someone who has blinked in their direction, they then get hurt time and time again.
it's car crash at times. "
both genders... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sorry but not all smooth talking men are full of bullshit.
Some people are naturally charming, and that doesn't necessarily mean because they're smooth and charming they are even interested.
Or that they're bastards "
Exactly. This whole concept of "men can't be friends with women because all he wants you fuck you" is bollocks.
Some men are very social and I will talk to any one male or female. If they compliment you on any way, They're probably being being nice, that's it. But If you then think they only have the intention of sleeping with you then that's your problem, not there's. |
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.
WTF.... "
oh no sorry, all the men on here are lovely arent they.  |
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.
WTF....
oh no sorry, all the men on here are lovely arent they. "
Think what you like but your statement is so off the wall.... |
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.
WTF....
oh no sorry, all the men on here are lovely arent they. "
Sorry I was a bit taken aback by your post as you too are married and using this site for your own purposes. Maybe that's the reason for the WTF. xx |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.
WTF....
oh no sorry, all the men on here are lovely arent they. "
I am sure there is an element of truth in what you say, not sure most men but there will be a few think along those lines.
a few women too I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.
WTF....
oh no sorry, all the men on here are lovely arent they.
Sorry I was a bit taken aback by your post as you too are married and using this site for your own purposes. Maybe that's the reason for the WTF. xx"
Oh my partner knows im on here though, slightly different i think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sadly you often see the same people fall head over heels for someone who has blinked in their direction, they then get hurt time and time again.
it's car crash at times. "
astute comment |
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You must be meeting wrong guys all the guys my wife have met have been good fun and respectable in fact we have met four of them on several occasions, same as if I meet females, we are there to have fun,and if they want to meet you again and vice versa it shows you enjoy the company,if we met the sort you mention they would get bad re_iews and no second chances |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.
WTF....
oh no sorry, all the men on here are lovely arent they.
Sorry I was a bit taken aback by your post as you too are married and using this site for your own purposes. Maybe that's the reason for the WTF. xx
Oh my partner knows im on here though, slightly different i think."
I know this, but put yourself in a guys shoes for a moment, how many females can claim the same thing as you? Who's to say what is the truth or untruth. Similar thing for the guys.
Not everyone should be tarred with the same brush in such a sweeping statement as you made. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.You have some huge issues."
Yes and i think you maybe have a few issues yourself. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.You have some huge issues.
Yes and i think you maybe have a few issues yourself."
Thats ir detract detract detract. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some men are naturally charming and can't help but complement a woman.The trick is to distinguish between charm and bullshit.
A reality check is also advisable. This is the internet so deciding that you have met your soul mate in the basis of online exchages is in my opinion nieve. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no because most men are shallow they are always looking for someone better than you, only nice when they want something. think yourself lucky your not married to one of them. the mr. nice guy types who everyone looks up to
who lies and cheats on his wife with just about anyone who will have him.
WTF....
oh no sorry, all the men on here are lovely arent they.
I am sure there is an element of truth in what you say, not sure most men but there will be a few think along those lines.
a few women too I guess"
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"sadly you often see the same people fall head over heels for someone who has blinked in their direction, they then get hurt time and time again.
it's car crash at times. astute comment "
agreed..
for some of both genders who choose to expose their inner soul and air their torment in such a public manner there will be others of both genders who will prey on that..
nature of the beast within both genders..
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I always remember that everyone who contacts me is trying to (in most cases) fuck me - not necessarily even me - they are looking for a fuck and will use all methods at their disposal to achieve this. Therefore if someone tells me I am gorgeous, sexy, perfect for them etc. I will accept the compliment but always remember the context it is given. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's all bullshit, that is the game we play on here. The ones that most seek the flattery are the ones that get hurt the most. I don't play that game which gets me a lot of respect, unfortunately I don't get laid as often. That's the way I play and that way everyone knows where they stand"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always remember that everyone who contacts me is trying to (in most cases) fuck me - not necessarily even me - they are looking for a fuck and will use all methods at their disposal to achieve this. Therefore if someone tells me I am gorgeous, sexy, perfect for them etc. I will accept the compliment but always remember the context it is given. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Given you're very cagey about actually specifics here it seems this had taken the usual pattern of, you arranged for nsa maybe a friends with benefits type deal you then wanted it to be more and he didn't so it fell apart.
A lot of people here seem to claim to want a fb/fwb situation then in reality expect a relationship |
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"Given you're very cagey about actually specifics here it seems this had taken the usual pattern of, you arranged for nsa maybe a friends with benefits type deal you then wanted it to be more and he didn't so it fell apart.
A lot of people here seem to claim to want a fb/fwb situation then in reality expect a relationship"
I don't get that from the OP at all, what I got is that she was DECEIVED by someone pretending to offer friendship and have a higher regard for her than was the truth.
I can meet people on any level, what I cannot abide is people pretending to be one thing when they are quite another. Do you see?? It's not that they didn't want more, it's that the LIED about what they did want, that's what pisses so many women off!!
No, just man up - say what you mean, mean what you say, and let the dice fall where they may. |
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If the behaviours inside a fb relationship dont match it right then stop it is the best policy. Thats if it is too romantic, abusive or whatever. Know what you want and discard anything and anyone who does not support you getting it. There are people who are screwed up, they can play psychological games with you, and may appear like angels. Again, anything that does not fit what is appropriate, even if seemingly nice, can be fools gold. Drop them. As for yourself, if you are vulnerable on the inside, and if this has shown it, then do what you can to sort yourself out. No strings sex can be great, but it is important to protect your well being. Maybe take a break or just meet couples or at clubs where there is less involvement away from the physical. Find what is right for you and trust your gut instinct on men, looking for similar patterns in future. Good luck! |
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"Given you're very cagey about actually specifics here it seems this had taken the usual pattern of, you arranged for nsa maybe a friends with benefits type deal you then wanted it to be more and he didn't so it fell apart.
A lot of people here seem to claim to want a fb/fwb situation then in reality expect a relationship"
Hahaha well said Alan. That's why you got rid of certain someone. FB thinking they were in a relationship and dictating you not to meet me hahahahaa. Hope Vicky Pollard learnt the lesson hard way!! Good riddance . |
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"If the behaviours inside a fb relationship dont match it right then stop it is the best policy. Thats if it is too romantic, abusive or whatever. Know what you want and discard anything and anyone who does not support you getting it. There are people who are screwed up, they can play psychological games with you, and may appear like angels. Again, anything that does not fit what is appropriate, even if seemingly nice, can be fools gold. Drop them. As for yourself, if you are vulnerable on the inside, and if this has shown it, then do what you can to sort yourself out. No strings sex can be great, but it is important to protect your well being. Maybe take a break or just meet couples or at clubs where there is less involvement away from the physical. Find what is right for you and trust your gut instinct on men, looking for similar patterns in future. Good luck! "
Wise, as ever. |
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"Given you're very cagey about actually specifics here it seems this had taken the usual pattern of, you arranged for nsa maybe a friends with benefits type deal you then wanted it to be more and he didn't so it fell apart.
A lot of people here seem to claim to want a fb/fwb situation then in reality expect a relationship
I don't get that from the OP at all, what I got is that she was DECEIVED by someone pretending to offer friendship and have a higher regard for her than was the truth.
I can meet people on any level, what I cannot abide is people pretending to be one thing when they are quite another. Do you see?? It's not that they didn't want more, it's that the LIED about what they did want, that's what pisses so many women off!!
No, just man up - say what you mean, mean what you say, and let the dice fall where they may."
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sorry to hear your man has abandoned you .. maybe im a bit sentimental but i do try to stay friends with the ladies i meet .. if i get annoyed i will have a nasty streak .. but 99% of the time i just love their friendship and company |
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"sorry to hear your man has abandoned you .. maybe im a bit sentimental but i do try to stay friends with the ladies i meet .. if i get annoyed i will have a nasty streak .. but 99% of the time i just love their friendship and company "
I'm fine.
I'm not airing my dirty laundry.
I thought I could talk to fellow fabs about this as no one else will understand.
I don't seek flattery or fall in love at the first interested look.
What I've never experienced is 2 different people.
No he wasn't from here!
Thanks for all your comments though.
I'm learning, always learning!
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I've had relationships off the back of meeting people from this site. I've dated at restaurants, gone partying around the country and fallen in love, so it is possible. I also don't regret meeting any of the people that I have through fab. I've made some great friends who I care for dearly, so I certainly don't see this as a site for just hooking up for sex, although let's face it, the sex is a bonus.
I firmly believe that everyone should be honest from the get go, lay their cards on the table and be upfront about what they want.
The moral of the story is that fab probably isn't the best place to find true love, however it can happen and you can also make some great friends if you're willing to make the effort to be honest and genuine. |
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"I've had relationships off the back of meeting people from this site. I've dated at restaurants, gone partying around the country and fallen in love, so it is possible. I also don't regret meeting any of the people that I have through fab. I've made some great friends who I care for dearly, so I certainly don't see this as a site for just hooking up for sex, although let's face it, the sex is a bonus.
I firmly believe that everyone should be honest from the get go, lay their cards on the table and be upfront about what they want.
The moral of the story is that fab probably isn't the best place to find true love, however it can happen and you can also make some great friends if you're willing to make the effort to be honest and genuine. "
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