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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I didn't hear Woman's Hour today but I understand they were discussing loneliness.
I saw this Twit quoting the programme and it struck a chord:
"Just as hunger tells us to eat, loneliness tell us to seek company. It's nothing to be ashamed of."
The loneliest I have ever felt was when I was in a (bad) relationship.
Have you ever felt lonely and tackled it?
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"It's easy to say make new friends, but how?
My life is so so busy, but no time for myself.
Oh I'm shutting up now before I drown in self pity!! "
Do you make friends here? Are you friendly with the people you meet?
I have found the Fab socials very sociable and feel I have made friends that way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I didn't hear Woman's Hour today but I understand they were discussing loneliness.
I saw this Twit quoting the programme and it struck a chord:
"Just as hunger tells us to eat, loneliness tell us to seek company. It's nothing to be ashamed of."
The loneliest I have ever felt was when I was in a (bad) relationship.
Have you ever felt lonely and tackled it?
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At 19 and a stranger to Belgium, yes. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"It's easy to say make new friends, but how?
My life is so so busy, but no time for myself.
Oh I'm shutting up now before I drown in self pity!!
Do you make friends here? Are you friendly with the people you meet?
I have found the Fab socials very sociable and feel I have made friends that way.
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It's true! I'm still trying to shake some of them off from the last one.  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"It's easy to say make new friends, but how?
My life is so so busy, but no time for myself.
Oh I'm shutting up now before I drown in self pity!!
Do you make friends here? Are you friendly with the people you meet?
I have found the Fab socials very sociable and feel I have made friends that way.
It's true! I'm still trying to shake some of them off from the last one. "
I promise not to cling to your ankles this time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a sorta mix I crave company...but really quite happy on my own.When I go long nature walks..I feel at peace..often taking pictures of things that make me think ,wow,what a gorgeous world we live in. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"loneliness is a state of mind, you can be lonely in a crowd of a thousand people but not be lonely on a deserted beach with no-one else around"
And you can always change your mind.
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
Yes, I was very lonely when I was married.
There are some lonely moments now living alone with my wee son, but I figure better occasionally lonely but generally happy than the other way round |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"It's easy to say make new friends, but how?
My life is so so busy, but no time for myself.
Oh I'm shutting up now before I drown in self pity!!
Do you make friends here? Are you friendly with the people you meet?
I have found the Fab socials very sociable and feel I have made friends that way.
It's true! I'm still trying to shake some of them off from the last one.
I promise not to cling to your ankles this time.
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You're one of the keepers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The loneliest I have ever felt was when I was in a (bad) relationship.
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Likewise.
I'm lucky now to have a fantastic group of friends. 
Loneliness in this country is very prevalent in our elderly & sometimes just a 10 minute chat with someone can make such a difference to their day. We just need to make time to do that sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's easy to say make new friends, but how?
My life is so so busy, but no time for myself.
Oh I'm shutting up now before I drown in self pity!!
Do you make friends here? Are you friendly with the people you meet?
I have found the Fab socials very sociable and feel I have made friends that way.
It's true! I'm still trying to shake some of them off from the last one.
I promise not to cling to your ankles this time.
You're one of the keepers. "
was that meant for me? 
Nah, probably not  |
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forgive me for ignoring the flippent comments but loliness is a huge issue ..some people are housebound and unless someone takes time out of their day to push them to church they dont speak to another soul |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same as you Lickety. Never felt so alone in my life than when I was with my ex husband. All the kids had left home and I felt like there was nothing left  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"forgive me for ignoring the flippent comments but loliness is a huge issue ..some people are housebound and unless someone takes time out of their day to push them to church they dont speak to another soul"
The phone line that Esther Rantzen has set up and has had some press is one idea. It's not a new idea but the scheme that has been running for years never had celebrity endorsement and wasn't talked about as the elderly weren't newsworthy then.
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"I didn't hear Woman's Hour today but I understand they were discussing loneliness.
I saw this Twit quoting the programme and it struck a chord:
"Just as hunger tells us to eat, loneliness tell us to seek company. It's nothing to be ashamed of."
The loneliest I have ever felt was when I was in a (bad) relationship.
Have you ever felt lonely and tackled it?
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Yes: Christmas day 2001, sat round a laden table with husband and children. Felt so desperately lonely and miserable. Decided I'd rather be alone than lonely and vowed not to have another Christmas like it!
Moved out the easter, not been happier! |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I didn't hear Woman's Hour today but I understand they were discussing loneliness.
I saw this Twit quoting the programme and it struck a chord:
"Just as hunger tells us to eat, loneliness tell us to seek company. It's nothing to be ashamed of."
The loneliest I have ever felt was when I was in a (bad) relationship.
Have you ever felt lonely and tackled it?
Yes: Christmas day 2001, sat round a laden table with husband and children. Felt so desperately lonely and miserable. Decided I'd rather be alone than lonely and vowed not to have another Christmas like it!
Moved out the easter, not been happier! "
And now look at you!
I was watching Bones last night and not for the first time the Caroline Julian character (Patricia Belcher) made me think of you.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"its one of them words that people dont understand ...like saying ive had 'depession' and straight away every man and their dog will have had it ....loneliness ..guess what ?? "
I think you are right. Just as there are levels of reactive, passing (bluesy) types of depression moments which is quite normal we also have similar with loneliness.
When it becomes a profound mental state it is a whole different matter.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its one of them words that people dont understand ...like saying ive had 'depession' and straight away every man and their dog will have had it ....loneliness ..guess what ?? "
Not really. Some people do understand and know. |
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If you can connect with people then loneliness can disappear - but it can be very hard to do that with some people. It took me a while in a new country but not too long, as I was lucky to meet great people. A recent problem was my dads death this year and I suddenly felt very alone. Time, rest and enough support and love with others has helped though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have suffered with depression for 20 years and have long bouts of loneliness. I have an autistic son and a son with a debilitating disease, I live in a house full of people but have never felt more alone .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been lonely for many years, and managed it. However the last couple of years the loneliness has intensified, I get very down sometimes. I can feel myself slowly edging to giving up. Deleting my Facebook, becoming an unlos, only leaving the house when I really have to is at times very appealing. Just resign myself to the loneliness and accept it. |
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I am reminded of the research by the famous social psychologist, John Cacioppo, on loneliness. He distinguishes between social loneliness ( lack of social connection) and emotional loneliness (absence of emotional connection). He also says that loneliness is not necessarily an aversive state. Evolutionarily, it leads to attempts to restore or create new connections, and can be a very constructive process.
I think many of us here who may have experienced loneliness of one form or the other at some stage in our lives have a forum like this to thank for giving the opportunity to restore existing connections or create new connections. |
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Since my divorce 14ish yrs ago iv gone from relationship to relationship some lasted yrs others months. After my last split I decided I needed time alone an swore to myself nobody was getting in for at least 12 months its now coming up to 2 yrs I think 18 month at the least but now yes im starting to get lonely only now I really don't no what to do about it should I start looking or leave things be. This is now very new ground for me |
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"I didn't hear Woman's Hour today but I understand they were discussing loneliness.
I saw this Twit quoting the programme and it struck a chord:
"Just as hunger tells us to eat, loneliness tell us to seek company. It's nothing to be ashamed of."
The loneliest I have ever felt was when I was in a (bad) relationship.
Have you ever felt lonely and tackled it?
Yes: Christmas day 2001, sat round a laden table with husband and children. Felt so desperately lonely and miserable. Decided I'd rather be alone than lonely and vowed not to have another Christmas like it!
Moved out the easter, not been happier!
And now look at you!
I was watching Bones last night and not for the first time the Caroline Julian character (Patricia Belcher) made me think of you.
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Oooh, I've never watched it, now I'm intrigued. |
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"I didn't hear Woman's Hour today but I understand they were discussing loneliness.
I saw this Twit quoting the programme and it struck a chord:
"Just as hunger tells us to eat, loneliness tell us to seek company. It's nothing to be ashamed of."
The loneliest I have ever felt was when I was in a (bad) relationship.
Have you ever felt lonely and tackled it?
Yes: Christmas day 2001, sat round a laden table with husband and children. Felt so desperately lonely and miserable. Decided I'd rather be alone than lonely and vowed not to have another Christmas like it!
Moved out the easter, not been happier!
And now look at you!
I was watching Bones last night and not for the first time the Caroline Julian character (Patricia Belcher) made me think of you.
Oooh, I've never watched it, now I'm intrigued. "
 ...I see what you mean Lickety. |
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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago
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without wanting any self pity, lonelyness can be not ever being able to see somebody smile at you, my blindness leads to lonelyness, people pass you by and but for the very occasional contact with someone saying hello, or the saviour that is msn or skype, life is lonely, very very lonely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think most people get married and have kids so they wont be lonely.
also pets especialy dogs are great company, we put lots of food out for the wild birds and when we have not put any food out for them i realy miss seeing them. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I am reminded of the research by the famous social psychologist, John Cacioppo, on loneliness. He distinguishes between social loneliness ( lack of social connection) and emotional loneliness (absence of emotional connection). He also says that loneliness is not necessarily an aversive state. Evolutionarily, it leads to attempts to restore or create new connections, and can be a very constructive process.
I think many of us here who may have experienced loneliness of one form or the other at some stage in our lives have a forum like this to thank for giving the opportunity to restore existing connections or create new connections. "
Thank you, that's a really useful post.
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