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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing."
I can't comment. I am only here for the forums.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing.
I can't comment. I am only here for the forums.
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oooooo you telling fibs, coz I've seen ya |
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i get this reaction alot because i am on here alot, even when i ant meet for lots of different reasons such as illness, family commitments etc
some people think that the only reason to log on here is to look for a meet that night, but i like coming on here for the banter in the forums as much as looking for sex.
i can imagine it is frustrating when someone says that they cant meet when you are horny buy hey-ho. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing."
I have often made excuses rather than be blunt and tell them that they hit a lot of branches when they fell out of the ugly tree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"mornin granny!!
it happens all talk no trousers is very common. get over it and move on.
people use the site for many different things x"
Morning Mzzzzzz xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing.
I can't comment. I am only here for the forums.
oooooo you telling fibs, coz I've seen ya"
Shush .... I was being naughty |
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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago
Back of Beyond |
"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing."
Thats not bad....wait until you get one or more meets organised, you turn up at the meeting place and they don't! Or you are ready to go to theirs and they text you to say they changed their minds at the last moment! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing."
People moan if they dont get a reply and your moaning bacause you do,perhaps people are letting you down gently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting comments, thank you.
Its not about being blunt... but I truely think a simple "no thank you" suffices.
Its nice to see a reaction
Xx
B"
And if you say that often you get,,,
"But why"
So you say i'm not interested.
And you get another "but why not?"
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing."
people have the right to go at whatever speed they feel comfortable at... so if that means kit off straight away then cool.... but if that also means talk talk talk, then that is fine as well..... different strokes for different folks
in fact I think that pressuring people if they are not comfortable yet is worse... and this thread in that respect does you not favours at all!!!!
it really does make you come across as pushy, and only considerate of the pace you want to go at, out fly the "timewaster" accusations..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Impatience is one of the biggest problems with arranging on line meets or discouraging them. I have on occasion had to say to people i am not interested right now as i have lots of meets. Saying try mail me in 3 months is about the worst response i have used so far. You get all sorts sent back at you |
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You can never prepare for the unexpected, after arranging a meet, and confirming prior to leaving home all was OK with the couple, an hour into our journey, we received a text from them stating they we're “Newbies” and couldn't go through with the meet!! |
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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago
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"You can never prepare for the unexpected, after arranging a meet, and confirming prior to leaving home all was OK with the couple, an hour into our journey, we received a text from them stating they we're “Newbies” and couldn't go through with the meet!! "
That would seriously piss me off. They should at least have had the courtesy to meet up, you could have had an absolutely no-strings social meeting, a drink and chat, all fully clothed with no pressure. If they still were too nervous after that, fair enough, but you aren't going to jump on them in the pub and demand some action right there are you? (Or maybe you would, who knows....?)
People like that tend to piss other people about too, before disappearing and then reappearing again with another profile, to piss more people about. They like the nervous naughtiness of it all, the butterflies, but they never actually take the plunge - a plunge which after all, may seem of earth-shattering importance, but is really no big deal, mountains don't move and the sky doesn't fall in. And since when has anyone been obliged to do anything they don't want to, for whatever reason?
Anyone can change their mind, that's fair enough, but after you've left home to meet them and before they've actually clapped eyes on you, that's low. |
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"i wont meet straight away so does make me a time waster?"
nope - it makes you an independant person who knows how they like to play 
it is rare that i will meet someone the second they email me either |
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing.
I have often made excuses rather than be blunt and tell them that they hit a lot of branches when they fell out of the ugly tree."
you could have called an ambulance for me when i fell  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i wont meet straight away so does make me a time waster?
nope - it makes you an independant person who knows how they like to play
it is rare that i will meet someone the second they email me either"
same here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We`ve had to cancel a social (first time) meet tonight as we`re not well, I have texted the couple to let them know & I sincerely hope the reason for cancellation is genuine & not us wasting time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i'm a time waster ....yeeeeeey
beat me whip me brandish me with a hot iron and call me simple
you sound kinky enough to warrant an extra trip up north"
you wanna come tax me??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i'm a time waster ....yeeeeeey
beat me whip me brandish me with a hot iron and call me simple
you sound kinky enough to warrant an extra trip up north
you wanna come tax me?? "
guess I need balls for that in more than one way pmsl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i'm a time waster ....yeeeeeey
beat me whip me brandish me with a hot iron and call me simple
you sound kinky enough to warrant an extra trip up north
you wanna come tax me??
guess I need balls for that in more than one way pmsl "
sure you got more cajhones than most! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i'm a time waster ....yeeeeeey
beat me whip me brandish me with a hot iron and call me simple
you sound kinky enough to warrant an extra trip up north
you wanna come tax me??
guess I need balls for that in more than one way pmsl
sure you got more cajhones than most!"
muy bene - gracias |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i'm a time waster ....yeeeeeey
beat me whip me brandish me with a hot iron and call me simple
you sound kinky enough to warrant an extra trip up north
you wanna come tax me??
guess I need balls for that in more than one way pmsl
sure you got more cajhones than most!
muy bene - gracias "
de nada guappa x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i wont meet straight away so does make me a time waster?
nope - it makes you an independant person who knows how they like to play
it is rare that i will meet someone the second they email me either
same here "
Me too!
It seems however some people assume because you've signed up for a sex site you should be up for it 24/7!
Reading threads like this you wonder if some people pressurise people into meeting and they just don't feel comfortable.
I often wonder how some people select their meets: never had a timewaster myself! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often wonder how some people select their meets: never had a timewaster myself!"
I actually agree with you here - I, we don't seem to get time wasters - maybe it is because we ask to meet up socially first?
In the rare case where we feel people are not really into meeting and playing in person but more into chatting (to us that is not about timewasting, it is just a different form of enjoyment of the site)
we chat to them for a bit and then it tends to fizzle out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we've had couples message us askin for a meet n then when weve tried to reply we've been blocked for no reson lol oh well their loss"
Why would they message you in the first place then block? It makes no seance at all! |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"we've had couples message us askin for a meet n then when weve tried to reply we've been blocked for no reson lol oh well their loss
Why would they message you in the first place then block? It makes no seance at all! "
I agree, it's very grave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we've had couples message us askin for a meet n then when weve tried to reply we've been blocked for no reson lol oh well their loss
Why would they message you in the first place then block? It makes no seance at all!
I agree, it's very grave."
Why would someone take the time to send a message. Then take the time to block? What do you gain from it? |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing."
swingings just like real life.to many bullshitters.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing.
I can't comment. I am only here for the forums.
Love it!
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Just an observation.
Coming across members who say in profiles to meet with all the bravado.
Message comes back with excuses, or just there to chat!
It seems ever growing."
you have to bear in mind if u get ignored not i repeat NOT to persist in sending any more messges  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we've had couples message us askin for a meet n then when weve tried to reply we've been blocked for no reson lol oh well their loss
Why would they message you in the first place then block? It makes no seance at all!
I agree, it's very grave."
you are just not taking this seriously lol - consider yourself told off |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"we've had couples message us askin for a meet n then when weve tried to reply we've been blocked for no reson lol oh well their loss
Why would they message you in the first place then block? It makes no seance at all!
I agree, it's very grave.
you are just not taking this seriously lol - consider yourself told off "
Thank goodness someone spotted it. I was so proud of it  |
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Being totally honest this hobby scares us… just a little, it’s the trepidation of meeting new people for the first time with sex being the key subject. If a time comes when we don’t get the thrill of a new meeting chances are we’ll give it up. That said, with a regular play-mate we still get the trepidation, fluctuating nerves etc. but that is because of excitement of a different kind
As a couple, regardless of the swinging hobby we have a resolve that means if we agree to something with someone then we damn well do it. If it wasn’t for that fact we too may never have ever made it to a first meeting. Given that we are good to our word we DO get there and then of course everything is fine.
Its quite a tall order to ‘in the cold light of day’ go meet people with a view to having sex with them, its no wonder at all that many people do get cold feet last minute and pull out.
We always chat for a long as we feel necessary before agreeing to meet, often the extra bit of chat exposes something we don’t want and if it doesn’t it just makes any pending meet for sex play better.
We are a ‘Real Deal’ as any of our playmates would tell you but on the other hand, anyone who chooses to THINK we are time wasters… TOUGH, that’s their loss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we've had couples message us askin for a meet n then when weve tried to reply we've been blocked for no reson lol oh well their loss
Why would they message you in the first place then block? It makes no seance at all!
I agree, it's very grave.
you are just not taking this seriously lol - consider yourself told off
Thank goodness someone spotted it. I was so proud of it "
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By *eritageMan
over a year ago
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"im still chatting with you i wouldnt fizzle out with you x
I often wonder how some people select their meets: never had a timewaster myself!
I actually agree with you here - I, we don't seem to get time wasters - maybe it is because we ask to meet up socially first?
In the rare case where we feel people are not really into meeting and playing in person but more into chatting (to us that is not about timewasting, it is just a different form of enjoyment of the site)
we chat to them for a bit and then it tends to fizzle out."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im still chatting with you i wouldnt fizzle "
Aw, thank you - much appreciated xx But that is what it is about..., for us anyway - different people have differnet views... We like getting to know somebody a little bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we've had couples message us askin for a meet n then when weve tried to reply we've been blocked for no reson lol oh well their loss
Why would they message you in the first place then block? It makes no seance at all!
I agree, it's very grave."
Yep..thats dead spooky.. |
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