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Could someone else, such as your partner or friend, reliably choose who you will shag with? Do you have sufficient trust in their knowledge of your tastes etc. Is this something you do now? I have a friend who could do this for me. Would you trust them enough to get together with your chosen meet blindfolded? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, this is how we play most of the time when arranging meets on fab.
I don't particularly like messaging and flirting with men on here. I don't particularly like browsing profiles. I never give my phone number out to text men and I don't call them.
My OH arranges all our meets, he spends time chatting and getting to know the guys. He knows exactly what guys I go for, he can tell instantly from messaging whether I would be attracted to them, their personality etc.
Most of the time I don't really know much about the guy before I meet them. I prefer it this way. I can see the messages between my OH and the guy, Ill have a cursory glance at them, check out the face pics, ensure our pics have been sent etc. I remain a bit of an enigma until the day.
I have had meets whereby I've not seen the messages, been blindfold from leaving the house til I return back to the house. I never saw the guys face or heard him speak, the scenario was to remain silent. In these instances my OH will arrange to meet the guys beforehand to be totally sure they are suitable. He himself has built up a nice little group of guy friends. A recent meet was arranged whereby I woold only be massaged and no sexual activity was to take place. It was amazing, I loved my body being stroked for hours. The guy knew and was completely happy with that scenario and there was absolutely no pressure, he was lovely.
I have total trust in my partner and I feel safe. I know he has my best interests at heart. In 3 years of swinging he hasn't got it wrong. If I didn't gel or find the guy attractive when I do meet them face to face then I would tell them. I would never compromise myself and I certainly don't feel obliged to play and I wouldn't if they weren't my cup of tea. Similarly I ensure that they are happy to play with me and I accept that they may not.
I find this way of swinging exciting. I'm very much a 'ill do it on the night' kind of person and I dont like constant messaging before or after meets. I have complete trust in my partner. I find when I meet the guys that we spend hours chatting and laughing before anything sexual takes place. I have made some great friends.
When we meet couples I do have more input but my OH is the one whose browsed profiles beforehand. Again when we meet, me and the ladies get on famously as well as being attracted to the guy.
I have complete trust in my OH and he is always an excellent judge of character. He knows exactly when guts aren't suitable via message and correspondence naturally drops off.
Swinging remains exciting and fresh for me and I always feel safe, never under pressure and on meeting I always have the final say
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It is interesting seeing your replies. Im single now, but have a very long standing friend who precisely knows my taste in partners. I could trust my friend to get it spot on, but have been amazed what some people think will be right for me. A bit like blind dates, others' tastes can intrude, so they must only judge from my tastes and needs alone. Its great to have a partner to do the leg work, Id love that again. Fire blade - we will have to fix something for you and the rest, but we would struggle to really really know your tastes etc. |
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"It is interesting seeing your replies. Im single now, but have a very long standing friend who precisely knows my taste in partners. I could trust my friend to get it spot on, but have been amazed what some people think will be right for me. A bit like blind dates, others' tastes can intrude, so they must only judge from my tastes and needs alone. Its great to have a partner to do the leg work, Id love that again. Fire blade - we will have to fix something for you and the rest, but we would struggle to really really know your tastes etc."
Good idea. I could do with this lol |
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"It is interesting seeing your replies. Im single now, but have a very long standing friend who precisely knows my taste in partners. I could trust my friend to get it spot on, but have been amazed what some people think will be right for me. A bit like blind dates, others' tastes can intrude, so they must only judge from my tastes and needs alone. Its great to have a partner to do the leg work, Id love that again. Fire blade - we will have to fix something for you and the rest, but we would struggle to really really know your tastes etc."
Talk to td  im game for a laff |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
When we were together my ex chose two people for me to meet on my own. Three years on they are still my friends and I enjoy every meet I have with them.
I sometimes wish that I could still ask him to choose for me. I could but the men he picked might find it weird having a random man contact them about meeting me.  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Yes, this is how we play most of the time when arranging meets on fab.
I don't particularly like messaging and flirting with men on here. I don't particularly like browsing profiles. I never give my phone number out to text men and I don't call them.
My OH arranges all our meets, he spends time chatting and getting to know the guys. He knows exactly what guys I go for, he can tell instantly from messaging whether I would be attracted to them, their personality etc.
Most of the time I don't really know much about the guy before I meet them. I prefer it this way. I can see the messages between my OH and the guy, Ill have a cursory glance at them, check out the face pics, ensure our pics have been sent etc. I remain a bit of an enigma until the day.
I have had meets whereby I've not seen the messages, been blindfold from leaving the house til I return back to the house. I never saw the guys face or heard him speak, the scenario was to remain silent. In these instances my OH will arrange to meet the guys beforehand to be totally sure they are suitable. He himself has built up a nice little group of guy friends. A recent meet was arranged whereby I woold only be massaged and no sexual activity was to take place. It was amazing, I loved my body being stroked for hours. The guy knew and was completely happy with that scenario and there was absolutely no pressure, he was lovely.
I have total trust in my partner and I feel safe. I know he has my best interests at heart. In 3 years of swinging he hasn't got it wrong. If I didn't gel or find the guy attractive when I do meet them face to face then I would tell them. I would never compromise myself and I certainly don't feel obliged to play and I wouldn't if they weren't my cup of tea. Similarly I ensure that they are happy to play with me and I accept that they may not.
I find this way of swinging exciting. I'm very much a 'ill do it on the night' kind of person and I dont like constant messaging before or after meets. I have complete trust in my partner. I find when I meet the guys that we spend hours chatting and laughing before anything sexual takes place. I have made some great friends.
When we meet couples I do have more input but my OH is the one whose browsed profiles beforehand. Again when we meet, me and the ladies get on famously as well as being attracted to the guy.
I have complete trust in my OH and he is always an excellent judge of character. He knows exactly when guts aren't suitable via message and correspondence naturally drops off.
Swinging remains exciting and fresh for me and I always feel safe, never under pressure and on meeting I always have the final say
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I have a mild case of envy and awe. That sounds perfect. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I'd not be able to do this. I'd be constantly tempted to put someone in a predicament, where they are meeting the Elephant Man, or setting a Scargilite up with a Thatcherite and so on  |
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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago
Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria |
"I'd not be able to do this. I'd be constantly tempted to put someone in a predicament, where they are meeting the Elephant Man, or setting a Scargilite up with a Thatcherite and so on "
I actually bumped into a red hot labourite in Adam & Eves after we'd had some heated exchanges on the forums (he's no longer on the site). He turned out to be a right good laugh although he insisted on calling me Maggie...we kept in touch for a while |
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"I'd not be able to do this. I'd be constantly tempted to put someone in a predicament, where they are meeting the Elephant Man, or setting a Scargilite up with a Thatcherite and so on "
Reminds me never to have a blindfolded shag that you've arranged Tina.
I think for a lot of us where we keep our swinging lifestyle quiet, then we have a limited no of friends who we could rely on. I see a few of us are lucky enough, incl. Voluptuous. I'm certainly not letting the elephant man near me with his trunk  |
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